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Before the sold-out music tours, performance at the BET Awards, and luxury wristwatches, there was a young talent named Davido and a talent manager named Asa Asika. Last weekend, Asika got married to the love of his life, Leona Adesanya in Lagos and a viral video of Davido crying during a speech at the wedding showed the bond between both men.

What started as a manager-artist link-up in the early 2010s has now grown into one of Afrobeats’ most iconic partnerships, complete with a silent breakup, a wholesome reunion, and enough full-circle moments to make other musicians jealous.

Asika and Davido’s friendship has survived egos, growth, and the madness of fame. Through it all, they’ve given us some of the biggest moments in Nigerian pop culture.

Here’s a complete timeline of their friendship: from the first link-up to the bromance that brought Davido to tears at Asika’s wedding last weekend.

Pre-2010s: Asa Asika and Davido became casual friends

In an interview that Asa Asika did in 2020 on Joey Akan’s Afrobeats Intelligence podcast, he said he doesn’t remember the first time he met Davido, but they were both teenagers. Asika was at Whitesands School and Davido at British International School (BIS).

Some boys in Asika’s class in Whitesands moved to BIS, and became Davido’s classmates. Some moved from Davido’s class in BIS and ended up at Whitesands too. “We had a few of those kinds of friends. We knew each other. I knew there was this guy David that used to make music,” he said.

He also said that some of their friends convinced them to work together. Davido was known as the guy who had a great passion for music. As a teenager, Asika had worked with singer YQ, who was signed to Storm360, a record label owned by Obi Asika (Asa’s uncle) at the time. It made sense that their school friends saw potential in them and tried to convince them to work together.

But at the time, Davido was only interested in being a music producer and label owner, not a musician.

2010: Asa Asika managed Davido

In the late 2010s, when Asika was still trying to work with Nero NPZ, Davido’s cousin, he called Asika to say he was ready to give being a musician a shot. Asika was aligned, and it was go-time. “We always used to say it. You [Davido] can do this better than all these people,” Asika said.

Davido was working on his first single, “Back When”. He finished the song in Nigeria and featured Naeto C, Asika’s cousin, on it. That period was Asika’s first rodeo with talent management. At age 20, he became Davido’s manager.

Together, they did the groundwork for what became HKN Music, Davido’s first record label. Under Asika’s management, Davido’s “Back When” and “Dami Duro” blew up and made him a household name.

2012: Asa Asika and Davido split

However, after working together on Davido’s first album, Omo Baba Olowo: The Genesis and releasing it, they split up. Rumours arose that they split due to ego clashes and industry pressure. Some said it was a business disagreement, but none could be confirmed. They never aired their dirty laundry in public.

In 2013, Asika focused on his personal music company, StarGaze Management Company. In 2016, he founded The Plug Entertainment, an entertainment and management firm alongside Bizzle Osikoya.

Davido, on the other hand, had a new manager called Kamal Ajiboye during that period, launched another label, Davido Music Worldwide (DMW), signed a deal with Sony Music and released his Son of Mercy EP, which wasn’t critically acclaimed.

Though they were apart regarding work, that didn’t stop them from making money together as friends. According to Asika, they made more money together when they split than when they first worked together.

Late 2016/Early 2017: Asa Asika and Davido reunited

By the time Asika and Davido got back to working together, they had both evolved. Asika had worked with more artists, like Ayo Jay, BOJ, Naeto C, DJ Obi, Black Magic, etc. Davido has had major label experience and achieved more success in his music career.

Asika once stated that he wasn’t impressed with how the Son of Mercy EP performed, but it gave him insight about what worked when he was in the team and when he wasn’t. “Everybody saw the difference when I came back. So, everybody knew that these guys [him and Davido] together are a force. Me and him [Davido] always knew it was just a thing of us being men and say that ‘Oya, let’s go and do this.”

Davido rehired Asika as his manager in 2017. It was a surprise but a welcome comeback. That same year, Davido released “If” and “Fall.” Both songs went on to kickstart OBO’s international crossover.

Since the two got back together as musician and manager, their professional relationship has flourished. They remain among the most successful artist-manager duos in African music history.

2025: Davido cries at Asa Asika’s wedding

Over the weekend of May 16th, 2025, the most talked-about event was Asa Asika’s wedding to Leona Adesanya. “Davido’s manager is getting married” and “It’s the wedding of the guy who blew OBO” were the kind of comments that spread on the internet. Also, thanks to the ever-present media and to Davido’s vibrant self, several moments from the wedding that revealed the depth of their friendship went viral online.

From making an enthusiastic comment, “Person wey change my life for fourteen years” and bringing out bundles of Naira notes to lavish at Asika’s wedding, it was a wholesome weekend of celebration, loyalty and bromance for Davido and Asa Asika.

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The Nigerian experience is physical, emotional, and sometimes international. No one knows it better than our features on #TheAbroadLife, a series where we detail and explore Nigerian experiences while living abroad.

Debby moved to the UK and discovered that the hairdressing skills she picked up casually in Nigeria could help her pay her bills in her new country. In this story, she shares how one hurtful experience with a client she befriended has forced her never to befriend her clients again.

