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  • Love Life is a Zikoko weekly series about love, relationships, situationships, entanglements and everything in between.

    What’s your earliest memory of each other?

    Henry: It was in 2018, at a wedding where Joy was a bridesmaid, and I was a guest. We sat at the same table and she made a joke about her dress being too tight. I laughed so hard I spilled wine on myself. There was a charm about her that just pulled me in.

    What made her joke that funny?

    Henry: It was the delivery and how freely it came out. I think that’s stuff you only say to your girls, not to random guests at a party.

    Joy: That dress was suffocating me. I saw Henry laughing after my comment and thought, “He seems like a fun guy.” Later that night, the MC dragged us to the dance floor for a competition, even though Henry swore he couldn’t dance.

    Henry: It’s the truth—I still can’t dance. But we had fun.

    Did you spend the rest of the wedding together?

    Henry: Not really. We talked and danced for a bit, but nothing deep. We talked about Nigerian tailors, the food, and the bride, who was a mutual friend. Also, she had bridesmaids duties, so she kept disappearing. 

    Joy: He asked for my number at the end of the night. I thought to myself, “Hmmm, would it kill Lagos men to talk and leave it at that?” But I gave him the number. I figured I could block or ignore him if things got weird. 

    So, when did you contact her, Henry?

    Henry: The moment I got home. I wanted to be sure she gave me the correct number, and I was curious to see if she had the same energy online.

    Joy: I was close to ignoring him because I was exhausted when I got home. But he kicked things off with a string of unhinged stickers, and as a WhatsApp sticker collector myself, I knew he had a sense of humour. We texted a little bit that night, then every week after that. At first, it was just small talk as we slowly got closer. I realised I liked him when he started calling me his “go-to for good vibes.”

    Henry: I liked her even before she realised it. She seemed thoughtful and really present. She cared deeply for those around her, which I first noticed at the wedding, but I chalked it up to her bridesmaids duties. 

    One day, I casually mentioned I had a terrible cold at work. Joy showed up at my place that night with a bowl of pepper soup and painkillers. That was when I knew I wanted more with her.

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    Sounds like you both clicked very early

    Joy: Yes, we did. The early days of knowing each other and becoming an item were really good. We spent so much time together—going on dates, hanging out with friends. It was fun and easy because Henry didn’t try to control my carefree nature. I’ve dated people who said I was too much or not ladylike enough. But Henry accepted me for who I was.

    Henry: We were inseparable. My friends and family members also loved her. Her infectious energy lights up a room and attracts people to her. I didn’t have to do much to bring her into my social circle.

    I feel like I’ve missed something. When did you guys become official?

    Henry: Six or seven months after we met. We were both single, and our family and friends already assumed we were together because we showed up to gatherings and posted the cutest photos. We didn’t try to correct the impression that we weren’t lovers, but it might have sped things up.

    Joy: I’d been single for a year and some months, and I think I fell for him because of how spontaneous everything was. I’m intentional with everything, including my love life. But when I met Henry, I wasn’t searching like I’d been for previous relationships. The spontaneity made it easy to go with the flow and say yes to him when he asked. 

    Right. Seeing that the early days were sweet, was there ever a moment you noticed something that made you pause?

    Henry: Yes, but it wasn’t immediate. At first, everything was fine, but I started hearing things from mutual friends about how Joy owed them money. I didn’t think much of it because it felt like normal life stuff.

    What do you mean by “normal life stuff”?

    Henry: You know, like running short on cash before payday or borrowing to cover emergencies. I figured everyone has those moments. But it became concerning when I noticed how often it was happening. Friends would make side comments or joke about her borrowing habits, and it started to feel like more than occasional lapses.

    Joy, what were you borrowing money for?

    Joy: Mostly for my side hustle—an events business. Sometimes I’d take loans to pay vendors or secure venues, thinking the next client payment would cover it. Other times, it was for personal things—family emergencies and other bills. I always thought I could manage it until things spiralled out of control.

    Did Henry know about this while you were dating?

    Joy: I didn’t want Henry to think less of me, so I made a conscious effort to not involve him.  I never borrowed from him or shared that part of my life with him.

    Henry: Hearing about it from other people made it worse. I felt like she was hiding things from me. I couldn’t comprehend the situation because I hardly turned down her financial requests when she asked. She was also on a ₦50k monthly allowance, which I insisted on giving her, even though she said she wasn’t comfortable placing that kind of financial burden on me. If she needed money for her business or personal stuff, I’d have happily given her without expecting her to pay back. 

    How did that impact your relationship?

    Henry: It was a source of constant arguments. When I heard something, I’d try to bring it up gently, and she’d get defensive. It wasn’t even about the money — it was the secrecy and how it made me feel like I didn’t fully know the person I was with.

    I couldn’t understand why it was even happening. She had a good paying job, her parents are above average, and on top of that, she had a boyfriend who was willing to give if she asked. 

    Joy, how did you feel when Henry brought it up?

    Joy: I felt ashamed. I knew I had a problem, but I didn’t want it to affect us, so I kept that side of my life away from him. When he confronted me, I went defensive every time because it felt like a personal attack, even though his heart was in the right place. 

    Suddenly, my parents’ and siblings’ warnings replayed in my head. They’d insisted I talk to Henry about it when we got serious, but we had something good. I didn’t see the need to sour it up. Moreover, unlike previous partners who I’d borrowed from, I never borrowed from Henry. This was progress in my books. 

