• Every week, Zikoko seeks to understand how people move the Naira in and out of their lives. Some stories will be struggle-ish, others will be bougie. All the time, it’ll be revealing.


    Nairalife #378

    What’s your earliest memory of money?

    At the beginning of the term, my primary school would give us a long list of textbooks. The parents handled the book purchases, but my parents handed the responsibility to me when I was in primary two.

    They’d give me money for the entire list so I could sort myself out. Not all the books were compulsory, and I got to choose which one I wanted to buy each time. My parents didn’t really care what I did. They believed I could handle it myself.

    And you didn’t “chop” the money?

    I mostly used it for the books. But since I didn’t buy all the books at once, I’d hold on to the money to see if the teachers would actually demand some books. If by the mid-term, the teachers hadn’t checked, that book money automatically became mine. But if they asked, I’d quickly bring out the saved cash and buy it.

    I understood the power and value of money because of this book thing. I saw how teachers routinely chased students out of the classroom because their parents couldn’t afford the books. I was never chased out.

    What was the financial situation at home like back then?

    Looking back now with adult lenses, I realise we weren’t rich, but my parents were incredibly hard workers. 

    My mother was a trader, and my dad worked at the Nigerian National Petroleum Company Limited (NNPC). People will hear NNPC and assume we were swimming in oil money, but he wasn’t a high-ranking staff. He was more like a third-party consultant. Still, our family didn’t lack the basics. Our rent was never late, and I was never sent home from school. We didn’t own cars, but we were okay.

    When did you start earning your own money?

    Right after my JSS 3 exams in 2013 or 2014. I got a job at a local bakery. The pay was ₦500 per day.

    Why did you take a job at that age?

    My parents only provided the basics, such as food. Nobody was going to give me flexing money. Some of my peers went into block moulding, but I chose the bakery.

    At the bakery, I wrapped bread, washed baking pans, and carried heavy logs of wood to the ovens. I didn’t work every day; the bakery didn’t open on Wednesdays and Sundays, and as a casual worker, I could show up to learn that there was no space for the day. So, I worked on and off for two months before resuming senior secondary school.

    What did you do with your daily ₦500?

    Honestly, a big chunk of the money went right back into treating my body. I always returned home from work with body pains from the heavy lifting. 

    I couldn’t even complain to my mum or anyone because they’d remind me that it was my decision to work there. So, I used my earnings to buy medications to patch myself up. The rest went to buying evening suya. Nothing meaningful came out of it.


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    Phew. Did you try anything else for money in secondary school?

    Yes. In SS 2, I joined a voluntary youth organisation in church called the Royal Ambassadors of Nigeria. To fully participate, I needed to buy the uniform and pay for a ranking exercise. The uniform and sewing cost ₦9,000, and the exercise was ₦1,500, totalling ₦10,500.

    When I asked my mum for the money, she said, “That thing is not your school, so I’m not paying for it.” I had to raise the money myself.

    What did you do?

    I  hawked pure water after school hours and on Saturdays. I made about ₦700 – ₦800 in daily profit. 

    Every Saturday afternoon, after selling water, I’d head straight to our weekly Ambassadors meeting. Then I’d hand over my daily profit to the unit president, who kept my payment record. I did this for about five months until the ₦10,500 was fully paid up, and I got ranked. Today, I use that experience to mentor younger boys whose parents refuse to support their extracurricular goals.

    The next time the “spirit of hustle” returned was when I was in SS 3. I was supposed to be preparing for WAEC or NECO, but based on my calculations, I predicted that year’s WAEC results might be bad.

    Wait. How?

    I noticed that if the WAEC results for a year were good, the following year’s would be bad. It looked like that year’s WAEC might be bad, so to avoid wasting money, I suggested to my parents that they either pay for just NECO or for both exams.

    NECO was more expensive than WAEC, which was only ₦7k in 2017. My parents were like, “We don’t have more than ₦7k. It’s either you register for WAEC or go and look for the NECO balance.”

    Other people would have gotten frustrated. Me, I just smiled. I stopped going to school regularly to read my books at home instead. I used the free time to look for a job.

    What did you find?

    A job packaging nylon sheets at a cellophane factory for ₦12k/month. I worked there for a few months to cover part of the NECO registration fee, which ended up costing over ₦60k in total, including school logistics.

    When I needed more money to cover the costs, someone connected me with an aluminium and glass company. The salary there was ₦15k/month. But there was a catch; the owner asked if I was still a student. Everyone assumed I had graduated, and if I told her the truth, she wouldn’t hire me because the workload required full-time commitment. I lied and said I was done with school, even though I still had NECO exams to write.

    How did you manage work and your exams?

    It was chaotic. On exam days, I’d pretend I was terribly sick and rush out of work. Balancing it was so hard that I actually missed my economics paper completely and got an ‘absent’ in my results. I still passed the general requirements sha.

    The work itself was stressful. I cut the aluminium, managed banking deposits because they trusted me, and travelled alone to Warri and Onitsha to source materials. My salary eventually increased to ₦20k, but transportation costs ate up most of it. To save money, I would trek for hours every single morning from my house to the workshop. I worked there from June until September 2018, when I moved to Warri, which wasn’t far from home.

    What was the plan?

    I hoped to secure a job with my O-Level results and start my life. I squatted with friends and relatives in Warri, since I couldn’t afford accommodation.

    Thankfully, soon after I arrived, I found an open security guard position at a private school. The ₦18k/month salary was small, but I took it because it was a Monday-to-Friday gig, which meant my Saturdays were free for my Royal Ambassadors meetings.

    A few weeks into the job, the school’s owner noticed my competence and computer literacy. She pulled me away from the gate and put me in her office as the school secretary. I stopped wearing the security uniform, even though I was still doing both jobs — I monitored the school gate from the office window.

    Did she increase your salary for the double role?

    No. She pleaded that the school was small and couldn’t afford an increase. I accepted because I was running an event-planning hustle on weekends. I was highly active in the entertainment scene in Warri and other neighbouring towns. I did everything from promoting clubs and handling stage management to working as a DJ assistant and selling tickets for music concerts and festivals.

    I was incredibly good at convincing people. I could talk a group looking for a table of four into upgrading to a table of six on the spot. My pay wasn’t stable since my work depended on what service was needed, but a typical event weekend brought me between ₦5k and ₦10k.

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    How long did you stay at the school?

    About three years. I was there from September 2018 until 2021. By January 2019, the school’s student population had dropped drastically, and the owner called a meeting to lay off staff. Some of us agreed to take a pay cut instead of losing our jobs, so my salary dropped to ₦15k.

    During school holidays, when there was no work to do, the owner would arrange for me to work at her husband’s hotel so I could earn something. It wasn’t until after the COVID-19 lockdown that she returned my salary to ₦18k. 

    By 2021, I looked around and realised all my friends were already in higher institutions. Even though I was making money from events, I told myself, “If I don’t go to school now, I will lose interest forever.” So, I resigned and got admission to a polytechnic in a different town.

    How did you fund your education?

