If your favourite is Below Her Mouth, you might not make heaven.
“I hate the internal conflict that comes with the holiday. Why am I even celebrating? Do I agree with most of the teachings and doctrines? Am I still a Muslim? I’d also love to celebrate knowing that I am fully accepted, not tolerated, and loved by my family, regardless of my identity.”
If you are trying to be a good Trans/non-binary ally, you need to stop asking these eight questions.
Here’s how to be a good ally when your queer friend come’s out to you.
Masc women are the 9th wonder of the world. Read this article if you need proof.
If you start a speech with good morning bestie, you’ll get more people to listen. We promise.
“At that moment, I knew I couldn’t lie to her. I said yes but my voice was low. I told her I didn’t like men.”
In this article, Somto* talks about the issues she had with her mum as a child for being masculine presenting and coming out to her as an adult.
Hadiza*, 35, and Zikora*, 40, dated for three years before they got married. In today’s #ZikokoLoveLife, they talk about being friends who travelled together for work, growing into a relationship and getting married despite living in Nigeria where same-sex marriage is illegal.
In this story, a gay man who doesn’t like group sex goes for a threesome, but it ends up becoming a fivesome where things get out of hand.
*Osas (20) and *Seyi (21) started out very in love with each other. But things went downhill when someone cheated, and they opened their relationship. Today on Love Life, they discuss their break-up and its effect on their friendship.
Sex Life is an anonymous Zikoko weekly series that explores the pleasures, frustrations and excitement of sex in the lives of Nigerians. The subject of today’s Sex Life is a 26-year-old bisexual man who talks about being sexually abused as a kid and how that led his developing a sexual addiction and finding it hard to […]
TRIGGER WARNING: Abuse. Editor’s note: In 2014, Ezinne* met Esther* and they dated for about three years before Esther got married. In this As Told To, Ezinne talks about the relationship they had and how they are both married to other people now. When people can explain their childhood with one word, it’s always strange […]
Outing a queer person without their consent especially in a country like Nigeria is one of the worst things you could do to a queer person. To the four people we spoke to in this story, they know too well that it is like to feel the fear of being outed before you feel ready […]
Sex Life is an anonymous Zikoko weekly series that explores the pleasures, frustrations and excitement of sex in the lives of Nigerians. The subject of today’s Sex Life is a 27-year gay man who has a reputation for being a player. He talks about how his reputation for sleeping around is affecting his sex life and […]
Pride month is gay Christmas that lasts longer than regular Christmas. This pride, here are few tips on how to be a better friend and ally to your queer friend. 1. Send them money Times are tuff, sapa left and right. What better way to support your queer friend? Empty your bank account dear, especially […]
What’s dating a man like when you are also dating women? In this article, nine Nigerian women talk about dating men vs dating women. Ini, 31 The first thing I noticed when I started dating women was how quickly we moved from talking stage to saying I love you. With women, it’s easier to put […]
As told to Mariam I put a call out for women to tell me the things that affect their mental health most. In Ada’s* message, she said her parents found out she is queer. I was curious about how that played out and I asked more questions. Here’s what she told me: I am the […]
Abeni*, 22, and Ifunanya*, 26, met on Twitter and dated for six months. Today on Love Life, they talk about their relationship and why it ended abruptly even though it was the best one they had both been in. What is your earliest memory of each other? Ifunanya: One day, I was scrolling on Twitter […]
Today’s Man Like is Bolu Okupe, a 27-year old bodybuilder and model living in Paris. He talks about repressing his sexuality until he was in his 20s, having to assert his masculinity and how he deals with internet trolls. When did it first hit you that you were a man? I don’t think there was […]
Lesbian Visibility week started on April 26th. It is a week set aside to celebrate lesbians around the world. Being a lesbian in Nigeria sometimes involves listening to people volunteering their assumptions about lesbians. In this article, I asked 7 Nigerian lesbians the funniest misconception of lesbians they’ve heard. Here’s what they had to say: […]
Jennifer, 28 and Emem, 26, have been dating for eight months. In today’s episode of Love Life, they talk about navigating a lesbian relationship in Nigeria and learning to work together as business partners. What’s your earliest memory of each other? Jennifer: I was walking back from the gate after seeing my friend off. I […]
Being queer opens you up to many forms of abuse or intrusion into your personal life. For many queer people, one of the more irritating things that happen when you are queer and straight people know that, is the way they ask or say very vulgar and uncomfortable questions and statements. Today, we asked six […]
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