Where do you live, and when did you relocate from Nigeria?

I live in London, United Kingdom, and I moved here two years ago because I wanted a better life for myself.

What has changed since you moved?

My life has significantly improved, but there are still things I’m struggling with. I came in through the work route, so making friends has been difficult. It is easier for people who come in through the school route to make friends because like-minded people surround them. But for me, it has not been easy. People usually assume I’ll have a better chance of making friends because I’m a hairdresser, but I haven’t had much luck there. On the positive side, I am in a better place financially. I had a good life in Nigeria, but there’s a way I can afford things with ease here. If you’re craving something in Nigeria, you’ll have to rethink your life decisions. Here, you have the financial freedom to do different things.

That’s interesting. How did hairdressing come into the picture?

I actually learned hairdressing because I was bored in Nigeria. My mum used to tell us [my siblings and I] to learn a skill, so I picked up hairdressing. As to how it became a profession? I moved to London and realised needed a better way to pay bills so I started making hair.

When I started my business, I was afraid I wouldn’t get customers because I didn’t have friends to refer me. My auntie encouraged me to just post about it on Twitter. I followed her advice, and it has done wonders for my business. I couldn’t even believe the number of orders I got. One of the reasons I got that many orders is that my price is cheaper than that of most of the hairstylists in London. I’ve tried to get my hair done in London, and the prices are not budget-friendly. That’s one of the things I considered when I was creating my price list.

Does that affect how much profit you make?

When I started, I just told myself I would continue making hair with the mindset that I’m still in Nigeria. I didn’t want to charge people €150 because that’s a lot of money to pay for braids in Nigeria. I charge as low as €55 here, which is still fair and enough to pay my bills.

What does a typical day in your work life look like?

I don’t work on more than two clients every week. I have a day job, so it’s not every day I can make hair. I post the dates I am available for my clients to book their appointments. I guess that explains why I haven’t really been able to make friends.

Have you considered befriending the clients you get along with?

I could, but I don’t want to be friends with my customers. I’ve tried it a few times, but it has never ended well. But there is one particular experience that made me set up that boundary. Once, I made friends with a customer who lived outside of London, and as a gesture of my friendship, I offered to always do her hair for free if she could find her way to London. All was good and fine until I mentioned once that she had to pay me for a service – not long after, I saw she posted a video, and I saw in it that she had done her hair. I felt deeply hurt because she could travel down to get her hair done when it was free of charge, but didn’t hesitate to use another hairdresser the moment I asked to be paid. Since then, I’ve been sceptical about making friends with my customers.

So why do you think you still find it difficult to find your community?

I’m the problem. I’m a very reserved person, so it’s hard for me to open up and connect with people. The few times I’ve actually made friends, we always end up having clashing schedules or running out of things to talk about. Everyone has something to do, and it can be a whole lot of drama sometimes.

Do you ever feel lonely?

Sometimes. But that’s mostly because the U.K. itself is a lonely place. In Nigeria, for example, you can just go to a friend’s house for a sleepover, but you can’t really do that here. In the UK, I can stay in my room for two weeks without having anywhere to go. In Nigeria, I always had somewhere to go. Even if you have somewhere to go in the UK, there’s always one shift to attend to.

That’s crazy. Have you experienced any culture shock since you moved?

Yes, and I think the biggest one is the pay-for-yourself culture. You must pay for yourself if you get invited to a birthday dinner. Even if you get invited out on a date, you’ll split bills by 50/50. The first time I went out with a non-Nigerian Nigerian, he asked me, “How are we going to split the bill?” and I was shocked. I’ve just decided to stick to my Nigerian men because, at least, you don’t need to split bills with them—most of the white guys that I have talked to have the same mindset. Even the ones my friends have met are the same regarding money.

Have you kept in touch with your Nigerian friends?

Not really. We’ve fallen out. We didn’t even fight or anything. It just happened.

On a scale of one to ten, rank how happy you are in the UK

I’ll say five. I don’t think anybody is ever truly happy. Even in Nigeria, I wasn’t truly happy, so that has nothing to do with the UK.

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Since getting into that relationship, your replies are slower, you’re never available, and somehow, every conversation circles back to “Babe.” It’s almost as if the sun and moon revolve around them.

You don’t mean to be a bad friend, but things are different, and someone has to tell you.

5 Signs You’re Becoming a Part-Time Friend

You might not notice, but your friends have. If you’re guilty of even one of these, it’s time for a wake-up call. We spoke to five Nigerians who have been on the receiving end, and here’s what they had to say.

1. Your Availability Depends on Babe

Before, your bestie got real-time updates about your life — chaotic voice notes about your daily breakdowns, the full gist. Now? You only remember them when Babe is busy. And when they text you? All they get are dry responses like ‘lmao’ and ‘that’s crazy.’

Lolu*, 29, told Zikoko about how her childhood friendship gradually faded. “We used to talk every day about everything,” she said. “But once she started dating, things slowly changed. At first, it was very subtle — missed calls, short replies. It became obvious when I found myself carrying our conversations. I understood she was in a new phase of life, but that didn’t make it less painful.”

