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This Love Life couple talk about how emotional trauma led to two breakups in one month, and why they got married regardless.

*Jessy (20) and *Goodness (20) started talking in 2022 after a mutual friend connected them for forex lessons.

On this week’s Love Life, they talk about starting a relationship built on half-truths, surviving infidelity and emotional immaturity, and how their chaotic start eventually turned into one of the most committed things they’ve ever done.

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What’s your earliest memory of each other?

Jessy: It was when we met through a mutual friend in April 2022. She wanted to learn forex, and I was an instructor.

Goodness: I’d asked friends if they knew anyone who could teach me forex. One of them mentioned Jessy and shared his WhatsApp contact with him. I messaged him, and that was how we hit it off.

Jessy: Our first conversation wasn’t deep. I just wanted to confirm she was serious about learning, since I was offering the class for free. I’d had unserious students in the past, so I asked her to send her picture and some other information. We started classes the next day.

Curious. What did you need her pictures for, Jessy?

Jessy: Honestly, I wanted to see if she was fine. Not that I wouldn’t have taught her, but I was curious.

Goodness: He started flirting with me almost immediately. After he saw my pictures, he asked if I was a model and then if I had a boyfriend. I didn’t really care about why he asked; I just wanted to learn. If flirting with him was the way in, I didn’t mind playing along.

Right. So, how did the learning period go?

Goodness: He sent me stuff to read that first week, and I tried to get into it.

Also, he created a group chat with other students, shared learning resources, and recommended apps for us to download. I’d also send him private messages when I didn’t understand something.

Let’s just say he eventually started tutoring me on something else. He’d check in with private messages and call me “babe.” Like I said earlier, I played along because I knew what I wanted. But until today, I’ve still not learnt forex; I have zero knowledge about how to trade.

Jessy: It’s hard to remember all the details now, but I ended the class. I got frustrated because people weren’t taking it seriously. But I kept in touch with Goodness. I messaged her often to check in and just talk.

What did you talk about outside of forex?

Goodness: A bunch of random conversations about different things, really. One time, I noticed a woman on his WhatsApp display picture and asked who she was. He said she was his sister. This led to conversations about his family, and I told him about mine. I also mentioned that I was doing A-levels and learning how to make hair.

Jessy: Everything she said. Just regular, everyday conversation about everything and nothing.

Did the feelings conversation come up at any point in time?

Jessy: Oh yes. I hinted at liking her in that very first week, but it was obviously not true. I barely even knew her at the time. I’d say it was more of a muscle memory thing — that was how I used to interact with women back then.

Goodness: I think I rolled my eyes the first time he mentioned liking me. In my head, I was like, “That’s not why I’m texting you, bro.” But I kept playing along. I remember him sending me a TikTok that said, “When you’re trying to learn, and your tutor starts flirting with you”. I told him that wasn’t our reality. I didn’t want to scare him off because I was still focused on learning. Plus, I was seeing someone else, so I took whatever he said with a pinch of salt.

But you kept playing along. Curious, how did that work?

Goodness: I strung him along for a while until I realised the class wasn’t going anywhere. Around June, I told him we weren’t on the same page and suggested we end things. He didn’t argue and said it was fine.

But later that month, I saw a video of him on WhatsApp—it was the first time I saw him properly since we started talking. When I saw the video, I thought, “He’s actually a fine boy.” I messaged him again out of boredom, and we started talking. I told him we could try things again, and he was down.

Did you know you were being strung along earlier on, Jessy?

Jessy: I knew. I mentioned earlier that moving to a babe was something of a muscle memory for me. So it wasn’t something I considered in all seriousness. Goodness was just like another babe, and I didn’t attach strong emotional feelings to whatever I said to her.

But after she finally saw what I looked like, we started talking more. I thought, why not get serious and see if something meaningful could come from it? We started dating officially in July. I wasn’t in love yet, but I found her interesting. She reminded me of my sister.

Goodness, you mentioned being in a relationship. How did that end?

Goodness: My boyfriend was just a placeholder. Things weren’t great between us, but I didn’t want to break up, so I dated both Jessy and him until August, when I finally left the relationship and committed to Jessy.

Why didn’t you just end things before moving to Jessy?

Goodness: It was greed. Even though the relationship was rocky and full of fights, I didn’t want to let it go. I wanted to keep him on the side and still have Jessy to myself.

Were you aware, Jessy?

Jessy: I’m just finding out something like that ever happened. But water under the bridge, I guess.

Right. Let’s talk about the early days of your relationship. What were they like?

Goodness: WWE. We were constantly fighting. Neither one of us wanted to be caught showing too much affection. He sucked at communication, and he was extremely petty.

Jessy: She was quite obnoxious.

Sounds like a rocky start.

Goodness: If I got angry at him for something and ignored him for a day, he’d never come to check on me or try to find out what happened. When I eventually reached out, he’d take another two days to ignore me, and I’d pay him back in his own coin. It was a cycle.

Jessy: It wasn’t as she described. She hardly reached out. There was just silence. I don’t find our early days interesting. I didn’t see the need to communicate daily because I didn’t think she was important then. I had other important things going on — forex, school, helping my dad’s business. She wasn’t top priority.

Were there good days? Particularly, how were you convinced you liked each other?

Goodness: There were some. I enjoyed listening to him talk about his sisters and how much he adored them. I remember visiting his sister’s nail salon once; she had good things to say about him. It made me feel good. I liked that Jessy was ambitious and had big dreams. His face lit up when he talked about his future.

I didn’t particularly love him yet, but I knew I could grow into it.

Jessy: I felt the same way about Goodness. It wasn’t love, but I really liked her.

Goodness: I honestly didn’t care and wasn’t convinced that his feelings for me were genuine. But it was never an issue for me because even though Jessy was my “main,” I was dating someone else. I met her in my first year in university in Osun state, towards the end of 2022.

Wait, what?

Jessy: She cheated on me with a girl.

Goodness: I didn’t feel we were fully committed to the relationship. I’d sleep off on him during calls, and he’d get really angry. There were so many issues.

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Jessy, did you consider seeing someone else? And did her sexuality bother you?

Jessy: I didn’t make it to the point of entering a full-blown relationship with someone else. But I was having sex with other girls. As for her sexuality, I wasn’t fazed. I just felt like I had double competition. She eventually left the girl and came back to me.

Wild. You’ve both said the early days were toxic. Why didn’t you just break up?

Goodness: He actually broke up with me in December. Our fights had gotten worse and he said I was hurting him so he he needed a break. I was shocked. I read his message, and in my head, I was like, “WTF does this guy think he is?”

I wanted to react with an emoji and keep it moving, but I got really emotional and started crying. It was worse because it happened the night before my visa interview. I was dealing with lots of physical and emotional stress. Later, I poured out my emotions and went on a lengthy rant.

Jessy: At that point, I realised the entire relationship was built on so much toxicity, and I’d had enough. I wanted out. I remember reading her messages and fighting the urge to ignore them. I didn’t want to acknowledge any of what she said, but I impulsively said something along the lines of “I’ve heard,” and it was hard to take my words back. I also felt bad that she was crying. We temporarily made up that night and agreed to give it another shot.

But did it make sense to give it another shot, Goodness? Were you scared of loneliness?

Goodness: I never would’ve been alone if we broke up — I still had something going on with the babe from school. But despite all the ups and downs, I saw Jessy as my best friend. I knew if we broke up, that would be it. He’s always said he doesn’t keep in touch with exes, so I was sure it would mean cutting me off completely. That wasn’t just a breakup; it was losing my person. And that’s what made me fight to fix things.

Jessy: I still think part of it was because I’m fine.

Goodness: He definitely enjoys his fine boy privileges.

I bet. How did you guys fix things when you got back together?

Goodness: The communication got better. I left Nigeria on December 31st, 2022, and we doubled down on being intentional with staying in touch. I dropped the “hard guy” act and allowed myself to be more vulnerable with Jessy. If something upset me or I felt a certain way, I’d talk about it. It wasn’t like when I was still in Nigeria. Back then, we glossed over issues a lot. Whenever there was a fight, someone would drop a half-arsed “I’m sorry”, and we’d move on without actually figuring out what happened, why it happened, or how to prevent it from happening again.

Jessy: This time, making up felt genuine. If something bothered me, I’d raise it, and we’d have a proper conversation and come to a resolution. I used to avoid talking about things, but that had to change. We agreed not to move past any issue until we’d both poured everything out and properly addressed it.

Like she said, she dropped the hard guy act. She used to be unnecessarily harsh and thought being romantic or expressive was cringe. I’ve always been big on words of affirmation. I’d say sweet things to her, but she never reciprocated. That attitude made her come off as stubborn for no reason, which drove me mad. But after she relocated, she relaxed, and all those things changed. It made our relationship much easier.

Goodness: If I like or love someone, I show it; I don’t feel the need to say it out loud. I knew my parents loved me, but they didn’t use those words. They’d buy gifts, show care, and have conversations—those were their expressions of love. So, for a long time, I saw being all lovey-dovey as unnecessary.

And that stubbornness Jessy talked about? A lot of it stemmed from my feminist beliefs. I didn’t want to ever be seen as a fool for a man. But eventually, I let my guard down. And that really helped us.

How did you feel about her relocation?

Jessy: She left when we were in a good place, so I believed we could make it work. I also knew she was still cheating with the babe from school, but it wasn’t a dealbreaker for me. I wasn’t happy about it, though.

Right. How have the last two years been? Particularly, how have you maintained trust and kept the relationship going?

Goodness: It’s been really good. The distance forced us to communicate better and be more intentional with how we show up for each other. Talking everyday has been our lifeline.

Jessy: 2023 was great. We really got serious about getting to know each other. We became more vulnerable and emotionally invested.

Goodness: I remember when I first moved abroad, and I barely knew anyone. Jessy wrote me a poem — it was the sweetest thing — and in that moment, I knew I still had someone back home I could lean on. He felt like a familiar place.

Jessy: But 2024 wasn’t great for me. I had serious financial setbacks, which affected the relationship. I needed extra love and care, but I didn’t feel like I was getting it from her. I tried to talk to her about how I felt, but I think I came off as too clingy. She didn’t know how to handle that, and I tried to break up with her again.

Given her cheating history, did you ever worry that she wasn’t fully committed now that she was abroad?

Jessy: I didn’t trust her completely, no. But I had that “what will be will be” mindset. The one thing I knew was that I was fully committed. I loved Goodness, and cheating on her didn’t seem like an option. It just seemed pointless.

Goodness: I projected a lot. I thought he might be cheating on me. Even though I trusted him, I still asked for screenshots of his call logs and his social media passwords. He never pushed back. He gave me access to everything. That’s when I realised he wasn’t doing anything shady — he wasn’t even retaliating — and it helped me relax.

At the same time, Jessy started feeling like he wasn’t doing enough for me financially. But that wasn’t the case. We’re both young, and I knew he was trying his best. I was just trying to settle into a new country and do more for myself. But he took my emotional distance as dissatisfaction. We ultimately talked about it, and I reassured him I was okay with us.

Still, 2024 wasn’t a great year. He called himself clingy, but I felt he wasn’t present enough. It was one misunderstanding after another. A fight with a friend made me reflect and realise I might be the one with deeper issues.

He sent a sweet message on my birthday, but I brushed it off. I remember thinking, “Who is this one? Please get out,” when I got his message. That caused another fight. Eventually, I got therapy, and it helped. I’m more intentional now, open to talking, resolving issues, and showing up for us.

Jessy, you said you wanted to end things. Why didn’t you?

Jessy: I could see most of our issues were rooted in her personal struggles, so it was great when she got help. Also, I felt like I’d invested so much into the relationship. After everything, it didn’t feel right to just walk away.

Goodness: For me, it was partly about proving people wrong. Some folks said we wouldn’t survive a long-distance relationship. I didn’t want to give them the satisfaction of being right. But away from that, Jessy was my person. I wanted us to keep trying.

Right. How would you say being with each other has changed you?

Jessy: Most of our growth has been individual, but it was shaped by each other. She’s quite intelligent, and there’s a lot to learn from her. Thanks to her, I dress better, read more, learn about women and feminism, and write more. My ex criticised my writing a lot, but Goodness encourages me.

Goodness: I think communication is the biggest shift for me. We’ve both learnt to be more open about our feelings. Secondly, I’ve gotten more confident. Jessy says I used to put up the “hard guy” stance, but I mostly faked it. For example, I hated my voice, but he thinks I have the sweetest voice. That made me open up more and speak to people more.

Another thing I love is how much he embraces my quirks. I like adding food colouring to my food just for fun, and instead of asking “Why would you do that?”, Jessy’s more like, “So what colour are we eating today?” It might sound small, but it means everything — knowing he doesn’t just tolerate me, but genuinely enjoys the things that make me different.

Speaking of acceptance, how do you both see the future of this relationship?

Goodness: He will come and pluck flowers in my daddy’s garden.

Jessy: I’d say things are looking good. We’ve created systems that help this relationship work. Not like a strict rulebook, but we know the important things now — how to talk, how not to hide things, and most importantly, how to stay faithful.

How easy has it been keeping to the “no cheating” rule, Goodness?

Goodness: I cheated in the past because I was insecure and was scared I’d mess up and be the one at loss. I also thought it was fun to play with people. Now, I like him a lot. When I feel tempted, I remind myself that he has everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner. That reminder keeps me grounded.

Fair enough. How would you rate your love life on a scale of 1-10?

Jessy: I’ll give us a 10. If distance hasn’t been able to break us, what else could?

Goodness: It’s a 9.9 for me until he admits I’m funnier.

Jessy: Can’t tell lies to the love of my life.

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Apology Message for Her

When you’ve upset the woman you love, finding the right words can feel impossible. These apology messages for her are soft and reassuring. They are perfect for telling your girlfriend, fiancée, or wife how truly sorry you are. Let your apology message for her show that you see her hurt and are willing to fix things.

