Yes, cooking beans is a valid reason for not replying texts on time.
As told to Mariam Emem* is a 40+ woman whose husband was cheating on her. The experience changed her perspective on life and she wanted to share her story with other women. Here’s what she told me: My husband and I met in 1999. We dated for three years before getting married. We have three […]
As Told To Itohan When I was in JS2, I started dating a lot of people consecutively. I was never really single. I dated two best friends. I even once dated a set of twins and their elder brother. Most of them were older and bought me gifts, which was risky because I was young […]
So your man is cheating, but you want to remain with him and don’t know how to do it? Never fear, here is the Zikoko guide to staying with a cheating man. 1) Take it to God in prayer Ask God to give you the grace to continue in the marriage. There is nothing God […]
I’ve always been utterly fascinated by people who cheat on their partners and have always wondered what happened or why they decided to. Luckily, my job allows me to explore this curiosity and ask questions and get to the root of things like this. So I did just that. I spoke to several people I knew personally as well […]
As told to Mariam In my first month at Zikoko, I put a call out for Nigerian women to tell me about their proposals. Cynthia* was one of the women that reached out to me. I thought it was interesting that she was a bisexual married woman, and I wanted to know how that worked […]
This will teach him to mind his business.
Men, who are often considered the wreckers of relationships, are rarely considered as victims of heartbreak. I spoke to four Nigerian men about their experiences. Here’s what they had to say. Bayo, 27 I’m always the one getting broken up with, so I have plenty of break up stories. The first one dumped me for […]
Farida*, 27, and Favour*, 28, went from cheating on their ex-partners with each other to eventually falling in love.
Have you ever wondered why and how some women become side chicks? If they regret it or how they felt when they found out? Well, these twelve Nigerian women share their experience as side chicks. Amaka, 27 I was 21 and had just gotten out of University. I met him at my best friend’s party […]
Different women have different definitions of cheating. For some, it is more emotional than physical. These eight Nigerian women define cheating for us. Zainab, 19 I don’t think I have a definition of cheating. Physical activities are physical, and I cannot stop you from hanging out with someone even if they like you or you […]
Be on the lookout for clues.
One of the sadder facts of life is that cheating happens. It, for the most part, can’t be helped. No one knows exactly just how much cheating happens in relationships and studies into cheating and how much they occur have given varying results. An expert quoted in a Refinery29 article suggests cheating occurs in about […]
Ijeoma*, 26, and Peter*, 29, have been friends with benefits for 2 months. They talk about satisfying their primal needs while maintaining serious relationships with other people.
If you’re desperate (or crazy, or Yoruba) enough to cheat on your partner, you need to realize that cheating is a high risk activity that can go south very easily. When you (almost inevitably) get caught, here are some excuses you can give to get yourself out of the situation. If none of the excuses […]
Women are often overlooked in conversations about marital infidelity, thanks to the notion that women aren’t very inclined to cheat on their spouses. I spoke to six married women who have had relationships without their husbands’ knowledge. They had some pretty interesting stories. Editorial note: This article was updated to include Chidinma’s entry which was […]
I totally understand why you’re here. You want your man to focus only you. Men like to wander a lot. So it is important for you to learn how to stop him from seeing other people and focusing on you. I gatchu. 1. Lock him in the house This is the best option. Full Rapunzel […]
I wore something that didn’t even expose any part of my flesh but because it was bum short, people were talking and he followed them to embarrass me in public. Something in me shifted that day. I sha cheated on him ( I don’t regret it). I told him I cheated, he forgave me, I cheated some more then I broke up with him.
Let me start off by saying this is not an endorsement of cheating. Some of you might make reference to my name and say “i AM noT sUrpRisEd a fEMi is saYiNg tHis”. Keep quiet. We heard you the first 500 times. Here, I’m not asking men to cheat. In fact, I hate cheating. All […]
The subject of this week’s Sex Life is a 39-year-old heterosexual woman who has only ever enjoyed sex with older men. Since she got married 10 years ago, she’s only enjoyed sex with her sugar daddies.
As told to Eris Ekanem I had a conversation with a 24-year-old who suspects that her husband cheated on her with his cousin while they were still dating. She talks about the age difference between them, the disrespect she had to endure while dating him and the choice she had to make. There are so […]
Pretty much every man has been in the clutches of Igbo women at some point. They’re renowned worldwide for their wickedness and cold-heartedness. If you haven’t been hurt by Igbo women before, this article is for you. I’m trying to save you before it ends in premium tears. If an Igbo woman is catching your […]
What is cheating to you? Is it physical? emotional? or in between? 9 Nigerian men tell us their definition. Sit back and read: Oga M./Early 40’s. A lot of people only classify cheating based on what they can see – A man leaves his wife to hang with another woman, sleeps with her and gets […]
My friend sent me that “Is this not your boo?” text.
If there’s anything history has taught us, it is that men are much better than being side pieces than women. Ask Jada Pinkett Smith. If you didn’t already know, a side nigga is someone who knows that the person they are giving back to back has a partner but doesn’t care. You’re just here for […]
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