2. You Keep Cancelling Plans

Your bestie plans a link-up, and you’re excited until Babe wants to do something that same day. Next thing, you’re texting, “Can we reschedule?” (How many times in a row?)

It might seem like nothing to you, but to your friend, it screams, “You don’t matter.”

Osaz*, 25, told Zikoko how her roommate-turned-bestie made her feel invisible. “The little things we used to do just vanished because she never had time,” she shared. “I hated that every together activity became a lone activity.”

And when you do manage to show up, you’re one “my babe said” away from disappearing mid-hangout.

3. Every Conversation Is About Your Relationship

Your friend: “Work has been stressful.”

You: “OMG, same! My babe made me food yesterday to make me feel better sha.”

Somehow, every conversation becomes a TED Talk about your relationship. Not that you shouldn’t be excited about love, but must every story have your babe as the main character?

Tunde*, 27, was over it with his roommate of six years. “I honestly felt like we didn’t have a friendship anymore,” he told Zikoko. “It was frustrating that we couldn’t talk about anything else.”

4. You’ve Stopped Being Present

You finally link up, but are you really there? Physically, yes. Emotionally? You’re deep in conversation with Babe on WhatsApp while your friend is baring their soul. They’re probably wondering, Who is this, and what have they done with my friend?

Tolu*, 30, knows the pain of feeling alone in the presence of someone who’s supposed to care. “I would tell him things, and he just wouldn’t remember. It used to get on my nerves a lot. But the last straw was when I lost someone close to me, and he barely asked how I was doing.”

5. You Only Remember Them When You Need To Rant

The moment you and Babe argue? Your friend becomes your emergency therapist. You rant, get their advice (which you never follow), and even worse? You go back to Babe and download all the negative things your friend said while defending you. It’s giving betrayal.

Chisom*, 25, experienced this firsthand. “One time, her boyfriend slipped and said something to me that I had told her in confidence,” she said. “I couldn’t even find it in me to be annoyed.” If this is you, you’re not just a bad friend. You’re wicked.

We Asked A Relationship Coach How To Fix It

If this sounds like your current friendship dynamic, you’ve got a problem. And if you don’t address it, you might lose a good one.

We asked relationship counsellor Adesuwa Isénérè, founder of Heartdrops with Suess, how to fix things before it’s too late.

1. Own Up to It

If you’ve ticked every box, the first step is to admit it.

“Start with a sincere apology,” Adesuwa shares. “Acknowledge their feelings without making excuses. You can’t truly understand how they feel because you are not them. You don’t see things from their perspective. Reassure them that you’re ready to repair the relationship and ask how you can make amends. Be intentional about expressing your love and consistently show up for them. That’s how trust is rebuilt.”

2. Make Time (Intentionally)

If you have time for dates, you can make time for your bestie, too. Adesuwa explains, “It’s natural to be engrossed in the excitement of a new relationship. I mean, romance is sweet. However, please maintain your existing friendships. Everyone has a role to play in your life, so abandoning your friends is cheating yourself out of a wholesome experience.”

She adds, “Schedule regular catch-ups with your friends and involve your partner in group activities. It’s your responsibility to foster inclusion. They’re all important to you and should be treated as such. Besides, a well-balanced social life would improve your romantic relationship.”

3. When You’re Confronted, Actually Listen

If your friend calls you out for being distant, don’t get defensive.

“They could have pulled back or walked away, but they chose to address it because they still care,” Adesuwa stresses. Listen actively, validate their feelings, and apologise for hurting them. Then discuss how you both can improve communication and make sure they feel valued moving forward.”

And If And If You’re the One Feeling Left Out…

Let your friend know how you feel. Use “I” statements so it doesn’t sound like an attack. You’re not enemies. “It’s both of you against the problem,” says Adesuwa. “Conflicts are normal in relationships, but hidden resentment isn’t. Talking about how you feel can clear up misunderstandings and help your friendship grow stronger.”

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Tell me how you and Dabira hit it off

I met Dabira when I moved to a new school in 2012. We were both in the same SS2 class, and we weren’t close, we were cordial. A few years later, we got into the same polytechnic for our ND and became roommates. Our close bond started growing.

What was your friendship with her like?

We were as tight as sisters. After our ND program, she went to a different school for her HND, but the distance had nothing on our friendship. She would come to my family’s house in Ibadan to spend holidays and weekends with me. I knew all her partners, and she knew mine. We took every chance we got to be in the same place, and it was like that for almost the entire duration of our friendship. We had no secrets from each other. Or so I thought.

What made things boil over?

In May 2021, while I was scrolling on WhatsApp, I saw an update on Dabira’s status. It was a photoshoot for her wedding. Dabira had gotten married, and I had no idea.

Ah! She didn’t tell you?

Not a word. I was so shocked, I tried to convince myself that it might be an elaborate prank. It wasn’t, o. She had gotten married, and she didn’t once mention the engagement, the prep, nothing.

