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Every week, Zikoko seeks to understand how people move the Naira in and out of their lives. Some stories will be struggle-ish, others will be bougie. All the time, it’ll be revealing.

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Let’s start from the beginning. What’s your earliest memory of money?

I come from an entrepreneurial family — my dad owned a printing press, and my mum was a petty trader — so money conversations were regular. It wasn’t strange to overhear questions about where our next meal could come from. So, I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t thinking about making money. One that comes to mind was when I sold biscuits for extra income in secondary school.

Tell me about that

I attended a boarding school, and when I got into the senior class, my parents started giving me a ₦10k allowance per term for feeding and other minor expenses. I’m a natural saver, so I managed my allowance to meet my needs. If I ever ran out of money, I’d call home.

Then, during exams in SS 3, I noticed my classmates were selling biscuits and other snacks. The snacks were popular among students who didn’t want to walk all the way to the canteen at break time and those who got hungry at night when everywhere was closed.

I spoke to a friend whose mum also sold snacks at the school canteen, and we made an arrangement: I’d pay for cartons of biscuits and keep them at their house. Then, I’d take a few cartons at a time to the hostel to sell.

How did that go?

It was very profitable. I can’t recall the actual figures because this was in 2016/2017, but I made enough to afford to recruit my friend’s sister and some junior students to sell my biscuits in their classes for a small commission.

The business lasted two terms, and I stopped because my hostel warden wasn’t a fan of students doing business. He tried to report me to the principal and housemaster several times, but I always escaped. I think I just decided on my own that I didn’t want to do it anymore.

My next hustle happened during the waiting period between secondary school graduation and university admission.

Another business?

Something like that. I almost started selling natural health products in 2018. A friend introduced me to it, and I thought it wouldn’t hurt to try since admission hadn’t come — I was pursuing medicine and wasn’t making any money at my dad’s printing press.

That business didn’t kick off because I couldn’t raise the ₦20k I needed for registration. However, I found digital marketing. My elder brother noticed I had a knack for writing, so he suggested starting an Instagram blog to grow an audience and possibly monetise it in the future.

Before then, I only posted my pieces on WhatsApp and Twitter. I started the blog as he suggested and began seeing how the foreign guys did digital marketing. They talked about graphic and brand design, email marketing, social media marketing and management. I read all they had to say, researched, and even took some courses.

I involved my brother in my progress, and he helped me get my first social media management job with his friend, who owned a laundry company. This was in 2019.

Was it a paid job?

Oh yes. The guy paid me ₦20k/month, and we worked together for six months. His business slowed during the 2020 pandemic because his clients had nowhere to go and didn’t wear as many clothes. So, he had to let me go.

I also got admission to study medical lab science that period, but the combination of COVID and ASUU strike meant I couldn’t resume until the following year. I took advantage of my free time to hone my skills. I built a brand online as a social media manager and digital marketer, learnt graphic design and became a stronger content writer.

In September 2020, I got my next gig as an engagement specialist with a digital marketer in the UK. He created most of the content, and my job was basically to engage his social media community and respond to comments and enquiries. The pay was £4/hour, and it was my first big break. I worked at least two hours a day, and my pay at the end of the month was usually ₦250k.

Not bad

It wasn’t bad at all. I worked with him on and off until January 2023 — sometimes, we worked together for three consecutive months and stopped when he didn’t have money. Then, we’d resume a month or two later. Towards the end of 2022, he introduced me to two of his friends, and I had a two-month stint working with them at the same £4/hour rate.

My income comes in very handy for school. I think my dad only paid my first-year school fees. I paid my ₦180k/year accommodation myself and didn’t bother calling home for allowances because I knew their financial situation depended on when my dad got a major printing job. I even started sending money home to help with emergencies or if my mum needed extra money to cook for the weekend.

But how are you managing school and the multiple gigs?

A lot of scheduling and sacrificing my free time, but I just have to manage. When I stopped working with the UK guy, I briefly worked with someone who needed help with the content strategy for two brands for a non-profit she wanted to start.

We agreed on ₦45k/month for a three-month contract, and I persuaded her to pay me for all three months at once; I had to move to the uni’s medical campus that year and needed money. While working with her, I took on another three-month digital marketing gig that paid $250/month — approximately ₦300k after conversion.

By the time the three months elapsed, I had about ₦800k saved from my different gigs. So, I decided to stop taking on gigs to focus on school for a while. The coursework was a lot that semester, and I needed to study. I survived on my savings for the next six months and only took another job in October 2023.

What job, and how did you get it?

Social media management. I got it via referral from a friend, and payment was per task completed. For instance, I got $50 to set up an ads account for TikTok and Instagram. The arrangement lasted three months, and I made a total of $200.

After that, I took another brief break for school before I got my current job on Upwork in July 2024. I work with an editing firm as a book editor. My pay structure was initially an hourly arrangement of $7/hour, which came up to about $1,120 in a month. But I got confirmed after my first month and now earn approximately $1250/month, including bonuses. That’s around ₦2.1m after conversion.

That’s wildly impressive. And you’re still in school?

Yup. I’m currently in 400 level. It’s been very interesting managing school and work. Sometimes, I skip classes. Sometimes, I juggle work and exams. So far, my work hasn’t adversely affected my academic performance.

Two months ago, I employed someone and delegated some of my work to him. We agreed on $25 per book edited, but he’s not a professional yet, and his work rate was really slow. My workplace gives me a week to edit each book, and it just wasn’t working out with him. We worked together on three books before we had to part ways.

I think I’ve pretty much worked out a reliable schedule for work and school. For instance, I know I won’t always have time to cook, so I just accept that I’ll need to order food most of the time.

You’ve had impressive income growth over the years. How does this impact your perspective on money?

I consciously try to remember that I didn’t come from a place of abundance, so I don’t go on spending sprees. Even though I have enough to afford almost anything I want now, I don’t see the need to spend on luxuries or things that won’t impact my life.