    I’m not proud of this part of my story.

    When I first arrived at school, my accommodation plans fell through, and the place I ended up staying was so far that my daily commute cost could pay a student’s monthly rent in town. 

    Also, I was too far from Warri to continue my event planning side hustle, and I knew my savings would run out quickly. Out of desperation, I approached two lecturers to offer my services as an office assistant in exchange for small money, but they both rejected me. I was heartbroken, but I couldn’t wallow in it for too long. Instantly, I started looking for other options.

    I noticed that some students were either too lazy or busy to complete assignments or school registrations, so I seized the opportunity to do them for a little change here and there. One day, while helping someone process their documents in an administrative office, I met a guy who had been hearing about my academic performance. He tested my intelligence right there, saw what I was capable of, and introduced me to exam impersonation.

    As in, writing exams for other people?

    Yes. It started small with continuous assessment tests. He’d pay me between ₦2k and ₦4k per test. Then the main semester exams arrived, and the first one was a computer-based exam. The guy who brought me in didn’t trust me with a major exam, but his main guy, who was supposed to write the exam on behalf of others, disappointed him on the morning of a 7 a.m. paper.

    So he gave me the login details for three students. I walked into the hall, logged into the first portal and completed the exam. Then I logged into the second, cleared it, and did the third. Nobody suspected a thing because I have a very calm, gentle face. When I walked out, ₦100k was credited to my account instantly.

    Interesting

    That single morning changed everything. From that moment on, a large portion of my polytechnic tuition and rent was paid entirely with money from impersonation. I’m not proud of it, but the money kept me going. Every semester, I was guaranteed at least ₦200k from exam runs. 

    Eventually, it grew into a full operation. Because I didn’t like seeing intelligent, broke students struggling, I started outsourcing the jobs. Clients would bring jobs, and I’d hire brilliant students who needed cash, pay them excellently well — sometimes ₦10k just to sit beside me and copy answers — and ensure everyone was taken care of. 

    Then, in 2023, around the tail end of my National Diploma (ND) program, I decided to stop the impersonation.

    Why?

    People started to know me at school, including some from my hometown. I didn’t want to destroy my reputation at home, so I deliberately began to pull away and transitioned to running legitimate online tutorials for students. I was also predicting exam questions based on the lecturer’s patterns. It didn’t pay real money, though. I mostly just got “Thank you, boss” as appreciation.

    But I still needed money, so while writing my final exams, I deliberately failed a course to remain in school for one month of remedial work. The way these exam impersonations work, it’s less risky if you actually have a reason to be in the exam hall. I made about ₦80k during that period before I finally left school in August 2023.

    What came next?

    I immediately got a job as a hotel supervisor and storekeeper for ₦70k/month. The money was quite low compared to what I made from impersonation, but it came with a clear conscience and free accommodation.

    A few months later, my salary climbed to ₦75k. It kept increasing little by little until the final increment to ₦90k in May 2025. I had to leave the job in July 2025 because of problems in the town: cult violence, armed robbery and insecurity. So, I packed up and returned to Warri. I’ve been here since.

    What do you do now?

    I work as a clerk/representative for a brewery. The brewery partners with local entrepreneurs who have land to run a bar. The brand builds the bar for them and, in exchange, takes 20% of total revenue. My job is to sit at the bar and ensure every single drink sold passes through our POS machines so the brand’s 20% cut is accurately recorded.

    I earn ₦180k/month. The job also comes with optional accommodation at the lounge if I work too late. I don’t live there permanently, though.

    What kind of lifestyle does your income afford you?

    It’s definitely not a luxurious one because I operate a very strict, aggressive financial plan. In fact, I would say I’m living an investor’s lifestyle. I share an apartment with a friend, and we split the ₦15k monthly rent equally. I still contribute to utilities and food, but most of my income goes into investments.

    Let’s break that down for a typical month

    Nairalife #378 expenses

    I look at that ₦80k as a gift to my future self.  Even if I have to starve or squeeze through the month, that ₦80k investment is non-negotiable. Sometimes I look back on 2021/2022 and wish I had known about investments when the exam money was flowing in. I would have been unstoppable.

    What exactly do you invest in?

    Stocks. I’ve been learning about the stock exchange for a few years now, and my job now gives me some room to practice what I’ve been learning. I started buying shares heavily in April 2026. My investment philosophy is strictly long-term. My logic is that nothing that cost ₦100 in 2014 is less than ₦1,500 today. The price of things must definitely increase, so it’s better to buy now and let the value grow for me.

    Currently, I have about ₦222,000 actively locked in stocks. I have shares in the brewery I work for and some banks. I also buy shares in consumer goods companies because I remember my dad buying their products years ago, and they are still standing strong. I avoid Nigerian insurance companies because I’m not sure the system here works. If I ever buy insurance stocks, it will be in the US market.

    How would you describe your relationship with money?

    It’s highly risky because I really hate money sitting idle. I cannot have cash sitting in a bank account. Money must always have an active purpose. If it doesn’t have a purpose, it will be wasted.

    People around me sometimes complain, saying, “You are a grown man, how can you say you don’t have up to ₦20k on you?” They easily forget that a few days prior, when the cash was there, I completely settled all household and family emergencies. Once those are sorted, the rest goes straight into my stock portfolio. I don’t care who falls sick or complains after that. My investment portfolio comes first.

    Out of curiosity, do you have a net worth goal?

    ₦100 billion.

    Billion?

    Yes. The day I hit ₦100 billion worth of assets, I will pause and set a new goal. I don’t attach timelines to my goals because I don’t believe in putting unnecessary pressure on myself. I will chase this number until the day I drop into my grave.

    My ultimate vision is real estate. I want to acquire land and build houses in every student area or around higher institutions across the country. My strategy is to crash student rent prices so low that other landlords will have no choice but to drop their prices or sell their properties to me. High student housing costs are a major reason students are driven to cybercrime and fraud just to keep a roof over their heads. If I can fix housing, I can reduce student crime.

    Is there anything you want right now but cannot afford?

    Two things. I want a Toyota Tundra for easy mobility. I recently saw one that cost about ₦120 million. Secondly, I want to go back to school to study Law. Based on my breakdown, ₦20 million will comfortably fund my legal education to graduation.

    On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your financial happiness?

    A solid 9. The only reason it’s not a 10 is because of that hunger for more. But it’s a 9 because my 2018 self would look at me today and be incredibly proud. I have stable earnings, a roof over my head, and I can officially call myself a corporate shareholder in multiple institutions.

    Also, I’d like to add something.

    Shoot

    To anyone who finds themselves in a desperate corner like I was during my campus days: if you must do something questionable to survive, never be proud of it. If you let greed keep you doing illegal stuff because the money is sweet, you will eventually get caught.


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  • The Nigerian experience is physical, emotional, and sometimes international. No one knows it better than our features on #TheAbroadLife, a series where we detail and explore Nigerian experiences while living abroad. 