Did you confront her about it?

Oh yes, I did immediately. I was so hurt that she didn’t want to share her special day with me, or at least even invite me to celebrate with her. I’ve known her husband since he first started toasting her.

Dabira and I spend so much time together; why would she keep their wedding a secret from me? When I told her how I felt, she said she didn’t think it was a big deal and asked me not to be angry. Her excuse was that the wedding took place in Lagos and since I lived in Ibadan, she didn’t want to “stress” me by making me take the trip to Lagos. A trip that I’d made many times before o.

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What was your reaction after she told you this?

Omo, I blocked her everywhere. I couldn’t wrap my head around her excuse, and I felt she didn’t want me there. She sent so many of our mutual friends to beg me, but I didn’t budge.

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Whoa, so she’s still blocked?

Well, no. In 2022, I started to really miss her and I wanted to move past what had happened. I called her, and she was also very open to it. We talked like the old days and it seemed like our friendship was slowly healing. Then, in August 2023, she called me excitedly to tell me she just had a baby. I was so happy for my friend, so I asked her for details about the naming ceremony so I could be present and support her. Her response? “Oh, the baby is almost three months old now.” It felt like the wedding all over again. It just felt like I was the last person to know about anything happening in her life, but when it came to mine, she knew everything there was to know about me.

How did you react this time?

I just withdrew almost entirely from the friendship. We’re still cordial, but it’s obvious to me that she’s not my best friend. At least not anymore, and I’ve made my peace with it.

Would you be open to reconciliation if she came back to you to try?

No. Being excluded from these milestone life events felt like a betrayal, and I don’t think our friendship can recover from that. I believe we are better off as acquaintances.

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The Nigerian experience is physical, emotional, and sometimes international. No one knows it better than our features on #TheAbroadLife, a series where we detail and explore Nigerian experiences while living abroad.

Amina (26) had a soft landing in Canada, but nothing prepared her for the seasonal depression and loneliness in her new country. In this edition of Abroad Life, she shares how much she has grown since her move, but still feels like something important is missing.

Where do you live, and when did you relocate from Nigeria?

I live in Canada and I moved in April 2022.

What has the last three years in Canada looked like for you?

I had a soft landing. I was fortunate to stay with my sister for over two years. I only recently moved into my apartment, so I haven’t bothered about paying bills since I moved to Canada, and I am forever grateful for that. My brother did not have the same experience because he moved to Canada before us ( my sister and I); he was on his own, and that was tough.

But even though I’ve had it easy so far, there are things that I’m still trying to figure out.

Like what?

Building a physical community has been hard, and I’m still struggling with it. But I have a great online community on Twitter that has is now bigger than I and my friend imagined when we started it.

I’m grateful that we have that community, but I wish I had a stronger physical community. I know a lot of people in my province, but I am not friends with them. I had a solid group of friends back in Nigeria, and unfortunately, japa happened. Some of them are now in Canada, but we are not in the same province. We typically have to plan and travel for hours before seeing each other.

Sounds tough. How hard is it to maintain those friendships?

We are still strong as ever. I always find time for my friends, whether they are in Nigeria or anywhere else in the world. Moving abroad actually made me feel closer to my friends, because I always need someone to talk to about what’s going on in my life. I don’t have physical friends, so I won’t abandon the people who have been there for me because I’ve moved to a new location.

I always find a way to talk to my friends and not miss birthdays. We also bond through movies. If I’m watching something new, I’ll drop a message saying, “Oh, you should see this movie”. My friends are also amazing people who understand that I feel lonely here sometimes. Most of us have been friends for up to 10 years, and there’s no way we’re giving up on each other.

You’ve hacked long-distance friendship. How do you stay connected to your family members in Nigeria?

My parents are late, and I’m here with all my siblings, so the only family I have left in Nigeria are aunts and uncles.

Sorry about your parents.

Thank you. I’m still in contact with my extended family. Thankfully, the relationship thrives on mutual respect—typically when you move here, some people start looking at you like a breadwinner but my family members still see me as a baby. They don’t ask me for anything, but I still try my best to send whatever I can home, especially because of how bad the economy is now.

Why do you think you’re still struggling to find physical friends?

I have friends, but they are not in my province. Funny enough, I have friends in almost every province in Canada, but this country is lonely, whether you have friends or not. Everyone is working hard because time is money here. Your friends will likely run between shifts even if you have time to hang out. Plus, the country is so big that you can spend two hours driving between two provinces. Last summer, I was in Ontario to visit friends and family, and it was a long drive away from my province. I visited other family members and drove for two hours to another province. Sometimes, it is unlucky because the people I know are not in the same city as me, and seeing them means driving for hours. The only good thing is that road trips are safe in Canada, so you can always decide to hit the road, as long as you are prepared.

Nice! What’s the best part about living in Canada?