I appreciate that I have more financial freedom, but I feel it’s just an opportunity to save more and provide financial leeway for my family. Without worrying, I can now afford to spend ₦100k on my parents’ medical bills or send ₦150k for food. In addition to the money gifts, my family can also come to me for loans, and I’m happy to help out.

You mentioned saving. How does that work?

I live very much below my means and save far more than I spend. I don’t send money to my family every time, so I’m constantly saving. I have about $3,300 in savings now, and I save in dollars to protect my money from inflation and the falling naira.

I’m also considering investments, but I’m being careful about that. I once lost over $500 in 2021 trading crypto. I did both futures and spot trading then, but I was new to it and lost that money because I didn’t properly weigh the risks. I plan to return to crypto one day since I have the experience now. About 53% of my savings are actually in a crypto wallet.

But before that time, I might consider getting a financial advisor or expert to help me select the best investment options to diversify my funds. I have money right now, but I know anything can happen in the future, and I need a healthy safety net that I can fall back on. So, I definitely need to pay attention to how I handle my finances.

Speaking of, let’s break down how much you typically spend in a month

I pay a yearly rent of ₦100k. That’s not a monthly expense, but I feel like I should mention it.

I’m curious. Have you thought about future plans after school?

I honestly think crypto trading and social media sales offer the highest earning potential and will continue to pay the highest in the next 10 years. If I can hone my trading skills and continue leveraging what I know about social media ads and marketing strategies, I can earn a lot. My short-term goal is to earn $5k/month by 2025 or 2026. Long term, I hope to earn $10k/month.

There’s still the question of what I’ll do with my medical lab certificate, but I like that it gives me another option if the others don’t work. I may even consider opening a medical laboratory strictly for business purposes. Whatever the case, I intend to keep saving so I have enough of a safety net for whatever dream I want to pursue.

How much do you consider a good safety net?

Maybe $15k, and it’d be fantastic if I could save that by the end of next year. With a safety net like that, I wouldn’t feel too pressured if I didn’t start earning immediately after I left school, and it’d give me room to pursue whatever dream comes to mind.

What’s one thing you want but can’t afford?

Nothing.

You know what? I rate it. How would you rate your financial happiness on a scale of 1-10?

9. I’d like more financial freedom so I can take more risks. I think I’ll get there in time, especially with my current income and attitude to savings.

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Imagine growing up with parents who wield “I’ll disown you” like a threat or having a father who looks you in the eyes and says, “I’m not your dad.” That’s the reality some Nigerians face.

In this article, three middle-aged Nigerians share the stories of how their parents disowned them, how the experience has shaped their own families, and what it means to break the cycle.

Adeoyo*, 51

What do you think led to your parents’ decision to disown you?

“I’ll disown you” was a common threat my dad used on me and my two younger siblings. He set these strict, unrealistic expectations: we had to come first in school, be perfect at Sunday School, and avoid friendships with other neighbourhood kids.

Growing up, I often wondered why my mum stayed with him—he was emotionally abusive, and his words were sharper than physical pain. Sometimes, I wish he’d just hit us instead of leaving us with those cutting words that still haunt me today.

In my final year at uni, I got a call from my mum saying she’d left his house and that I shouldn’t return there after school. My dad took it as a betrayal, especially when we chose to stay with her. This time, he followed through on his ‘disownment’ threat. He died soon after I graduated, and we never had the chance to mend things.

How has this experience shaped your view of family and belonging?

It’s only made me appreciate the family I have with my mum and siblings. Leaving my dad brought us closer, and even though we struggled financially, we finally had peace and love in the home. I think we thrived better without his overbearing presence.

What aspects of your life now would you have wanted your dad to see or understand?

I would’ve liked him to see how well we turned out without him. All three of us now have our own families, and we’re nothing like him—we don’t use threats or manipulation to raise our kids.

Do you think this experience has impacted your role as a parent?

I don’t threaten my kids with things like, “I’ll disown you.” I’ve prioritised thinking carefully before correcting them to avoid saying things I’d regret. I’ve had slip-ups, but I’m intentional about doing right by them.

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Johnson*, 48

What do you think led to your parents’ decision to disown you?

I don’t think my dad needed much reason. My mum says he just left us a few months after I was born and never came back. She eventually heard he’d remarried, but he refused all family attempts to reconcile. Growing up, I only knew him from old photographs.

In secondary school, a family friend convinced my mum to let me visit him. I wasn’t excited, but part of me wanted to see him. When I arrived, I met my stepmum and step-siblings. They were nice, but the atmosphere changed when he got home. My dad barely looked at me before saying, “Go back to your mother and tell her to show you your real father. I’m not him.”

That was the last time I saw him. I think, deep down, I disowned him just as much as he disowned me that day.

How has this experience shaped your view of family and belonging?

This isn’t uncommon in our society. There are single parent stories everywhere and some of these children have grown up just right. My grandmother always told me, “Orphans survive with no parents; you’re lucky to have one who cares.” Now, when my daughter calls me “the best dad ever,” I know I’m doing something right.

What aspects of your life now would you have wanted your dad to see?

I’d only have wanted him to meet my kids. They ask about him sometimes, and I just say he’s passed. Luckily, they have their maternal grandfather, who loves them like his own.

Do you think the experience has impacted your role as a parent?

Oh, it has. Like I said, my daughter calls me the “best dad in the world,” and that’s all the reassurance I need to know that I’m getting something right with her.

Toyin*, 42

What do you think led to your parent’s decision to disown you?

I didn’t invite my mum to my wedding.

She was mostly in and out of my life as a child, so I spent most of my childhood with my grandmother, who, though well-meaning, was strict and difficult. By the time I got to uni, I’d adjusted to life without a present mother. But she’d always say, “I’m still your mother, whether you like it or not.” At one point, she joined a cult, which distanced her even more from the family.

I didn’t want her at my wedding because she caused a scene at my graduation, and I worried she’d do the same on my big day. When she found out, she told people I was no longer her child. My grandmother tried to reconcile us, but my mum seems more invested in her cult now than in the family.

