7 Nigerian Women Talk About Dating an Igbo Man

April 10, 2020

Much like Yoruba men, Igbo men have built a reputation in the Nigerian dating scene. But because we like to bring you only original and unfiltered gist we decided to ask some women who have dated Igbo men and here’s what they told us;

Ogonna, 26- He believed money could solve every problem.

They are mostly core traditional men and our values conflicted. One believed that money could solve every problem, so he could stand you up, send you money and expect the money to give you amnesia. They think there’s something wrong with showing emotions, so they don’t want to bother you with their struggles because you may think them weak. 

Vivian, 27 – It was so good I ended up marrying him.

It was so good I ended up marrying him and I have never had a reason to question the decision. I know Igbo men have a reputation for being controlling and all but I think it’s a function of tribe. Generalisations are silly.

Nelly, 23 – Things changed when i started earning more than him.

He was a great guy and the relationship was one of my best at first. But things started to take a sour turn when I started earning more than him. I guess he felt threatened in some way.

Ivie, 30 – It was not pleasant.

It was not pleasant, as an Edo woman, they always came up with the excuse of tribe. Dated one for 6 years and his mother disapproved and that was the end.

Dora, 25 – He couldn’t overcome his sexist ways.

I’ve dated five Igbo men. Three were great. The other two were assholes. The last one was the sweetest. He was huge and confident, unafraid to show his love for me in public. Always wanted to go out. He cooked for me, bought me gifts, pulled up to take me for drives around town. We had the hottest public sex then. It had to end however because he couldn’t overcome his sexist ways even though he was better without them. I guess that’s something the next generation of Igbo men need help with.

Chiamaka, 26 – They treated me like I was a baby.

They treated me like I was a baby literally. Maybe cos they were always 10 years older. So, it was a nice time. Still is.

Chidera, 25- The best boyfriend I ever had was Igbo.

The best boyfriend I ever had was Igbo. He was a good guy. Genuinely cared about me and everything I was doing. Wanted to know how I was faring and what I was up to with my career. It’s the best relationship I ever had.

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