8 Things No-one Really Tells You About Love And Relationships

August 17, 2021

There are some vital truths you only get to understand when you experience them firsthand. This is no different in love and relationships. After all, matters of the heart can sometimes be where we learn about ourselves the most – what works for us, and those things we say “never again” to.

Here are couple of things nobody really tells you, in no particular order.

1. Some fights aren’t yours to win

It’s not necessarily about you – people react a certain way because of their triggers. If you’re an empath, then this is one big take-home.

2. It’s not always butterflies, roses & sunshine

Some days you won’t feel ‘in love’ and while that can be scary, it’s okay. Many people break up before they learn this.

3. Boundaries are a must

You need to set boundaries and be self-aware enough to know when they are being crossed. Saves you a whole lot of heartache and cringe-worthy flashbacks.

4. Sex is a big part of the mix

It’s raining horniness everywhere. This comes as a shock to some people when they get into relationships for the first time. If you plan on practicing abstinence, it can be difficult finding partners who support your stance. Difficult, but not impossible.

5. Kissing is not the same for everyone

For a lot of people before a kiss that actually doesn’t feel like the exchange of saliva can take place, there has to be some form of emotional connection. Movies and your friends might not tell you this.

6. Everything good will come

It can feel like you’d never find love and will probably die alone with your cat, but wait, everything good will come. Surprisingly, it might be when you’re not even looking.

7. You will cry a river

Yes, a relationship you truly care about should be your safe space, but wait till you know pain. The same person you absolutely adore can be the reason you stay up at 3 a.m. staring at the ceiling and crying hot, bitter tears.

8. It’s not for the weak

Forget what you see on the timeline from your faves. It takes a truckload of patience, time, commitment to make a healthy, stable relationship work. There are times you have to make sacrifices even at your own inconvenience and be the bigger person. Mind you, being the bigger person doesn’t always mean turning the other cheek.

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