How has this experience shaped your view of family and belonging?

It’s shown me what I don’t want when creating my family. My mum failed to give me the gift of family, but I’m determined to give my kids what I didn’t have. With my husband and kids, I’ve found a true sense of belonging I’d always wanted.

What aspects of your life now would you have wanted your mum to see?

All of it. Childhood was hard without her, and adulthood hasn’t been any easier without her guidance. It would’ve been nice to have her here.

Do you think the experience has impacted your role as a parent?

It definitely has. When I find myself struggling or on the edge, I pause and think, “Would I want my daughter going through what I did?” The answer’s always “no,” it keeps me grounded as a parent.

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Love your neighbour as yourself, but what if they act like crazy people? From the guy who stinks up the compound with his shoes to the nosy landlady, these Nigerians tell us why they’ve stopped being friendly with their neighbours.

Tomi*

My neighbour’s a Yahoo boy who blasts music as loud as hell all night long, and worse, it’s not even good music! Just razz street songs from other Yahoo musicians. We’ve all complained to the landlord, but he’s not doing anything about it.

Kola*

He points his generator’s exhaust towards my room door, and it drives me insane. I’ll get home, and my whole room smells like gen smoke. I’ve tried everything, and if this continues, I’ll pour water in that useless generator.

Deola*

Every evening, my neighbour screams like a madman when his football team plays. It’s extra irritating because it’s not even a real match; it’s Football Manager, ugh.

Chidi*

I live in a boys’ quarters on campus and dislike my neighbour because he and his whole room smell like a sweaty gym bag. He never showers after classes or playing ball; he just takes off his stinking shoes by the door and lies down. I’ve stopped talking to him because the smell is unbearable.

Emmanuel*

I can’t stand my neighbour because she’s too nosy. She’s older and lives in the flat beside mine, always peeking at who I come in with or trying to listen to my conversations. It’s so weird.

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Dara*

I’ve got a neighbour who talks way too much. I avoid him now because once he starts, he doesn’t stop. The weather, government—you name it, he’ll have an opinion.

Fayo*

I hate my upstairs neighbour because he hates me right back. He’s always dragging something heavy or stomping across the floor. It’s the worst.

Ayo*

My neighbour loves parking behind my car and then disappearing. Even if I park somewhere else, he’ll find a way to block me in. Since the fuel hike, he’s been moving his car less, and honestly, I’ve never been happier.

Temi*

I hate my neighbour because his dog never stops barking. I mean, hardly ever. He doesn’t play with it, so it barks at everything: birds, lizards, people. I really miss silence.

Do you have a neighbour you loathe? Why? Tell us in the comments.
One minute, you’re glued to your phone, laughing at inside jokes and counting down till the next time you’ll see each other. The next, you’re sending “hey” at noon and getting “k” as a reply three hours later. If you’ve ever been in a talking stage that went from “God when” to “God abeg”, then you already know how it goes.

We broke down the seven stages that mark the slow, painful death of a talking stage.

1. Dry texting zone

Conversations lose their spark, and the messages shrink to one-word responses like “lol,” “k,” and “sure.” You’ve gone from texting all day to barely hearing from them before midnight.

2. Delayed replies (a.k.a. the 24-hour wait)

Remember when you’d reply within seconds and keep your phone close to your chest just for them? Now, hours or even days go by before you get a response. They’ll throw in excuses like “I was busy” or “My network’s been shitty all day.” Lies,lies and more lies.

3. The blame game

At this point, you’re both realising that your “situationship” isn’t going anywhere. So, you start low-key blaming each other for lack of vibe, saying things like, “You never initiate conversations” or “I feel like I’m putting in all the effort.” No one’s owning up; you’re just tossing blame back and forth.

4. Partial ghost mode

You’re not completely ghosted, but responses get real patchy. You see them active on social media, but your messages remain unread. At this point, you’re sure they’re probably focused on another talking stage.

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5. Cancelling plans

At this stage, they no longer want to see or physically be in the same space with you. Meetups that were once carefully planned now get cancelled at the last minute with flimsy excuses like “My grandmother is visiting.” Since you’re both over it, no one bothers to reschedule.

6. The “What are we even doing?” talk

You’ve both had it to the last straw, but someone suggests a “where is this going?” chat, hoping to get some clarity. The conversation is awkward because deep down, you both know the ship never left the harbour. The conversation ends in even more confusion.

7. Familiar strangers

Now, neither of you initiates contact. You both let things quietly fizzle, and just like that, the talking stage is officially over—no hard feelings, no closure.

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If you’re new to the Nigerian dating scene, you might need a dictionary to keep up with the slangs that pop up every three market days. Here, “Chop breakfast” isn’t about your morning meal — it’s the go-to term when you’ve just gotten your heart handed out to you by a wicked lover. And when you hear words like “kpekus” and “gbola”, know it’s about to get unhinged.

We’ve done the Lord’s work and compiled the ultimate guide to help you coast through these slippery streets.

Baddie:

She’s the moment; she’s mother. She’s the babe other babes aspire to be. An expensive maami.

Cruise:

This is a general term for flirting or being playful with the opposite sex.

Chop breakfast:

This means to be dumped or rejected by a romantic partner. Basically, to get your heart broken by a scum.

Love triangle:

Another name for a situationship. It’s mostly used by millennials.

Bae watch:

This is when you’ve made it your life’s mission to know a person’s relationship status. It could also mean watching your partner to ensure they are not cheating.

Friendzone:

Use this term to describe your new location when a potential lover says, “I feel we’re better as friends.”

Ghost:

When you bail on them.

Netflix and chill:

It’s the slang for a sexual encounter masked as a movie night. Run o!

Shoot your shot:

Used when you finally summon the courage to ask your crush out.

Sext:

Basically, E-mekwe.

Tluf tluf:

A coded slang for sexual intercourse.

Talking stage:

Used to describe a potential partner still in the “Getting to know you” stage.

Third wheel:

A single person who loves playing third fiddle to a couple.