    Tolani* (24) is in Johannesburg on a fully-funded postgraduate scholarship. But while her academic dreams are thriving under a highly supportive education system, daily life is overshadowed by xenophobic violence. In this story, she talks about how she’s trying to make good memories in Johannesburg, and why she can’t settle in South Africa after her studies.

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    Where are you currently living, and when did you leave Nigeria?

    I am currently living in Johannesburg, South Africa. I left Nigeria in 2026.

    What made you move?

    School. I came here for my postgraduate studies. I always knew I wanted to do my postgrad outside Nigeria, because I think the educational system at home is too limited.

    Why South Africa?

    I actually thought of the other locations, too. I was considering schools in the United Kingdom and even the United States until a certain orange man made me change my mind about that.

    Then I began to consider opportunities in Asia—specifically China and South Korea—but at the time I was planning to apply to their schools, I received an offer from South Africa. It’s a full scholarship to the University of the Witwatersrand, one of Africa’s top universities. It’s a great opportunity, so I just dropped everything else.

    What are your plans after school in South Africa? Do you plan to stay back?

    No, I don’t plan to stay here. I actually haven’t thought deeply about what I’ll do after my studies because I still have one and a half years to go. Maybe I will apply for a fellowship, try the Global Talent visa route and move to the UK or somewhere else. But no, I don’t plan on staying here before these xenophobic people attack me.

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    You moved to South Africa at a very interesting time. The xenophobic unrest is starting up again. How do you feel about what is going on around you?

    Yeah, it is a very interesting time to move. At the time I got the scholarship, things were calm. But then, a month before I moved, there were xenophobic attacks all over the news. It was really scary.

    Thankfully, it’s quite calm around campus. But I have been seeing things and reading about people’s experiences, and it is really ugly. I’m trying to stay mostly indoors, except when I am going to school. I don’t have any business outside until the whole unrest calms down.

    I’m sorry you have to live that way. What is your support system like? Have you made any friends?

    I have not really made many friends. For support, I have a couple of family friends and some friends who moved here before me, so I reach out to them. I’m also making sure to join many communities.

    Whenever anyone asks me to go anywhere, I almost always say yes. I’m really trying to enjoy my stay here. And I make sure I take enough pictures, because I want my gallery to be full of memories. Luckily, I’ve met some nice people who have volunteered to go out with me when I’m bored. I can just hit them up, and they are more than happy to accompany me. So yeah, it has been nice, and they have been helpful.


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    Do you plan to visit Nigeria during your studies?

    I would like to come visit, actually, but the travel costs are really high. We have winter break here from June to July. But I’d rather save the money and come home in December.

    Makes sense. What is your daily routine like?

    I wake up in the morning, do some home workouts, pray, and check my school emails to see if I have anything to do. I work on my assignments, watch movies, do some bulk cooking, eat, and sleep. Sometimes during the week, I also go to church. That’s basically it.

    How are you finding the educational system? Is it what you expected?

    Yeah, actually, it is that and more. They have a proper educational system and really good support for students. It is unlike where I am coming from, if you know what I mean. They think about the students, so a supervisor or lecturer can’t stress you unnecessarily. You have your own voice, you can dictate your pace, and they help you if you are not ready to do something at a particular moment.

    You mentioned going out with some of the new people you are meeting. What kind of activities do you do for fun?

    Well, it is not anything crazy. Sometimes it could just be a walk, or going to restaurants and events. We might just walk around school while they tell me random things about the country. I’m also avoiding going to certain places because of the whole xenophobia thing.

    What would you say has been your best experience so far in South Africa?

    It was on my first day here. I was stranded in school because I couldn’t find the way back to my apartment. So I walked up to someone and told her I was new and couldn’t find my way to where I was going. She just said, “Oh, follow me.” At that point, I had no choice but to follow her.

    She led me some of the way, then gave me very accurate directions. I followed her directions and found myself right in front of my gate. It was really nice to be helped by a stranger like that. That first day was crazy, but that moment was memorable.

    Do you have a favourite thing about South Africa?

    No, because they are killing my people.

    Right. And I think that probably answers what your least favourite thing about South Africa is too.

    Yes. But one more thing is how cold it gets here. I’ve been drinking a lot of black tea to cope. But once you pour out a steaming cup, it gets cold within a minute.

    On a scale of one to ten, how happy would you say you are in South Africa?

    I’ll say an eight.


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  • The topic of how young Nigerians navigate romantic relationships with their earnings is a minefield of hot takes. In Love Currency, we get into what relationships across income brackets look like in different cities.


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    How long have you been with your partner?

    My wife, Phoebe, and I have been married for five years. We courted for a year before we got married.

    How did you meet?

    My pastor matchmade us in 2020. I’d just come out of a long-term relationship that ended in heartbreak, and my pastor noticed I was getting depressed. So, he was like, “You need to move on. I have the perfect woman for you.”

    Pheobe was his wife’s mentee. My pastor shared her number, and we got talking. True to his words, she was the perfect woman. She was warm, outgoing, and we shared similar values. We knew the purpose of the matchmaking was to get married, so once we clicked, we just started planning the wedding. 

    It took a year because we had to attend marriage counselling for six months and court for another six — we don’t call it dating in my church — to know each other better. Our families and church helped fund our wedding, which was really helpful.

    Would you say you were both financially prepared to get married?

    Can one really be completely financially ready? From our income perspective, it could definitely have been better. 

    I had an office manager job that paid me ₦150k/month, and Phoebe’s teaching job paid ₦80k. Both salaries combined weren’t ideal for building a home, but we believed in starting small and taking one step at a time.

    Also, we agreed that it would be all-hands-on-deck. We were open with each other about our finances, and the idea was we’d operate a 100-100 system. My money is our money, and so is her money. As long as there was a need, either of us could take it up if we had the money to sort it out.

    Was it like a joint account system?

    Oh no. Each person’s money stays in their own account. I don’t really believe in joint accounts or putting all the money in one person’s account because it can intentionally give one person power over the other. 

    You have to start explaining what you’re using your money for, and you can’t even spend your own money freely without someone keeping an eye on it. It works for some people, but I don’t think it’s healthy.


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    I see your point

    Our own system is different. We know each other’s income and handle expenses as they come. If my wife gets paid now, she can buy food for the home without asking me. If her salary runs out, she tells me, and I send her money for food. 

    Or if my salary runs out first after taking care of things for the house, she starts “loaning” me money for transport. I typically don’t pay back, and she doesn’t expect me to. Even if I pay her back and become broke again, she’s still the one I’ll run back to. We’ve been running this system for five years now, and it’s been working for us. 

    What do your finances look like these days?

    I earn ₦380k/month now, and my wife earns about ₦150k in total from teaching and organising after-school tutorials. 

    We earn more now, but things are tougher than when we first got married because we now have two children, and my wife’s mother moved in with us five months ago.

    Oh. Why did she move in?

    She used to live with my wife’s elder brother until he moved out of the country, and my wife didn’t want her to return to the village alone. I understand her reasons, but having my mother-in-law here has only made our financial struggles worse.