    Did you ever think it could threaten your relationship in any way? 

    Joy: Deep down, yes. But I convinced myself that we’d be fine as long as I didn’t borrow from him or make it his problem. Looking back now, I see how naive that was. Even if I didn’t borrow directly from Henry, it still seeped into our relationship.

    Henry: And that happened in some of the ugliest ways possible. Some mutual friends started calling her “Debbie” and I didn’t get it at first.

    One day, a mutual friend texted me saying, “Tell Debbie to pay up,” and I was determined to get to the root of the matter. I didn’t care that it meant getting into a fight with her.

    Was that your first big fight?

    Joy: It was. I hated that it was about money, and even worse, my borrowing habits.

    Henry: After I confronted her, she got defensive and tried to play the victim, saying I should be on her side regardless of whatever accusations. It didn’t matter that she was ruining our reputation and making people say ugly stuff behind us.

    Joy: I cared about those things, but I was also helpless. The ordeal was overwhelming, and I felt like I’d failed myself yet again. All the spiritual interventions, therapy sessions and attempts to better myself—all down the drain. 

    I’m sorry. Did this fight lead to a turning point in your relationship?

    Henry: Not entirely, but it planted the seed for our breakup. The final straw was when Joy borrowed from a loan shark and defaulted. They showed up at my office and caused a scene. I can’t describe how humiliating that was.

    Joy: That day was my rock bottom. I realised my actions didn’t just affect me, they  also hurt the people I cared about.

    Henry: After the loan shark incident, I asked for a break to cool off, but what should have been a few days break became weeks, then months. Joy didn’t make any attempt to reach out, and I just left it at that. 

    Joy: I wasn’t sure how he would react if I reached out. After the loan shark event, he didn’t try to have a discussion or register his displeasure. He just went silent, and in my head, I was sure he was done with me. 

    I’m not sure he remembers, but the way he asked for a break reinforced the thoughts I had about him being embarrassed of me.

    I’m curious. How did you both handle the breakup?

    Henry: I buried myself in work and tried to move on. I dated a bit, but nothing serious.

    Joy: It was a wake-up call for me. I started therapy again and took steps to manage my finances better. I dated other people as well, but I felt like Henry was the one who got away. We were perfect, didn’t have any problems in the relationship except my personal issues, and I knew deep in my heart that I’d give it a chance if he ever asked again. 

    But we had no contact for two years.

    So, how did you two reconnect?

    Joy: In July 2023, we bumped into each other at another friend’s wedding i. I suspected he was going to be there, and I promised myself to keep things cordial regardless of the energy I got from him.

    But my courage flew out the window when he approached to say hi. I became nervous, but I managed to apologise and tell him about my progress.

    Henry: I’d seen her a few times since our breakup but avoided her. Once, I saw her at a mall and left for a different one. 

    I knew she was going to be at the wedding when I got the invite. I considered turning down the invite, but I was also itching to talk to her. I could see she had changed, she seemed more grounded, and she was eager to talk about her progress with her money problems. Speaking again felt like old times.

    What happened after you met at the wedding??

    Joy: He checked in the following day, much to my surprise.  I didn’t expect him to follow up so quickly. 

    At first, our conversations were casual—exchanging updates and catching up on life. About a week later, we decided to hang out for lunch, and it was like no time had passed. The difference this time was that we had a lot more honesty between us. 

    Henry: We eased into things with frequent calls before meeting up for lunch a week later. I didn’t want to rush or complicate things, so I kept it light.  That said, spending time with her reminded me of everything I loved about her. As we continued hanging out, old memories returned, and everything felt natural again.

    I see. What’s the situation with you two now?

    Joy: We’re taking things slow. I was seeing someone when we reconnected in July, and I didn’t think Henry would be keen on a second chance. But I broke it off because I see something long-term with Henry.

    Henry: It’s hard to deny her growth. She has a level of honesty and accountability now that makes me see her in an entirely different light. I still feel strongly about Joy and I believe we all deserve a second chance. 

    Sweet. How are you helping her stay on track, Henry?

    Henry: Therapy has been a game changer for sure; I make sure she doesn’t miss her sessions. I’m also a lot more involved in helping her budget, set financial goals, and only borrow when absolutely necessary. I’m her official accountability partner.

    Neat. On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your love life?

    Henry: I’d say a 7. We’re rebuilding, but we’re in a good place.

    Joy: Same here. It’s not perfect, but it feels like we’re moving in the right direction.

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  • Want to get heart eyes for someone this 2025? Start prepping now. The last person to fall in love is a coconut head. This quiz will tell you when you should expect love to knock on your door this year.

  • The topic of how young Nigerians navigate romantic relationships with their earnings is a minefield of hot takes. In Love Currency, we get into what relationships across income brackets look like in different cities.

    How long have you been with your partner?

    I’ve been married to my husband for 10 years, and we’ve been together for 12.

    How did you both meet?

    Funny story. Akin was in a relationship with one of my old classmates, and we met when he accompanied her to my school’s alumni reunion in 2012. The lady abandoned him to flirt with another former classmate, so Akin angrily left. The whole drama played out in front of almost everyone at the reunion, and I remember feeling so embarrassed for him.