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Side chick:

She’s the OTHER woman.

Situationship:

A casual relationship without a head or tail but with occasional opportunities for genital slamming.

Fling:

Mostly used by millennials to describe their “Situationship.”

Breadcrumbing:

When the crush has no plans of taking things further, moves like they’ve got your interest at heart. They flirt here or there, send texts and gifts to keep you attached, knowing damn well they plan to stay single.

Mekwe:

It’s pidgin slang for hardcore intercourse.

Genital slamming:

This slang is used to describe hardcore sex.

Konji:

A state of horniness.

We’re a thing:

It’s used to describe a union that’s way past a situation but not yet a relationship.

Knack:

It literally means “to hit,” but in the Nigerian context, it also means “to get laid.”

Buss:

Mostly used by guys, this slang means “to ejaculate”.

Smash:

It means “to get laid”.

Kpekus:

Another name for the female genitalia.

Gbola:

Another name for male phallus.

Shipping:

It means matchmaking two people without their consent. It’s mostly used by BBNaija fans.

Rizz:

It’s another word for charism. For instance, Is your talking stage giving married or single man rizz?

Hookup:

A “No strings attached” sexual encounter.

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The cinema holds a special place in our collective Nigerian imagination. It’s where we escape reality, laugh, awww, and sometimes cry. For many of us, our first cinema experience was more than just a movie; it was an event.

In this article, we asked seven Nigerians to take a trip down memory lane and revisit the first Nigerian movie they saw at the cinema. From peer pressure to hyped film and movie dates, their stories highlight the power of cinema to shape our perceptions, spark conversations, and create lasting memories.

Lola, 26

The first Nigerian film I watched at the cinema was The Wedding Party. I have always watched foreign movies in the cinema, but I used to avoid Nigerian films because it wasn’t giving back then.

It makes sense that I first saw The Wedding Party at the cinema because I love weddings. I like the overall glamour of a Lagos wedding. But the cast of the movie was the selling point for me. They packed many of my favourite Nollywood people into one project. I was already in love with Adesuwa and Somkele and wanted to see them on the big screen. I won’t lie; I loved most of the cast members, so it was an easy choice to make.

After TWP, I went to see the likes of Merry Men, Chief Daddy, Lost in London, and The Wedding Party 2. I will go to the cinema to see any film I see my faves.

Francis, 24

It was 2019 in Ilorin. My friend’s babe wanted to go to the cinema. She brought her friend alongside her and introduced her to me. We all went together. It was around 4 PM, and James Abinibi’s The Call was the only film available for viewing. We watched it, but I didn’t pay attention all through. It wasn’t my type.

That was my first time at a cinema and also the last time I saw a Nigerian film in a cinema.

Tonye, 28

It was Fifty. Everyone was talking about it, and I heard there was a sex scene, so I went to see it. It was worth it. At the time, it was ₦2,500, which was expensive. But I enjoyed the film. It’s a good movie. The production was tight. It’s a modern film. It was different from what was in the cinemas at the time. It convinced me to see more Nollywood productions in the cinema, and I’ve seen a lot since then.

Folaranmi, 27

My first time at a cinema, I saw Mami Wata by CJ “Fiery” Obasi in 2023. It was worth my money. Throughout my university years, I avoided the cinema and any discussion that suggested going there. I hated large crowds. Even when I saw Mami Wata, there weren’t a lot of folks in the cinema. So, I totally enjoyed the silence and space, even though it was not like I had them to myself.

I have gone to see more Nigerian films at the cinema, but dates with babes took me there, to be honest. If not, I’d be binge-watching in my house. If there’s any Nigerian movie that’d motivate me to go willingly to the cinema, it’d be Mami Wata, but unfortunately, it’s not showing in any Nigerian cinema again.

Adefunke, 24

It was Ayinla. I love Lateef Adedimeji. I had just met someone at that time, too, and the person was fascinated with the biopic, so I wanted to see what they liked. I heard that there was also going to be some singing in it, which got my interest. I enjoyed the film very much, though people made a lot of noise in the cinema, which disgusted me. That’s why I haven’t been to the cinema since then. I’d rather wait for the film to come out on streaming platforms.

Mariam, 24

The one I vividly remember was A Tribe Called Judah in 2023. I went with my mom, brother and nephews and when we got to the cinema, it was crowded AF. We didn’t factor in that it was a festive period, and everyone would be out with their families. When the movie started, I had a great time. The movie was fun, and everyone at the cinema was laughing. It was a feel-good moment.

I haven’t gone to the cinema since then, though I have no reservations about watching Nollywood there. If I have the luxury of time, I will.

Korede, 26

I watched Ayinla in the cinema because I am a Tunde Kelani and Kunle Afolayan cult follower. That day, I had a good time, actually. I went to Ilorin to see friends after uni. Afterwards, I insisted all I wanted to watch was Ayinla. They wanted to watch something else. They had to watch it with me. We all liked it.

The film producers were decent with the rollout. That was when the Apala music conversation on social media platforms peaked. I was in Abeokuta last month, and I was shown Ayinla’s family house from afar. The movie hit once more.
Wondering if your female colleague sees you as just another work friend or if she’s low-key catching feelings? Whether you’re her male or female co-worker, the signs she likes you—romantically or platonically—can be easy to miss while y’all are slaving away for capital. That’s why we’ve compiled 20 telltale signs on how to know if a girl likes you at work to help you figure out where you stand.

Let’s get into it.

How to know a female co-worker likes you as a platonic friend

She’s always at your desk

If you’ve got a female colleague who loves dropping by your side of the office, she’s probably into your company.

She’s always starting conversations

If she actively seeks you out to chat about work and personal interests, it’s likely because she enjoys conversing with you.

Wants to walk home together

Nothing screams “I rate you” quite like a colleague who wants to walk home with you after a long day at work. It’s heavy on the grown-up primary school bestie vibes.

She cares about your feeding

If she’s using her hard-earned salary to buy your lunch or always checking if you’ve eaten, it’s a sign that she cares about you.