My career growth has been insane. When I think of where I am right now, I doubt that it would have been possible if I were still living in Nigeria. It wasn’t easy to get here. I was jobless for six months when I first moved to Canada. My sister gave me the chance to settle in, so I didn’t rush into job hunting. It took three months of actively searching before I got a job here, and it was a customer service role. Two months into the role, I got accepted into a program requiring me to leave the customer service job. It was an eight-week program that came with a six-week internship. After the internship, I was offered full-time permanent employment and worked there for two years. Then I got a new job last month and I’m loving it!

Did you experience any culture shock?

I have lived in Nigeria all my life, and so many things have taken me by surprise. But the biggest surprise was the weather. I’ve experienced three winters now, and all three felt different. I didn’t know there was something called seasonal depression till I got here. It’s hard to do anything during the winter.

On a scale of one to ten, how happy are you in Canada?

Some days, it’s ten and on other days, it’s eight. In Nigeria, I could carry my bag and go to a friend’s house for a few days. But I can’t do that here. I also don’t have access to the food I love to eat, which is Amala. If I could, I’d take a trip back to Nigeria just to eat Amala. On the other hand, I found security here— I’ve gone on amazing trips and seen Asa perform live, so I’m happy.

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Bolu* (27) had a simple plan: spend a week in London with loved ones, head to Spain for a birthday trip, then return to life in Lagos. But everything changed when his backpack — carrying his passport, laptop, and phone — vanished on a train.

Just when it felt like all hope was lost, two close friends, Akin (31) and Kayode (28), stepped in and pulled off what felt like a real-life heist movie.

This is Bolu’s story, as told to Daniel Orubo.

I arrived in London from Lagos in late March 2025. The plan was to enjoy a week with family and friends before heading to my main destination: Spain. I’d spend a few days in Barcelona before going to Tenerife for a friend’s 30th birthday celebration.

My first stop was my grandma’s house. While heading out to see a friend, she told me to hold my phone tight because of the city’s rising theft rate. I had visited London about four times before, but this was the first time she had given me that warning.

It took less than a day for the warning to make sense.

I was heading back to her place, checking Google maps, when a masked man on a bike tried to snatch my phone. It happened quickly, but I had a tight grip, so he couldn’t pull it away. Seconds later, I saw him grab a woman’s phone a few feet away and speed off. I was a bit shaken watching her scream and chase after the guy, but I just felt lucky it wasn’t me.

The next day, I was in a great mood, feeling like I’d conquered London. So I headed to Borough Market with a friend to try the Instagram-famous strawberry and chocolate dessert, which was delicious — London strawberries and Lagos strawberries are not mates. Then we capped it off with an incredible Michael Jackson show at the Prince Edward Theatre.

I was on a high while heading back to my friend’s house, but that was when my luck finally ran out.

Earlier that day, I’d packed my backpack with my MacBook, a change of clothes, my passport, some cash ($150 and ₦30k), and my second phone. I remember having my backpack on the seat next to me on the train one moment, and the next, I was getting off without it. I nearly had a panic attack when I realised.

The train had already left, so I lodged a complaint at the station, but it was almost midnight, and the staff couldn’t do much. Luckily, my second phone was in the bag, so I checked Find My. It said the phone was about two kilometers away, in the opposite direction. I couldn’t make sense of it because it had only been a few minutes since I noticed my backpack was missing.

I was devastated, so I called Akin, one of my guys who lived nearby, and went to crash at his place. Kayode, his brother and one of my closest friends, was also there.

As much as I appreciated being around loved ones, I couldn’t sleep that night. I kept tossing and turning, frantically trying to retrace my steps. I was holding out hope, convinced that the station would call with good news, and choosing to ignore the confusing locations Find My kept showing me. But as the hours passed, I started to feel defeated. I was sad about my MacBook and the Spain trip I was about to miss, but I was mostly worried about not having my passport in a foreign country.

A friend I spoke to in Nigeria reassured me that I could always go to the embassy and get a travel document to return home. I had some clarity on what to do next, but it didn’t erase my crushing disappointment.

After going through the five stages of grief in two days, a glimmer of hope finally appeared.

I received an alert from Monzo, the digital bank I use in London, that a transaction on my card had been denied at a store. Thankfully, Monzo’s notification included the exact time and location of the transaction: 11:16 am at Ilford. I checked Find My again, and it confirmed that my phone was in the same area, about 3 minutes away from the store.

I told Akin and Kayode, and they immediately swung into action. They’d stayed optimistic about finding at least my passport — especially Akin. The moment I showed them the notification, they didn’t even let me take a shower. We hopped on a train and began the one-hour and 30-minute journey to Ilford.

When we got to the store, the woman at the counter was surprisingly open to helping. She said we could check the CCTV footage, but we’d have to wait six hours for her boss to arrive. I was ready to give up, but Akin wasn’t having it. He offered to pay the boss to return early. That seemed to show her how serious we were, so she called someone else who could operate the CCTV. He said he’d be there in about 45 minutes.

While we waited, we decided to do some investigating of our own. Find My was still showing the phone in a nearby building, so we snuck in and started going floor by floor — 11 floors in total — pinging the device as we moved, hoping to hear a sound.

On the eighth floor, Find My suddenly changed from “5 mins ago” to “Now.”