    A few days later, I saw his Facebook profile and impulsively sent a friend request. He accepted almost immediately and sent me a message. He remembered me from the reunion, and we joked about how his babe left him for another guy. About three months after we started chatting, we met up, and love entered the picture. I moved in with him a month after we started dating.

    So fast?

    Akin was the first boyfriend I ever co-habited with, and I don’t even know where the confidence came from. My landlord had just increased my rent from ₦66k to ₦120k, and there was no way I’d pay that amount for a tiny face-me-I-face-you room. The initial plan was to find another apartment my ₦35k receptionist salary could afford, but househunting took a lot of time.

    Akin didn’t want me to rush into getting an apartment that’d turn out worse, so he asked me to move in while I searched. I never thought I could co-habit with a lover because all you ever hear is that men take advantage of free bumbum and cooking. 

    But I asked myself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” At 28 years old, I wasn’t a small girl. If I became uncomfortable with the situation, I could just leave. So, I stayed, and it turned out well. 

    What was co-habiting like?

    It was pretty smooth. Akin and I worked well together and shared everything from finances to chores. When I told my friends I paid for foodstuff and handled bills around the house, they thought I was stupid. Like what woman lives with a man who isn’t her husband and pays for things? But I didn’t see it as a big deal.

    Did you both share the bills and expenses equally?

    Not at all. It wasn’t like he asked me to bring money for anything — he worked in a bank and earned way more than me — we just liked to spend on each other. 

    I could buy foodstuff on my way home from work, and he would do the same the next day. If NEPA bill met me at home, I would just pay it. That’s how we did it. Akin paid the rent, though.

    When we got married in 2014, we still approached our finances the same way. That said, we’ve had to make several changes over the years.

    What kind of changes?

    Between 2014 and 2017, Akin was the sole provider. I had our children and couldn’t juggle motherhood with a job. 

    However, he lost his bank job in 2017 and started a tiles business, which meant we were no longer sure of a specific amount coming in monthly. So, I looked for a job to support the family.

    I got a teaching job with the federal government through a family friend, and my first salary was around ₦80k. Once I received my salary, I’d take ₦15k out for transport and sit down with Akin to plan how to spend the rest. On his own part, he sent his weekly profits to me to hide in a separate account for our rent. 

    It probably sounds like we were so in sync, but we occasionally fought about money.

    What were the fights about?

    First, they were mostly due to financial pressure. I felt like I couldn’t even dictate how to spend my hard-earned money because he kept tabs on my salary. When I felt like that, I complained, and it almost always led to arguments.

    Sometimes, Akin also kept profits to himself and would go weeks without giving me any money to keep. Whenever I noticed that, I complained, and he’d argue that he also wanted to hold money in his hands and spend without having to explain to me. 

    At that point, I’d go, “Ehen? But you know exactly how much I earn and help me spend it right?”

    So, yes, we fought about money a lot. But after the flare of emotions had died, we’d talk about it and understand it was normal for both of us to feel that way. It’s normal for us each to want to dictate how we spend our own money. But ultimately, we had to put family first and combine our resources for our children. When money fights happen now — which isn’t often — we try to remember that.

    Glad it’s working out. What are your finances like these days?

    Numbers-wise, we earn more, but I don’t think it shows in our standard of living. In a good month, Akin can make like ₦200k from his business. I now earn ₦128k, bringing our total average monthly income to ₦300k+, but we still struggle a lot.

    Our house rent is ₦650k, and I save at least ₦50k monthly for that. The remaining ₦78k can’t feed my family for three weeks, and there are still small expenses like children’s clothes, medication and the rest. 

    Akin still keeps money with me, but now we use that to handle school fees and major expenses. For example, we bought a washing machine for ₦180k in 2024. Everything else he makes goes into daily expenses like transportation, feeding, utility bills, fuel and sending money to our families.

    Do you both have a relationship budget for dates and romance stuff?

    Romance ke? Haha. We don’t o. Sometimes, my husband buys me suya when I disturb him about no longer putting effort into toasting me. We also take the children to cinemas and eateries during festive occasions. On my last birthday, he bought me a bag and a pair of shoes. I also bought him shoes for his birthday.

    I don’t mind that we don’t always buy each other things or go out. I know how difficult things are, so it won’t be reasonable for me to ask. My husband is kind to me and helps me with everything. 

    Before we got the washing machine, Akin did all the laundry by hand. He’s a good man, so I understand our situation. I don’t mind spending all my money to make our lives easier. That “the man must provide everything” story doesn’t apply in my home. 

    What’s your ideal financial future as a couple?

    My husband and I always talk about owning our home one day. If big money hits our hands, we’ll just erect a building of two or four flats so we can live in one flat and rent out the others for passive income. That would solve more than half of our problems.

    Interested in talking about how money moves in your relationship? If yes, click here.

    *Names have been changed for the sake of anonymity.

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  • It’s January, and your IJGB (I Just Got Back) bae is back in the abroad. What was supposed to be a “no strings attached” December fling has turned into you catching feelings they’re probably not aware of. 

    Usually, this is where most December flings fizzle out, but not on your watch. If you’re determined to keep their interest alive, here’s how to make them miss you so much they’ll be booking the next flight back.

    Remind them why they fell for you

    Don’t let them forget the elite experience you put them through during Detty December. Send them cute throwback photos of your time together, or randomly text, “Remember how you kept purging after drinking roadside kunu?” A little nostalgia is your secret weapon.

