We need to talk about how Nigerian mothers play an active part in shaming their daughters and acting as though being a girl is for the purpose of marriage alone.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie said the truth: “We teach girls shame. Close your legs; cover yourself. We make them feel as though being born female, they’re already guilty of something. And so, girls grow up to be women who silence themselves.” This post shows one of the many ways that Nigerian mothers contribute to this behaviour.

1. “Bend down and sweep properly. Is this how you will be acting in your husband’s house?”

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Seriously, just stop.

2. “Look at your breasts. At your small age, they are already falling. Are you letting a man press them?”

Tired of you, Mummy. That’s what I am.

3. “Don’t wear that dress. Can’t you see that you look like a prostitute?”

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Hay God. Nigerian mothers never know when to leave their daughters alone, do they?

4. “See how fat you have become. Which man will marry you like this?”

A man who loves me. Now please leave me alone.

5. “I just hope you’re still a virgin. I was a virgin when your father married me.”

Can you let me breathe, please? Please? That’s all I ask.

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