I hate that I made you feel hurt. You matter to me more than words can say. I’m truly sorry.

I see now how I let you down, and it breaks my heart. Please forgive me.

You deserve someone who listens with love, not ego. I’m sorry for not being that person yesterday.

I never meant to make you feel small. You’re everything to me. I’m sorry, and I’ll do better.

I miss your smile. Your warmth. Please let me earn them back.

I’m sorry for letting the worst part of me speak to the best part of you.

You mean so much to me, and I never want to be the reason you question that.

I can’t undo what happened, but I’m ready to work on us with all my heart.

I see you, I value you, and I regret making you feel otherwise.

Loving you means being accountable too. I’m sorry, and I love you.

I’m sorry, love. You didn’t deserve my attitude. Please let me make it up to you.

I don’t have the right words, but I hope my heart says what my mouth couldn’t.

I know I messed up, but I’m not giving up on us. Please let me fix this.

You mean more to me than my ego. I’m sorry, truly.

Can I hold your hand again? Only if you forgive me.

I see my mistake now and how it hurt you. I’ll never let that happen again.

You’re the best thing that ever happened to me. I’m sorry I forgot that for a second.

Every minute we’re not okay is a minute too long. I miss us.

I’m sorry for being stubborn. I love you more than my pride.

Please don’t shut me out. I’m ready to listen, learn, and be better.

I may not be perfect, but I’ll always try to love you perfectly.

Your heart is my home, and right now I feel lost. I’m sorry, baby.

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Apology Message for Him

Men might not always show it, but words, especially the right ones, can mean the world when there’s been hurt. Whether you’re fixing a misunderstanding or owning up to something bigger, these apology messages for him help you speak with love, accountability, and honesty to him.

I hate that I hurt you. I see it now, and I’m truly sorry. Please let me make it right.

You didn’t deserve what I said. I let my emotions get the best of me, and I regret it deeply.

I miss us. I miss your smile. I’m sorry for everything I did to make you pull away.

I let you down, and that’s hard for me to sit with. But I love you too much not to try and fix it.

If I could take back that moment, I would. I’m learning from it instead, and I hope you’ll see that.

I didn’t mean to make you feel unappreciated. You mean so much to me, and I’m sorry for acting like you don’t.

I let pride talk instead of my heart. And my heart is saying: I’m sorry, and I love you.

I’m sorry. You’re not just my partner, you’re my safe place. I never want to be the reason you don’t feel that.

I know words won’t fix everything, but I hope they can start something. I’m sorry.

I know I broke your trust, and I’m not expecting it back overnight. I just want the chance to rebuild it.

You were right. I should’ve listened instead of trying to win the argument. I’m sorry.

I’m not perfect, but I’m trying. And right now, I’m trying to make this right with you.

I love you, not just when things are good, but enough to face the hard parts too. I’m sorry.

I hurt you, and that’s the part I regret most. I’m ready to talk whenever you are.

I didn’t handle that well, and I’m not here to defend it. I’m here to apologise sincerely.

You didn’t deserve that tone. I regret it deeply.

Thank you for putting up with me, even when I mess up. I’m sorry, truly.

I crossed a line. I own that. Can we talk when you’re ready?

I miss your voice, your laugh, and all of you. Let me fix this.

I got it wrong, and I’ll do what it takes to make it right.

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Romantic Apology Message

Sometimes, love and regret go hand in hand. A romantic apology message can mend more than just hurt feelings, it can rebuild trust. These romantic apology messages balance romance with accountability to help you find your way back to each other.

I messed up. But even in my worst moments, I never stop loving you.

If kisses could undo mistakes, I’d be kissing you for days. I’m sorry, my love.

Even when we fight, you’re still the one I want to come home to.

You’re my heart, and I hate that I hurt it. Let me try again.

My world feels off without you smiling at me. I’m sorry, beautiful.

Let’s not let this moment break what’s meant to last. I love you.

I’m not just apologising to end a fight. I apologise because you deserve better.

You and I? We’re too good to lose over a bad moment. I’m sorry.

You’re still my favourite person, even when I mess up. Please forgive me.

I messed up, but my heart still beats for you and it always will.

If I had one wish, it would be to rewind time and treat you better.

I love you more than any mistake I’ve ever made. Please forgive me.

You’re my forever, and I hate that I hurt the person I want forever with.

I’m not just sorry, I’m aching to be in your arms again.

Our love deserves better, and I’m committed to giving it just that.

I’d write a thousand love letters if it meant you’d smile at me again.

If love could fix it all, I’d send you oceans of it. But I’ll start with one sincere apology.

Let’s rewrite this chapter together. I’m sorry, my love.

Your forgiveness means everything to me. Your love even more.

One mistake doesn’t define us. Let’s hold on to all the beautiful moments too.

I may not have the perfect words, but I have a heart full of love and regret.

Your love is a melody I never want to stop hearing. Forgive me.

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Short and Sweet Apology Message

Not every apology needs to be lengthy. A short and sweet apology message can still say everything that matters. These apology messages are perfect for texts or quick notes. Sometimes, I’m sorry is just enough when it’s said with honesty.

I have no excuses. Just let me apologise

Still learning to love you. I’ll do better. Promise.

Anger is ugly, but forgiveness is sexy. Forgive me please?

I apologise because I value our relationship more than my ego. I’m so sorry my love.

I am extremely sorry for hurting you yesterday and want your forgiveness. I love you.

This is completely and totally my fault, I’m sorry.

I don’t know what happened. Please forgive me.

You are the joy of my life. Please, my love, forgive me!

I didn’t mean to, baby. I sincerely regret it. I’m so sorry.

I will do anything and everything to make you smile again.

I hate that I hurt you. Forgive me?

I shouldn’t have said that. I’m sorry.

My heart hurts knowing I upset you.

You didn’t deserve that. I’m truly sorry.

I’ve been thinking about it. I was wrong.

I care about you. I’m sorry I caused pain.

I’m sorry for the silence. I miss you.

That wasn’t fair to you. I regret it.

I handled it badly. Please forgive me.

Can we hit reset? I’m sorry.

I’ll do everything I can to make sure this never happens again.

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Heart Touching Apology Message

If you’re looking for something deeper, these heart-touching apology messages are for moments when a simple sorry just doesn’t cut it. These apology messages express vulnerability and the emotional weight of your regret, ideal for when you want to show how much you truly care and how badly you want to make things right.

I’ve replayed everything in my head — what I said, how it made you feel — and my heart sinks every time. I never meant to hurt you, and knowing that I did is a pain I don’t take lightly. I don’t want to win this argument, I want to win back your peace. Please forgive me.

I wish I could rewind time, pause the moment before things went wrong, and choose better words. But since I can’t, I’ll choose to be better now, for you, for us. I’m sorry for not showing up the way you needed me to.

You have every right to be upset. I crossed a line, and I own that. Please don’t mistake my silence for pride — it’s shame. I love you deeply, and I’m asking for a chance to rebuild what I damaged.

Sometimes we hurt the ones we love not out of cruelty, but out of clumsy carelessness. I let you down, and I see that now. I see you. I see the love you give. And I’m so sorry for making you feel unseen.

The truth is, losing your trust hurts more than I can explain. I’m not perfect, but I’m trying, and I want to keep trying with you. Please let my apology be the start of healing, not just an end to a mistake.

My heart feels heavier with every minute we spend apart, not just physically but emotionally. You’re the calm in my chaos, and I let the storm win. I’m sorry for forgetting how much your love anchors me.

I know ‘sorry’ won’t magically fix everything, but it’s the only honest place I can start from. I don’t want to go forward pretending nothing happened. I want to go forward knowing we’re both committed to healing together.

I don’t want to go another night knowing I’ve hurt you. I understand if you need time. Just know I’m here, regretting every second.

If tears could rewrite my actions, I’d cry you an ocean of apologies.I failed you. But I’ll never stop trying to earn your trust back.

I hope you can forgive me. Your silence speaks volumes, and it’s breaking me inside. The worst part of all this is knowing I caused the hurt in your eyes.

Forgive me, not just for the mistake, but for the pain it caused. My heart aches because yours does. I’m truly sorry. I’ll carry this regret until I make things right.

My love, I’m sorry for my thoughtless actions. You mean so much to me, and I will strive to be the partner you deserve.

I apologise for my mistakes and the pain they caused you. Please give me the chance to prove my love and commitment.

I am truly sorry for my actions. Your happiness means everything to me, and I promise to work on becoming a better person.

I’m so sorry for letting you down. You mean the world to me, and I will do everything to make things right.

My love, I regret my actions and the pain they caused you. I ask for your forgiveness and a chance to make it right.

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Funny and Lighthearted Apology Message

Sometimes, a little humour can help ease the tension. These funny and lighthearted apology messages blend sincerity with a playful tone, perfect for softening the mood while still showing you mean it.

I messed up. But hey, even superheroes have bad days. Let me redeem myself, cape and all.

I’m not saying I was wrong, but I am buying you food, so let’s call it even?

They say love is patient and kind, right? Well, I hope you’re feeling extra loving today. I’m sorry!

I’m sorry for being a knucklehead. Let’s laugh about it and move on together.

Let’s pretend I didn’t mess up and go back to being cute together. Deal?

I’d send you a thousand I’m sorry texts, but I figured one funny one might work better. So here it is.

My apology is like a Wi-Fi signal; weak at first but strong when you come closer. Come closer?

You have always been the mature one between us two. I hope you will forgive me like you always do.

I might not be good with words, but I’m excellent at saying I’m sorry with snacks. Want to test that theory?

Look, if I were a phone, I’d auto-correct my mistake. But I’m just human, so… forgive me, maybe?

If I could turn back time, I’d fix everything. But since I can’t, I’ll just keep apologising until you laugh.

Oh look! It’s me. I’m the problem here. Sorry about that.

I’m very sorry about what I said when I was ‘hangry’.

When I make a mistake, I really go all in. I’m very sorry.

I’m sorry. Clearly, I need to be supervised by a responsible adult.

I come bearing peace, snacks, and a big fat apology.

I’m sorry. Also, your laugh is my favourite sound.

Sorry for being a drama queen. Your throne is safe.

Can I bribe you with food and my undying love?

I’m sorry for acting like a clown. Please forgive me, and I promise to be your favourite jester.

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Apology Message after a Fight

Arguments happen, but it’s what comes after that truly counts. These apology messages after a fight are all about owning your part and extending an olive branch. If you want to cool things down and rebuild your connection, these messages can help you reach out.

I let my emotions get in the way of hearing you. That’s on me. I’m sorry.

I don’t want us to keep hurting. Let’s figure this out together, not against each other.

I hate how we fought. I’ve thought about it, and I know where I went wrong. I’m truly sorry.

I know saying sorry doesn’t erase the fight, but I hope it’s the first step to peace.

I don’t want to be right, I want us to be okay. Please forgive me.

That fight shouldn’t define us. I want to grow past it with you.

I’m sorry for raising my voice instead of raising my understanding.

I regret letting my pride speak louder than my love for you.

I’m not reaching out to reopen the fight, I’m reaching out to end it.

I care about you more than any argument. Let’s find a better way.

I’ve had time to reflect, and I see how I hurt you. I’m sorry.

Even when we disagree, I never want to be your enemy. Let’s fix this.

You mean too much to me for us to stay like this. Can we talk?

I miss the peace and laughter we had. I’m ready to make it right.

I’m sorry. I hope we can leave the fight behind and move forward, stronger.

I’ve been thinking a lot about our fight, and I realise how much you mean to me. I’m sorry for my part in our disagreement, and I miss you terribly.

Hey love, I know we both said things we didn’t mean. I’m really sorry for hurting you. Can we talk and make things right?

Our fight made me realise how much I don’t want to lose you. I’m sorry for what I said, and I hope we can move past this.

I’ve been missing your smile and the way you make me laugh. Let’s fix this, please.

Please forgive me. I never want to hurt you like that again.

Apology Message for Long-Distance Relationships

Being far apart makes misunderstandings even harder to handle. A heartfelt apology message for a long-distance relationship shows that even across miles, you’re still emotionally present and willing to work things out. These apology messages help bridge the gap and keep your bond strong, no matter the distance.

I know the distance makes things harder, but I never want you to doubt my love. I’m sorry.

Even from miles away, I feel the weight of hurting you. Please forgive me.

I hate that we’re far apart right now — not just in distance, but in emotions too.

If I could hold your hand right now and say sorry in person, I would.

This distance is already hard enough without us fighting. Let’s make it work.

I miss you, and I hate that I caused tension between us. I’m sorry, babe.

No matter the time zone, my love and apology are always on time.

I want you to feel safe with me, even when we’re far apart. I’ll do better.

I may not be there physically, but I’m here, heart wide open, asking for forgiveness.

Our love is strong enough to survive this — I truly believe that.

I let my frustration get the better of me, and I hate that I took it out on you.

You’re far away, but never far from my heart. I’m really sorry.

If I could teleport just to apologise face-to-face, I would. Until then, please know this is real.

I miss our calls, our laughs, our connection. Let’s not lose that.

I’m learning how to love you better, even from a distance. Please let me try again.

I wish I could be there with you right now, but I can’t. I miss you so much, and I want to make our relationship work. You are the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I am sorry.

I miss you like crazy! I don’t want to go another day without telling you just how much I love you and how deeply I’m sorry for all the wrongs I have done. Please forgive me.

I am so deeply sorry for the hurt I’ve caused. You mean everything to me, and I can’t stand knowing that I’ve made you feel this way.

My heart breaks knowing that I hurt you even from miles away. Please forgive me, and let’s work together to heal.

I know I made a mistake, but I’m willing to do whatever it takes to earn your forgiveness, even if it means crossing the ocean to you.