    And play the “Hard to Get” card

    Listen, nothing keeps someone hooked like a little mystery. Don’t be too available. Let them wonder what you’re up to in Lagos. Post cryptic WhatsApp statuses like “Outside later?” or “Who’s picking me up today?” They’ll be dying to know who’s in the picture.

    Speak their love language (virtually)

    Find out what their love language is and cater to it. Is it words of affirmation? Send them texts like, “You’re killing it over there; I’m so proud of you.” Acts of service? Help them find a plug for the Nigerian food they’re craving. Show them that distance isn’t a barrier for you.

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    Drop hints about your growing options

    IJGB flings are built on competition. Now that they’re back abroad, remind them you’re still in demand. Casually mention someone who bought you lunch or took you out for drinks. Don’t overdo it, though; just enough to keep them on their toes.

    Flirt like your life depends on it

    Remember how you had them hooked during the Detty December rush? Bring that energy back. Send them random texts like, “I miss how you laugh at my jokes,” or “When are you coming back to finish what we started?” or send them thirst traps. IJGBs love a good ego boost.

    Start planning their next trip back to Nigeria

    Listen, you have to be proactive here. If you leave it to them, they’ll probably not return to Nigeria until the next Detty December rush, and that’s enough time for them to move on to the next thing. Suggest places you both didn’t visit during December, or hint at fun activities you’ll do together next time. Make the idea of seeing you again too exciting to resist.

    Save the drama

    Nothing kills interest faster than unnecessary stress. Resist the urge to ask, “Where is this going?” or send a “So you’ve forgotten me now?” text. Let things flow naturally, and let them realise they can’t live without you.

    Have a life outside them

    Here’s the twist: while trying to keep them hooked, ensure you’re living your best life, too. Post pictures of yourself enjoying Lagos life, hanging out with friends, or even starting new hobbies. Let them see they’re just an option and not your final destination.

  • Love Life is a Zikoko weekly series about love, relationships, situationships, entanglements and everything in between.

    We might sound like a broken record hammering on Love Life stories that take you through varying degrees of “God, when” and “God forbid,” but trust us—you’ll love our playlist this time. These love stories from 2024 felt almost too good to be true, leaving readers smiling, swooning, and occasionally gasping. If you’re ready to give love a shot in 2025, a lesson or ten is waiting for you here.

    Love Life: Our Early Days Were Like “Love in Tokyo”

    Love Life: Our Early Days Were Like “Love in Tokyo”

    Eseosa and Amara’s story is what happens when intentional dating meets a couple who genuinely enjoy each other’s company. Their quarterly relationship review system had readers taking notes, while their “Love in Tokyo” moments reminded us that sometimes, love really does feel like a rom-com.

    Love Life: We’re Proof Being Gay Isn’t All About Sex

    Love Life: We’re Proof Being Gay Isn’t All About Sex

    This story flipped stereotypes and showed our readers what building a partnership rooted in deep friendship is like. From navigating societal assumptions to keeping their love a secret from family, this story was a masterclass in resilience, mutual respect, and the softer sides of queer love.

    Love Life: Diarrhoea Almost Ruined Our First Date

    Love Life: Diarrhoea Almost Ruined Our First Date

    This was one of those love life stories that got our readers wishing for a rom-com adaptation. Shola and Damilola’s first date could’ve been a disaster when nature called unexpectedly, but instead, it turned into a hilarious origin story. Their ability to bond over awkward moments and turn a near-catastrophe into a lifetime of love had readers rooting for them from start to finish.

    I Had a Crush on My Customer

    Love Life: I Had a Crush on My Customer

    This Love Life story had all the makings of a rom-com. A love of cake parfait led to a chance meeting, and the buyer-to-customer love trope left readers swooning. Lighthearted and sweet, it’s the perfect story to revisit when you’re in the mood for something charming and fun.

    Love Life: I Fell in Love With My Childhood Friend

    Love Life: I Fell in Love With My Childhood Friend

    Tade and Sonia’s story taught us that sometimes, love needs distance to grow. Their journey from platonic childhood friends to life partners—complete with swindled parents and secret meet-ups—had our readers grinning and swooning in equal measure.

    Love Life: His Dad Doesn’t Like Me, But I’m the Love of His Life

    Love Life: His Dad Doesn’t Like Me, But I’m The Love of His Life

    This story was as emotional as it was sweet and inspiring. From childhood best friends to forbidden lovers who found their way back to each other, Charles and Jamal’s journey through love, prejudice, and healing is a testament to the power of a safe and supportive relationship.

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    Love Life: I Didn’t Kiss All Frogs Before I Found My Prince Charming

    Love Life: I Didn’t Kiss All Frogs Before I Found My Prince Charming

    Is it possible to skip the heartbreak and still find true love? James and Motun proved it is. Their journey from spiritual mentor and mentee to married couple gave readers a lot to think about. Their ability to overcome family disapproval and societal expectations showed that true love doesn’t always follow a conventional path.

    Love Life: Nigeria Should Let Us Marry in Peace

    Love Life: Nigeria Should Let Us Marry in Peace

    If you’re looking for a love story that’ll make you hopeful and angry at the same time, Nduka and Ene’s is it. Their story highlights the everyday struggles and triumphs of queer couples in Nigeria. However, with surprising family support and plans for kids despite societal restrictions, this couple reminded readers that determination can defy even the harshest laws of the land.

