Z Daily: Chronic people pleaser? Let’s teach you how to say no

November 2, 2022

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2 November,
2022

Hey {$name}. It feels like every one of my colleagues at Zikoko is on leave, and I’m
sitting here wondering if there’s a memo I missed.

Is there a war coming? Will the dollar start exchanging at ₦1k by the end of the week? Somebody, talk to me o.

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WHAT SHE SAID

The Inside Gist: After Surviving Cervical Cancer, I Just Want Peace



[This #WhatSheSaid subject has been through it. And by “it”, I mean abusive (read as downright evil) friends, a crappy relationship with her mother and cervical cancer. She really deserves a break.]


Here’s what she said:

“The second time they [my friends] drugged me, I was in my second year. They were experimenting with a random pill and were too scared to try it themselves, so they put it in my drink and only told me after I drank it. All I remember was being very happy and floaty, and then, waking up in a hotel room.

I finally snapped when one of them raped my boyfriend.”

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