How to know your female co-worker likes you as a platonic female friend

She knows when it’s your time of the month

If she notices it’s that time of the month and goes the extra mile to ease your day or offers to take on some of your workload, this girl is bestie material.

She calls you “bestie” and not your real name

Bonus points if your colleagues also call you “Esther’s bestie” instead of your actual government name.

She takes restroom breaks with you

Remember back in school when you suddenly had to go to the restroom because your bestie was granted a bathroom pass? It’s the same here.

She likes pushing for sleepovers

That’s likely because she’s not just about the office vibes; she also wants to know you outside the confines of capitalism.

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How to know if a female co-worker likes you romantically as a guy

She finds excuses to touch you

Even if the workplace isn’t the most ideal place for PDA, she’ll always manage to place a hand on your shoulder or tap you when she wants your attention.

She’s interested in your love life

If she’s always asking questions about your dating or relationship status, there’s a chance she’s trying to figure out if there’s room for her.

She invites you to out-of-office hangouts

If she’s calling for beach or movie hangouts, or wanting to introduce you to her favourite amala spot, she’s probably open to more than just work friendship.

Her friends know about you

If she’s introducing you to her friends, she might be checking to see if you’d make a good friend… or a great partner.

How to know if your female co-worker likes you romantically as a girl

She’s curious about your sexuality

If she’s suddenly interested in your sexual orientation, she’s likely testing the waters for common ground.

She gets jealous when you hang out with the other work girlies

This might be an indication that she doesn’t want to share your company with someone else, especially not the other 101 hot girls in the office.

She flirts A LOT

If she stares deeply into your eyes, brushes imaginary dirt off your clothes, or “accidentally” dusts off your shoulder, she’s not here just for “work bestie” status.

She remembers everything

You casually mention hating onions, and now she’s practically ready to pick a fight with HR if they add onion rings to the snack options. She’s got you memorised like the lines on her palms? And that’s something.

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As a child, Deji* watched friends and family turn his generous dad down when he fell on hard times. It changed the way he saw life.

Now, at 32, he opens up about how he’s working to break free from a scarcity mentality and accept the idea of sharing his resources.

As told to Adeyinka

We weren’t the wealthiest family in our neighbourhood, but everyone knew us for my parents’ parties.

Every little milestone was a reason to invite family and friends for a “small get-together.” Our neighbours could always count on us for at least one free meal every month.

But, things took a turn after my dad lost his banking job in 2002. He was among the workers laid off when Savannah Bank lost its licence. Our finances took a serious hit. It all felt so sudden, that I found myself wondering if my dad had even saved while he was employed. But I was too young to ask.

The parties were the first thing to go, and the way we ate followed–. My brother and I had to share a single piece of meat, and a sachet of milk was suddenly considered too much for one person to use. The private secondary school my parents always wanted for us also became an impossibility because they could no longer afford it. My mum was a civil servant, but her income was nowhere near my dad’s former salary.

Soon, the number of visitors to our house started to trickle down. Relatives who once showed up regularly for a good meal and a transport token stopped coming. Next, the non-stop phone calls my dad used to get reduced significantly.

After struggling and failing to find another job, my dad decided to start a business. He needed financial assistance to bump up what he had saved but when he called on friends and family who’d benefited from him to help out, they all suddenly “had one project to finish” or said “things were too tough.” I watched his spirit break in real time as he tried to make excuses for people he’d once prioritised over his family.

Seeing my dad go through that broke something in me.

In boarding school, I earned the nickname “akagum”—a slang for stingy people. I was unrepentantly stingy. The thought of sharing anything I’d worked to get was unbearable. If I’d gone through trouble to earn something, I felt no one else deserved it. My logic was simple: “Why should anyone who didn’t struggle with me get to share in the rewards?”

One time in SS2, I spent hours in a queue fetching water, only to have people who’d been lounging indoors all day ask me for some. I spat in the bucket and refused. They hurled insults at me nonstop, and I think I cried myself to sleep that night. I woke up the next day and carried on as usual; nothing changed.

It wasn’t until university that I started to see the consequences of my actions. Uni was harder than secondary school, and I soon realised I couldn’t navigate it alone. There were so many confusing processes, and I found myself needing help from others, something I wasn’t so keen on. I didn’t want anyone to feel entitled to ask me for anything in return.

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It worked for a while—until it didn’t.

As I started to form friendships, people got comfortable enough to ask me for things. You know, the sort of petty requests you’d ask of a friend, a course mate or a hostel mate. “Ade, can I borrow your course material?” or “What did you cook? Can I have some?” My default answer was always no. Sometimes, I’d reconsider, but I had to say no first; it somehow satisfied me.

If my friends noticed this trait about me, they never called me out. Instead, they adjusted, and soon, I was the one getting a lot of “I don’t have” and “No.” At first, I didn’t mind. It meant I didn’t have to feel bad for turning them down.

However, it took an incident during our final exams for them to finally confront me. A good friend, who was my seat partner, needed a pen. I had three spread out on my desk, but I didn’t respond when he called me. In my head, I thought, “What if my pen stops working next?” After the exam, my friends gave me a good tongue-lashing. I think we actually got into a heated exchange. I argued that the invigilator could have caught me if I had been seen talking. Before we parted ways, one of them said, “This attitude will drive people away from you,” and he was right.

The real impact of those words hit me during NYSC. I’d just started dating my first girlfriend, who always bought me thoughtful gifts—shirts, colognes, food — despite our 28k allowance. Honestly, I wasn’t comfortable accepting them because I knew it meant reciprocating, which I wasn’t ready for. I couldn’t justify the expense, especially since I was saving for post-NYSC life.

I was a good boyfriend in other ways, but it wasn’t enough for her. She frequently complained that I didn’t honour her love language of giving and receiving gifts, and I guess the last straw was when I refused to cover her friends’ meals at her birthday dinner, even though I could afford it.