    Love Life: My Friends Think I’m a Fool for Dating an Upcoming Musician

    Love Life: My Friends Think I’m A Fool For Dating an Upcoming Musician

    Tobi and Tare’s story is for anyone who’s ever loved someone against all odds. Between a hustling musician’s chaotic lifestyle and naysayers claiming she’s being played, their relationship shows the beauty of staying true to each other and blocking out the noise. Las las, the heart wants what it wants.

    Love Life: We Haven’t Seen Physically in Six Years

    Love Life: We Haven’t Seen Physically in Six Years

    Six years, two continents, and endless video calls—Basil and Nnenna’s relationship is a masterclass in how to do long-distance love. With Zoom dinner dates and unwavering commitment, they proved that love doesn’t need proximity to thrive—just two people willing to try. This is one of those stories that left readers wondering if they’re brave enough for such love.

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  • Romance dominated the past year. Even if you were not swept up in romantic moments , 2024 without a doubt taught you something new about your relationships—with your friends, siblings, parents, co-workers, or even strangers on the street. We spoke to ten young Nigerians, asking them to share their biggest lessons  from relationships in 2024 to help you better navigate 2025. 

    Nwanchukwu*(26)

    For love to work, both parties can’t reciprocate everything to the same degree– especially anger. Talk things through, even if it takes time.  If you really care about someone, malice shouldn’t be your first assumption when they act out of character.

    Star*(28)

    Being single is the greatest gift of peace you can give yourself when faced with less-than-desirable options. It’s better to be single than to settle for someone who only meets your bare minimum criteria.

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    Papi*(26)

    You can do everything right and be the sweetest person to someone you love, yet it still might not work out—and that’s completely okay. Take all the time you need to heal, pick yourself up, and try again, bringing the same love and kindness to the next person.

    Mima*(25)

    The biggest lesson I learned in 2024 was the importance of regularly reflecting on my own needs and desires in any relationship. I also learned that vulnerability is crucial in forming fulfilling and meaningful connections.

    Tomi*(28)

    Relationships are like plants, you get what you put into them. Some are sturdy, like jade plants or cacti, resilient and able to thrive in tough conditions. Others are delicate, like orchids or bonsai trees, requiring specific care. It’s up to you to understand the type of relationship you have and provide what’s needed to keep it healthy and thriving.

    Adeoluwa*(24)

    Love happens in the most unexpected ways and can be found in surprising places. I learned that being more open to opportunities for new meaningful relationships is key to living a fulfilled life.

    Ken*(24)

     Being intentional about deepening the relationships that matter can lead to pleasantly surprising outcomes. I was very intentional about building a relationship with my younger brother and I was very surprised at how much I didn’t know him—and how interesting he is as a young adult. I highly recommend it.

    Bolu*(31)

    Honesty and trust are non-negotiable in any relationship. Without them, a relationship becomes hollow and won’t withstand tough times. I learned this firsthand through a difficult breakup.

    Sade*(23)

    Set realistic expectations for the people you are in relationships with, whether they’re your partners, friends, family, or anyone else. I’m learning to extend as much consideration to others as I would to myself

    Damola*(27)

    Love is hard work, whether romantic, platonic or familial. If you want to receive love, you can’t just stand by; you have to actively check-in, hold space, and build trust.

  • Romantic relationships didn’t hold back in 2024, squeezing everyone’s necks from January to December. From couples in matching fits to situationships that tested your mental health but built character, we rounded up some of the hottest trends on the Nigerian dating scene this year. 

    Deeply personalised gifts

    Forget basic teddy bears and cliché flower bouquets—2024 was all about hyper-specific gifting. Nigerians stepped up their game, opting for presents that showed they really paid attention to their partners. The goal? To say, “I know you better than anyone else.”

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    The secret bae

    You’re glowing,  your captions are cryptic, and your Instagram Stories keep teasing a blurred-out hand, a silhouette or worse– a large emoji blocking someone in a group photo. This trend has taken the Nigerian dating scene by storm, as people vaguely share snippets of their love lives without revealing too much. Whether it’s to avoid unnecessary attention from village people or keep the relationship free from online drama, the secret bae culture thrives on curiosity. The guessing games in the comments? Pure entertainment. 

    The hard launch

    On the flip side of the secret bae is the hard launch. When Nigerians are ready to introduce their partners to the world, they don’t hold back—they go all out with the pre-wedding shoot. Think  Sharon Ooja’s level of hard launch. The general public didn’t know who her fiance was until she announced the wedding, and that’s exactly the vibe many couples embraced this year.

    His view, her view

    This photo trend has been a favourite among couples since it came on the scene—and it’s not going anywhere anytime soon.  Couples share photos of their dates from their respective perspectives, showing off their partners. It’s nothing serious, just something to press single necks every now and again.

    Ice cream dates

    Simplicity and whimsy made a comeback in 2024, with ice cream dates leading the charge. While high-end restaurant dinners remain a dream for many, some Nigerians rediscovered the charm of something sweet and casual. Ice cream dates are relaxed, cost-efficient, and perfectly suited for this economy. If it’s going well, you can upgrade to a movie for your next date. If it’s not? Well, at least you got some ice cream out of it.