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Sex and marriage are often marketed as a forever-romantic combo, but what happens when sex leaves the equation and you no longer stain your partner’s body with tears of ecstasy for months, or even years? Is it still marriage if the bed runs cold?

From postpartum struggles and personal trauma to ageing bodies and emotional walls, these seven Nigerians open up about the longest dry spells they’ve faced in marriage and what those seasons taught them about intimacy, desire and everything in between.

“We stopped having sex in my 50s and I didn’t miss it” — *Grace, 82

When you’ve had seven kids, sex can start to feel less like fun and more like labour. Grace, an octogenarian with grandchildren and great-grandchildren, shares why she mentally checked out of sex decades before her husband died — and why she has no regrets about it.

“My husband has been late for nine years, but to be honest, our sex life ended long before that. The last time I let him touch me, I was in my late 50s. I just wasn’t interested anymore. What was the point after seven children? My body changed, my hormones changed, and it stopped being enjoyable. Sometimes, it even irritated me.

He didn’t take it well at all. The man was still very active and kept trying to initiate things. At some point, our grown children even called a family meeting on his behalf. Can you imagine? Grown adults asking their mother why she wasn’t “giving daddy his conjugal rights”. I was so embarrassed and annoyed. I told them in plain Yoruba: If your father wants to go outside, let him go. I won’t disturb him as long as he doesn’t come home with another wife or a child.

That was the agreement. He had his flings, and I had my peace. When he died, it wasn’t a sexual loss for me. I’d already grieved that part of our relationship decades earlier.”

“We didn’t have sex for a year because I didn’t trust her anymore” — *Bayo, 41

You can sleep in the same bed with someone and still feel miles apart. *Bayo recounts the betrayal that led to a one-year sexual shutdown in his marriage and what it took to reconnect beyond the sheets.

“Our longest dry spell was a full year. It wasn’t about health or lack of interest. It was pure resentment. My wife and I had back-to-back fights over something she hid from me — financial stuff. She took out a loan from a trusted person using my name, and I found out months later when she defaulted. It felt like a betrayal, and I shut down. I didn’t want to share my body with someone I couldn’t trust. We still lived in the same house, ate at the same table, even prayed together, but at night, I turned to the wall and kept to myself. I guess it’s easier for the sex to take a hit when you’ve had kids and have gone way past the “butterflies” in my tummy phase.

We were in counselling for a few months before things started improving. I didn’t even realise how much I’d missed the closeness until the first time we tried again. It was awkward, but also felt familiar. Almost like our bodies remembered each other. Obviously, I was doing lots of self action. That year taught me that sex in marriage isn’t just about pleasure. It’s deeply emotional. If the heart is blocked, the body hardly responds.”

“Boiling water spilled on me, it took two months to come back from that” — *Kenny, 38

Two months might not sound like a lot, but it feels like a lifetime when you’re used to being active.

“In 2021, I had a freak kitchen accident where hot water spilled directly on my privates. I still get chills thinking about it. The burns weren’t severe enough for surgery, but the pain? Intense. I couldn’t wear briefs comfortably for weeks, talk less of doing anything.

The physical recovery was one thing, but the psychological trauma was another. My confidence was gone. Even when I started healing, I couldn’t get it up properly; my brain just wouldn’t cooperate. My wife was incredibly patient. She never pressured me once. When we finally tried again, we took it really slow. It felt like I was learning my body all over again. Now we laugh about it sometimes, but it took everything in me not to sink into a depression during that time.”

“Everywhere was dry like desert” — *Gregory, 34

*Gregory didn’t anticipate how long the break would last after childbirth. But once the healing process started, his wife swung into action.

“The longest would be three to four months, and it was after my wife gave birth. She had a tear, so I just stayed clear. No sex, no touching everywhere dry like desert. Tears full my eyes, but what was the other option? I had to maintain. At first, I was just winging it. I think I resorted to masturbating by the third month, but it wasn’t a habit, just a one-off because it doesn’t compare to the real thing. Outside of that, I tried to focus on work and our newborn. A baby is a full-time job, so it helped me redirect the energy. However, I was back to self-pleasure again in a matter of weeks because I had to “let it out,” if you get my drift.

My wife initiated sex again after four months. If she hadn’t, I probably wouldn’t have made any move because I wasn’t asking her daily if she had healed. But once she initiated it, we picked up the pace like we never stopped.”

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“I haven’t touched my husband since 2022” — *Adebola, 36

*Adebola’s husband relocated for greener pastures, but their sex life had to take a hit. Now, she’s left to battle her own urges in silence.

“The last time I slept with my husband was in 2022, just before he relocated. We tried to go as many rounds as possible in that last week, but I was already horny by the next one. It’s been extremely hard denying myself this pleasure, but I keep reminding myself it’s only for a while. He’s not there to play, he’s there to make our lives better. Once we’re reunited, all the pillow-hugging, tossing and turning on the bed, and ovulation madness will be water under the bridge.

We’ve tried phone play, but my husband is too old school. It’s almost like I’m forcing him. Even when I send him stuff, he just glosses over it and changes the topic. I think he’s super paranoid about phone activities. One thing I know for sure is that when we finally see each other, I just want to touch him again. I miss holding him, feeling him in my hands — especially his penis.”

“We went a full year without sex” — *Hariff, 29

Pregnancy came with physical and emotional changes that left *Hariff and his wife avoiding intimacy for months. Surprisingly, he didn’t mind too much.

“The longest we’ve gone without sex is about a year. It started when my wife was five months pregnant. She started spitting a lot and complained of constant discharges. She gets irritated easily, and all of that made sex disgusting for her. I’m also not a fan of seeing discharges. I know it’s natural, but pulling off a black or white pant and seeing stuff on it just kills the mood. And when she got pregnant, there was a lot of it.

So yeah, I was fine with us staying away from sex. But that didn’t mean there was no touching or foreplay. We just never got down to the main thing.

We picked up sex again about six months after she healed fully from childbirth. It felt a bit new again, but we adjusted in no time.”

“After my mum died, I didn’t want anyone touching me” — *Kemi, 28

Grief can make even the warmest touch feel intrusive. *Kemi opens up about how her mother’s death created a six-month wall between her and her husband, and how therapy helped her find her way back to intimacy.

“The longest I’ve gone is six months, right after my mother died in 2020. I don’t know what people mean when they say grief brings couples closer. For me, it shut everything down.

My mum was my best friend. Losing her so suddenly shattered me. My husband tried to be supportive, but nothing he did could reach me emotionally. He’d try to cuddle me at night, and I’d flinch. He’d touch my arm and I’d pull away. It wasn’t even about him; I just couldn’t stand any kind of intimacy. He never complained, but I could tell it hurt him. One night, he asked if I still found him attractive. I cried for hours after that. I eventually started therapy, and that’s what helped me find my way back to myself and him.”

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How long have you been with your partner?

My husband, Rufai, and I have been together for over six years. We got married in 2018.

How did you meet?

Rufai was my good customer. I helped my aunt sell baby clothes, and he’d come to the shop to buy items like blankets and clothes every other month. Since he always bought something, I assumed he had many children. One day, I jokingly said, “Uncle, won’t you allow madam rest from childbirth?”

He told me he didn’t have children, even though he’d been married for a few years. He was just buying the baby items to give to nursing mothers for good fortune. We developed a friendship after he opened up to me, and about five months later, he asked me to marry him.

Were you expecting that?

Not really, but it wasn’t strange. I’m a Muslim, and I’ve always received marriage proposals from married men. I just didn’t meet anyone I liked well enough to accept to become a second wife until Rufai. He was kind, and I developed a soft spot for him.

At the time Rufai proposed, I’d been out of uni for two years but hadn’t gotten a good job yet. I was practically my aunt’s salesgirl, but I made money from the shop — about ₦5k per day. It was enough to be independent and I could afford whatever I wanted. That changed after the wedding.

I didn’t work at my aunt’s shop anymore, meaning I couldn’t earn money. I suddenly became entirely dependent on whatever my husband gave me, which was a new experience. Even in school, I didn’t depend on anyone. My father passed away when I was young, so I’ve always done one hustle or another to survive.

Coming from that to waiting for my husband to give me ₦10k every week to cook was a rude culture shock. All the money went into food, and I often had nothing left. I had to ask for more money if I wanted to buy pads.

Did you and Rufai discuss financial expectations before marriage?

I didn’t think women were supposed to ask men about money. I just knew my husband was a banker. Six years later, I still don’t know how much he earns. Our only arrangement was that he’d get me a separate flat and stay with me thrice a week — that was the condition my co-wife gave before she accepted me. I don’t mind it; I like my space.

The ₦10k weekly allowance was my only problem. He increased the money to ₦20k in 2020 when I had my son, but I still felt limited. Also, I couldn’t find a job because Rufai wanted me to stay home and care for my child. I finally found an opportunity to work when my niece started living with me in 2022.

I convinced my husband I had help, and he finally relented. He gave me ₦1.2m to start a business, and I opened a baby items shop. He laughs when I tell him that the shop is the most valuable gift he’ll ever give me, but it’s true. There’s nothing better than earning your own money.

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Does he still give you an allowance?

He cut down the amount after funding my shop, so it’s just ₦80k once a month now. The money is not enough for feeding, but when I complain, he says, “But you make money from the shop. Or will you close it so I can increase your money?” Of course, I always pick the shop.

I know his reasoning isn’t fair. He only gave me a one-time fund, and I grew the shop to its current level with my profit. He doesn’t even know how much I make from the shop, so he should at least give me enough money for food.

But I don’t have the power to argue. As long as I’m making my own money, I’m fine. He pays for school fees (for both our child and my niece), rent, and anything our child needs. I can work and take care of myself.

You seem particular about making your own money

I am. I fully understand that the dynamics of my marriage can change at any time. My instinct tells me he’ll marry another wife soon to get more children, so I can’t afford to joke with my financial freedom.

Before, I could tease Rufai and get him to send my mum money or buy clothes or shoes for me. But since this year, he’s started giving excuses when I try to bill him. I know the economy is bad, but there’s possibly another wife-to-be and he’s saving to get her a flat too.

Imagine if I rely only on him and a third wife gives birth to five children, will he still have enough to provide for me and my child? I can’t risk it.

Right. Is there any room for things like dates in your relationship?

It happens once in a blue moon, usually for my birthdays. Rufai doesn’t do romance or things like that, and I don’t expect it either. He bought me a car in 2023 when my son resumed school. He also comes bearing gifts like fruits, veils, or perfume when he visits. My own gifting is only on his birthdays, and it’s either I sew him an outfit or buy him ties.

When we see each other, I cook him food and we talk. We do that a lot: talk and gossip. He tells me about his day, and I tell him about mine. My husband is my gist partner. He has an amazing sense of humour. Sometimes I wish I had him all to myself because he keeps to himself whenever we’re all together (plus my co-wife) for family events. I understand he doesn’t want to show favouritism, though.

Out of curiosity, what’s your relationship with your co-wife like?

We don’t have much of a relationship. We only see each other a few times a year. When we do, we greet each other cordially. She’s older, so I accord her the necessary respect. If she doesn’t like me, she must do a good job of hiding it because I’ve never suspected anything.

How are you and Rufai thinking about safety nets?

I know my husband has at least one property he rents out to tenants, but that’s as far as I know. I suspect my co-wife knows more because I heard they built their wealth together. But that’s fine. I know my child will inherit something; I just need to plan for myself.

I currently have around ₦1.2m savings and about ₦2m worth of gold jewellery. Rufai has promised to build me a house, and I’m gently reminding him to do that before taking another wife. I think these are good safety nets.

What’s your ideal financial future as a couple?

Rufai once mentioned relocating me and my son abroad if he had enough money, and that’s all I pray for. I honestly don’t care if he stays back in Nigeria with all the wives in the world.

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*Names have been changed for the sake of anonymity.

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What would you do if your boyfriend of more than a month shows up to the first date looking like a totally different person?

Derayo*(28) recalls how she found out that her boyfriend didn’t look like who he claimed to be, how she handled it and why video calls are mandatory for her now.

**This is Derayo*’s story as told to Betty:**

In late 2020, I randomly met Femi* on a large Facebook group chat I joined out of boredom. We talked about the books we liked and realised we had similar tastes. A few days after, we took the chat to our private messages. A week later, we were talking almost every single day for hours on end. If we weren’t on the phone, we were texting each other.

After two months of nonstop communication, Femi asked me to be his girlfriend, and I said yes. We started making plans to meet in person, but he lived in a different city, and we had to work around our job schedules. We finally made plans to meet in January 2021.

Now, Femi’s Facebook profile picture wasn’t outlandish. It showed a handsome young man with a crisp, low-cut hairstyle. In the photo, he wore an Ankara outfit and looked to be at a wedding. His other photos, though not many, showed the same person. Of course, I assumed that it was Femi in those photos.

We didn’t do video calls because he said his phone was bad. I believed him. I didn’t mind because we talked often regardless of the fact, and I started to feel like we had something special.

Fast-forward to our first in-person date, we planned to meet at a restaurant in my city. I got dressed up and pulled out all the stops for my “boyfriend.”

I arrived first and sat down, waiting for him to show up. After fifteen minutes of waiting, I got a text from Femi. It said, “I’m scared to show my face, but you look great.” So I started looking around but didn’t see “my” Femi.

I texted back “Stop forming and join me, jor,” thinking that he was joking. That’s how this individual, who looked nothing like the man I was talking to on Facebook, showed up at the table.

I was confused, so I told him that I was expecting someone already. The man said he was, in fact, the Femi I’d been talking to online. I didn’t want to believe it. This “Femi” also had a freshly cut hairstyle, but he was several times lighter than the man in his profile picture, and his face was punctuated with massive cystic acne bumps.

I yelled “Who are you??” so loudly that one of the waiters came to ask if we were alright.