After we broke up, I didn’t date for about two years and was upfront with prospects. During the getting-to-know-each-other phase, I’d say point blank, “I’m not a cheerful giver,” and sure as hell, the budding romance would die a natural death. Although, there was one person who seemed okay with it until it became an issue. She came over after work one day, and I only made food for myself, knowing she hadn’t eaten. My excuse? She hadn’t told me she was coming. We went our separate ways some weeks later.

My friends, they don’t even bother anymore. They’ve all marked me as the one friend who shows up empty-handed, who visits with no food of his own, and whose answer to requests is almost always no. I’ve lost some, and the ones who’ve stayed occasionally threaten to leave.

Over the years, I’ve realised that this is a trauma response to watching my dad’s struggle. It’s made me live with a scarcity mentality that doesn’t let me enjoy my own resources. As much as I’m stingy with others, I also tend to deprive myself, even though I have a good income and a decent savings cushion.

I’m working to get better. I’m teaching myself to say yes more often and be more generous. I’ll admit, Nigeria’s economic situation doesn’t make it easy—the word “no” still feels like it’s always on the tip of my tongue.

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Happy birthday wishes for your older brother

Happy birthday wishes for your twin brother

Happy birthday wishes for your younger brother

Birthday Prayers for Your Brother

Want to make your brother feel extra special on his big day? Whether he’s your partner-in-crime or the annoying last born who gets all the attention from your parents, we’ve got you covered with a list of happy birthday wishes for a brother that’ll make them weak in the knees.

Let’s get into it.

Happy birthday wishes for your older brother

Whether he’s your protector, silent supporter or the guy who always finishes your leftovers, your big bro deserves his flowers. These birthday wishes for a brother will help you remind him how much he means to you, even if you still argue over the remote.
- Happy birthday to the coolest older brother a guy could ask for. You’ve always been my role model and my biggest supporter. Love you, bro!”
- Odogwu! As you add another year, may you finally stop reminding me of all the favours I owe you. I dey for you, sha. Happy birthday.
- As you add another year today, I pray God continues to bless and guide you, making each step you take lead you to greatness. Have a blessed birthday, big bro.
- Happy birthday, big bro. I know you’re getting older, but don’t worry—I’m still here to make you feel young and cool. For now, at least.
- Happy birthday, big bro! Thanks for all the times you covered for me, taught me things, and gave me the best advice — when you weren’t teasing me. You’re my hero, and I’m lucky to have you in my corner.
- Happy birthday to the brother who set all the rules and then taught me how to break them. May you keep getting wiser… and hopefully, a little softer on me.
- To my older brother, the man who’s always got my back. Happy birthday! I’m so grateful for your love and guidance.”
- Happy birthday to the OG of the family! May your new year be full of big wins, and may you keep blessing us with your wisdom and funny takes on life. Love you, bro.
- Wishing you an incredible year ahead, big bro. Keep reaching for the stars — there’s no limit to what you can achieve. Happy birthday.
- Happy birthday, boss man. From watching you hustle to seeing you win, you’re my role model. May you keep climbing to higher places, and may God crown your efforts with success.
- Happy birthday, big bro. I don’t say it enough, but I’ve always looked up to you. Watching you carry so many responsibilities while still making space for the people you love is nothing short of heroic. I pray this year brings rest, reward and restoration.
- You’ve always been the one to figure things out first — even when it cost you peace. This birthday, I hope you finally get to choose ease. You’ve earned every good thing coming your way.
- Life hasn’t always been kind to you, but you’ve shown what it means to keep moving. You’ve taught me that strength isn’t loud — it’s in the way you continue to show up even when nobody’s clapping. Keep going. Your next chapter is about joy.
- I know you don’t always ask for help, but I hope this new age sends you people who pour into you the same way you pour into others. You don’t have to do life alone. You deserve to be cared for, too.
- If no one has told you lately, you’re doing great. It may not look like success on social media, but your quiet consistency has laid a solid foundation. Happy birthday, and may this year take you farther than you’ve ever imagined.
- You’ve always been my protector, my example, and sometimes my second dad. Happy birthday, bro. You mean more than you know.
- You walked so I could run. Thank you for the sacrifices you never speak about. I see you. Happy birthday.
- Here’s to the brother who taught me how to fight back and stand tall. May life keep being kind to you.
- You age like fine wine — only cooler and louder. Have an amazing year, big bro.
- I’ve always looked up to you, even when you were being annoying. Happy birthday, OG.
- You’ve been my safe space for as long as I can remember. Here’s to more life, more peace, more money.
- Thanks for all the unsolicited advice and surprisingly accurate predictions. Happy birthday, wise one.
- I hope this year brings you every good thing you’ve prayed for others. Happy birthday, big man.
- From stealing my meat to giving me solid life tips — I wouldn’t trade you for anything. Happy birthday, bro.
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Happy birthday wishes for your twin brother

