On the internet, the term ‘ashawo dress’ or ‘ashawo cloth’ has evolved and now largely means a piece of clothing that makes you feel sexy. For women, there are more than a few dresses or ensembles that have gone viral for doing just that so we decided to ask a few Nigerian men, what their […]
Masculinity is being decoded around the world and redefined with the hopes and goals of it hopefully getting rid of the ‘toxic’ prefix we often see being placed next to masculinity. Today, we decided to hear from the horse’s mouth what it would change in masculinity and the behaviours of men. So we asked five […]
I’ve always been utterly fascinated by people who cheat on their partners and have always wondered what happened or why they decided to. Luckily, my job allows me to explore this curiosity and ask questions and get to the root of things like this. So I did just that. I spoke to several people I knew personally as well […]
‘Real men don’t cry’ is one of the top three most stupid and inaccurate things I have ever heard. Men cry, that’s the reality of life and it doesn’t make them less of men. To help illustrate and normalize men crying for normal and silly things, we asked a few men what the weirdest and […]
Have you ever listened to a heartbreak song and wondered what exactly the person who wrote it has gone or is going through? If the answer is yes, then you are not alone. Not only have we wondered about this but we have also listened to some classic songs and are beyond convinced that Nigerian […]
I am personally very curious about what the lives of men whose realities are underrepresented look like. Over the weekend, I had a conversation with a friend about his brother who was a single dad and it made me wonder about what it is like being a single dad as a Nigerian man living in […]
You’ll definitely get a second date.
For the average African man, the assumption is that there’s marriage somewhere on the horizon once they are in the twilight of their late twenties. Playful jests of “when will you marry” start to chime in from all angles. However, not all men believe in for better for worse, nor in death doing them part. […]
I am genuinely fascinated by relationship dynamics between Nigerians especially when it comes to giving gifts to their partners. So I set out to speak to as many Nigerian men who were willing to speak to me and asked them who the most generous partner they’ve ever had is. And the answers amazed me. Here […]
This will teach him to mind his business.
Who is a Proverbs 31 man?
When Tobi* lost his job because the firm he worked for, an offshoot of a French company, had left after realising they were losing more money than they were making in Nigeria, he did not quite know he was about to go on a dark road. ‘‘I was sad, very sad obviously. But I thought, […]
It is common knowledge — at least common Twitter knowledge — that the skincare routine of most Nigerian men begins and ends with a bar of soap and vaseline. For many of the men we spoke with, they don’t see why they should care that much about their skin but others are actively taking time out […]
Dear men, you never know what to do after you send a woman pictures? Well, we are here to help. 1) Send us money Looking at your beautiful pictures has caused us eye pains because your beauty is blinding. You have to pay for eye treatments. 2) Buy us a new wig Your beauty just […]
You may not think you are a 30+ Nigerian man, but if you use any of these emojis, then you are. 1) Lies and deceit All the variations of the smiling emojis are weird and twisted, but this is one of the worst. Do those eyes look like they belong to someone genuinely smiling? Why […]
Traditionally, marriage is designed to be a life-long commitment between two people. Sometimes, people go against the norm and seek emotional and sexual solace with people other than their spouses. I spoke to seven married men about cheating on their wives, why they do it and what the future of their marriages look like. Ben […]
As a woman, you need to hinge your existence on a man. You need to be his ribs, neck and more importantly, his backbone. If you are a woman who struggles with being a bone, don’t worry. Zikoko has curated a guide with illustrations on how you can become a backbone.
Nigerians to women: “Be your man’s backbone”
If you’re here wondering the secret to the appeal of Nigerian men, welcome: 1) Sweet mouth Nigerian men open a conversation with “you look familiar” and end with “I can’t live without you.” When Nigerian men give their sweetness attack, you defend. Or reset your defense. 2) Dress sense Ice on their neck. Ice on […]
Someone tried to make a list of foreplay options you could try with men. *Laughs in Nigerian men* Here are valid reasons why you should never try these options with a Nigerian man.
If a Nigerian man has shown you pepper, I greet you. Welcome to this quick class on how to prevent once bitten, twice shy. Have a seat and let’s go through this. 1) Anytime he’s going out, tell him to handover his penis. Prevention is better than cure. 2) Consult babalawo for juju. Flip the […]
As we all know, the devil is learning work where Nigerian women are. These queens of wickedness are out to destroy hearts and occasionally, a gullible Nigerian man falls for them and gets his heart broken. To get over their heartbreak, you often find men doing one (or all) of these five things: 1. Drink […]
What does it mean to be a man? Surely, it’s not one thing. It’s a series of little moments that add up. “Man Like” is a weekly Zikoko series documenting these moments to see how it adds up. It’s a series for men by men, talking about men’s issues. We try to understand what it […]
Fapping. Beating your meat. Polishing the banister. Playing 5-on-1. Self-loving. Tapping into your potential. Finding Nemo. For something that has so many alternate names, masturbation remains a taboo topic in Nigeria, thanks to a society saturated with religion and purity culture. It’s a rite of passage virtually every man goes through at some point in […]
Here’s a common Twitter scenario: A woman posts a tweet saying “This man’s birthday is coming and I don’t know what to get him.” Some clowns will quote the tweet, saying she should give him 1,500 and boxers. Since women are always so confused about things Nigerian men actually want, we the nice people at […]
“Put in the work.”
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