Femi started trying to explain how he was scared to approach me because he wasn’t confident about how he looked. He was very insecure about his acne issues. I didn’t mind that his skin wasn’t as smooth as glass, but I couldn’t accept that he had been lying to me about what he looked like the entire time we talked. He begged me to stay for dinner just to talk things out, but I couldn’t stand it. I just kept thinking to myself about what other things he may have been lying about. God forbid he had a secret family or worse, a kidnapper.

I cut my losses, left the dinner and sent a break-up text on my way home. The next day, I saw that he had left the group chat and blocked me everywhere. I just thank God I hadn’t told many people I was in a relationship before meeting him in person. My friend group laughed at me when I told them what happened. Looking back, it is a bit funny, but at the time I was gutted. I really liked him, at least who I thought he was.

Since then, if I start talking to someone, video calls are mandatory, please. I don’t want to do “what I ordered versus what I got” again.

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Sunken Ships is a Zikoko weekly series that explores the how and why of the end of all relationships — familial, romantic or just good old friendships.

What do you do when the person you consider family chooses someone else over you? In this Sunken Ships, we spoke with Ifeoluwa*(37), whose friendship with Ibrahim started on the basketball court and grew into brotherhood.

Things took a dark turn after they let a mutual friend, Ebele, move in. What started as an act of kindness became the beginning of the end. Ifeoluwa shares how lies, manipulation, and misplaced trust tore his closest friendship apart and how he’s still missing the bond he shared with Ibrahim.

Let’s start from day one. How did your friendship with Ibrahim take off?

My family had just moved to a new neighbourhood in 2006. Nearby, there was a recreational centre where boys my age would play soccer and basketball. I was an avid basketball player, and I loved joining the small teams that played on the weekends. It was during one of these matches while waiting on the sidelines that Ibrahim and I hit it off.

What was your friendship with Ibrahim like?

It was like gaining a brother. Our friendship began because we instantly bonded over our love for rap music. Ibrahim wanted to be a rapper and was a fantastic lyricist. He would freestyle for us between sets, and we would exchange our favourite rap CDs when we met at the court on weekends.

In fact, we were so close that I lived in his family’s house for more than a decade.

How did that come about?

By late 2008, I had tried to get into university thrice, but I never got admission despite passing JAMB and post UTME with flying colours. My parents chalked it up to us not having “leg” or an inside person and urged me to try again. But after three years of my life at home and the amount of effort I put into those exams, I decided I wanted to learn a skill instead.

My father hated the idea of me not going to university, so he called my bluff with a crazy ultimatum. I could either sit up, write JAMB again and go to university, or I could find somewhere else to live. We got into a shouting match, and I decided to leave.

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Wow. That must have shocked your dad.

He was so shocked, but so was I. I didn’t really have a plan. All I knew was that I was good with computers, and I could pull an idea or two together on CorelDRAW. The main issue became my accommodation. On that first night, I went to Ibrahim’s house and poured my heart out to him about my struggles. He was attending a private university, but my parents couldn’t afford the same for me.

My plight moved Ibrahim so much that he spoke to his mum about me. A kind woman, she gave Ibrahim and me the guest house attached to their home. I could live there while Ibrahim was in school, but her only condition was that I was to be gainfully employed. I leapt at the offer immediately, and for the next ten or so years, we lived as housemates.

How was living with Ibrahim’s family like?

It was great. His family fed us every day, and we could go to the main house to hang out with his siblings and mum, but we felt like grown-ups living in the guest house. I started an apprenticeship at a printing shop near the city centre and started developing graphic design and merchandise production skills. Over time, I also became cordial with his three siblings, and his mum began to confide in me when Ibrahim wasn’t around. They basically adopted me.

What went wrong then?

In 2018, a mutual friend of ours, Ebele, was in a terrible living situation. It reminded me of when I was in those shoes, so I spoke with Ibrahim about letting him live with us since we had an extra room in the guest house, and he obliged when I vouched for Ebele. But not long after Ebele moved in with us, things started getting weird.

How so? Can you give me an example?

Ebele was a sly fellow and, in his need to curry favour from Ibrahim’s family, always tried to paint me in a bad light. There are several examples I can give, but one really stood out to me. In 2019, a close relative of the family passed away, and we were all invited to the burial ceremony. I had gotten into an argument with Ibrahim earlier that week, so we weren’t talking like we usually did. He told Ebele to give me the burial details, but he never did.

I travelled for work on that weekend, and while I was away, I got a call from Ibrahim’s mum. She sounded upset and disappointed that I didn’t come to the burial. I tried to explain that I wasn’t aware of the date, but she said Ebele already said I’d give that excuse. She said Ebele told the family that I told him I would deliberately miss the funeral because of my argument with Ibrahim. He lied that I claimed that no one was going to do anything. I was so shocked. No explanation I gave could satisfy them; they believed Ebele instead of me.

That must have hurt. I’m sorry.

It did, and what made it worse was that my relationship with everyone in that house started going downhill from that time. I even got accused of stealing once! Something that had never come up in the entire decade I had lived at that house before Ebele joined us.

My friendship with Ibrahim especially suffered. He started by keeping his unreleased songs from me. I found out later that it was because Ebele told him I actually hated his music and I didnt think he was a good artist. That useless Ebele boy was actually the thorn in my flesh. Soon, it felt like Ibrahim was doing everything to he could to avoid spending time alone with me.

Did you ever confront Ebele about his lies?

Yes, but he was unapologetic. He told me I wasn’t “sharp” and no one was going to believe me over him. He threatened me and told me that Ibrahim’s house wasn’t big enough for both of us, and he wouldn’t rest until I left.

I really wish I had recorded that conversation because Ibrahim didn’t believe me when I warned him to be cautious around Ebele. I don’t know how he did it, but the family trusted him so much that by the end of 2022, I felt completely alone and shut out, even though the house was full of people.

I’m so sorry about that. What did you do next?

What options did I have? I didn’t do anything. One day in March 2023, Ibrahim’s mum called me aside and told me I should start making plans to move out and live elsewhere. Ebele had a “vision” that there were “strangers” in the house acting as a conduit for negative energy to come into the house. Of course, the “stranger” was me, and Ibrahim’s mum asked me to leave. I was gutted. Ibrahim’s place really felt like a second home for me.

In July 2023, I moved out without fanfare to a miniflat in a different part of town. Ibrahim didn’t even say goodbye to me when I packed up the last of my things. It was really hurtful.

What’s your friendship with Ibrahim like these days?

Estranged is the best way to describe it. I reach out to him every now and again, and he gives one-word responses. Meanwhile, on his Instagram, he and Ebele seem to be thick as thieves.

I heard a gist from one of our mutual friends, though, that all is not well in paradise, and Ebele is getting kicked out as well. I’ll be so happy when that happens.

What did they say is going on?

Apparently, Ibrahim’s mum took the “stranger danger” vision seriously and now wants ALL strangers out of her house. She has sent away all the maids, and now Ebele is the last stranger standing. I’m hearing he has until August this year to get new accommodation.

How does this make you feel?

My enemy’s despair is music to my ears, o. Anything he sees there, he should collect it. Sebi he was the one seeing visions and dreams.

Fair enough. What about Ibrahim? Would you reconcile with him if he reached out to you or showed an interest?

In a heartbeat. He has hurt me a lot but he is my blood. We have seen each other through some of the worst phases of our lives, and I miss him. I think if he ever wants to fix our friendship, the door is always open for him. Ebele can eat dirt for all I care ,sha. That dude is not my guy.

Has your experience with Ibrahim and Ebele changed the way you navigate friendships?

I gatekeep my friends now, and I don’t mix my friend groups anymore. After my experience with Ebele, I’ve started to doubt how discerning I am about my pals. I think when I become more confident in my ability to judge character, I can relax a bit and mix different friend groups again.

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Romantic relationships are complex enough when everyone involved fits into society’s narrow ideas of what’s “normal.” But for people living with disabilities, love can come with even more layers — from navigating societal bias and potentially ableist partners to confronting the quiet (and sometimes loud) fear of being a burden.

Still, for many disabled Nigerians, love is very much a possibility. It’s soft, generous, and joyful.

Zikoko spoke to five people about what it’s like to date while disabled, covering everything from choosing partners who don’t treat their conditions like inconveniences to the tiny, beautiful moments when they felt truly seen, understood, and loved for all that they are.

“Generally, I appreciate whenever I get caught struggling to do something, and my person catches me and immediately comes to my aid.” — Noah*(25), M, Limb Length Discrepancy

What challenges have you faced in romantic relationships because of your disability, and how did you deal with them?

None really. I’ve been pretty lucky to be involved with amazing people who have never made me feel weird or anything like that. I think I’m fairly discerning of people that might make me feel weird about my disability and steer clear of them.

How do you tell your partner what you need and what works for you, and how do those conversations go?

I’m pretty upfront about things concerning my disability. I constantly make jokes about my inability to do certain things as a way to banter myself more than anyone could. So it’s really, ‘Oh, could you help me do this?’ and they simply oblige, no weird reactions at all. Maybe because before I get romantically involved or even casually involved with people, I get a proper feel of their person first, to know if they’re cool.

Can you share a moment in a relationship when you truly felt seen, valued, and loved as a person with a disability?

There are a number of them across different relationships and people, so it’s difficult to pick one. Generally, I appreciate whenever I get caught struggling to do something, and my person catches me and immediately comes to my aid. I can be pretty stubborn and quite insistent on doing things that’ll be painfully difficult for me to complete. So whenever I get help without asking, I feel valued, loved and very much seen.

“One of the challenges I face is that I tend to meet extroverts who find it hard to adjust to the amount of quietness needed to be around me” — Mosope*(28), F, Hyperacusis

What challenges have you faced in romantic relationships because of your disability, and how did you deal with them?

Given the nature of my disability, I tend to isolate myself from people who have never witnessed me go through my episodes in person. This excludes everyone except my doctors and my five friends who were there during the early onset of my disability. This also means I mostly meet potential suitors online or through mutual friends.

Since my last relationship ended in 2021, I haven’t dated a lot. One of the challenges I face is that I tend to meet extroverts who find it hard to adjust to the amount of quietness needed to be around me, and the fact that we might not be able to do things they love together, especially if it involves a lot of noise and people.

How do you tell your partner what you need and what works for you, and how do those conversations go?

The last person I dated was quite understanding. Whenever I went to his place, he would ask me if the TV volume was quiet enough for me whenever we watched something together. We would play the movies or shows where I’d listen in with my headphones and he’d listen with the TV speaker, so it worked for us. Whenever we were in the car and he was driving, he’d let me take control of the music and the volume, which I found very considerate.

Usually, before I get into anything steady with anyone, I always make it clear that I have a sensory disorder, and I don’t mince my words so they don’t have the wrong idea that it’s not something too serious.

In my last relationship, the biggest challenge came during the early stages of my disability. I had just been admitted to the hospital and was still processing a series of heavy mental health diagnoses — Major Depressive Disorder, PTSD, and a few others. When I shared this with him, he felt I hadn’t been fully open about how serious things were. I explained that it was all still new to me too, and I was struggling to find the words.

At one point, he told me he had been researching my diagnoses to figure out if they were something he could “put up with” long-term. That struck the wrong chord. I was still in the hospital, trying to come to terms with everything, and it felt deeply inconsiderate. But eventually, we were able to talk it through.

Can you share a moment in a relationship when you truly felt seen, valued, and loved as a person with a disability?

It was on my 24th birthday. My then-boyfriend had colluded with my close friend, who was also my housemate, to plan a surprise birthday dinner for me. I remember my friend forcing me to get dressed and asking me to stay out of my room, not knowing she was cooking up something while I was in the bathroom. It was really nice and thoughtful because my relationship was long-distance at the time. They got food from my favourite restaurant, with a huge cake, and the scenery in my room was just serene and beautiful. He was on FaceTime, waiting for me to enter my room, and it was just really nice and cute.

“Sometimes my silence is mistaken for anger or disinterest, when in fact, I just need a different way to connect.” Demilade*(27), M, Deafness

What challenges have you faced in romantic relationships because of your disability, and how did you deal with them?

Not everyone wants to date a deaf person. There’s a stigma attached, and many people worry about how their choice of partner will be perceived. It’s often seen as “less than” to tell friends or family that your partner is deaf — as if admiration or approval disappears the moment you say it.

Because of this, deaf people often struggle to find hearing partners, which is one reason many end up dating within the deaf community.

Being deaf brought some unique challenges into my romantic relationships. One major issue is communication, especially at the beginning, when my partner is not used to my way of interacting or doesn’t know sign language. It can be frustrating when I have to repeat myself or when I feel left out during conversations, especially in group settings.

Another challenge is emotional misunderstanding. Sometimes my silence is mistaken for anger or disinterest, when in fact, I just need a different way to connect. Dealing with this has required a lot of patience from both my partner and me in any relationship.

What has helped me most is being open about my condition early on. I try to explain what I need, like making eye contact when speaking, using text when necessary, or even making simple gestures. I’ve also learnt not to shy away from lovingly educating my partner. The right person is willing to learn, and that makes all the difference.

How do you tell your partner what you need and what works for you, and how do those conversations go?

I believe honesty and clarity are essential. I try to tell my partner what I need in simple, calm ways. I might say, “It helps me when you look at me directly while speaking,” or “Texting me when I’m not looking your way makes communication easier.” These aren’t complaints, they’re just ways to make us understand each other better.

At times, those conversations can be awkward, especially if my partner is not familiar with disability. But I’ve found that most people appreciate it when I communicate my needs clearly and respectfully. Over time, the conversations become smoother, and they even bring us closer. It’s not about perfection, rather, it’s about effort and respect. When both of us are willing to meet in the middle, love becomes easier to express.