There were four flats on that floor, but only one had the lights on. We took it as a sign. Akin knocked on the door, and a white girl opened it. The moment she saw the three of us, she shut the door, then came back with a friend.

We explained that we were tracking a stolen phone, but they both looked confused. They said they were just 17 and babysitting their brother. They gave us details about the other tenants on the floor and wished us luck with our search. I thanked them for their help and gave them my number to reach out if they saw anything.

We continued checking other floors, but the location kept shifting — “3 mins ago,” then “Now” again when we returned to the eighth floor. We were sure the phone was on that floor; we just couldn’t prove it.

Since it was almost time for the CCTV guy to arrive, we returned to the store. When he got there, he pulled up the footage for us. We watched closely as a guy in a hoodie showed up around the time of the attempted transaction — we were sure it was him, but he paid in cash.

Then, right before the clock hit 11:17, we saw three girls walk in. One of them pulled out my red Monzo card to pay. It declined, and they played it off, then paid with cash.

Two of the girls were the same ones who had answered the door on the eighth floor.

We ran back to the building, armed with the video evidence. We knocked gently at first, but they didn’t answer. Akin eventually lost his patience and started banging on the door, shouting that we had proof and would call the police if they didn’t hand over the backpack.

They started screaming from behind the door, denying everything and telling us to leave.

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We tried calling the police, but the call wouldn’t go through. So Akin told me to head to the nearest station and get someone in person. On my way down, I ran into a lovely Jamaican woman in the lift who pointed out she hadn’t seen me in the building before. I gave her the gist of what was happening, and she was instantly invested.

She told me I didn’t need to go all the way to the station — I just needed to call the emergency number, 999. She even helped me explain everything over the phone. The police said they’d be there in about an hour.

I went back upstairs to make sure no one tried to leave while Kayode and Akin waited downstairs for the police. As I stood there, a Black guy showed up and asked if I was the one banging on his door — the girls had called for backup.

He walked into the house, and I quickly called Kayode to come upstairs in case things escalated. A moment later, the guy came back out with two girls. One was carrying a massive Ghana-Must-Go-type bag filled with bras and underwear. She said she was going to a doctor’s appointment, but I told her they couldn’t leave until I found my backpack.

Kayode joined us, and we all agreed to head downstairs to sort it out. It was becoming clear the guy had no idea what was really going on. As we explained, you could see it click for him that he’d been lied to.

By the time we got downstairs, the police had arrived and were speaking to Akin. That clearly rattled the girls. The one holding the bag tried to hand it off to the other, but she refused.

The guy pulled them aside to get the truth. That’s when they dropped the bag, and there it was: my backpack, buried under a sea of underwear.

I checked to find the money gone — I’m still not sure what ₦30k was supposed to do for them in London — but my MacBook, passport, and second phone were still there.

It felt surreal.

The guy apologised, saying he thought he was coming to defend his friends. Then the two girls ran off. We finally went upstairs to tell the police we’d found my backpack.

They asked if I wanted to press charges, but I said no. I was too relieved, too tired.

As I said that, the girl who opened the door started screaming, demanding an apology for banging on their door. Kayode, who had been calm all through, finally lost it. He started screaming at her, but the police asked us to let it go.

They praised us for our detective work and told me I could still press charges later if I changed my mind. The case was now on file.

As we walked away, I could only think: Thank God for my guys. Because of them, I left with my passport, MacBook, and a hell of a story.

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In this story, Jemi*(26) shares how she fell out with her close friend over communication issues, and now that he has passed away, everything feels unresolved.

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Let’s start from the beginning.

Rotimi* and I met at a mutual friend’s house by chance in 2017. We bonded over our shared interest in films and books and became fast friends. We spent a lot of time together and, by the end of the year, had grown incredibly close, almost like siblings.

Tell me more about your friendship with Rotimi.

We both attended the same public university. He was two years ahead of me and studied Law while I studied Psychology. He wrote beautifully and wanted to be a writer at some point. I encouraged him to share his poetry and essays on our group chat with the rest of our friends. I’m not that good at writing, but I would share my journal entries with him if it felt too heavy for me to talk about.

For me, he was a completely judgement-free place to share my thoughts. No matter how questionable the situation was, I knew I could go to Rotimi to vent, and he’d at least hear me out.

My family isn’t very well off either, and so if I ran out of money or I couldn’t get my allowance on time, Rotimi would come to the little room I had off campus to share his foodstuff with me.

When school got too tough, we’d skip our classes to drink beer and argue about our favourite films. Every time we hung out was very pleasant.

It sounds like a great friendship. What happened?

In March 2019, Rotimi suddenly had a seizure, and after being treated at the hospital, he was diagnosed with epilepsy. I didn’t think his diagnosis would affect our friendship, but I was wrong.

He was very ashamed of his condition and didn’t want to spend time with his friends like before. Like most of his other friends, I began texting and checking in on him constantly, nearly every day. Slowly, he started to hang out with us again. That same year, he met a wonderful girl, and they started dating. I was really happy for him.

