every queer group chat has one of these people, which of them are you ?

Are you at a queer event if there isn’t a couple that makes you want to retire from being a hoe ?

Dating as a lesbian is not as easy as you think, here’s why.

Every group of queer friends have at least four of these people.

“In 2014, I wanted to explore my sexuality. I met this girl, Janet, on Badoo. She was nice. We texted for a couple of weeks before we started dating. There were no video calls then so we were always texting. In the third month of our relationship, she said she was travelling to Dubai for work and she wasn’t sure when she’d be back. She wanted to see me before she left. I told her I didn’t have money and she said she would sponsor the trip. 

“I felt like I had to pick one because it didn’t occur to me for a very long time that I’m just bi.”

5 bisexual Nigerian men tell us about discovering their sexuality.

Outing a queer person without their consent especially in a country like Nigeria is one of the worst things you could do to a queer person. To the four people we spoke to in this story, they know too well that it is like to feel the fear of being outed before you feel ready […]

Sometimes, when you finally accept your sexuality as a queer Nigerian, you may not know what to do. So, these six queer Nigerians give advice to newer queer people. Promise You don’t have to label yourself. Be patient with yourself, love yourself and know that whatever you are, you deserve love and acceptance. Doyin You […]

What’s dating a man like when you are also dating women? In this article, nine Nigerian women talk about dating men vs dating women.  Ini, 31 The first thing I noticed when I started dating women was how quickly we moved from talking stage to saying I love you. With women, it’s easier to put […]

Lesbian Visibility week started on April 26th. It is a week set aside to celebrate lesbians around the world. Being a lesbian in Nigeria sometimes involves listening to people volunteering their assumptions about lesbians. In this article, I asked 7 Nigerian lesbians the funniest misconception of lesbians they’ve heard. Here’s what they had to say: […]

There are not many feelings in the world that match the realization of ones queerness. These six Nigerian women share when they knew they were queer. Anita, 24 I went to one of those private catholic girls secondary schools in Abuja. In JS 1, during our visiting day, some boys came from the neighbouring “brother” […]

Jennifer, 28 and Emem, 26, have been dating for eight months. In today’s episode of Love Life, they talk about navigating a lesbian relationship in Nigeria and learning to work together as business partners.  What’s your earliest memory of each other? Jennifer: I was walking back from the gate after seeing my friend off. I […]

Being queer opens you up to many forms of abuse or intrusion into your personal life. For many queer people, one of the more irritating things that happen when you are queer and straight people know that, is the way they ask or say very vulgar and uncomfortable questions and statements. Today, we asked six […]

Bibi, 33, and Kelly, 27, have been dating for about four years. In today’s episode of Love Life, they talk about how they met online and transitioned from a long-distance relationship to a live-in couple.  What’s your earliest memory of each other? Kelly: I think mine is the first time we had drinks at a […]

As told to Mariam  During my first week at Zikoko, I wanted to write an article on how body dysmorphia affects women. I made a call for women to share their stories with me and Fisayo* messaged me. I eventually found that a similar article had been written but the conversation I had with them […]

For this week’s what she said, we talk to Uju Anya, a 44-year-old woman. She tells us about leaving Nigeria with her mum because of her abusive dad, discovering she is lesbian, not bisexual, and becoming an atheist. Let’s start from the beginning. Where did you grow up? I was born in the city of […]

Although non-members of the LGBTQ+ community are harassed when profiled as “gay”, a lot of people believe that the QueerNigerianLivesMatter hashtag is unnecessary. Members of the LGBTQ+ community, like many Nigerians, are fighting for their right to exist. They are victims of police brutality. So, we spoke to some queer Nigerian protesters to tell us […]