8 Things To Know Before Making Friends As An Adult

November 4, 2021

Everything about being an adult is the freaking ghetto, including making friends. There are a lot of things you’ll experience that’ll be beyond what you could have imagined. 

Here are a couple of things you need to know before making friends as an adult.

1. They can try to steal your man.

To be forewarned is to be forearmed. Find a way to make your man unstealable, especially if you live in Lagos. There are a lot of pickpockets going around stealing people’s men.

2. Everyone is 30+ and wants to be home early.

Everyone is too old and wants to be home in bed before 11 pm. Even your friend who isn’t 30 yet is already masquerading as a 30+ man with a bad back. 

3. You’ll need to learn your friends love languages.

Being friends with people doesn’t mean you shouldn’t learn their love languages and how they want you to be their friend. Make sure you aren’t the only one learning love languages, the best friendships are the reciprocated ones. 

4. Your friends will try to finish your money.

Especially those friends who don’t remember what the four walls of their houses look like. They’ll always expect you to go out with them every Friday till things go south and you are broke. 

5. Your new friend might be a crazy person.

This is the craziest part about making friends when you get older. After all, craziness isn’t written on the forehead and you’ll have to find that out after becoming friends with them. Finding out your new friend is not ok in the head is both revealing and stressful. 

6. Your friends won’t always be there for you and vice versa.

You won’t always be available for friends and vice versa and that’s absolutely ok. But not being available for your friend and being a shitty friend are two different things. 

7. They may have shitty tastes and opinions. 

I can’t even imagine being friends with someone who doesn’t like Beyonce or someone who thinks the earth is flat. It’s hard work, but sometimes you have to make peace with knowing your friend has very questionable tastes and opinions. Some opinions however can’t be ignored.

8. They can fall in love with you and make you leave your partner.

Everyone knows a good love story starts with good friendships and every adult needs a good friend and partner all in one person. 

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