So what went wrong?

In June of that same year, Rotimi sent me a frantic message. He had gone to the hospital for a routine check-up, but they ended up doing a full-body scan and discovered a brain tumour. He needed surgery as soon as possible. He sounded so panicked in the message, writing about how he thought he was going to die.

Naturally, I panicked too and tried calling him as soon as I got the text. I didn’t get an answer. I immediately assumed it was because they had started the surgery, so I tried calling his siblings, but they didn’t answer either. My stomach was in knots for days. I kept calling and texting him to no avail.

Did you manage to reach anyone else who knew him?

Eventually, I managed to get the number of one of his friends who lived out of the country. I explained the situation to him and said I really needed to know Rotimi was okay. He was like, ”Rotimi? We’ve been playing Call of Duty together everyday, he’s fine.” I was confused. I asked how recent their last game was, and he said they had just finished one together and were planning to get another game going that evening. I became very upset.

I angrily texted Rotimi, asking why he was not answering his texts but he had time to play online games with his friends. He texted back immediately that he didn’t think it was important and that he was okay.

Wow

I chalked up this behaviour to being super stressed at suddenly getting sick, so I didn’t want to blow it out of proportiom but a month later, he did the same thing.

Tell me what happened.

He sent me a frantic voice note in the middle of the night asking me to pray for him that he could feel himself slipping. He said he was on the way to the hospital, and they were going to operate on the tumour for sure this time.

I woke up early that day to the voice note and texted him to give me details: Who do I call when he’s under? Which hospital was he at? No answer. I called and called and called. I was full of anxious energy because, this time, no one in our friend group had heard from him at all.

It turns out, I was the only one in the friend group he had sent this voicenote to. Two weeks later, I got a call from his girlfriend asking if she could sleep over in my room off campus for a night. She admitted that Rotimi would be joining her, but he asked her to call because he knew I was mad at him.

How did that make you feel?

I was relieved that he was okay, but I was also really angry with him. I told his girlfriend she could come and get the key to the room, but she should tell her boyfriend not to talk to me again.

I believed that Rotimi didn’t respect our friendship by sending me these agitating messages and disappearing with no updates. When his girlfriend gave him my message, he texted me, “ Can we talk?” but I aired the message.

You stood on business. What happened after that?

Yes, and it felt like the right thing to do at the time, but now, not so much. We didn’t talk again for almost six months. I ran into him at a small book fair in 2020, and we started talking again. I told him I hated that he would drop scary messages and disappear, and he apologised. He asked that we pick a time to hang out like the old days, and we’d sort out the whole thing. I happily agreed but told him I’d have his time in a month.

A week later, his girlfriend sent our friend group a terrible message. Rotimi had passed away in the middle of the night from a seizure.

Oh no! I’m so sorry.

My heart was shattered. At first, I thought maybe it was part of a prank, but as the burial details kept coming out, I had to swallow the bitter truth.

It’s one of the worst losses I have experienced in my young life. Sometimes, I see something he would like, and I want to send it to him, but then I remember he’s no longer here with us, and it’s like my heart breaks all over again.

I regret not settling with him that day. I would forgive him a thousand times if it meant he would still be here. He was a really great friend to me, and even though a few years have gone by, my heart has not healed from his passing.

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There are two types of people in this world: those who still have their childhood best friends and those who have changed their entire friend group at least twice before hitting twenty.

While it’s never easy to let a friendship go, sometimes, it’s necessary. I spoke to some Nigerians about the signs they noticed when their friendships began to fizzle out.

“We were no longer on the same page” — Ovie* (28)

We were friends for several years, and then all of a sudden, she became very religious. I’m a Christian too, but she was reaching obsessive levels. I’m talking about “fighting online for your pastor who is always in a scandal” levels. I tried to make her see that she may be in a cult, but she didn’t take it well. She insulted me, and I realised that she had a persecution kink that couldn’t be helped. I backed off after that. Sometimes, I think back and wonder if I could have done more to save the friendship, but I’ve accepted that our relationship is dead now.

“I saw her less and less and less” — Bolawa* (27)

At some point, I noticed I didn’t see her as often anymore. I shook it off because she was dating someone at the time, so it made sense to me that we didn’t spend as much time together. But then it got worse. She stopped showing up for our friend dates, stopped planning things with me, and, in fact, stopped talking to me the way she used to.

In the beginning, I made sure to ask if everything was okay, and she reassured me that it was fine. Then I noticed it was her partner who was keeping her from her friends. I tried to get her to see that the person she was dating was trying to isolate her, but she never listened. So I stopped trying. Much later after her relationship ended, she tried to pin the death of our friendship on me and it was almost as painful as the feeling of being shut out by her when the relationship was fizzling out.

“I was the only one putting in the effort to keep the friendship alive” — Nani* (26)

The first time I realized the friendship was fizzling out, I told her that I was in her city and I got no response. It was our tradition since we were younger that every time I was around we would meet up to catch up, but that particular time she just didn’t bother to hang out or contact me.