    Long dates


    Why go on multiple dates when you can have one that lasts all day—or several days?   Long dates became a trend this year, with couples spending extended time together to test chemistry in various settings. Plus, in this economy, saving fuel is a bonus. It’s not for everyone, but it works! 

    “Let’s Just Vibe” Situationships

    Commitment-phobia has a new anthem:” Let’s just vibe”.  This go-to phrase is perfect for those who want the perks of a relationship without the labels or effort. It’s all fun and games—until someone catches feelings. 

    Coordinated fits

    Matching outfits are no longer just for weddings and owambes. Couples are stepping out in subtle or fully coordinated looks for casual outings, photoshoots, or even errands. It’s giving power couple energy—or as some might say, “just like my parents in the 90s.”

    The surprise visit

    This trend, popular among long-distance couples, took the year by storm. One-half of the couple surprises the other by showing up in their city or country unannounced. Because really, what’s romance without a little yearning and surprise? 

    Curated playlists

    Physical love letters may be out, and well-curated playlists are officially in. Nigerians expressed love through music in 2024, by curating special playlists just for their lovers. Some even took it up a notch by embedding playlist links in necklaces for peak romance.

  • As if dealing with T-Pain’s shenanigans isn’t enough pain, the association of “God, when” people went through it this year. 

    And they have these Nigerian couples to thank for reminding them that they’re still far from finding true love. 

    Veekee James and Femi

    Veekee James and Femi met through a mutual friend, and after nearly two years of dating, they decided to make a lifelong commitment. They had their traditional ceremony on February 9, followed by a grand white wedding at the Harvesters International Christian Centre the next day.

    Veekee’s $30,000 diamond and pearl-encrusted wedding gown was one for the books. Nancy Isime, Toke Makinwa, and Eniola Adeoluwa, among others, were at the wedding.

    Wofai Fada and Taiwo Cole

    Arguably one of the most controversial weddings of 2024, Wofai Fada and Taiwo Cole’s union wasn’t just about the glamour—it came with its fair share of drama. Shortly after their stunning pre-wedding photos went live, Taiwo’s family released an official letter distancing themselves from the marriage. To make matters worse, a viral voice note allegedly from Taiwo’s father claimed the groom hadn’t completed the necessary family rites to legitimise the union. Despite the chaos, the couple tied the knot in May, solidifying their love story under the hashtag #TWO2.

    Dimma Umeh and Obinna

    Beauty and lifestyle YouTuber Dimma Umeh set the internet on fire in June when she shared her wedding photos online. The influencer married her soulmate, Obinna, in a private civil ceremony in July.

    “Got legally married to my lover last month. Everything was beautiful and went just as we’d hoped. It was the civil wedding of my dreams tbh, and I’m grateful to God for how perfect it was,” Dimma wrote on IG.

    The couple followed up with a traditional wedding ceremony in August in Enugu.

    Davido and Chioma

    Davido and Chioma had internet users running from page to page to keep up with updates from their official wedding hashtag, #CHIVIDO. The two exchanged vows on June 25 in a strictly by invitation ceremony at the Harbour Point Event Centre.

    At the end of the carnival-like ceremony, the internet had just one question for the couple, “Why didn’t they get a bigger space?”

    Salem King and Jesi Damina

    In April, Nigerian content creator Salem King and singer-songwriter Jesi Damina surprised the internet with a soft launch wedding announcement that no one saw coming. The couple had everyone in a chokehold with their wedding hashtag, #SKJD24. The ceremony was like a mini-reunion for content creators, with some of the biggest names in the industry showing up to celebrate their love.

    Kunle Remi and Boluwatiwi

    A together-forever might not have happened with his onscreen boo, Bimbo Ademoye, but Kunle Remi pulled a “They never me coming” on us when he married Otedola’s niece.

    The Nollywood actor and his partner, Boluwatiwi, tied the knot in a stunning two-day ceremony that combined traditional and white wedding celebrations. Bimbo Ademoye, Bisola Aiyeola, and many Nollywood folks joined the couple to celebrate their union.

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    Moses Bliss and Marie

    Moses Bliss and his fiancée, Marie Wiseborn, tied the knot in March 2024.

    The sweetest part of this union? The gospel singer released an EP, “Love Testament”, just before the wedding, and it set the perfect emotional tone for the wedding ceremony—goals for real.

    Yhemo Lee and Thayour

    When nightlife entrepreneur and socialite Yhemo Lee married his longtime partner, Oyindamola (aka Thayour), in August, it was nothing short of a show-stopping event. True to his larger-than-life persona, he transformed his wedding into a carnival-style extravaganza that had Lagos buzzing. With A-list celebrities, socialites, and city big shots in attendance, the hashtag #ThayLeeForever trended for days.

    Sharon Ooja and Ugo Nwoke

    Nollywood sweetheart Sharon Ooja dated her boo for two and a half months, and it was just about enough time for them to switch things up.

    Sharon and Ugo tied the knot in a star-studded traditional ceremony on June 27, 2024, followed by a grand white wedding two days later. The ceremony happened a few days after #CHIVIDO.

    Priscilla and Juma Jux

    Although some people thought their engagement announcement was a PR stunt, it’s safe to say the influencer and her Tanzanian boo are walking down the aisle later this year or sometime in 2024.

    Priscilla’s mum, Iyabo Ojo, never misses an opportunity to remind everyone that the wedding party is coming soon. Fingers crossed!