    Before, we could manage our finances so that my wife’s salary covered our feeding and her transportation to work. Mine covered rent, transportation, and other household expenses. Now, barely one week after my wife gets paid, she starts asking me for food money because she’s spent all her salary. 

    Since my mother-in-law came, our food expenses have tripled. She has certain health conditions and can only eat certain foods, such as fish and vegetables, without seasoning. Most of the time, my wife has to cook two separate meals so Mama can eat. That’s not sustainable, and I’m tired of complaining. Whenever I complain about her money running out too quickly, my wife makes it seem like I don’t want her mother around. 

    To be fair to her, my wife tries her best to manage the added expenses, but it’s still a lot for us. The only solution would be for my mother-in-law to leave. She’s a financial burden, and my wife knows it, which is why she interprets my complaints as an attempt to send her away. 

    Technically, that’s true. I want her to leave, but I’ve been holding back from saying it to keep the peace. Admitting that would be like signing away my peace of mind. For years to come, she’ll keep referring to the time when I “sent her mother away”.

    Hmm. So, how do you intend to handle the situation?

    I’ve repeatedly suggested to my wife that we ask her brother to send us some money each month to take care of her mother, but she’s against it for a couple of reasons. 

    One, her brother just recently relocated, and she thinks it would be unfair to start asking for money before they get settled. Two, it’s her mum, and she wants to be able to take care of her. Again, I understand that, but how can we do that when we don’t have money? I’m trying to be as patient and understanding as I can to avoid a major disagreement, but it gets to a limit. We’ve been having regular quarrels about it.

    I’ve told my wife she has until September to discuss with her brother and settle on a living arrangement or allowance for her mother. Our first child will start school in September. If she doesn’t discuss the situation with her brother, I’ll call him myself and tell him what’s happening here. I can’t keep shouldering extra responsibility.

    With all the financial responsibilities, is there any space in your budget for relationship expenses like dates and gifts?

    With which money? I can’t remember the last time we went on a date or bought each other gifts. We didn’t even take those seriously before. Now, we’re just trying to survive.

    You mentioned saving for rent earlier. Is there any other safety net?

    It’s mostly just rent. I save ₦65k monthly for that. My wife makes a ₦15k monthly ajo contribution at her place of work, and we usually use that to get something we need for the house or to repay any loan we’ve taken to cover expenses. 

    We take loans from friends almost every month to sort out one unforeseen circumstance or another. In April, for instance, my son fell ill, and we had to borrow ₦100k for the medical expenses.

    What’s the ideal financial future you’d like for you and Phoebe?

    We both need better jobs. What we earn today is practically nothing. If we both earn at least ₦500k, I’m sure our future will be much better.

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  • There’s a fine line between love and obsession. But when someone believes they’re entitled to your time, attention and every part of your life in the name of romance, that line can disappear fast.

    For these women, what started as intense affection quickly became unsettling. They share the moments they realised their partners’ behaviour had crossed into obsession, and what it took to walk away. 

    “He threatened to k*ll himself in front of my father’s house” — Bukola*, 44

    My first boyfriend in uni was a mistake. We met at a canteen I visited regularly at school. He seemed sweet and wrote terrible poetry, so I fell for him.  I loved how openly affectionate he was. Unlike my friends’ boyfriends, he wasn’t ashamed of showing me off, and that made me feel special. I also became famous as the lover girl in my hostel.

    One day, I had to leave school in Kwara for an impromptu visit to my family home in Ibadan. Before leaving, I asked my roommates to tell him I’d be back in a few days when he came looking for me. 

    Two days later, I woke up to loud wailing outside our house. My father went to check and found my boyfriend rolling around in the dirt.

    He was crying and threatening to end his life. He said he had no reason to live if I didn’t follow him back to school. My father had to involve the police.

    That incident got me into serious trouble at home, so I ended the relationship. Unfortunately, he didn’t accept the breakup well.  I had to involve my course advisor before he left me alone. I think he had a mental issue.

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    “He called me 105 times in 3 hours” — Blessing*, 35

    At the beginning of our relationship, my ex’s constant attention was flattering. He constantly told me how much he missed me and acted as if I were the most important person in his world. 

    The problem was that he expected me to be available all the time.

    If I responded late, he’d bombard me with messages. He said it was because he cared and wanted to hear my voice. After a while, his antics got exhausting.

    My last straw came six months into our relationship. I’d gone to the cinema with my friends and told him I’d be away from my phone for a while.

    When the movie ended, I’d gotten over 100 missed calls and  90 messages. I thought there was an emergency. I rushed to call him back, panicking, and all he asked was, “How was the movie?”

    Over time, I grew anxious whenever he called. I ended things shortly afterwards and blocked him everywhere.

    “He followed me all the way to university” — Timilehin*, 30

    When I was in SS2, I dated a boy from a different school. Like most secondary school relationships, we didn’t last long. After two months, I got bored and broke up. 

    What I didn’t know was that the decision would lead to almost two years of lies and stalking. After the breakup, I became friends with a biracial boy on Facebook. We chatted often, shared photos and talked about our plans for university. For more than a year, he was one of my closest online friends.

    When I got admission into university, I excitedly shared the news with him. That’s when he revealed he was attending the same school, and we agreed to meet at one of the parks once we resumed. Imagine my shock when I arrived at the school park and realised it was my ex.

    He’d created a fake profile to prove we still had a connection. I felt sick. I told him I felt betrayed and warned him to never contact me again. Unfortunately, blocking him online didn’t stop me from seeing him around campus.

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    “He rented a flat on my street after we broke up” — Aisha*, 37

    My ex struggled to accept the word “no”. If I needed space after an argument, he’d keep calling until I answered. Every boundary I set was just a suggestion to him.

    When I finally broke up with him, I thought the worst was over.  I was wrong. A month later, I saw him walking down my street. At first, I assumed he was visiting someone, but I kept “running into him” in the neighbourhood.

    Eventually, I found out he’d rented an apartment less than five minutes from my house. When I confronted him, he claimed it was a coincidence, but I didn’t believe him. 

    I only felt safe again after I moved and refused to tell him where I lived.

    “He took several photos of me while I was sleeping” — Ifeoluwa*, 31

    A few years back, I dated an older guy in his late 30s. He seemed level-headed and cool. I used to joke that I wanted a man who was obsessed with me, but that relationship taught me better.

    From the beginning, he said he wanted to marry me because of my beauty. I didn’t take it seriously; I assumed he was making his intentions for our future clear. But once we became official, I realised he was obsessed with my looks. 

    He badgered me for selfies, wanted video calls all the time and complimented my looks during every conversation. It was suffocating.

    My final straw was finding my photos on his phone. I was asleep in all the pictures. When I confronted him, he said he was documenting my beauty and looked at the pictures whenever we were apart.

    It was so unsettling. What if he wanted to use me for rituals or something?


    Sunken Ships: My Older Sister’s Boyfriend Is Ruining Our Relationship


  • GridLocked is a daily pop culture guessing game built for Nigerians. Every weekday by 9am, you’ll get six clues, sixty seconds, and an answer only a Nigerian would know.