Can you share a moment in a relationship when you truly felt seen, valued, and loved as a person with a disability?

Yes, I remember one beautiful moment. I had just come back from a long, exhausting day at school, and I was feeling mentally drained. I didn’t say much. But instead of making me talk, my partner simply sat beside me, held my hand, and signed, “I’m here if you need anything.” It was simple, but deeply powerful.

That moment made me feel seen, not just as a deaf person but as someone who has emotions, needs, and value. It reminded me that real love is not about fixing someone or making them “normal.” Real love is about embracing the person fully, including their silence, their pace, and their uniqueness. In that quiet moment, I felt completely loved, not in spite of my deafness but with it.

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“One of the biggest challenges I faced in my last relationship was the pressure to perform happiness” — Mariam*(29), F, Clinical Depression

What challenges have you faced in romantic relationships because of your disability, and how did you deal with them?

One of the biggest challenges I faced in my last relationship was the pressure to perform happiness. I got diagnosed with clinical depression in 2019, and it was a relief to understand that the perpetual despair and emptiness I felt had an identifiable reason. My major issue was that my ex just couldn’t understand why I was depressed when “nothing was wrong”. I got tired of pretending to be happy when I was with him and broke things off.

How do you tell your partner what you need and what works for you, and how do those conversations go?

With my current partner, it’s easy to express when I need space or when I feel horrible about myself because I was upfront about my condition to him when we first met. Conversations with him are so easy because when I tell him I’m feeling bad, instead of telling me to “cheer up”, he makes us go on a walk together or he sends me a short story he thinks I’ll love because I love to read.

At first, it was difficult for me to open up because I felt so judged and ungrateful for not being “happy” all the time. After a few years of managing my condition with therapy and medicine, it’s much easier to be factual and honest when discussing my symptoms or my needs with my partner.

Can you share a moment in a relationship when you truly felt seen, valued, and loved as a person with a disability?

During the lockdown, my cousin passed away, which triggered a terrible depressive episode for me. I was afraid I was going to hurt myself. My partner came to my house every single day throughout my mourning period with food and books.

He sat with me quietly, sometimes for hours on end. I can’t express how comforting his presence was. I was able to take my time with my grief, and by the end of it all, I felt very loved, safe and secure.

“With my current partner, I can speak as candidly as I want to without offending her” — Alani*(26), M, Autism/Attention Deficit Disorder

What challenges have you faced in romantic relationships because of your disability, and how did you deal with them?

A big issue for me in relationships is that I’m very forgetful. I may not remember facts or details my partner told me in the past, especially if I was doing another task while they were speaking to me. It can come off as inconsiderate or uncaring when what really happens is my brain shoves that information into another tab that I can only access randomly.

Voice assistants like Siri have been really helpful because I can set reminders or add new notes with whatever details I want to remember in the future, vocally. I’m glad that my current partner is considerate about my condition, but in the past, it has caused rifts in romantic relationships.

How do you tell your partner what you need and what works for you, and how do those conversations go?

With my current partner, I can speak as candidly as I want to without offending her, and it’s completely changed the way I see and experience romantic relationships. She understands that I’m not coming from a place of malice or trying to start a fight when bringing up certain topics. This space to be honest without consequences, has freed me from a lot of the overthinking I used to do when it comes to discussing my needs or concerns.

Can you share a moment in a relationship when you truly felt seen, valued, and loved as a person with a disability?

It’s not one single moment for me. I have a tendency to hyperfixate on special interests and hobbies. What I love is that my partner takes a genuine interest every time I pick up a new special interest. Whether it’s philosophy, art or digital marketing, she takes a genuine interest in whatever subject I’m fixating on and asks me interesting questions or organises a way to practice a new hobby together, even if we can’t be in the same space.

For instance, since I mentioned that I was interested in art, she makes sure we draw or paint together on FaceTime once every week. It feels like dating my best friend, and I feel seen and secure.

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Simple and Short Prayer for My Boyfriend

These are quick, heartfelt prayers you can say anytime to bless and uplift your boyfriend. It may seem like a small gesture, but taking a moment to send a simple and short prayer for your boyfriend can make a big difference in his day.

May God bless you and fill your heart with peace. I’m praying God gives you the strength to face the day.

May God guide your every step today, my love. You are covered by the blood.

Hello, my darling. I pray that God gives you the spirit of discernment so you can make the best possible choices today. God is with you!

May our Father in heaven strengthen you for whatever the day brings. You are blessed.

Praying that each step you take today has God right beside you. I pray that you continue to feel God’s protection everywhere you go.

I pray that divine blessings will find you. May the works of your hands flourish in Jesus’ name.

May God’s favour find you wherever you go today. His mark of divine brilliance is upon you.

I lift you up to our Father in Heaven, and I pray that he protects you, guides your choices and brings you favour.

I pray that God fills your day with divine purpose. I pray that your day be full of purpose and grace.

I pray your heart stays calm and your mind focused today, my love. There’s nothing you can’t do.

Heavenly Father, shower your blessings on the man I love. Take him under your wing and protect him.

I pray that God gives you the grace to achieve your heart’s desires, babe. You can do it!

Hey babe! May God light your path and strengthen your spirit today.

I keep you in my prayers, my love. May every moment of your day reflect God’s goodness. I also pray that your goals are placed within your reach.

I lift you up in prayer. May God continue to help you rise above fear and overcome any stressors that come your way.

I thank God for your life. May you continue to enjoy safety under the shadow of the Almighty as you go out and come in today.

I pray that God protects you, makes His face shine on you, and grants you peace in all that you do.

I pray today brings you clarity, progress, and new ideas that will change the world. I love you, babe.

I know you have a difficult task ahead of you, so I pray that god gives you divine strength as you walk through your day.

May God’s protection surround you as you go about your day.

May God allow your path unfurl before you with no obstacles, and may your heart remain light.

I pray that God shows up and calms every storm in your life.

I pray that today brings you countless breakthroughs and unexpected joy.

God, guide your son today. I pray that your thoughts come directly from God and fill you with purpose.

I speak blessings over your life, now and always. May God’s blessings never be far from you.

Morning Prayer for My Boyfriend

Send him these to start his day with prayers that ask for God’s blessings, strength, and protection. These morning prayers for your boyfriend will help set a positive and peaceful tone for the rest of his day.

Good morning, babe. May your day be filled with divine purpose, peace, and protection. God is with you. Amen.

As you rise today, may you rise in the joy of the Lord. May he give you the wisdom and strength you need to take on the day.

May our Father in heaven walk with you every step of your day today, and open doors of favour on your behalf.

May this morning usher in renewed hope and divine direction for you. May the angels of God protect you at each point in your day.

May the Lord bless the work of your hands and guard your thoughts as you start the day. I pray that your attention remains focused and your mind sharp.

I pray your day begins with gratitude and ends with fulfilment. Good morning, my babe.

May your steps today be led by God. Set your confidence in His plan; there is nothing He can’t do.

May God shower you with morning blessings as you awaken with joy, my love. He has already gone ahead of you to straighten every crooked place.

I pray this morning that God grants you the inspiration for new ideas and extraordinary feats. Have a lovely day.

As you enter today, may you be surrounded by divine grace and favour from the Lord.

Good morning, my star. As you start your day, may angels go before you and watch over every plan.

Good morning, babe. May your morning be full of divine surprises and open doors. Every obstacle before you is removed by the Almighty.

I pray that as you start your day, God removes every worry from your heart. He has already perfected your breakthrough.

I pray that divine strength and good news follow you today. May every step you take be protected by the blood of the lamb. Have an amazing day, babe.

Good morning, baby. May your day be productive, peaceful, and protected by the hosts of heaven.

May God, in His infinite mercies, fill you with fresh energy, ideas and wisdom for the tasks ahead today. Have an amazing day, babe.

Good morning from the throne of Grace. I pray that your day is filled with laughter, light, and success. Have an amazing one, baby.

May this morning be the start of something beautiful in your life. God is with you, guiding your steps and guarding your heart.

I pray that as you start your day, you will effortlessly walk in God’s peace, courage, and clarity. There will be nothing missing or broken.

I bless your morning with joy, your afternoon with strength, and your evening with peace. I pray that God gives you the grace to accomplish all your desired goals today.

I pray for you this morning that you are given divine grace today. You are loved and capable, and God is with you no matter where you go.

As you go out this morning, may you go forth with confidence and divine grace.

As the sun rises, may your hopes and dreams rise too. The angels of God have gone before you to prepare your miracle. Have a beautiful day.

May God protect you as you go out this morning to achieve your dreams. May the spirit of God be with you every step of the way, covering you with divine protection.

I pray this morning gives you peace and your heart feels held by God. I pray that an outpouring of fresh ideas is placed in your mind by God. Have a lovely day

Night Prayer for My Boyfriend

Just as you start the day in prayer, it’s just as meaningful to end it the same way. These night prayers for your boyfriend are peaceful and comforting, perfect for helping him feel loved and rest well.

Good night, my love. I’m praying God wraps you in His peace tonight and fills your dreams with comfort.

As you close your eyes tonight, may God take away your worries and give you the deepest, most restful sleep. No arrow that flieth by night will harm you by God’s grace.

I ask God to protect you through the night and give you strength for tomorrow. Sleep peacefully, babe.

I pray your heart feels light, your body feels rested, and your spirit is refreshed by morning. Throughout the night, the angels of God will be your protection.

May God guard your mind from stress and fill your night with His presence. You’re never alone, even in your sleep. Have a lovely night, darling.

Tonight, I pray that angels watch over you while you sleep and that peace surrounds you like a blanket while I’m not there. Never forget that God is with you.

As you rest tonight, I pray God renews your strength and grants you peace like no other.

I know you’ve had a long day. I’ve asked God to replenish your strength as you sleep tonight and go ahead of you so your tomorrow is full of ease. Sleep tight, babe.

I pray every burden leaves your mind and every worry fades. Sleep knowing that God has gone ahead of you to solve every issue that has come up. Have a great night, baby.

May your sleep be full of rest and comfort. Always know that I’m praying for you with love. Good night, my darling.

I pray that God holds you close tonight. May your sleep be unshaken, and your heart feel safe and loved. You are divinely protected. Sleep well, babe.

I pray that God gives you a deep sleep and renews your strength for tomorrow’s journey. Have a restful night tonight.

Rest well tonight, baby. God has already gone ahead of you to prepare each goal for your achievement. Your strength is renewed in Him, and your peace is perfected. Good night, baby.

No matter what today brought, I pray God gives you peace and rest that silences every worry. He has taken care of it all; we just need to continue to believe in Him. Rest well tonight, baby.

May God keep every dark thought away and give you the mental fortitude to bear every challenge in your path. I pray that your future is filled with light and hope. Good night, love.

As you sleep tonight, I’m praying that your body will be restored and your spirit renewed. Divine replenishment and healing are yours. Have a good night, darling.

I hope you sleep knowing you are deeply loved by me, and by the One who never sleeps. God is with you every step of the way, protecting and refining you. Have a restful night, babe.

May you drift off with a smile, knowing God is already working things out for your good. You are His child, and the mark of Grace is upon you. Sleep well!

As you rest tonight, I pray that God gives you the grace to take on whatever may come in the morning. I pray that divine protection covers each step you take tomorrow. Have a great night, babe.

I pray tonight that you wake up tomorrow feeling confident, strong, and fully rested. I cover your tomorrow with the blood of Jesus.

As you end your day, I pray that God crowns your efforts with success. I pray that your dreams are filled with light and the grace of God is evident in your life wherever you go.

Sleep peacefully, my love. You are covered, protected, and carried by grace. God has done it. Have an amazing night’s rest.

I pray tonight that your heart finds rest and your mind finds joy in the Lord. All your problems have been taken up by the Father; there is nothing to worry about.

May God watch over every breath you take tonight and guard your soul until morning. In Jesus’ name, you are divinely protected.

I love you, and I’m praying for your peace, protection, and perfect sleep. Good night, baby.

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Love and Relationship Prayer for My Boyfriend

This collection of love and relationship prayers for your boyfriend will show him you take your spiritual synergy as seriously as you take your love. These prayers will strengthen your bond, deepen your love, and invite God’s presence into your relationship.

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I ask that God keep our love strong, pure, and centred on Him. May we always grow together in faith and joy.

Baby, I keep our relationship in my prayers. I pray that God will guide us in our steps and help us love each other better every day.

I prayed that God make our bond unbreakable. May He protect our love from doubt, fear, or anything that tries to tear us apart.

I pray that our love will always be honest, peaceful, and full of grace. You’re my answered prayer, truly. May God guard this love for us jealously.

May we keep choosing each other, even when it’s hard. I ask that God teach us to love each other like He loves the church.

I ask that God gives us the wisdom to handle challenges and the joy to celebrate both the little and big things together.

I pray that we always support each other’s dreams, build each other up, and protect our peace. I pray that our love stands the test of time. God willing, we will be together forever, even in heaven.

I know what we have is special, and I ask God to help us never take it for granted. May we always appreciate our love with fresh eyes each new day.

I pray that our relationship continues to thrive. May our union always be filled with trust, laughter, and genuine love.

May God keep jealousy, miscommunication, and pride far away from us. I want our love to stay soft and safe.

I pray that God will deepen our connection spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. May our union never falter as we put our trust in Him.

May our love always feel like home. I pray that God keeps us close, even when life pulls us in different directions.

I pray for understanding and patience today. May we always listen to each other with open hearts and kind intentions.

Baby, I’m trusting God to lead us into a beautiful future. I pray we have a love that is built on faith in God, and not fear.

I pray that God helps us fight for each other, not against each other, no matter what comes our way. Our love will last forever if we ground it in Him.

I pray that we build a love so strong, our future children will know they are living in answered prayers. May your love continue to grow and inspire us to be better.

May we always remember the reasons we fell in love, even when life gets noisy.

