The subject of today’s What She Said is a 34-year-old Nigerian woman who grew up getting everything she asked for. She talks about constantly pursuing enjoyment, and how that led to her leaving her cheating husband and raising her two children independently.  What was it like growing up?  I had a pretty happy childhood. I […]

“I was excommunicated from everyone.”

The subject of this week’s What She Said is a 54-year-old woman who has three children she doesn’t like. She talks about how they felt like distractions and how her relationship with them has only gotten worse with age.

If you were on Twitter last week, breastfeeding was a trending topic, thanks to this video. It was an important conversation that I intended to continue, so I asked African women to share their breastfeeding experiences with me. Here’s what nine of them had to say.  Thelma, 28, Nigerian  I had a traumatic labour and […]

The subject of this week’s What She Said is Karo Omu, a 29-year-old Nigerian woman and mother. She talks about almost having a miscarriage when she was five weeks pregnant, liking her daughter and the importance of giving women enough information about reproductive health.

After asking some Nigerian women to share why they do not want children, we asked some that do have children if they regret the decision. These four Nigerian women share why they regret having kids. Abimbola, 44 Maybe regret might be a strong word because I absolutely adore my children, but since I turned forty, […]

We live in a society where having kids is expected of every woman, but there are some that do not want them, and will never want them. So, we asked some Nigerian women why they do not want children. Olamide, 34 When I was a teenager, I always told everyone that I was going to […]

When Adam and Eve sinned against God, he was so pissed that he decided to burden humans with some crackheads called children for the rest of our lives. First, you are forever attached to your children, from birth till you die. For the first two years of their lives, you have to constantly take care […]

Were the clowns necessary?

Fuck them kids

The subject of this week’s What She Said is a 32-year-old Nigerian woman who grew up resenting her mother for marrying and divorcing three times. Now that she’s older, a feminist and has been divorced once, she says she understands.

“Beating is the lazy parent’s way out.”

Society has conditioned us — especially women — to think of procreation as a necessity. Thanks to the transparent conversations that social media has made possible, we now know that a lot of people don’t feel that way. So, we asked a bunch of Nigerians who don’t want children to share why they feel that […]

See below the newly revised handbook of acceptable behaviour for you to be considered as responsible. At least by adultier Nigerian adults. 1) Adults are always right. Okay? 2) You must also allow adults disrespect you. Without any form of protest. Are we on the same page? 3) Or cheat you. Only irresponsible children protest […]

Did we really need to read “The Gods Are Not To Blame” at age 11?

Get in here if you are in the mood to do evil.

Your good looks or your intelligence?

Capri-Sonne, cabin and choreography.

Here are some of the things no one tells you about becoming a mum: Elizabeth – 26. Nothing actually prepares you or warns you of what lies ahead in motherhood. It can be described as a rewarding experience, but very little is said of how overwhelming it really is. Especially if you have no help. […]

The subject of today’s Sex Life is a woman in her 40s who has been divorced three times. She talks about how not using protection and the lack of safe clinics for abortion in Nigeria affected her Sex Life.

“I never once queried her directive that no one be told of our ‘games'”

Child rearing is not child’s play.

A little upgrade never hurt anyone…until now.

Variety, they say, is the spice of life.