There’s no bond like that of a twin — same birthday, same childhood chaos, same unspoken connection. If you’re looking for birthday wishes for a twin brother that capture the magic and madness of being born with your best friend, start here.
- Happy birthday to my twin! We’ve been through everything together, from childhood adventures to adult challenges. I’m lucky to have you as my best friend and brother.
- Cheers to another year of making moves together. May we both achieve our dreams and keep lifting each other. Na you I sabi pass for this life.
- Happy birthday, my twin. You’ll always be my favourite accidental roommate. Here’s to more shared laughs and questionable choices.
- Happy Birthday, my twin and day-one best friend. We may have our differences, but there’s no one I’d rather share this special bond with. Let’s keep making memories together.
- To my twin, the other half of my soul. Happy birthday! Here’s to another year of shared memories and inside jokes.
- Happy birthday, my twinny. God really duplicated his finest creation twice in one day. May we keep sharing great vibes, bants, and the good things of this world.
- To my twin, my forever partner-in-crime, and the other half of all my crazy plans—Happy birthday. Here’s to another year of having each other’s backs. Cheers, twin.
- Happy birthday to the one who knows me best (literally!). We’ve been through everything together, and I wouldn’t trade you for anyone. Let’s make this year unforgettable.
- Happy birthday to my twin, my bestie, my competition, and my best backup plan. Just remember, I’m the cooler one. Enjoy your day.
- Happy birthday to my twin and partner in everything! I pray for good health, success, and that every path you take leads you to amazing things. God bless you always.
- Happy birthday to the person who shared the womb, the room and half of my childhood drama. Life wouldn’t be the same without you.
- We’ve been through everything together, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Cheers to us.
- I don’t need to make wishes. You already feel like one come true. Happy birthday, twin.
- Being your twin means constant comparison, but I wouldn’t trade our connection for anything.
- Happy birthday to the only person who truly gets me — sometimes without words.
- You annoy me more than anyone, but also show up more than anyone. Twin life is wild. I’m grateful.
- It’s your birthday, which also means I’m celebrating myself. Happy birthday to the better half — me. JK. Kind of.
- Happy birthday, twin. You and I may share a birthday, but your journey is your own — and you’ve handled it with so much strength. I see your effort. I see your growth. I see the parts of you you’re still figuring out. And I’m proud of all of it.
- Sharing life with you has been one of the greatest gifts. But even though we’re twins, I hope you never feel pressured to be the same. You are your own person with your own story, and you’re writing it beautifully.
- You’ve had your fair share of battles, but you’ve never let any of them break you. This new year, I hope you heal, laugh harder, love deeper, and finally believe that you’re enough — just as you are.
- Growing up with you taught me how strong quiet resilience can be. You’ve carried pain with silence and celebrated others with loud joy. May this new year return all that kindness to you tenfold.
- We may share DNA, but you’ve taught me how different strength can look in two people. You’ve carried your story like a survivor, and I pray this next chapter is full of soft wins and loud joy.
- May this new year bring us both ease, laughter and shared wins. Happy birthday, wombmate.
- No matter where life takes us, we’ll always have the same origin story. Love you always.
- Same DNA, different destinies — but always connected. Happy birthday, twin flame.
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Happy birthday wishes for your younger brother

Younger brothers have a special talent for being both adorable and annoying. But deep down, you know you wouldn’t trade him for anything. These birthday wishes for a brother will help you show love while still maintaining that sibling energy.
- Happy birthday, kiddo. I’m proud of the person you’re becoming and can’t wait to see what you do next. You’ll always have a big fan in me.
- Today, I celebrate not just your birth, but the amazing person you’re becoming. Keep aiming for greatness, bro. The world is yours to conquer.
- To my not-so-little brother anymore—Happy birthday! You’re growing up way too fast, but I’ll always be here to watch out for you and cheer you on. Here’s to your best year yet.
- Happy birthday, baby bro! I’d offer to let you win at something today, but I know you wouldn’t believe me. Hope your day’s amazing!
- On this special day, I pray that God’s favour surrounds you, guiding you towards your destiny and filling your life with peace. Happy birthday.
- Happy birthday to my little bro who’s growing up so fast! Remember, the sky is only the beginning—keep reaching higher. Proud of you always.
- Happy birthday to the best little brother in the world. Hope your year is filled with everything you love. Keep being you, never stop.
- To my super amazing younger brother, the one who always keeps me on my toes. Happy birthday. I can’t wait to see what you do next in this phase. I wish you the best life’s got to offer.
- Happy birthday, young blood. May you grow into a man of purpose, one who makes our family proud. The sky is only the beginning. Shine on.
- My little bros, happy birthday o! May God lift you higher than your wildest dreams, and may you receive all the blessings that turn boys into men.
- Happy birthday to the one person who can make me laugh and roll my eyes in the same minute. Keep being your chaotic self — the world isn’t ready.
- You’re growing into the kind of man I’m proud to know — even if you still forget to rinse your plate. Big love to you, lil bro.
- Another year older, but still not taller than me. Happy birthday, baby bro.
- May this new year bring you clarity, confidence and way more money. You deserve everything good.
- Watching you grow has been my favourite thing. But if you ever beat me at FIFA again, we’re done.
- You’re the reason the house hasn’t been boring for years. Happy birthday, our in-house comedian.
- Being your sibling is 30% fighting, 70% bragging rights. You’re really doing this life thing well. Proud of you.
- Hope this year blesses you with soft life, smart decisions and zero heartbreak. Happy birthday, champ.
- I may not always say it, but I love you deeply — even when you eat my leftovers. Happy birthday.
- You’ve come such a long way from the crying toddler who followed me around. Now you’re a man. Happy birthday, kiddo.
- Happy birthday, little bro. It’s wild watching you grow into a man with vision, purpose and drive. I know life sometimes tries to dim your light, but don’t let it. You were made for more, and I hope this year reminds you of that every single day.
- I see how hard you’re trying — even when no one says it out loud. I want you to know I’m proud of you. Not for being perfect, but for showing up and trying, again and again. May this new year be your softest and strongest one yet.
- Being the younger sibling isn’t easy. Everyone has expectations of you before you’ve even figured yourself out. But you’ve handled it all with more grace than most adults I know. Keep going. You’re becoming the man you’re meant to be.
- You’re at a stage where the world expects you to have it all figured out, but don’t let that pressure steal your peace. Take your time. Explore. Fail. Grow. There’s no deadline for becoming your best self. Happy birthday, champ.
- May this year bring you the kind of wins that silence doubt — not just from others, but from yourself. I hope you see how capable, brilliant and deserving you are. You don’t have to be loud to take up space.
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Birthday prayers for your brother