I pray that God strengthens our bond and blesses the dreams we share. May our love inspire us to greater heights.

May our relationship never lose its spark or its purpose. May God keep us rooted in Him.

I prayed that you always feel loved, valued, and safe with me. I’m in this with you 100%.

May our love be a light, not a burden. I’m praying we learn to grow with grace and patience.

I pray that God keeps us humble and grateful in our relationship. We’re so blessed to have this love.

I pray we never stop choosing kindness, communication, and compassion for each other. May our love continue to blossom and bear beautiful fruits.

May we honour God in how we treat each other. May we continue loving each other with intention, not just emotion.

I love you, and I’m praying for a relationship that glorifies God and fulfils our purpose in this world every step of the way.

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Prayer for My Boyfriend’s Safety

This is a collection of prayers for your boyfriend’s safety, asking for God’s covering and protection over his life and decisions — whether he’s travelling or simply going out.

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I just said a prayer for your safety, my love. May God protect you wherever you go today and bring you home safely. You are covered by the blood.

I pray that God places a divine shield around you— physically, mentally, and spiritually. You’re always covered in my prayers.

As you move through your day, may God guide your every step and keep you away from harm. May He protect you in His shadow.

Today, I pray that no danger comes near you and that angels walk with you in every moment to keep you from harm.

May every path you take today be protected and full of God’s presence. You are God’s precious seed, and He will not let you come to harm.

I ask that God keeps His hand on you, especially when I can’t be there myself. I pray that He keeps you safe from all harmful and dangerous forces.

You’re on my heart today and always. I pray God keeps you from accidents, bad energy, and anything that would try to shake you.

May the Lord be your shield and your guide. I pray for your safety and peace today.

I asked God to go ahead of you and prepare the way. Nothing harmful will come near you, and no danger will prevail over you.

Even when we’re not together, I trust God is watching over you with love and power. You will not come to any harm, and God’s protection will follow you as you go out and come back in.

I pray today that you’re protected from poor advice and guided by divine wisdom in every decision you make.

I pray that God keeps you far away from trouble and close to peace today and always. May your steps always align with the good tidings.

May God keep you steady and safe in every situation. No weapon fashioned against you shall prosper.

May the Lord place His angels around you to guide your steps and guard your life. Your going out and travel plans are divinely protected.

No evil will touch you, and no harm will find you. I have that assurance because I have lifted you up to God in prayer.

May you never be in the wrong place at the wrong time. I’m praying for perfect timing and divine protection.

I pray that your spirit feels peace and your body is strengthened as you go about your day. From the sunrise to the sunset, you will be covered by His divine protection.

I trust God, and I’ve placed you in His care. I pray that He will protect you, watch over you and keep you safe as you go about your day.

I pray that God silences every fear and replaces it with peace for you today, my love. You and every step you take today are favoured and divinely protected.

I pray that God give you divine protection everywhere you go today. You will be covered in traffic, at work, and in every unknown space until you’re back home safely.

I love you too much not to pray for your safety every day. As you go out and come back home, may God send angels to assure your safety and keep you from any harm.

Prayer for My Boyfriend’s Success

These are specifically prayers for your boyfriend’s success. You can send these prayers so he knows you’re praying for his career, goals, financial success, and dreams to flourish.

I pray that today, your efforts at work won’t go unnoticed and your hard work will be rewarded in full.

May everything you touch today prosper, and may every goal you chase bring you closer to your purpose.

I pray that God opens the right doors, connects you to the right people, and guides you to a success that lasts for as long as you live.

May you never have to beg for opportunities. I’m praying they find you, recognise your value, and reward you handsomely.

I’m proud of all you’re working toward, and I pray that God continues to bless your hustle with real results.

I pray that your mind stays clear, your focus stays sharp, and your confidence stays strong. You are marked for divine success.

May every idea you have today turn into progress. I know God’s got big plans for you, and He will help you bring them to fruition.

I see how much you pour into your work, and I pray that God crowns all of your efforts and hard work with glory and success.

I’m praying for success that feels good in your soul, not just in your bank account. I pray that you get wins that will last and not be fleeting. God bless you.

May God help you overcome every challenge that stands between you and your goals. You are destined for greatness.

May your gifts make room for you, and may your work speak louder than your words. I pray that you continue to be recognised for the great work you do.

Whatever you’re working on right now, I pray it turns out even better than you imagined. May God continue to prosper all the works of your hands.

I know how hard you’re trying to make things click. I pray that God multiplies your effort and crowns it with success.

I pray that your ideas take off, your voice is heard, and your work is appreciated. You will continue to succeed no matter the environment or situation.

I pray God blesses you with clarity, boldness, and success today to stand out among your peers. May His riches in glory be added unto you.

I’m praying you never give up—even when it’s hard—because greatness is on the other side. May God shower your efforts with success.

I pray God helps you to keep going even when it feels slow. I pray that He sends you sudden favour when you least expect it.

May you rise above stress and stay grounded in purpose. May God give you strength every time you think you’re too tired to go on. Success is right around the corner for you, babe.

I pray that your destiny will be fulfilled. May God continue to help you be inspired and give you the great ideas that will take you to the next level.

I pray that as you chase your dreams, they all come true one after the other. May your career continue to flourish, and may success always be near you.

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Prayer for My Boyfriend’s Health

Here are prayers for your boyfriend’s health, asking for physical, emotional and mental healing. They also help you ask for healing, resilience, and renewed strength in hard times.

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I pray that God strengthens your body, calms your mind, and restores every part of you that feels weak.

May you be filled with energy, peace, and healing from the inside out. I pray that God strengthens you and keeps you hale and hearty.

May every ache be healed, every worry be eased, and every burden lifted. God’s healing hand is on you, babe.

I pray your health — physical, mental, and spiritual — will flourish more and more each day. May your strength be replenished with each new day.

I pray the Lord covers you with divine strength and perfect peace. May your body become more resilient with every season.

I have prayed to God to remove every infirmity in your body and send you divine healing. Feel better soon, babe.

May you wake up stronger each day and sleep peacefully each night. Your body is strengthened by the Lord.

I’m praying that you never carry a burden heavier than your heart can handle. Let God be your strength and love.

I pray that your mind continues to be clear, your heart full of hope, and your body at the peak of health. Take care of yourself, sweetheart.

I’m asking God to renew your strength and to heal you completely where you need it most.

May your immune system stay strong, may every illness in your body be rooted out, and may your spirit stay joyful. Feel better soon, babe.

I pray that neither stress nor illness will steal your peace, and exhaustion won’t weigh down your soul. I’m praying that you’re back on your feet as soon as possible.

May you never be overwhelmed by worry. May God help you rest, reset, and recover fully. Don’t worry about it, leave it in God’s hands.

I pray that healing flows through your body, mind, and soul. May you continue to enjoy a peace that surpasses understanding in Him.

I pray that you be protected from sickness, stress, and anything that drains your joy. You deserve lasting happiness and constant peace of mind.

I asked God to help you find rest without guilt and strength without pressure. Take care of yourself, my love.

Baby, I know you’re strong, but I’m praying God gives you the rest and recovery you deserve. I pray you don’t take up more than you can handle and that God will be with you every step of the way.

May your body be filled with energy, your mind filled with calm, and your heart filled with peace.

I’m praying for full health, deep healing, and lasting peace over your life, now and always.

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Birthday Prayers for My Boyfriend

If you’re wondering, “What birthday prayers for my boyfriend are out there?”, look no further. These special birthday prayers for your boyfriend wish him joy, blessings, and success on his special day.

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Happy birthday, my love. I pray that this year brings you joy, growth, and every blessing your heart desires.
On your birthday, I’m thanking God for you and asking Him to fill your year with success, peace, and love.

I pray that this new age marks the beginning of answered prayers and beautiful surprises for you, my darling. You deserve every single one.

Happy birthday, baby. May this year be your most joyful and fulfilling yet. I pray that God pours favour, success and light all over your life.

Happy birthday, baby. I’ve been praying for your health, your dreams, and everything your hands will touch this year. God will grant you success in all your endeavours and make your path to greatness easy. I love you!

I pray to God to make your steps sure, your path straight, and your future even brighter. May He go before you to straighten every crooked path and remove all obstacles. Happy birthday!

Happy birthday, my love! May every lesson from the past lead to breakthroughs in this new year of your life. You are destined for greatness.

I prayed that you enter this new age stronger, wiser, and surrounded by more love and success than ever before. Happy birthday.

May this new age bring elevation in every area of your life. May God grant you peace of mind and never-ending happiness. Happy birthday!

Happy birthday, my love. You are a star, and I’m praying for joy that lasts, love that uplifts, and blessings that never run dry.

I pray that God shows up big for you this year. I pray that He surprises you with favour and surrounds you with good people. Have an amazing birthday, darling.

Happy birthday, my bae! May laughter fill your days, purpose fill your heart, and grace guide your journey this new age. May God increase your wisdom so that you make even better choices than last year.

Happy birthday! May every seed you’ve planted this past year start to bloom in full colour, and may you reap a good reward of blessings this year.

Happy birthday, babe! May God make your birthday joyful and your year ahead unforgettable. May your path be filled with blessings and love.

Wishing you the best birthday ever. I commit your year into the hands of the Almighty to shower you with blessings and favour above all understanding. Have an amazing day.

Happy birthday, my love. May this birthday be the start of your best season yet. You’re covered in prayers and love, always.

Happy birthday to my favourite person. I’m praying for divine connections, open doors, and all the little things that make life feel beautiful.

On this special day, I’m thanking God for the gift of you and asking Him to continue moulding you into everything you’re meant to be and raise you up to be more. Have a wonderful day, babe.

As you celebrate another year around the sun today, may your faith rise, your worries shrink, and your success overflow in this new age. Have a fantastic birthday, my love.

You’re loved, you’re cherished , and you’re in my prayers today and always. Happy birthday, my heart.

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*Elizabeth, 31, never imagined she’d get married. Growing up plus-sized and overlooked, she believed romantic love was reserved for slim, conventionally attractive women. But then she met her husband, a tall, muscled man who still makes her question why he chose her. Three years in, she’s learning to unlearn what the world told her about desirability, partnership and love.

This is a look into her marriage diary.

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I didn’t think marriage was for people like me

Marriage never felt like something that was meant for me. I didn’t daydream about weddings or life with a partner. I didn’t even think I’d get that far. Not because I didn’t believe in love, but because I didn’t think it was something I could have. From childhood, I’d been plus-sized, and it was clear very early that I didn’t fit the image of a girl boys wanted. During school plays, no boy wanted to be paired with me. I wasn’t part of the girls’ group or seen as dainty or pretty. I internalised that, and over time, I quietly accepted that romantic love might not be mine.

Books and cartoons didn’t help either. All the princesses were slim, light-skinned and delicate, while their love interests were tall, broad-shouldered, classically handsome men. I never saw anyone who looked like me in those stories. Even in my own family, my mum is extremely beautiful and has always been admired. I saw how obsessed my dad was with her slim figure. He’d say things like, “Sweet mama looking 16,” and I sometimes wondered how she looked the way she did and I looked like me.

It became easy to believe that my parents’ beautiful marriage worked because of how desirable she was. All of it—books, movies, even my parents—reinforced this belief that people like me weren’t chosen. So I didn’t think much about relationships, let alone marriage.

I always wondered if my husband picked me out of pity

It still surprises me that I ended up with someone as good-looking as my husband. I’m not just saying that, he’s the kind of person people assume would be with someone who looks just as attractive. And I see the subtle reactions when we step out together. Some people don’t even hide the surprise on their faces. My husband says he doesn’t notice, but I do. I notice the slightly raised eyebrows, the smirk if it’s at social functions with “baddies” in attendance, and the piercing gaze from people who wouldn’t stop looking.

What surprises me more is how unshaken he is by it all. He’s convinced I’m beautiful, and his love shows up in how seriously he takes my confidence. If anyone makes a side comment or gives me that look, he finds a way to shut it down without ever making me feel pitied or “lucky” to be chosen. I know how ridiculous it sounds, but even now, three years in, I still sometimes ask myself how this is my reality.

A few months after he proposed, I came across an online conversation that shook me. It was a thread about how attractive men sometimes marry ‘less attractive’ women because it gives them control. According to the thread, these women are so “grateful” to be chosen that they’ll stay submissive and easy to manage. I tried to brush it off as social media noise, but it stayed with me. It seeped into my thoughts and kept me up at night.

I started pulling back, questioning everything—his motives, affection, whether I was a placeholder or someone he pitied. I even began projecting those doubts onto my family and friends. I had a conversation with my mum about it, and while she liked my husband, she also made it clear I shouldn’t stay in something that made me feel like I was receiving a favour.

One week later, I took my engagement ring, went to see him, and told him I didn’t think I could go ahead with the marriage. I told him everything: what I’d read, how I felt, the doubts I was battling. He listened quietly and then asked just one thing: “Are you saying you want to end this? Because if you do, I’ll respect your choice. I know what I committed to when I proposed to you, but I won’t force you.”

That moment brought everything into focus. I realised I was about to let strangers on the internet convince me to throw away something real. I broke down in tears. I wasn’t reacting to anything he’d done; I was reacting to my own fears. He wiped my tears, held me, and that was the moment I knew I couldn’t walk away.

Nothing prepared me for how much sex we’d be having

I barely dated anyone before my husband, so by implication, I didn’t have much sexual experience before marriage. Most of the men who approached me in the past wanted to explore some secret plus-sized fantasy. So I checked out of dating pretty early.

That’s why the frequency of sex in marriage came as a shock. My husband wanted it often, and I found myself saying yes even when I wasn’t in the mood — not because I felt pressured, but because I still couldn’t believe someone like him was this into me. The sex was good, too, so saying no didn’t come naturally.

