Today’s #ZikokoWhatSheSaid subject is a 36-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about her big-city dreams after moving from Owerri to Lagos, why she married her persistent lover from Facebook and the challenge of living with her in-laws before finding happiness.

Today’s #ZikokoWhatSheSaid subject is Laura, a 23-year-old Kenyan woman. She talks about moving to a new town at 16, her rocky relationship with her sister, respecting her more after their mum dies, struggling with depression and finally accepting that grief is an unending cycle.

Today’s subject on #Zikokowhatshesaid is @fehinlean, a 30-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about her childhood love for motorcycles, why she waited until she was 28 to ride one and handling the stares when people realise she isn’t a man, on her biking trips across the country.

Today’s #ZikokoWhatSheSaid subject is Meye, a 40-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about how she found out she may never have kids, the dating scene for black people in Canada and what enjoyment looks like at 40.

Today’s #ZikokoWhatSheSaid subject is Faith, a 19-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about the medical error that motivated her to study medicine in Ukraine, being tired of the constant reminder to be grateful to her parents, and life since she moved back home because of the Russia-Ukraine war.

Today’s subject for #ZikokoWhatSheSaid is Michelle Nelson, a 25-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about leaving Jos in 2012 after the religious riots started in 2001, and discovering versions of herself that make the woman she is today.

Today’s subject on #ZikokoWhatSheSaid is Onyeche Ebie, a 53-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about the different phases of friendships in her life. From her first real friend to her first betrayal as an adult, She shares the moments that led up to her believing that life is better without a lot of friends.

Today’s subject on #ZikokoWhatSheSaid is a 55-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about navigating marriage expectations from Nigerian aunties, her reasons for choosing a funny over a cute man, and coming to terms with the possibility of never having kids of her own.

The subject for this week’s #Zikokowhatshesaid is Tobiloba Ajayi, a Nigerian woman living with cerebral palsy. She talks about growing up without knowing she had a disability, finally realising when she starts school and the emotional stress she dealt with alone.

Today’s subject for #ZikokoWhatSheSaid is Topher, a 27-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about sharing her love for football with her twin brother, losing a piece of herself when he died and holding on to the sport as she navigates life without her favourite sibling.

Today’s #ZikokoWhatSheSaid subject is Omotoke Fatoki, a 29-year-old Nigerian woman.  She talks about how growing up with her grandmum and spiked her curiosity for Nigerian cultures, falling in love with the north during her tour across Nigeria, and tips on travelling with a broke girl budget

Today’s subject for #ZikokoWhatSheSaid is a 24-year-old Nigerian woman who shares her unplanned transition to motherhood at 22. She talks about her parents keeping her away from boys, learning intimacy from Youtube and the hot sex that landed her in an unplanned version of the reality she wanted. 

Today’s subject on #ZikokoWhatSheSaid is @theafricanphd, a 29-year-old Liberian woman. She talks about learning to set boundaries with her mother, her amazing relationship with her father, and suddenly watching her 20s go by when he got diagnosed with Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS) in 2011.

Today’s #ZikokoWhatSheSaid talks about her mischievous adventures in Kigali, the influence of her parents’ lives as refugees to chase a career in human justice, an unexpected turn after COVID, and a guide to a fun girls’ night out.

Today’s subject for #ZikokoWhatSheSaid is Oghosasere, a 25-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about the complicated relationship with her parents in Benin, changing her identity to fit into the Lagos scene, and finally achieving the bad b!tch status that didn’t last.

Today’s subject for #ZikokoWhatSheSaid is Seyi Oluyole, the founder of Dream Catchers Academy for Girls. She talks about being homeless at nine, finding hope in a future again through dance and motivating other girls like her that needed dreams to survive.

Before 2021 ends, here are 10 What She Said stories you have to read.

In case you missed them the first time around, here are ten of the most-read “What She Said”stories in 2021. Which one is your favourite?

The subject of today’s What She Said is a 24-year-old woman who talks about studying pharmacy to please her parents, getting withdrawn from school after failing a semester, and finally studying what she wanted.

The subject of today’s What She Said is a 19-year-old who talks about various times she’s been assaulted, and how she feels liking sex invalidates her assault.

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The subject of today’s What She Said is a 26-year-old woman. She talks about not really having a childhood, not wanting children, living with PCOS, wanting a hysterectomy, and wanting more money.

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The subject of today’s What She Said is a 22-year-old woman who is really close to hating her dad. She talks about him making her mother’s life difficult, being uncaring, and being denied basic things because he’s petty.