Sometimes, the best gift you can give your brother is a heartfelt prayer. Whether he’s older, younger, or your twin, these birthday prayers for your brother are perfect for speaking blessings, good fortune and peace into his new year.
- On your birthday, I make du’a that Allah (SWT) continues to bless your journey with barakah and light. May He increase you in taqwa, protect your path from harm and guide you with clarity and ease.
- May Allah grant you rizq that is pure, halal and overflowing. I pray that He grants you the patience to weather storms and the strength to rise above every difficulty. This new age, may your heart be content and your steps divinely guided.
- Ya Allah, cover my brother in your mercy this year. Where there’s confusion, send answers. Where there’s pain, send healing. Where there’s fear, send peace. May his birthday mark the beginning of a better, softer chapter.
- May this birthday bring you closer to Allah, and further from what doesn’t serve your soul. I pray for sabr, tawakkul, and protection against the seen and unseen. May the angels never leave your side.
- I pray Allah keeps you rooted in deen, surrounded by goodness and guided by light. May every dua in your heart be answered, and may this new age be the one where you find ease in every area of your life.
- May God grant you peace that surpasses understanding and strength that never runs out. Happy birthday.
- I pray this year opens new doors and closes every chapter that no longer serves you.
- May you grow in wisdom, walk in purpose and glow with grace. Happy birthday, brother.
- May every silent prayer in your heart receive loud answers this year.
- I pray that your journey will be covered in favour, and you’ll find joy in places you never expected.
- May your birthday mark the beginning of your softest, happiest chapter yet.
- May you never lack the love you freely give others. Happy birthday, big heart.
- May blessings follow you, peace fill you, and strength carry you every single day.
- As you grow older, may your fears shrink, and your dreams grow even bigger.
- May this new age come with peace of mind, divine protection and enough money to spoil yourself well.
- May the God who sees the deepest parts of your heart pour out His peace upon you this year. I pray for divine favour in every corner of your life — work, health, relationships and dreams. Where there’s been delay, may acceleration come. And where there’s been silence, may you hear clearly from Him.
- On your birthday, I commit you into God’s hands. May He order your steps, shield you from harm, and bless your obedience. I pray that every closed door in your life opens in God’s perfect time — and when it does, it’ll be more than you imagined.
- I pray this new age is the beginning of restoration and clarity. That the God who knows your struggles silently fights your battles and brings you to a place of rest. You will not lack peace, direction or provision. Happy birthday, and may God’s presence never leave you.
- May your life reflect God’s glory this year. May your name open the right doors, and your heart remain aligned with heaven. You are not alone — and this year, may God prove it to you in ways that leave you in awe.
- May the God of grace rewrite every part of your story that’s been heavy. May He fill your mouth with laughter and your hands with testimony. This birthday, I speak favour, long life, and spiritual strength into your path.
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We’ve all been there—sneaking a peek at that forbidden movie, or quickly shutting off the TV when our parents walk in. For many of us, childhood movie memories are filled with secrecy, disciplinary punishments and occasional embarrassment.

But what happened when we were caught? We asked five Nigerians to share their most memorable childhood movie moments; the ones that earned them a scolding, a slap on the wrist, or a beating.

Iyiola, 24

Growing up in a Christian home, everything we watched was scrutinised.

My mom banned us from watching Ben 10 because she believed the aliens were demons. That was 2006, around the time a pastor said he went to heaven, came back to earth and saw Ben 10 characters. The ban extended to the Wizards of Waverly Place because of magic, and then the Disney channels because of the high-school love scenes, boyfriend-girlfriend issues were too much for us. She also stopped us from watching House of Anubis because of the eye symbol. She detested anything with eye symbols.

Ayanfe, 28

It was Campus Girls, a film about university girls who like to go out to meet sugar daddies. They kissed on screen and all. My uncle, who rented the film, didn’t allow us to watch it but I snuck back to the parlour to watch it and they saw me. I was seven years old, but they beat me too much, I almost saw Jesus that day.

But to be honest, I don’t get why they beat me. Those actors had clothes on when they made out. It wasn’t different from other Yoruba films we saw. They didn’t beat me for watching Papa Ajasco that introduced Cossy Orjiakor that had all her boobs out and made Papa Ajasco shout “Oooh gbigbigbigbi.” I knew Cossy from there. Boy Alinco always said sexual things too. I wonder why it wasn’t an issue.

Now, the reason I hate that they beat people for watching explicit things more is another situation with my uncle when I was 11. I went to collect music CDs from him — 50 Cent, Ja Rule, etc. While selecting the CDs I wanted, I saw one that had “Blue Film” written on it. I played it, and saw “BJ” on screen. I was surprised and curious to see the rest, so I took it home. They caught me and beat the shit out of me. They didn’t hear the story that it was my uncle’s CD, or ask why he let a kid near that type of content. They rained all the blame and punishment on me.

Vanessa, 24

I got a VCD of 300, but we (my siblings and my mom) didn’t know what to expect from it. We decided to watch it while my mom was out. When she came back, it was still playing, but we had gone outside to carry what she brought home from her car.

When we entered, it was around the time the characters made out. My mom vexed and started asking, “What sort of rubbish are you watching?” and stuff. She shouted so much. Luckily, no cane. But she banned us from watching TV in her absence.

Juwon, 35

I was 12 and I skipped school one day to watch Fatal Attraction, a film that my neighbour had rented the day before and recommended we watch together. NEPA took light while we were at it. I tried using a screwdriver to open up the VHS player, but my old man met us when he came home during work break (unlike him). The whippings my dad gave me that day were insane.

Funke, 24

Instead of getting into trouble for watching certain films on my own, my uncles allowed me to stay and created one for me. When Spartacus and Game of Thrones were released and the pirated versions started making rounds in Nigeria, I was around 11 or 12. I developed an affinity for films when I was younger, so when my uncles watched films, I was allowed to sit in with them. As you know, Spartacus and Game of Thrones had plenty of sex scenes. So, whenever the sex scenes started, they’d send me out of the sitting room, “Oya. Go to the passage. We’ll call you back soon.”

Soon enough, I started telling the vibe and left the room whenever the sex scenes were about to start. I don’t even know if it made them [my uncles] impressed or wary.

It’s funny that some years later, I saw Game of Thrones again and watched all the sex scenes and it felt like a “What’s even there? Mtcheeew” moment. What was the point of sending me outside at every sex scene? It was unnecessary, unhelpful and stressful. I hated it.