Sex Life is an anonymous Zikoko weekly series that explores the pleasures, frustrations and excitement of sex in the lives of Nigerians.

Last week, we did a recap of the Sex Life stories you read the most in 2021. Here’s a list of five stories that you probably missed but you really should read.

5. Get the lube…

The subject of this Sex Life story had some great advice to give to women (and men) regarding lube: it’s only going to make things better, so use it. She’s also hoping to leave the streets and all the problems they bring. Read her story below.

4. What do you do when it gets too hard

Our subject for this week is a sickle-cell warrior. I learnt about priapism from speaking with him. It’s a condition he has that will sometimes cause him to have lingering erections. He talks to us about how he deals with this and how it affects his sex life.

3. So when you say “cheating”

For the subject of this Sex Life, it was important that her first time having penetrative sex was someone she did not particularly fancy. Why? You should read on that and a lot more.

2. Listen up!

My people, it is necessary that you listen to your partners. Find out what they like, tell them what you like. Communicate. The subject of this Sex Life learned this lesson over a number of years and also lets us into his experiences at sex parties.

1. The sex life of an asexual woman

The asexual spectrum is one that doesn’t find a lot of representation in Nigerian media and this story was a move to start the very necessary conversation of exploring all shades of sex lives.


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