    Today’s GridLocked is a movie.

    How many clues do you need to get it right? 👀

    Share your result when done, but don’t spoil the answer for others. (Missed the last GridLocked? Play it here.)

    23 June 2026

    Come back every weekday by 9am for a new grid or subscribe to Z Daily, Zikoko’s daily newsletter, to get new GridLocked puzzles, real Nigerian stories and other fun content in your inbox.


    How to Play GridLocked

    • The Goal: Guess the answer for the day before time runs out. (The answer could be a Nigerian person, place, song, movie, or even slang.)
    • The Lock: You cannot type a guess until you have revealed at least one tile (clue).
    • The Reveal: Tap any tile to reveal a clue. Every clue describes the answer for the day. The fewer tiles you flip, the better.
    • The Clock: You have 60 seconds to guess right. The timer starts the moment you flip your first tile. (You get multiple guesses.)

    The GridLocked Squares: What Do They Mean?

    When the game ends, you see your guess count, total time spent, and the number of tiles flipped. The tiles are shown as white and purple squares.

    • ⬜ (White) = A tile you flipped
    • 🟪 (Purple) = A tile you left closed

    The fewer white tiles you have, the better your result.

    • Best Result = ⬜🟪🟪🟪🟪🟪 | Guesses: 1 (Only needed one clue and one guess to get it right)

  • On Friday, 12 June 2026, the Borno State government held a big public ceremony to welcome 720 “repentant” terrorists back into society. The very next day, Saturday, 13 June, Boko Haram fighters attacked a village in Chibok and burned down two schools.

    This sequence of events captures a strange paradox Nigerians have had to live with for several years now: watching the government pardon terrorists while communities continue to be ravaged by the violence they cause.

    It raises some big questions: Is this plan to reform terrorists actually working? Can these killers ever truly change? Is it tone-deaf for the government to be hosting rehabilitation ceremonies for terrorists while the victims’ villages are still on fire?

    Forgive and forget

    This idea of forgiving and reforming terrorists isn’t new in Nigeria. Since 2016, the government has been running Operation Safe Corridor (OPSC)—a programme meant to get insurgents to lay down their weapons and rejoin society. And  from the start, many Nigerians have been strongly against it.

    But the government’s logic is pretty simple: if you promise these fighters safety, training, and a fresh start, they might just surrender. Basically, it’s a victory without having to fire a single bullet.

    Deradicalisation programmes are being used by several countries worldwide to tackle terrorism, with varying degrees of success.

    Take Saudi Arabia, for instance. Facing brutal waves of violence from Al-Qaeda in the early 2000s, the Kingdom launched a massive rehabilitation programme targeting extremists. The process combines psychological counselling with religious re-education by moderate clerics to completely dismantle their radical ideology. It is regarded by security experts as one of the most successful deradicalisation programmes globally.

    Somalia also has a deradicalisation programme for former members of the Al-Shabaab extremist group that has terrorised the country for decades. The Defector Rehabilitation Programme (DRP) has had mixed results, including often being infiltrated by hardline terrorists trying to identify defectors and mark them for vengeful attacks. 

    But how has Nigeria’s attempt turned out so far?

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    Keeping your enemies close

    Back in the 2010s, former Niger Delta militants helped the military find and destroy oil bunkering facilities. They knew the area perfectly, so their insider secrets were a game-changer for the military. Today, something similar is happening in Northern Nigeria. Former terrorists assist military operations, helping troops avoid hidden bombs, locating enemy camps, and identifying top terrorist commanders.

    Sometimes this backfires spectacularly. In October 2024, Premium Times reported that a group of former terrorists who had been given rifles and motorcycles to help the military ran off with the equipment to return to terrorist activities.

    Borno State Governor Babagana Zulum also stated in 2021 that many former terrorists who passed through Operation Safe Corridor returned to terrorism after using their time in the programme to spy on security agencies and communities.

    But even when former terrorists stay and are reintegrated into these communities, it is not the happy ending the government envisions. 

    The new neighbours killed your family

    Imagine surviving a literal nightmare, only for the government to tell you that the person who burnt your village or killed your relatives is now your next-door neighbour. Are you just supposed to smile and move on because the government said so?

    Well, many people are understandably unable to accept former terrorists with open arms. It’s not just insensitive; it’s deeply traumatising for these communities. Speaking to DW, Maiduguri resident Dogara Wim Bitrus captured the mood perfectly, noting that it is “almost impossible for society to accept them, because society will never see them the way the government wants them to be seen.”

    Also, Borno’s governor, Zulum, said: “The host communities where the reintegration process is going on usually resent the presence of Boko Haram terrorists, even if they have been deradicalised, because of the despicable and atrocious activities they have committed in the past.”

    You cannot blame host communities for refusing to welcome them, especially given how flimsy the government’s deradicalisation efforts are. Insurgents completely bypass the judicial system—no courts, no convictions, no justice. Instead, they undergo a brief civic education course lasting just a few weeks, before swearing on the Quran that they will never terrorise again.

    It is ridiculous and a slap in the face of the people whose lives have been ruined by extremist violence. Whatever good intentions the government had with this programme are completely going down the drain because of terrible execution.

    A rehabilitation plan must put the victims’ healing first. Anything else is just creating a powder keg that is bound to explode.

    Who do you care about?

    Nothing tells you what a government really cares about like a budget. And following the money shows us who the government appears to consider more important.

    The Borno State government says its rehabilitation programme has absorbed around 350,000 people altogether—including 9,680 surrendered terrorists and their families. At the same time, the state is home to over two million Internally Displaced Persons (IDPs) who were run out of their homes by these same people.

    The government’s spending patterns, when examined, don’t seem to match up. In 2025, the Borno government spent ₦7 billion on rehabilitating terrorists. That was the state’s seventh most expensive capital project for the year. It spent the same amount on the State Emergency Management Agency (SEMA)—the body responsible for feeding and housing the millions of victims of this violence.

    The disparity shows up in very real ways on the ground. Repentant terrorists receive stipends from the government and have held protests when owed. Meanwhile, their victims, now living in the IDP camps, are literally having to settle for their leftovers meant for animal feed.

    If the aim is to heal these communities, the government is failing woefully. Right now, the budget is painting a deeply wicked picture: it looks like it pays more to have been a terrorist than to have been their victim. That’s not how you foster reconciliation and peace. Instead of closing old wounds, this spending disparity creates new scars.

    If you ask the average Nigerian where they would rather their tax money go, between victims of terrorism or the terrorists, the answer feels very obvious. But it seems the government thinks differently.


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    Is it worth it?

    The government loves to throw around massive numbers to make it look like they are winning the war on terror through this soft touch approach. They proudly announce that hundreds of thousands have surrendered, but if you look closer, the math appears strange.

    Borno State claims to have accepted 350,000 people into its rehabilitation programme. But only nine thousand are fighters. The rest are their wives and children.