    Taye 9ja and Toni Tones

    Nigerian content creators Taye 9ja and Toni Tones had their internet fans teary-eyed after they got engaged in June. Tones returned to quote a 2022 post in which she tweeted, “I’ve met my future husband, guys. I’m going to retweet this tweet one day and quote “I knew it”…because yeah.”

    They’re walking the aisle this year, and the internet in-laws are hyped AF.

    Read this next: 5 Nigerians on The Lover “Who Got Away”

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    Love Life stories: 10 of the Most-Read Stories of 2024

    From losing over 30kg to impress a crush, to discovering a partner’s impotency post-marriage, these Love Life stories of 2024 took us through the full spectrum of “God, when?” to “God forbid!” While some left readers clutching their pearls, others offered thoughtful insights into the complexities of modern relationships.

    1. I Lost Over 30kg Just So I Could Approach Him

    Love Life: I Lost Over 30kg Just So I Could Approach Him

    This Love Life story broke the internet in March, as readers couldn’t wrap their heads around the extent of one woman’s obsession. She stalked her crush on social media, completely altered her body image, and essentially moulded herself to fit his perceived ideal. The wildest part? He had no clue about her efforts to insert herself into his life.

    2. I’m 11 Years Younger and Pregnant at 20

    Love Life: I’m 11 Years Younger and Pregnant at 20

    This story sparked heated debates about age gaps and power dynamics. While some readers sympathised with the young couple navigating an unexpected pregnancy, others accused the older partner of grooming. The polarising reactions made this one of the most talked-about Love Life stories of the year.

    3. We Found Out He Was Impotent After the Wedding

    Love Life: We Found Out He Was Impotent After the Wedding

    How does a 37-year-old man carry on with no idea that he’s living with erectile dysfunction? That was the question on everyone’s mind after reading Kola and Wunmi’s Love Life. The couple’s 35-year marriage was defined by infertility, secrecy, and a culture that forced them to lie about adopting their children. This story highlights the importance of conversations around sexual health in relationships.

    4. Our Marriage Was a Mistake

    Love Life: Our Marriage Was a Mistake

    Infidelity, broken trust, and a marriage on the verge of collapse—this Love Life story was an emotional rollercoaster. What stood out for readers was how Joke’s mum unexpectedly became the glue holding her daughter’s marriage together. The honesty of their struggles also made it a relatable story.

    5. We Strongly Believe in Different Religions

    Love Life: We Strongly Believe in Different Religions 

    What’s the secret to a successful interfaith relationship? For John and Funmi, it’s intentionality and mutual respect. Their story inspired readers with its lessons on balancing religious differences without letting them overshadow love. It’s a reminder that love isn’t always easy, but it can be worth the effort.

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    6. It’s My Second Marriage, and He’s 13 Years Younger

    Love Life: It’s My 2nd Marriage, and He’s 13 Years Younger Than Me

    Love, business, and surrogacy—Aina and Leke’s unconventional relationship defied expectations and inspired readers to rethink traditional norms. Their story showed that love doesn’t always follow a rulebook, and sometimes, embracing the unexpected can lead to the most fulfilling relationships.

    7. We Had Divorce Regret, So We Remarried

    Love Life: We Had “Divorce Regret” So We Remarried

    This Love Life felt like the real-life version of Katy Perry’s “The One That Got Away”. After a painful breakup, this couple found their way back to each other, proving that second chances can be worth it. Their story resonated deeply, offering lessons on healing, growth, and enduring love.

    8. Our Relationship Is 95% Sex Vibes

    Love Life: Our Relationship Is 95% Sex 5% Vibes

    Think friends with benefits on steroids, and you’ll understand why this Love Life had readers hooked. This couple prioritised physical intimacy over emotional connection, redefining what modern relationships can look like. Their openness provided a masterclass on boundaries and communication in unconventional relationships.

    9. It’s Been Nine Years, and I Still Can’t Keep Up With Her Libido

    Love Life: It’s Been 9 Years, and I Still Can’t Keep Up With Her Libido

    Steven and Ore’s story was equal parts funny and thought-provoking. Their candidness about mismatched libidos sparked conversations about sexual compatibility and the compromises couples make for love. The key takeaway? Always have the sex talk before saying “I do.”

    10. I Had a Crush on My Customer

    Love Life: I Had a Crush on My Customer

    This Love Life story had all the makings of a rom-com. A love of cake parfait led to a chance meeting, and the buyer-to-customer love trope left readers swooning. Lighthearted and sweet, it’s the perfect story to revisit when you’re in the mood for something charming and fun.

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  • If 2024 taught us anything, it’s that love is a rollercoaster. While couples seem to have collectively thrived this year, it’s hard to say the same for single people who were looking to change their dating status

    Since first dates are where the magic often happens, we spoke to ten young Nigerians about their most memorable first date moments this year. From awkward silences to over-the-top romantic gestures, here’s a roundup of the good, the bad, and the downright weird.

    “She switched up after I showed up in an Uber”— Chris*, 31

    I met Pinu during a football practice match with some friends and decided to ask her out because I really liked her. I’m well off financially, but I’m not extravagant, so people rarely know how much I make.
    Unfortunately, my car had issues that day, so I took an Uber to the date. When she realized I didn’t come with a car, her attitude changed. She started stonewalling me and making comments like, “I hope we won’t wash plates here when it’s time to pay o”. I brushed it off and tried to steer the conversation. I mentioned we could check out another popular Lagos restaurant next time, but she sneered and said,” Who will pay for that one?” 

