4 Nigerian Women Discuss Leaving Heterosexual Relationships To Date Women

June 2, 2021

This article shares stories of women who have experienced both sides of love and relationships and have chosen what makes them feel the happiest . These women share their stories of leaving heterosexual relationships to date women. Here are their stories:

Mimi

I always dated and was sexually active with both men and women at the same time. I never put a tag on it or thought I was a lesbian and I was suffering while dating men. The relationship was very abusive but I had put a time frame for marriage and I went on with the relationship.

I started seeing someone else as a way to escape the abuse as a power reclaim move, this new person was the first man I had ever been willingly sexual with.

Eventually, I realized I didn’t enjoy having sex with men. Luckily for me, I met his best friend, a babe. I felt an instant attraction to her. Being with her was the seal I needed to realize I only want to date women moving forward. I have enjoyed making that decision.

Dee

I was married for two years and he was narcissistic and abusive. Even then always knew I liked girls too and I had dated a girl while I was in university. I married my ex-husband because I thought he was a good Christian and we could build a good life together.

My marriage had been over for two years before I started dating again, the relationship I got into after leaving him was very toxic and triggering and made me go back to therapy. I am all fine now and in a new relationship, we are both growing and know what we want. She is the yin to my yang. I will rate it 9- the other one is because we are both stubborn.

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Babek

I was seeing two guys at the same time, I would not call it dating but I referred to both of them as baby. The first one who I’ll call M repulsed me, I could never get myself to kiss him no matter what and the second guy also irritated me sometimes. I don’t remember the moment of awakening I experienced, I just started finding women attractive and knew I wanted that.

The first time I fell in love with a girl I knew I had lucked out, every minute I spent with her was the best part of my day but I was still seeing the guys. I was constantly verbally abused by M. He was constantly saying things to me that made me uncomfortable about my body, but I kept up with it for appearances.

The first proper relationship that I acknowledged was with a woman and it was perfect. I guess I realize the reason I was so averse to labelling whatever I had with those men was that I never wanted to actually date men. Those two men helped me know that dating men wasn’t for me.

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Eniola

I have always been with men even when I found women insanely attractive, I never acted on it. I didn’t think I was ever going to like women or move to a woman and tell her how I felt even when I had stopped enjoying sex with men. One of the times I was seeing a guy, I told him I might be bi-curious and it must have been a fetish for him. He constantly brought it up and asked if I wanted to have threesomes. I honestly was not interested in it.

While still seeing him, I met a babe who I found really attractive. We went out a couple of time and I started to like her. Told her I liked her and she said she liked me too, it was my first time moving to a woman romantically. It has not worked out yet, but one thing I know for sure is that I am done with men, bi-curious or not. 

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