    In December 2024, the Minister of Defence, Christopher Musa, reported that Safe Corridor had received 129,000 within a six-month period. But of that number, 62,000 were children, and 36,000 were women. The headline numbers only appear large because the government includes the families of the terrorists.

    But let’s think about the facts for a second: ten years, billions of naira spent, and only a few thousand actual fighters have put down their weapons. When we consider the costs, both monetary and otherwise:

    • Security: Terrorists using the programme to spy on security forces and communities, and get access to military equipment before escaping.
    • For the communities: The deep trauma of being forced to live with the people who slaughtered their families and shattered their lives.
    • For the victims: Starvation and neglect while their oppressors get double rations for having multiple wives.

    A non-kinetic approach to ending violence has its benefits, but when we put them next to these costs, it raises a stark question: Is it worth it?

    Rehabilitating the rehabilitation programmes

    Whatever the answer is, one truth remains: the government is jumping the gun. You cannot be reintegrating terrorists while attacks are still a daily occurrence. It’s like trying to stitch up a wound while the knife is actively cutting through flesh. Maybe stop the cutting and stem the bleeding first.

    Regardless of the academic pros and cons of rehabilitation, these celebratory ceremonies feel like a slap in the face while the horrors of terrorist violence are actively trending on our timelines. It is profoundly tone-deaf.

    The government has its reasons for pursuing rehabilitation as an anti-terrorism tactic. But Nigerians also have valid reasons to feel aggrieved and suspicious. The situation has not been helped by the government’s mishandling of the programmes so far.

    The government owes Nigerians proper processes, transparency on what deradicalisation actually entails, accountability, and responsible spending that does not appear to put perpetrators ahead of their victims. If the government can get their act together and do things properly for once, Nigerians might be able to better tolerate the rehabilitation policy.


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  • Over the past few days, there’s been an ongoing conversation on the Nigerian side of the Internet about whether or not children should be posted online. 

    This was triggered by a viral video of the National Youth Service Corp member @BackhatDude who creates TikToks with his pupils. 

    Unsurprisingly, people had strong opinions. Many argued that posting the children online is unacceptable and infringed on their privacy. 

    Others pointed out that it may have negative effects on the children. 

    Then there were others who felt the corper deserved extra scrutiny. 

    While these guys pointed to the potential benefits. 

    To these people, everything is fine as long as the parents gave permission.

    The question still remains: where do we draw the line between posting children and simply exploiting them for views on the internet?


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  • On the Streets is a Zikoko weekly series about the chaos of modern dating: from situationships and endless talking stages,  to heartbreak and everything it means to be single in today’s world.

    Maribel* (28) ended her eight-year relationship when she met George*. But after he moved abroad and convinced her that marrying another woman was a sacrifice for their future, their relationship unravelled. 

    In this episode of On the Streets, she shares how that experience changed the way she thinks about love and relationships. 

    What’s your current relationship status, and how do you feel about it?

    I’m single. After everything I went through and invested, I’m exhausted. Right now, I’ve left my fate in God’s hands.

    How did you get here? Walk me through your dating history.

    My first serious relationship started in 2016. Charles* and I were classmates in SS2, and we stayed together through the rest of secondary school and university.

    We also attended different universities but lived in the same area, so there were times when we’d go months without seeing each other. Despite that, the first five years were great. 

    But by my final year, I’d grown tired of the relationship.

    Why? What changed?

    I think we got together before either of us had fully grown into ourselves. As we got older, we became very different people.

    Charles was passionate about art, but he was also very laid-back. After graduation, he was still working at a friend’s shop and didn’t seem motivated to pursue the goals he always talked about.

    I found myself constantly pushing and encouraging him. Eventually, it started feeling like I was nagging him.

    That led to more arguments and fights. During these periods, he’d disappear for days without speaking to me.

    By 2022, the relationship was already on its last leg. Around that time, I started texting a guy on Twitter. We never met in person. 

    At first, I entertained him because I was bored, but over time, feelings got involved. About four months in, Charles saw our interactions.

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    Oh. How did he react?

    He was heartbroken. Even though I knew our relationship was falling apart, I still felt guilty. I begged him to forgive me, and he did. 

    I cut the other guy off, and we tried to keep things going for a few months. Then I met George*.

    Tell me about George.

    We met at church in April 2022. My friend was taking pictures of me when George walked over to start a conversation. He was handsome and very easy to talk to.

    We exchanged numbers and went on a few dates. Six weeks later, he asked me to be his girlfriend.

     Technically, Charles was still in the picture, but we were barely hanging by a thread. Once George asked, I officially ended things with Charles.

    He was upset. He called me names and blocked me. It wasn’t how I wanted things to end, but it had to happen.

    Right. So how did things go with George?

    At first, it felt like everything I’d been looking for. He ticked all my boxes and we aligned on so many things, especially marriage. 

    I’ve always wanted to get married young, and George felt the same way.

    When we met, he was already making plans to move to Switzerland. The plan was for him to go first, settle down and eventually bring me over so we could start our life together.

    About eight months into the relationship, he got his visa and left Nigeria.

    How did you adjust to the distance?

    Honestly, it wasn’t difficult. After spending years in a long-distance relationship with Charles, I was already used to it.

    We FaceTimed and texted throughout the day. He involved me in everything, and I even helped him sort out things he left behind in Nigeria.

    For a while, we were solid. Then he started keeping things from me.

    What kind of things?

    He became secretive.

    Our first major fight was about his flatmate. I’d always assumed the flatmate was a man, and whenever I asked about him, George never corrected me.

    Three months after he relocated, we were on a video call when a woman walked past in the background. That was when he casually mentioned his flatmate was actually female.

    When I confronted him, he insisted he never lied because I’d never specifically asked whether the flatmate was a man or a woman. Somehow, I ended up apologising.

    Looking back, that should have been my warning sign because things got worse from there.

    George returned to Nigeria for Christmas in 2023, and we had a really nice time together. Then, two days before he returned to Switzerland, he told me he wanted to marry his flatmate.

    Wait, what?

    That was my exact reaction.

    He claimed it was purely for immigration purposes. His visa situation had become complicated, and marrying her would make it easier for him to stay in Switzerland permanently. He said it was a sacrifice for our future.

    I was devastated. I left the hotel we were staying in and went straight to my friend’s place.

    My friends immediately said something wasn’t right. They kept asking why the “paper marriage” had to be with the woman he already lived with rather than with a neutral person.

    George had an answer for everything. He said marrying a stranger would cost more money. He said it was temporary. He said it would eventually help me relocate, too. I was deeply in love, and I believed him.

    So I forgave him and went back.

    Why?

    At that point, everybody in my life knew about him. I’d invested so much emotionally into the relationship that walking away felt impossible. So I had to stay.

    In August 2024, he married her.

    He sent me pictures from the wedding and I cried my eyes out.

    I’m so sorry. Did the marriage change anything?

    Over time, it did. He became less available. We went from speaking all day to talking every few days. Whenever I complained, he blamed work and said he was struggling to balance everything.

    Meanwhile, my family kept asking questions. 