Over time, we found a balance. When I’m not in the mood, I offer alternatives—massage, hand job, oral sex, foreplay. He never complains. But if I give nothing at all, that’s when things get tense. And when that happens, I spiral. I start to wonder if something has changed, if maybe he’s finally seeing what other people see. What if the scales fall from his eyes and he finds someone who looks more like what people expect? Someone slimmer, prettier, with the hourglass shape.

I remember confiding in my mum once, and her response was, “Have you forgotten your husband is a hot cake? Even if he doesn’t want other women, they’ll still chase him.” I didn’t like hearing it, but she wasn’t wrong. I just wanted to stop feeling like I had to earn his affection every single day.

Sometimes I wish he’d love me a little more quietly

Last year, we went on a beach getaway with two of his friends and their wives. I didn’t want to go, especially after seeing the wives’ Instagram pages. They were stunning “hot mums” with flat stomachs and flawless skin. Still, my husband insisted I come along. To avoid feeling self-conscious, I ordered plus-sized swimsuits and a kimono set. I wasn’t going to bare it all.

From the moment we arrived, the comments started. The other wives kept asking me to take off my kimono. They said it playfully, but I knew what it was. My husband joined them, insisting I didn’t need to hide, that I had the most beautiful body there. I eventually took it off, and he was his usual affectionate self. But I felt so exposed. Every stretch mark, every dark spot felt like it was on display.

When we got home, I told him how I felt. I reminded him that while I knew he loved me deeply, the world didn’t always see me the way he did. I told him I needed him to be more aware of my comfort, why I might hesitate to take pictures from certain angles or avoid outfits that show too much skin.

He felt bad, and I hated that. This is a man who loves me loudly and without shame. I realised I was asking him to tone down his love to match my insecurities, which wasn’t fair. What I really needed was to do the work to accept that this love is real and that I deserve it. Since then, I’ve tried to be more intentional when discussing these things. I want him to love me in public, and I’m learning to let him.

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Being loved like this changed how I see myself

I used to avoid social events, weddings, and even the gym. I lived in books and movies where the girl who looked like me never got chosen. But being loved consistently without conditions has changed me.

Now, I walk into spaces with my head high. Even when people stare, I don’t shrink under their gazes. I wear what I want. I’ve bought clothes I once thought would never suit me. I owe so much of that confidence to my husband. He changed how I see myself, down to how I dress and show up.

People say love isn’t enough to sustain a marriage, and they’re right in many ways. But I also think that when someone chooses you in a pure and unwavering way, that love can sustain anything. My husband has never made me feel like I need to earn his affection. He’s never said I owe him submission or perfection.

And maybe that’s why I still ask, “What does he really see in me?” I don’t have an answer. If I could speak to my younger self, I’d say: don’t disqualify yourself from love because the stories you’ve consumed say it’s not for people like you. You deserve good things, too. You always have. I still don’t fully understand why he chose me, but maybe that’s OK.

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Saying “good morning” might seem like a small gesture, but in the world of romance, it’s one of the most effective texts you can send to someone special. Whether you’re trying to make your love blush at 6 a.m. or remind them they’re cherished before a stressful day, romantic good morning messages can go a long way.

We’ve curated over 150 romantic good morning messages for couples in all stages of love. Whether you’re trying out a new pick-up line, sending sweet love messages, or managing a long-distance relationship, these messages will help your partner start their day on the right note.

Romantic Good Morning Message for Her

If your woman lights up your world with just a smile, then she deserves a romantic good morning message for her to start the day feeling loved. These deep love messages for her are perfect for saying “I love you” without always saying the words.

Good morning, Arike mi. I woke up thinking about the way your voice wraps around my name like a song. I know you have a long day ahead, but please carry my love with you like perfume. Let it linger on your skin, protect your joy, and remind you that someone somewhere is thinking of you and praying for your peace.

Ololufe mi, may this morning bring ease to your soul and light to your path. You are the softness I never knew I needed. May your steps be favoured, and may you walk into rooms where your name has already opened doors. I love you more with each sunrise.

Good morning, my superwoman. I hope you’re rested and ready for a beautiful day. Your presence fills my life with joy and love every single day.

Good morning, my Achalugo. Your presence in my life feels like the perfect blend of strength and softness. May you face today with all the boldness your name carries. You are not alone, my love. I’m with you in every step, every thought, every breath.

Good morning, my queen. May your day be as beautiful and purposeful as your spirit. I’m rooting for you, always.

Hey, gorgeous. Another beautiful day awaits your touch. Even as I miss your warmth beside me, I feel your kindness and quiet strength across the miles. Face every moment with that resilient spirit I adore, and know my love is a gentle anchor for you, always.

Eight billion faces, and yours is my favourite to wake up to every morning. Have a beautiful day ahead, baby.

Is it a bright and glorious morning, or does it seem that way to me because I will meet you today after months apart?

I now know how it feels to be in love because every morning I open my eyes, you are the first thing that comes to my mind. Have a good day, Ayanfe mi.

You’re the first person I thought of this morning, and that’s how I want every day to start.

Morning, baby. I pray your hustle today comes with ease, favour, and joy. You deserve nothing less.

Every day I wake up, I thank God again for sending you my way. You are my answered prayer.

Good morning, babe. I hope you woke up well. I’ve been thinking about your laugh and how it fills up rooms and makes my chest loosen. May today be kind to you. And when it isn’t, remember I’m just one call or message away.

Onitemi, you carry grace like royalty, and every day I get to call you mine, I am reminded that God still answers prayers. May today reward you for your quiet sacrifices and make your efforts sing. Wake up, my queen. Your kingdom awaits.

My one and only Achalugo, I pray your day flows gently like your spirit. I pray no one rushes your joy or interrupts your peace. This is the day the Lord has made, and everything good is coming. Call me when you get the chance.

If I could, I’d deliver breakfast to your bedside and kiss your forehead before you start your day. One day soon, insha Allah.

You’re not just the love of my life, you’re my peace. May this morning bring you calm and clarity.

Good morning, my love. I hope you slept like a baby. I’m just here dreaming about our trip to Ibadan last month. Maybe we should plan another one soon. Have a fantastic day and let me know if you’re still coming over.

Hey you. I called your phone a couple of times, but it wasn’t going through. Just wanted to check on you. I hope you had a restful night and are ready for today. Love you.

Good morning, babe. I know I promised to stop by this morning, but I woke up super late. I’ll come visit on my way back home. Don’t miss me too much, and have a beautiful day.

Rise and shine, my heartbeat. Even Lagos traffic can’t ruin your glow.

Sweetheart, don’t let the world rush you today. Move like the queen you are.

Good morning, my sugar. Go out and show today why you’re a force to be reckoned with.

My dearest, I hope you slept well. I prayed for you before I slept and again when I opened my eyes. May today bring you laughter, clarity, and the kind of peace only God can give. Remember, you are my answered prayer.

My baby girl, before you get lost in meetings, errands, and that mountain of emails, I just wanted to say: I love the way you carry your mind. I love the way you listen and laugh and show up for everyone you love. But don’t forget to show up for yourself too. And text me when you’re free. I miss you already.

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Romantic Good Morning Message for Him

Whether he’s a romantic softie or a hard guy, a well-timed good morning message for him reminds your man he’s on your mind. Any of these deep love messages for him will have your man smiling at his phone bright and early.

This is to remind you that no one will love you like me. Good morning to you, my king.

Good morning, Olowo ori mi. I pray this new day meets you with the strength of a warrior and the softness of love. May your shoulders not grow weary, and may every effort be met with reward. I’m proud of the man you are, and I’m even more grateful to be loved by you.

Good morning, baby boy. You’ve taught me that love is not just about passion, it’s about patience, presence, and choosing someone over and over. I choose you again today. May your steps be firm and your mind calm.

Hey babe. I’ve gone through many romantic good morning messages, but nothing compares to writing straight from my heart. Thank you for being the best partner any woman could dream of. I wish you a day filled with joy and lots of love. I love you.

Good morning, my man. Go and conquer your day like the king you are. I believe in you endlessly.

I don’t care how tough your day looks. Just know that somewhere, I’m proud of you and cheering you on.

Good morning, Ololufe mi. I hope you slept like a king and woke up with your spirit calm. I know today might ask a lot from you, but I want you to remember you don’t have to carry it all at once. You’ve got me. Always.

My sugar-tongued man, the one whose voice still echoes in my head hours after we talk. Wake up o, the day is waiting for your magic.

Hey baby. Go out there and conquer the day. But come back to me with your tired smile and hungry eyes. I’ll be here.

Ayanfe mi, I hope your heart feels light this morning. I know you carry a lot in silence, but you don’t have to pretend with me. You are allowed softness here. Breathe easy today. And if it ever feels too much, just say the word. I’ll come running.

Good morning, my king. Rise and shine. Remember that incredible strength you carry within? Go out there today and use it to conquer everything you set your mind to. I believe in you completely, and I’m always cheering you on.

Hey boo. Another day, another chance to be amazing. Whatever challenges come your way today, face them with the same courage and wisdom you always show. You’re capable of incredible things, and I’m so proud to be by your side.

Good morning, my rock. Hope you slept well. Today is a fresh start, a blank canvas for you to paint with your brilliance. Don’t hold back. Let your light shine. I’m here for you, no matter what.

Morning, my ambitious man. Don’t just chase your dreams today, catch them. Every effort you put in brings you closer to your goals. Remember how much potential you have. Wishing you focus, clarity, and unstoppable drive.

Good morning, my incredible love. Waking up with you in my heart already makes this day brighter. Go out there and conquer everything, knowing that my admiration for your strength and drive grows every single day. You truly inspire me.

Good morning, babe. Just a reminder: you’re not alone. You’ve got someone here cheering you on, even from miles away. Rooting for you in whispers and in prayers.

My man, my peace. I woke up thinking about your arms and how safe they feel. If I could press rewind and replay last night’s voice note again, I would. I hope today reminds you of your own greatness.

Waking up to a world where you exist? That’s already a win. Have a beautiful day, my heartbeat.

Good morning, baby. If today tries any nonsense, just remember, “Who dey breet?” You’ve got this.

Morning, my king. I pray today brings you success and joy. Thank you for being the pillar of our family.

Baby, you carry so much on your shoulders. Please breathe, pace yourself, and let my love hold you together today.

May your hustle bring reward, your mind stay calm, and your heart remember I’m always with you.

Hey baby boy. Did you sleep well and dream about me? The only acceptable answer is yes. Anyway, I want you to walk into today knowing there’s someone here who’s rooting for you like breath. You’ve got it.

I woke up thinking about how lucky I am to have you. You are my peace in this chaotic world.

Your strength inspires me. Your love grounds me. Have a beautiful day, my gentle giant.

My crown, the one who walks with quiet confidence and speaks with wisdom. Good morning. I don’t know what this day holds, but I do know you’ll handle it with the strength I admire so much. My love covers you like armour today.

Hey lover boy. I woke up smiling and knew I had to tell you. If the world forgets how precious you are today, let this message remind you: I see you. Every day. And I love you for all that you are and all that you’re becoming.

Morning, handsome. Text me if your day starts getting long. I’ll remind you why I’m still your favourite distraction.

You’re not just my man. You’re my safe place. May today bring you safety and soft wins.

I prayed for you this morning. I told God to cover you from stress, wahala, and any nonsense client.

The world is ours for the taking, dear. I know we can conquer it together. Thanks for being a total sweetheart, and have the best morning.

Good morning, my king. Your queen adores you so much.

If I could hug you right now, I would. But for now, take this message as a full-body cuddle.

Obi’m, if you could see how I smile when your name crosses my mind, you’d never question how deep this love runs. May today honour your work and bring ease to your plans. You are covered in grace, surrounded by favour, and deeply loved.

Oko mi, I hope this message finds you before the weight of the world tries to. Don’t forget: you are enough. You’ve always been enough. May every door you knock on today open wide. And when the day tires you, come home. There’ll always be rest in my arms.

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Sweet Good Morning Message for Someone Special

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Not every love story comes with labels. Sometimes, all you know is they’re special, and you want them to feel it. These sweet and romantic good morning messages for someone special — whether it’s new love or a sneaky situationship — will make their heart race.

Good morning to the person I didn’t plan for but can’t stop thinking about.

The biggest smile on my face has always been because of you. Good morning, my love.

I’m not sure what we are yet, but you’ve made mornings feel softer. Thank you.

Good morning, my peace in human form. I woke up with gratitude for your existence. You’re the gentlest part of my day, the one I want to tell things to first and last. May today meet you with soft winds, kind people, and small surprises that remind you how deeply you’re loved.

My person, the one who sees me clearly and loves me anyway — good morning. I don’t take you for granted. Life feels lighter with you in it. May this day treat you with the same tenderness you’ve shown my heart.

My safe space, good morning. I know I say “I love you” often, but today, I want to say “thank you.” For being kind. For showing up. For being the person I can trust with both my laughter and my silence.

There’s something about you that makes even a text feel like a warm hug. Good morning, sweetheart.

Good morning, you. I don’t know what kind of spell you cast on me, but waking up without checking your name on my phone feels wrong now. I hope your morning is off to a great start. You’re in my thoughts, always.

Hi sunshine. I know we’re not using big labels yet, but my heart already has one for you. I hope your day flows with ease, your wins come early, and you get little reasons to smile at random. Text me when you can.

Sweetheart, I dreamt of us last night — not in fantasy, but in full colour. Just you and me, laughing at nothing. Waking up was rude, but I smiled anyway. Knowing you exist makes this day better already.

Good morning, my person who’s become too important. I don’t know how you did it, but I’m not even mad. I’m just here, sending light, hoping your day brings you closer to joy — and maybe to me too.

You’ve been on my mind since my eyes opened. I know that sounds dramatic, but it’s true. That’s how special you’ve become. Please don’t stress today. Eat something good. Call me if you miss me.

