• A huge part of being a sexually active adult is being proactive about your sexual health. Here’s a list of health tests you should get as a sexually active woman. 

    Genital tests

    1. Pap smear

    A Pap smear collects cells from your cervix to test for precancerous or cancerous cells. It is often conflated with the HPV test which specifically tests for the human papillomavirus virus in the cervix. However, both tests have the same purpose to detect abnormality in the cervix. It is recommended that women over 25 get a Pap smear every three years and for younger women who are sexually active, once a year. 

    2. Pelvic exam 

    Pelvic exams include an internal and external check of your pelvic organs for any symptoms or changes. This includes the vulva, vagina, cervix and uterus. Pelvic exams are especially recommended when you’re pregnant, experiencing abnormal discharge or bleeding or any other symptoms. Otherwise, pelvic exams can be conducted at the beginning of the year as a reassurance of your sexual and reproductive health. 

    Blood tests

    3. HIV tests 

    Routine HIV screening should be conducted as often as possible depending on how many partners you have sex with. Medical experts recommend that sexually active people with multiple partners get tested every six months. 

    4. Genital herpes 

    Genital herpes is caused by the herpes simplex virus. In women, symptoms may include pain, itching and sores around the vaginal area but sometimes, women do not show any symptoms. It has no known cure and as such prevention tactics like using protection, abstaining from sex and regular screening are encouraged to prevent infection. 

    Urine tests

    5. Gonorrhoea

    Gonorrhoea is a common infectious disease transmitted through sexual intercourse. Oftentimes, it shows no symptoms in women so women with multiple partners should test frequently for gonorrhoea according to health experts. 

    6. Chlamydia 

    Chlamydia is another common sexually transmitted infection that may not cause any symptoms. It affects people of all ages but it is particularly common in young women. Sexually active women are encouraged to test for Chlamydia every year

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  • If you found out your younger sex was having sex, how would you react? We spoke to three Nigerian women about how they found out that their younger sisters were sexually active and how they reacted. Here’s what they had to say: 

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    IB, 24

    One day, we were gisting and she said,  “You know I’m now having sex right?” The babe no even fear. Although I don’t see sex as a bad thing, I felt bad. I was scared of someone taking advantage of her. She was 19 at the time. 

    I repeated all the things I had told her about sex — using protection and vagina health. It didn’t seem like I had anything to worry about because she sounded informed and that made me feel like I did something right, at least.

    Now, she comes to me if she has questions or issues like discomfort during sex. 

    Vanessa, 26 

    My siblings and I have a close relationship, but my younger sister is closer to me. She tells me everything. She’s in university now, and I know she has a boyfriend. She tells me about their relationship issues, and I give her my two cents. 

    The first time she had sex, she called me and was like, “Guess what?” I thought it was something else but she told me she just had sex. I felt heartbroken. Maybe because she is the last born. She is  20 years old, but I still see her as a baby. I had to pretend to share her joy because I didn’t want her to feel bad. 

    She still calls me to tell me when she has bad sex, and my heart breaks every time. I don’t want my baby to grow up. 

    Esi, 25

    She was too scared to tell me, so she asked my flatmate to tell me. My flatmate gave her condoms and lube. One evening, when we were all gisting. My flatmate told me. I was shocked but I can’t say I wasn’t expecting it. I knew she had a boyfriend, and I know what I was up to at her age. I tried not to overthink it as my parents would. My flatmate and I spent the rest of the night talking to her about safe sex and since then, we stopped hiding our sexcapades from her. 

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  • Sex is amazing and all but sometimes, people do things that turn us off either during or after sex. I asked ten Nigerian women what their biggest sexual pet peeves are. Here’s what they had to say: 

    Biggest sexual pet peeves

    Ebitare, 21

    I hate it when I am kissing a guy and he pulls away to push my head to his crotch. If I want to give you a blowjob, I will. Also, if I tell you I don’t cum, listen to me. I hate being told what to do in a commanding tone. I am not a machine — I cannot go faster!

    Omo, 23

    I hate being touched when I don’t ask for it or show that I want it. Kunle, what if I don’t want your finger inside me?

    Bimbo, 21

    Believe it or not, my biggest sexual pet peeve is multiple orgasms. Women like to cum many times during sex but I hate when I’ve cum twice, at most and she’s trying to chase another orgasm. Sister, please get off my body. We are done here.  

    Halima, 23

    It annoys me when I’m having sex with someone and they tell me to call their name or when someone says, “Cum for me” when I’m not close to it. Whatever sexual urges I had before the encounter dies immediately that happens. 

    Nneka, 25

    It irritates me when I’m having sex with someone and they are sweating on me. 

    Linda, 23

    If you use saliva as a lubricant while we are having sex, that’s the last time we are doing it. 

    Luciana, 21

    I hate it when people try to stick their tongue in my mouth the moment they lean in for a kiss. It’s a huge turn off for me. Also, if I don’t reciprocate your dirty talk, biko stop. 

    Suzanna, 20

    I won’t have sex with someone I’m not dating so I get irritated when I’m being reminded of our fights or when he makes a weird comment about my body or the position we’re doing. I hate when we agree on the things I would do but when things start, he’s trying to change plans or force me to do something. Huge turn off! 

    Udochi, 24

    I hate it when people switch up after sex. Like we were just in each other and now you are sleeping with your back turned to me or pressing your phone instead of talking to me. No matter how much I like you, if I call your attention to it and you don’t change, that’s the end of me. 

    Yinka, 19 

    One time, I was with a guy and I was enjoying the sex we were having until he said I should scream. I was so confused but baba kept insisting. I had to stop and tell him I didn’t want to do that no matter how intense the sex gets. I don’t know if it’s just me but watching me clean up or use the bathroom after sex is a no.

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  • It’s all fun and liberated hoeing until you catch a background infection with no cure or you fall pregnant with a bank account still on life support. Fun fact; according to WHO 1 million sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are acquired every single day worldwide. This means every time you have unprotected sex you are basically auditioning to join the statistics of people who just got infected. Ok, now that your attention has been successfully acquired here’s your way out;

    1. Protection.

    Protect yourself, protect yourself, protect yourself. With sexually active people there are two teams. People in team A who practice safe sex and always use protection. In return they get to live a life free of any form of STI’s and their attendant discomforts like itching, abdominal pain, holes in their pockets from STI treatments and all of that. And then there are the people in Team B. They hold on to silly philosophies like “you can’t eat a banana with the back on” while auditioning for “Mr Raw” status. You know it almost always ends in tears for them.

    2. Routine STD tests.

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    Just like your genotype and blood group, you need to be aware and up to date on your STI status. Especially because some of them can be asymptomatic, but as always the earlier you start treatment the better for you.

    3. Birth Control.

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    Except of course you are ready to start contributing to the next generation. And PS? Pulling out is not birth control. The adult and reliable thing to do is to talk to your doctor about the best birth control options suitable for you. A bag full of Postinor is also not birth control dear. Postinor is the back up plan, not the plan.

    PS: You can get an STI from oral sex so free advice? Before you go down on them, be sure you won’t be coming back with a nasty souvenir.

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