    We’d been together for years and there was still no proposal or clear plan for our future. I couldn’t exactly tell them my boyfriend was already married to another woman.

    Eventually, I told George that if he was serious about me, he needed to propose.

    He kept making excuses. Work was demanding. He couldn’t travel. After months of waiting, I told him to send me the money and I’d organise it myself.

    You planned your own proposal?

    I did. Last October, I bought my own engagement ring, planned the decorations, and organised a surprise proposal at a hotel. I even invited my sister and friends and pretended George had arranged everything from Switzerland.

    Thinking about it now, it sounds embarrassing. But at the time, I wanted people to take my relationship seriously.

    Did the engagement improve things?

    Not really. His behaviour remained inconsistent, but I kept convincing myself things would improve.

    Then Valentine’s Day happened. He hadn’t posted me on social media in a long while, so I went snooping on his Instagram page. While scrolling through the comments on one of his posts, I noticed an unknown account leaving heart-eye emojis.

    I clicked on the profile and realised it was his flatmate. I tried to snoop, but it was private. So I looked for her on other social media platforms. I eventually got lucky and found videos of George and his flatmate. They went on dates and kissed like a real couple. 

    My heart was shattered.

    What did you do?

    I immediately messaged her and explained everything George had told me about their arrangement.

    She sounded confused. She said they started dating shortly after moving in together. As far as she knew, the relationship was never fake.

    The worst part was that she’d heard him talk about me before. She’d even greeted me on some of our calls. George had told her I was his cousin.

    Wow

    I sent her pictures of us together and showed her everything. She promised she’d confront him, but when I woke up the next morning, I was blocked.

    Did you confront George?

    Of course. When I sent him screenshots, he twisted everything. He said I was impatient and claimed the closeness between them was all part of the plan.

    Whenever I pointed out holes in his story, he’d get angry and insist I didn’t trust him.

    By then, I already knew something wasn’t adding up. So I reached out to his sister, whom I’d met briefly before.

    She admitted she knew about the marriage but didn’t really understand his plans either. Then she casually mentioned that George had brought his “flatmate” to Nigeria earlier that year and introduced her to family members.

    I was shocked. As far as I knew, George hadn’t been in Nigeria since 2023. That was when everything clicked. The lies suddenly made sense.

    When I called him for an explanation, he paid no mind to what I’d uncovered. Instead, he was angry that I’d involved his sister.

    He ended the call and broke up with me over text. In his message, he said I was becoming obsessed with him and that he didn’t want to spend the rest of his life with someone like me.

    Just like that, four years were gone.

    I’m sorry. How did you cope with the breakup?

    It felt like someone had ripped a part of my heart out.

    For days, I kept hoping he’d apologise or tell me there’d been some misunderstanding. Eventually, I realised that wasn’t going to happen. 

    That’s when I finally opened up to my friends. I’d been too ashamed to tell them the truth because I felt foolish. But instead of judging me, they rallied around me.

    I honestly don’t know how I would’ve survived that period without them. I’m still not completely over it, but it gets a little easier every day.

    So, how have these experiences shaped your idea of love and relationships?

    I’ve been wary of loving again.

    But I’ve also learnt not to stay in situations that make you uncomfortable simply because you’re worried about what people will think.

    Maybe I would’ve left George much earlier if I hadn’t been so focused on proving that my relationship would succeed.

    Finally, how are the streets treating you these days? Rate it on a scale of 1 to 10.

    3/10. I don’t enjoy being single. I still feel hurt, and I question my worth on bad days. But I’m also stronger than I was a few months ago. 


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  • Some men are known long before they speak. Aare (Prof) Lai Labode is one of them. Seated with a glass of refined whisky in hand, he carries the weight of a life built deliberately, one choice at a time.

    This Father’s Day, Johnnie Walker Blue Label pauses to honor that life, not for the titles attached to it, but for the man behind them.

    Lai Labode is the founder and chairman of Cash Token Africa, and a respected name in African fashion, having served as Chairman of African Fashion Week Nigeria and walked the runway for international designers. He is also the founder of Egbaliganza, a fashion initiative celebrated for its bold, story-driven designs. He is also a published author, with his “Constellation of Thoughts” series now spanning three volumes.

    But Father’s Day isn’t about the titles. It’s about the parts of a man’s life that rarely make headlines, the patience, the sacrifice, the quiet consistency of showing up for family while building everything else. That is the legacy Johnnie Walker set out to honor.

    To mark the occasion, Aare (Prof) Lai Labode received a specially engraved bottle of Blue Label, a personal gesture for a very public man. It is a small, deliberate symbol of something larger: the recognition that behind every name and title is a father whose impact is felt most by the people closest to him.

    There’s something fitting in the pairing. Blue Label is a refined whisky, nothing rushed, nothing left to chance. It mirrors the way a life like his has been built: not overnight, but through consistent, deliberate choices that eventually become a legacy.

    “At Johnnie Walker, we believe that the finest things in life are never rushed, and in Aare Lai Labode, we found a man whose life proves exactly that,” says Ifeoma Agu, Group Head of Culture, Influencer & Advocacy, Diageo South, West & Central Africa.

    At its heart, this Father’s Day moment isn’t really about whisky, or even about one man’s many titles. It’s about the legacy fathers build quietly, the kind worth handing down, one deliberate step at a time.

    About Johnnie Walker

    Johnnie Walker is the world’s most iconic Scotch whisky brand, crafted in Scotland and enjoyed in more than 180 countries. Built on the founding philosophy of Keep Walking, the brand has stood for personal progress and the relentless pursuit of ambition for over 200 years. Johnnie Walker is distributed in Nigeria by Celebr8-Lyfe PVT and is available at premium retail and hospitality outlets nationwide.

  • Some men are known long before they speak. Aare (Prof) Lai Labode is one of them. Seated with a glass of refined whisky in hand, he carries the weight of a life built deliberately, one choice at a time.

    This Father’s Day, Johnnie Walker Blue Label pauses to honor that life, not for the titles attached to it, but for the man behind them.

    Lai Labode is the founder and chairman of Cash Token Africa, and a respected name in African fashion, having served as Chairman of African Fashion Week Nigeria and walked the runway for international designers. He is also the founder of Egbaliganza, a fashion initiative celebrated for its bold, story-driven designs. He is also a published author, with his “Constellation of Thoughts” series now spanning three volumes.

    But Father’s Day isn’t about the titles. It’s about the parts of a man’s life that rarely make headlines, the patience, the sacrifice, the quiet consistency of showing up for family while building everything else. That is the legacy Johnnie Walker set out to honor.

    To mark the occasion, Aare (Prof) Lai Labode received a specially engraved bottle of Blue Label, a personal gesture for a very public man. It is a small, deliberate symbol of something larger: the recognition that behind every name and title is a father whose impact is felt most by the people closest to him.

    There’s something fitting in the pairing. Blue Label is a refined whisky, nothing rushed, nothing left to chance. It mirrors the way a life like his has been built: not overnight, but through consistent, deliberate choices that eventually become a legacy.