I hope today treats you kindly. And if it doesn’t, I hope you text me about it.

Good morning, b. You’re slowly becoming my favourite part of every day. Let’s see where this goes.

I saw something that reminded me of you yesterday, and I smiled like a fool. Can today bring more of that?

Morning, you. Just in case you forgot, someone out there thinks you’re magic. That someone is me.

Morning, best. I don’t need to look at the sun to know morning has come. I only need to remember you’re out there, making the world warmer just by existing.

Did I ever tell you that you are not just my person, but the calm my life didn’t know it needed? Good morning, my love.

We may not be “serious” yet, but I seriously care about you. Good morning.

If you’re reading this, I hope your heart feels lighter and your day feels softer.

Just thinking of you this morning makes me smile. Good morning, baby. Please text me as soon as you get this.

Sweetheart, I prayed for you this morning — not just for success, but for stillness. That in the rush of your day, you find quiet pockets of joy. You’re more than special to me. You’re necessary.

Good morning, my heart’s compass. Since you entered my life, I no longer feel lost. You centre me. You remind me that I’m deserving of a love that listens, stays, and holds space. Go into today knowing that you’re someone’s miracle.

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Flirty Good Morning Message to Tease Your Lover

A Nigerian lady smiling at her phone in bed as she reads a romantic good morning message

Romantic doesn’t always have to mean serious. Sometimes, all you need is a cheeky tease or a “wish you were in my bed” kind of text to warm their heart. These flirty yet romantic good morning messages are perfect for lovers who want to keep things spicy.

Good morning, sugar lips. Are you awake, or are you still dreaming of me? Either way, I hope I’m the first thought in your head — and if not, I’ll forgive you, but only if you call me in that voice that makes me weak.

Morning, trouble. You better behave today… or not. I like you naughty.

I dreamt about you last night. Don’t ask questions. Just come and collect your punishment.

My body misses you this morning. My mind too. And don’t even ask about my hands.

Get up, sleepyhead. I would’ve let you sleep more, but I needed to remind you that someone out here thinks you’re extremely hot and annoyingly kissable. Guess who? Text me for clues.

Good morning to my finest problem. The way you live rent-free in my mind should be a crime. I hope you dreamt of me the way I dreamt of you — shirtless and smiling.

Wakey wakey, troublemaker. This isn’t any of your typical romantic good morning messages. I had a dream you were teasing me again, that annoying smirk and all. Now I’m up and craving your special mischief. Guess who I’m blaming? You.

Hey babe, rise and shine. Or just rise. I’ll handle the shining when I see you later. Wear that scent I like. Don’t stress me too much today.

Good morning, my favourite distraction. I’ve got a lot to do, but you’ve already hijacked my thoughts. Do with that information what you will.

Hello, my temptress. How are you both the reason I smile and the reason I can’t concentrate at work? This morning, I just want to remind you that I’m still under your spell. Now go be hot and soft for me. I’ll see you later.

If kisses were breakfast, I’d serve you a full buffet.

Rise and shine, sexy. But if you want to snooze in my arms, I won’t complain.

Morning, hot stuff. My bed feels awfully empty without you. Just sayin’.

Hey there, sleepyhead. Guess what I dreamt about? You. Want details later?

My sweet problem, get up and start your day, but don’t get too distracted. You still owe me kisses for the ones you didn’t give me last night. I’ll be collecting with interest soon. Enjoy your morning, troublemaker.

I hope your morning coffee tastes half as good as you do.

Your lips owe me some things after that dream I had. Should I gist you?

Morning, sugar. Let me know when you’re ready to be distracted today. I have ideas.

Today looks like the kind of day you’ll need extra kisses for luck. Send location.

Hey, you. Just wanted to say good morning and that I’m officially missing your lips already.

Good morning, sexy. Go rock your day, and save some energy for our next video call. You know why.

I pray your enemies stay far, but I plan to stay close. Especially when you wear that shirt I like.

Good morning, my fine agbaya. I hope you didn’t sleep too well without me. My arms were missing their favourite pillow. Let today pass quickly so we can make up for lost time tonight.

Lover boy, if I could bottle your scent and wear it like perfume, I would. You were the star of my dreams last night — again. Come collect your rent, because you’ve been living in my head for free. Have a naughty, productive day.

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Good Morning Message for Long-Distance Relationships

When you can’t touch or see your love as much as you’d like, your words have to do the holding. These romantic good morning messages for long-distance relationships are perfect for reminding your person that even miles away, you’re still theirs.

Good morning, my love. Even from miles away, you’re the closest thing to my heart.

I wish I could start this day beside you, but for now, this text will carry all the kisses I can’t give you in person.

Some days, the distance hurts, but loving you makes it worth it.

You’re always one text, one prayer, and one dream away from me. That’s how I cope.

I’ll never get used to waking up without you beside me, but I’ll wait for the day that changes.

Morning, my love. I woke up thinking about that funny story you told me yesterday, and it made me smile. Hope you’re feeling refreshed and ready to conquer your day. Missing your presence already. Call me when you get a moment.

Hey, my sunshine. Did you finally get that rest you needed? Just wanted to send some good vibes your way before the madness begins. I’m already missing you. Take it easy today, okay? And let me know how that meeting goes.

Chai, my baby, good morning o! I miss your smile already. I was just remembering our date last month — that time we cooked together — and it made me miss you even more. Can’t wait to spend time with you again.

Rise and shine, my darling. You were on my mind when I woke up. Just wanted to tell you I miss you so much and hope your morning is going smoothly. What are you having for breakfast? I want the same.

Morning, my gem. Woke up with a huge smile thinking about that trip we’re planning. It made me miss you even more. Just wanted to check if you’ve got everything ready for today’s class. Sending you big virtual hugs and all my love.

Good morning, handsome. Just wanted to send a quick message to let you know you’re my first thought, even with the distance. I’m already missing the sound of your laughter. How are things looking for your day over there? Don’t hesitate to reach out if you need anything at all.

The time zones don’t matter when my love for you is constant. Have a beautiful day, baby.

We may not share a room, but we still share a rhythm. I woke up thinking of you, again.

Until the day I get to wake you up with forehead kisses, this will do.

Every message I send carries a bit of my heart. One day, I’ll deliver it in person.

Don’t let the distance fool you. I love you louder, stronger, and more deliberately every day.

Good morning, my heartbeat in a different time zone. I wish I could kiss your forehead and whisper this in your ear. But until then, let these words do: I love you, I miss you, and I’m proud of the life you’re building. May today feel lighter for you.

Obi’m, the bed feels too big without you. The silence is too loud. But I hold on to the memories we’re building and the future that’s waiting for us. May this day bring you closer to coming back to me.

Good morning, my faraway love. I hope you woke up with peace in your heart and my name on your lips. I thought of crafting many romantic good morning messages, but I’m just here to confess that this distance is hard, but loving you isn’t. Every new day is one step closer to the day I don’t have to miss you this much.

Olowo ori mi, I know this morning came without my arms around you, but my love is still there — in every breath, every text, every prayer. I’m rooting for you. And when you feel tired, just remember: your person is waiting on the other side of this distance.

Obi’m, I dreamt of you again last night. Not in any dramatic, film-type way — just us sitting, talking, existing in each other’s softness. Can’t wait to spend the next weekend with you. This distance is killing me.

My North Star, how are you always the first light in my sky, even from so far away? I miss your laughter, your warmth, your steady presence. But I believe in our love, and I believe in us. Keep going. I’ll be here, loving you across the miles.

Good morning, my faraway person. I woke up missing your warmth again. This distance is doing too much, but I keep reminding myself that every sunrise brings us closer. I can’t wait to hold you again.

My love, my person. It’s morning here, but I know our clocks don’t align. Still, I hope whenever you see this, you feel wrapped in my love, the same way I wish I could wrap myself around you.

Good morning, my love. Waking up thinking of you makes every mile disappear. Have a beautiful day.

Morning, my heart. Even from afar, you’re my first thought and my deepest missing. Shine bright today.

Hey, my darling. Rise and shine. Wishing I could kiss you awake. Sending you my love all the way from Abuja to Lagos for a wonderful day.

Good morning, my dear. The distance is tough, but my love for you is tougher. May the best man win.

I miss you. There’s no fancy way to say it. I miss the way you laugh, your voice notes, your sleepy voice. But I’m holding on, because I know we’ll make it through. And when we do, it’ll be worth every kilometre.

Good morning from this side of the world. I know it’s not the same, but this message is my way of kissing your forehead and wishing you a gentle day. One day, it won’t be just texts. We’ll wake up next to each other.

Hello, my long-distance heartbeat. I hope today isn’t too heavy. I’ll carry you in my thoughts. And when it gets hard, just remember: this love isn’t going anywhere. I’m still here. Always.

I spent last night going through all your photos. When I see you this June, I’ll eat you all up. Tell your office people they’ll only have one hour of you every day till I leave. You make this life worth living. I love you, Gem. So much. Today, always.

Good morning to the most handsome man in the universe. I love you.

I think it’s time to move in together. Texting you good morning isn’t going to work forever; I want to be waking up right next to you.

Wake up, wake up, wake up, wake up. (Marvin Gaye voice) We have some sexual healing to do when I see you.

Wow. The hottest person in the world is awake. Good morning, darling.

Big head. So if I didn’t text you good morning, that’s how you would have proceeded without me? Anyway, let me know what you want to have for breakfast.

Good morning, fine girl. I hope you dreamt of me, because if not, you need to go back to sleep, fix that and text me one of your best romantic good morning messages.

All I crave this morning is the feel of your gentle skin against mine, a kiss on my forehead and lips, and a warm hug. I love you.

Good morning, my precious. Though we’re thousands of miles apart, you make every day worthwhile. Sending you my warmest hugs.

Morning, my love. Even across the miles, thoughts of you fills my day with joy. Go be amazing today.

Good morning, my world. You’re my reason for smiling, even from a far distance. Let’s make today incredible. Talk later.

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What’s your earliest memory of each other?

Curious. What did you need her pictures for, Jessy?

Right. So, how did the learning period go?

What did you talk about outside of forex?

Did the feelings conversation come up at any point in time?

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But you kept playing along. Curious, how did that work?

Did you know you were being strung along earlier on, Jessy?

Goodness, you mentioned being in a relationship. How did that end?

Why didn’t you just end things before moving to Jessy?

Were you aware, Jessy?

Right. Let’s talk about the early days of your relationship. What were they like?

Sounds like a rocky start.

Were there good days? Particularly, how were you convinced you liked each other?

Wait, what?

Jessy, did you consider seeing someone else? And did her sexuality bother you?

Wild. You’ve both said the early days were toxic. Why didn’t you just break up?

But did it make sense to give it another shot, Goodness? Were you scared of loneliness?

I bet. How did you guys fix things when you got back together?

How did you feel about her relocation?

Right. How have the last two years been? Particularly, how have you maintained trust and kept the relationship going?

Given her cheating history, did you ever worry that she wasn’t fully committed now that she was abroad?

Jessy, you said you wanted to end things. Why didn’t you?

Right. How would you say being with each other has changed you?

Speaking of acceptance, how do you both see the future of this relationship?

How easy has it been keeping to the “no cheating” rule, Goodness?

Fair enough. How would you rate your love life on a scale of 1-10?

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Apology Message for Her

Apology Message for Him

Romantic Apology Message

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Short and Sweet Apology Message

Heart Touching Apology Message

Funny and Lighthearted Apology Message

Apology Message after a Fight

Apology Message for Long-Distance Relationships

“We stopped having sex in my 50s and I didn’t miss it” — *Grace, 82

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“We didn’t have sex for a year because I didn’t trust her anymore” — *Bayo, 41

“Boiling water spilled on me, it took two months to come back from that” — *Kenny, 38

“Everywhere was dry like desert” — *Gregory, 34

“I haven’t touched my husband since 2022” — *Adebola, 36

“We went a full year without sex” — *Hariff, 29

“After my mum died, I didn’t want anyone touching me” — *Kemi, 28

How long have you been with your partner?

How did you meet?

Were you expecting that?

Did you and Rufai discuss financial expectations before marriage?

Does he still give you an allowance?

You seem particular about making your own money

Right. Is there any room for things like dates in your relationship?

Out of curiosity, what’s your relationship with your co-wife like?

How are you and Rufai thinking about safety nets?

What’s your ideal financial future as a couple?

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This is Derayo*’s story as told to Betty:

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Let’s start from day one. How did your friendship with Ibrahim take off?

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What was your friendship with Ibrahim like?

How did that come about?

Wow. That must have shocked your dad.

How was living with Ibrahim’s family like?

What went wrong then?

How so? Can you give me an example?

That must have hurt. I’m sorry.

Did you ever confront Ebele about his lies?

I’m so sorry about that. What did you do next?

What’s your friendship with Ibrahim like these days?

What did they say is going on?

How does this make you feel?

Fair enough. What about Ibrahim? Would you reconcile with him if he reached out to you or showed an interest?

Has your experience with Ibrahim and Ebele changed the way you navigate friendships?

“Generally, I appreciate whenever I get caught struggling to do something, and my person catches me and immediately comes to my aid.” — Noah*(25), M, Limb Length Discrepancy

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“One of the challenges I face is that I tend to meet extroverts who find it hard to adjust to the amount of quietness needed to be around me” — Mosope*(28), F, Hyperacusis

“Sometimes my silence is mistaken for anger or disinterest, when in fact, I just need a different way to connect.” Demilade*(27), M, Deafness

“One of the biggest challenges I faced in my last relationship was the pressure to perform happiness” — Mariam*(29), F, Clinical Depression

“With my current partner, I can speak as candidly as I want to without offending her” — Alani*(26), M, Autism/Attention Deficit Disorder

**This is Derayo*’s story as told to Betty:**