If you’re interested in exploring the fascinating world of strap-on dildos, your first time shopping for one can seem confusing. But it’s easier than you think. We’ve come up with these eight helpful tips to help you get through it. 

Ask all your questions

There’s no point in being shy. You’ve already taken all the big steps by messaging the vendor / going to a sex-toy shop. No one is more qualified to answer your questions than the person selling it. 

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Where is it getting delivered?

If you’ve never had your package stolen before, you won’t understand how important this is. Some vendors package strap-ons discreetly and label them as something else like “ Stockfish” or “Shoes” to throw people off, while others just wrap it as it is (shape, veins and all). Figure out the logistics of your delivery, abeg. 

No be you dey use am, no be you go pick the size or shape

Is it okay to own that 12-inch dildo with tentacles sprouting out from it? Yes. ? Totally. But your partner might not be into all that.  It’s important to ask the receiver’s opinion. If you’re both first time users, go with a smaller size in a non-realistic shape, so it’s easier to control. 

Make sure you get one made out of  suitable material

The material affects both the wearer and the receiver. You don’t want to break out in hives during sex because you’re allergic to latex. You can’t go wrong with silicone, but ask questions and make sure that it’s a material that is easy to clean. 

As a black person, don’t get a white dildo

No, for real. Why are you also trying to get rammed by coloniser penis? Pick nice colours. Buy a rainbow or skin coloured one. Hell, go crazy and get a basic purple one. Just make sure you like what you’ve gotten. 

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Let go of the money you’re about to spend

Don’t even think about the price. Just close your eyes and imagine all the good times you’re about to have. Remember that it’s an investment that will cost an arm and a leg, so get one that has all the fun features possible. Don’t look at your account balance after you purchase it. 

Get a good harness 

Also, ensure that it’s comfortable. If those complicated ones work for you, go for it. If it’s the leather or brief style harnesses that work, get those. Just make sure it’s compatible with the shape of the dildo you are getting. 

Practice how to wine your waist 

It will take some getting used to, so don’t rush into using it without enough practice. Stretch before you use it because your entire body will cramp up if you don’t, which can be embarrassing as hell in the heat of the moment. 

Learn how to clean it

Now that you’ve gotten all that out of the way make sure you clean your strap-on after every use. It’s just good hygiene. Also, that shit is expensive and cleaning it helps it last longer.

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