    “At Johnnie Walker, we believe that the finest things in life are never rushed, and in Aare Lai Labode, we found a man whose life proves exactly that,” says Ifeoma Agu, Group Head of Culture, Influencer & Advocacy, Diageo South, West & Central Africa.

    At its heart, this Father’s Day moment isn’t really about whisky, or even about one man’s many titles. It’s about the legacy fathers build quietly, the kind worth handing down, one deliberate step at a time.

    About Johnnie Walker

    Johnnie Walker is the world’s most iconic Scotch whisky brand, crafted in Scotland and enjoyed in more than 180 countries. Built on the founding philosophy of Keep Walking, the brand has stood for personal progress and the relentless pursuit of ambition for over 200 years. Johnnie Walker is distributed in Nigeria by Celebr8-Lyfe PVT and is available at premium retail and hospitality outlets nationwide.

  • GridLocked is a daily pop culture guessing game built for Nigerians. Every weekday by 9am, you’ll get six clues, sixty seconds, and an answer only a Nigerian would know.


    Today’s GridLocked is a musician.

    How many clues do you need to get it right? 👀

    Share your result when done, but don’t spoil the answer for others. (Missed the last GridLocked? Play it here.)

    22 June 2026

    PLAY NEXT GRID: Can You Guess The Movie? (23 June 2026)

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    How to Play GridLocked

    • The Goal: Guess the answer for the day before time runs out. (The answer could be a Nigerian person, place, song, movie, or even slang.)
    • The Lock: You cannot type a guess until you have revealed at least one tile (clue).
    • The Reveal: Tap any tile to reveal a clue. Every clue describes the answer for the day. The fewer tiles you flip, the better.
    • The Clock: You have 60 seconds to guess right. The timer starts the moment you flip your first tile. (You get multiple guesses.)

    The GridLocked Squares: What Do They Mean?

    When the game ends, you see your guess count, total time spent, and the number of tiles flipped. The tiles are shown as white and purple squares.

    • ⬜ (White) = A tile you flipped
    • 🟪 (Purple) = A tile you left closed

    The fewer white tiles you have, the better your result.

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  • For millions of Nigerians, military rule isn’t something they learned about in a history book. It’s something they lived through.

    From public punishments and midnight raids to political fear, executions, and soldiers enforcing order on the streets, life under military rule shaped an entire generation of Nigerians. These Nigerians share the memories they still carry decades later.

    “Seeing your mum beg not to be beaten is not something any child should experience” — Tosin*, 49, M

    One of my earliest memories of military rule is watching my mum almost get beaten because she hadn’t participated in environmental sanitation.

    I can still remember how she begged. As a child, I didn’t fully understand what was happening. I just knew I was terrified. I kept calling my dad, hoping he would come and stop whatever was about to happen.

    People often talk about how disciplined Nigerians were during military rule, but they don’t always discuss the fear that underpinned that discipline.

    Seeing your mum beg to avoid being beaten is not something any child should experience. More than anything else, that’s what I remember from those years.

    “Armed policemen threw our belongings into the street at midnight” — Henry, 47, M

    One of my earliest memories is being woken up in the middle of the night by armed policemen. I was about six years old.

    They broke into our house and started throwing our things outside. I remember watching them empty our home onto the street while everyone around me panicked.

    At that age, I didn’t understand what was happening. I just knew that my parents, the people who always seemed to have everything under control, were afraid.

    As I got older, I began to connect the dots. My father was a journalist at the time.

    I never got the chance to ask my parents exactly what happened that night because they died in a car crash about four years later. But that memory has stayed with me all my life. Whenever I think about military rule, that’s the first thing that comes to mind.

    “I saw people being assassinated in broad daylight” — Segun, 51, M

    The military years were terrible. I was in my first year at university, and on my way home, I would sometimes hear about or witness the aftermath of people being assassinated in broad daylight. There was tension everywhere. The country felt unstable, as though anything could happen at any moment. Riots and protests were common, and there was a constant feeling that things could spiral out of control.

    Looking back now, I have mixed feelings. Military rule was frightening, but the scale of insecurity Nigeria has experienced in recent years through insurgency and kidnappings is something I don’t think many of us imagined back then.

    The fear felt different. During military rule, many people feared the government. Today, Nigerians often fear danger from many directions.

    “I watched men hanging from Third Mainland Bridge on TV” — Ife*, 55, F

    I was only 13 or 14, but I still remember watching reports about arrests and executions on television.

    One day, I saw men hanging from the Third Mainland Bridge after they were accused of plotting against the government.

    As a child, I didn’t understand politics. I didn’t know who they were or what they were supposed to have done. I just remember being scared. Looking back, I don’t even know why my parents let me watch it.

    The whole country felt tense. Even as a child, you could sense it. It felt as if everyone was waiting for something bad to happen.


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    “You could get flogged for jumping a queue” — Edirin, 54, F

    People like to say Nigerians were more disciplined during military rule, and there is some truth to that.

    If there was a queue, you joined it. If you tried to jump the line or cause trouble, you could get flogged in public. Soldiers were everywhere, and no one wanted to draw their attention. But what many people overlook is that the order came out of fear.

    Today, people insult presidents, governors, and politicians online. Back then, you couldn’t do that. You watched what you said and who you said it to.

    There may have been more order, but there was far less freedom.

    “Parents could be flogged for not sending their children to school” — Frank, 47, M

    One of my strongest memories is of the military governors in Abia State.

    There was one in particular, Governor Ike Nwosu, who had a reputation for showing up at school gates without warning to make sure children were actually attending classes.

    If he found children roaming around during school hours, their parents could be punished or flogged for failing to send them to school. It sounds unbelievable now, but that was the atmosphere at the time.

    Everyone was afraid of getting on the wrong side of authority. The fear wasn’t limited to adults. Children felt it too.

    “My parents banned us from discussing politics outside the house” — Oke*, 50, F

    If you’re under 30, you probably don’t understand why some older Nigerians react so strongly whenever military rule is mentioned.

    One of the moments that stayed with me was the execution of Ken Saro-Wiwa and the other Ogoni activists.

    I remember how shocked everyone was. After it happened, my parents banned us from discussing anything political outside the house.

    My father would even lower the television volume whenever the news came on. At the time, I didn’t understand why. I thought he was simply being cautious.

    Now I understand that people were afraid. They didn’t know who was listening or what repeating the wrong thing could lead to.

    That kind of fear changes how people live.

    “We never imagined they would actually kill him” — Lanre*, 48, M

    Young Nigerians complain about the government today, but at least they can complain openly.

    During military rule, people became careful about what they said and whom they said it to. You didn’t know who might report you. You didn’t know who was listening.

    The moment I realised things were different was when Ken Saro-Wiwa was executed.

    Most of us thought the government would lock him up forever. We thought they would silence him somehow. We never imagined they would actually kill him.

    I remember the shock when the news spread. It felt as though the whole country stopped for a moment.

    That was when many people realised that nobody was untouchable.


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