    It was just a very weird and uncomfortable experience. I paid for the date and sent her some money for Uber back home. When she saw the credit alert, her mood completely shifted, and it really turned me off. I didn’t message her again after that night.

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    “We got caught up in the rain and stayed under a tree.”—Kemi*, 20

    I’d had a crush on the youth church drummer for a year, so I was over the moon when he asked me out to lunch one Sunday in May.  While it wasn’t anything fancy because we went to Chicken Republic, it was the perfect time to spend together. We couldn’t stop talking the entire time. Later,  we went for a walk, got caught in the rain and had to seek shelter under a tree till it subsided.   We continued talking the entire time, and the entire experience felt so cute and romantic.   It’s the best date I’ve been on this year.

    “We spent 30 minutes watching the stars.”— James*,26

    I met a girl at a house party in France recently. She was the flatmate of the host, and after chatting for a bit, I asked for her number. When she agreed to go on a date,  I asked ChatGPT to search for cool events happening in Paris that weekend. I found out about a star and moon viewing at the planetarium at the City of Science Exposition in Parc de la Villette.

    We spent 30 magical minutes watching the stars  and she then  told me it was the coolest date she’d ever been on and wanted to take me out for drinks after. We went to a museum, had  coffee and spoke the entire time until the sun set..

    “He left me to pick up the bill.”— Toke*,24

    This year has been so weird for dating. I was love-bombed by this guy who kept blowing up my phone, telling me he really liked me and all that. After some months, I agreed to go on a date with him. He chose the venue, and we went out to eat.  The date seemed fine at first, but midway, this dude said he needed to use the bathroom— and never came back.  I had to pay the bill, and thank God for savings because I that could have been embarrassing. . When I got home, I realised he had blocked me and I just cursed him out.  

     “She talked about herself the entire two hours we spent together.”— Chisom*,29

    I’d liked this girl for a few months before I finally asked her out. We met through a mutual friend, and our conversations had always been great. But on the date, it was like I was meeting a different person. We were there for about two hours, and she talked about herself the entire time. I tried to get a word in, but no luck. She wasn’t interested in talking about any other subject, so it just felt like a two-hour lecture about her life. I did not ask her on another date after that.

    “We only had raves and drinking in common.”— Peace*,27

    Two months ago, I met a girl at a rave. She had neon paint on her cheeks, her skin glistened under the flashing lights, and she had this infectious energy about her. We danced, exchanged contact information, and started talking regularly. I took her out to dinner, hoping to get to know her better. However, the more we talked, the more I realised the only things we had in common were raves and drinking. It didn’t bode well for us after that. The date itself wasn’t the issue; I just didn’t think we were compatible.

    “We spent four days together.”— Martha*,25

    At a Friday night club party, I met someone I really clicked with. We danced, talked for hours, and when it was time to leave, she asked to come home with me. It was an uncommon request, but I said yes. 

    However, what should have been a one-night hangout turned into four days of non-stop fun. It felt like a really long date because we just kept going from my place to her plac,e or we’d go out together. We talked, watched movies and cooked together. It was a very lovely experience.

    “She was extremely late to our date.” — Femi*,28

    I asked this girl I really liked on a date, but it ended up being a disaster. . It was dinner at a restaurant.  She arrived  30 minutes late, and instead of apologizing, she said, ”You know Lagos traffic now.”The rest of the date didn’t go well. I  kept trying to carry the conversation, but we weren’t clicking. It felt forced. It was odd because conversations with her were seamless before I asked her out. I felt like I wasted my time.

    “I won our games because he let me win.” — Teri*,23

     I met this guy on X (formerly Twitter) because we bonded over our shared love of anime. After a few months, he visited Lagos from Abuja, and we met in person for the first time. It was one of my favourite dates ever. We grabbed ice cream and talked about anime and our hobbies for hours. We also went to an arcade and played games. He let me win most of them, which was really sweet.  The date was really cute, and I’d do it again in a heartbeat.

    “I found flowers for her on a Sunday in Ibadan.”— Deji*,26

    I only went on one first date this year, and it was incredible. She was schooling in Ibadan, so I travelled down for the weekend. She had an orchestra show on Saturday, so I arrived early to watch her perform. We met briefly afterwards, but the main plan was for Sunday.

    Initially, I’d wanted to plan an outdoor picnic, but I couldn’t find a functional park, so I switched to a movie and dinner. She’s a huge Dune fan, and since Dune 2 had just dropped, we went to see it. I hadn’t even watched Dune 1 before then, so I binged it the night before to keep up. After the movie, we hit the arcade, and she beat me at most of the games.

    By the time we parted ways to prepare for dinner, I couldn’t stop thinking about how much fun we’d had. I’d considered getting her flowers earlier but felt it was too much for a first date. Now, I regretted not getting them. While updating my friends, one of them encouraged me to still go for it and even offered to cover the cost.

    It was already late, and finding a flower vendor in Ibadan on a Sunday seemed impossible. But I got lucky with one who agreed to open her shop just for me. I rushed to pick them up and made it just in time for dinner.

    The flowers were the perfect touch to an already amazing date. I’m so glad I went the extra mile—it made everything feel even more special.