Then it dawned on me that I was the one always reaching out and wanting to hang out, I was the one always doing the visiting, and I made a decision to stop texting first and reaching out first, and since then, we’ve basically turned into strangers

We stopped texting in general and now, I don’t even know anything about her life anymore and vice versa. So, we basically drifted apart because she wasn’t willing to pull her own weight in the relationship.

“She moved on from our friendship first” — David* (30)

I had this friend from a long time ago when I started medical school abroad. We had both just started our studies in a new country, so we got pretty close very quickly. I confessed my feelings for her at one point, but she didn’t feel the same way, so we kept it platonic.

About three years ago, I noticed she stopped replying to my messages or my usual comments on her WhatsApp status. Initially, I didn’t think much of it; we’re really busy these days. Shortly after that, I called her several times and got no response — even till now.

So I let it go entirely. I had known this person for at least 7 years, but I guess she moved on from the friendship, and while accepting that it wasn’t painless, I think that’s fine in the end.

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“Her energy towards me changed completely.” — Olamide* (26)

I know people talk about noticing energy a lot, but it’s undeniable when it’s drastically different. We had been friends since secondary school where we were bunk mates, but we weren’t really close at the time. When we met again in University, in the same class, doing the same course, we instantly hit it off and became so close, people thought we were dating.

I have ADHD, and she really wanted to do well in school. You can imagine what that combination looked like. I hardly ever read, and she just felt like she wanted to do more. I didn’t begrudge her her goals, but I guess she felt bad about it. I don’t know honestly, but she started pulling away, and I just kept pretending nothing was wrong. She would have competitions and wouldn’t tell me. When I asked about it, she would say she didn’t think I was interested. It felt weird and made me feel bad because, as my friend, why would you think I wouldn’t be interested in supporting something you care about? At the end of our second year, we talked about it and our communication improved. I thought I finally had my friend back, but then things changed for the worse again.

She started ignoring me when we saw each other at the faculty, and she would only respond if I approached her first. It got exhausting, so I deleted her number and focused on myself. It was when she noticed that I had stopped reaching out to her she tried to contact me, wanting us to talk through it. I was too hurt to accept her olive branch and told her I wasn’t interested in our friendship anymore. This happened a few years ago, and we’ve fixed our relationship to the point where we’re acquaintances again, but I don’t think we can ever become as close as we were before.

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How to let go without being the villain in their life story

Recognising these signs is one thing, but knowing what to do next is another. Here are some #mature ways to handle the situation.

The fade-out method

If you notice that the friendship is already on its last legs, let it fizzle out naturally. You can take a step back from the efforts you were putting in before. Start texting less, don’t reach out first, cancel a plan or two, and watch it die a peaceful, quiet death. No confrontation needed.

The honest chat

If they’ve been a significant part of your life and you rate them, consider having an honest conversation with the person. Conversations like this are difficult and sad, but they can help set expectations from both ends appropriately.

This method might even revive your friendship if you both put in the effort. However, if there is no evidence they want to make it work long-term, you can let that friendship go.

The dramatic approach

This is strictly for wicked friends like the one in this Sunken Ships story. Drop a WhatsApp status like, “Thank God for a successful friendship breakup. May affliction never rise again.” If they send a message asking what happened, air them like a radio wave.

Strengthen your other relationships

If you notice that a friendship is on its last legs, instead of beating yourself up about it, you should prioritise pouring into your other friendships. You won’t carry all of your friendships into your old age, but accepting the end of one friendship doesn’t mean all the other ones should go down the drain. The energy that you feel isn’t appreciated in one friendship can be used to bolster your other relationships.

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Birthdays in Nigeria aren’t just about turning a year older — they’re full-blown celebrations. And whether it’s planning a party or crafting the perfect birthday message to a friend, every detail matters. From small gatherings and surprise hangouts to full-blown owanbes, birthdays are a big deal.

For many Nigerians, sending and receiving happy birthday wishes isn’t just a formality; it’s a way of showing love, appreciation, and gratitude for friendships that have stood the test of time. Tolu, 28, puts it best: “If my best friend doesn’t post me with a long, emotional caption on my birthday, we’re fighting. Birthday messages are a love language!”

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But let’s be honest, not everyone knows how to craft the perfect birthday message to a friend. Whether you’re trying to be funny, heartfelt, or downright poetic, we’ve got you covered. This article features real birthday messages you can copy, tweak, and send to your friends without stress.

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Birthday Wishes for your Best Friend

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A best friend’s birthday is the perfect chance to show how much they mean to you. Whether you’re emotional or straight to the point, a thoughtful message can make their day.

For Chioma, 26, it’s a must. “If my bestie doesn’t send a long message or post a throwback, I’m revoking their friendship card!”

Need the right words? We’ve got sweet, funny, and heartfelt messages to help you celebrate your closest friend.

Happy birthday, bestie! You’re not just my friend; you’re my chosen family. I pray this year brings you endless joy, success, and everything you’ve ever wished for. Love you forever!

Happy birthday to the one person who knows all my secrets and still sticks around. You deserve an award (or at least cake).

You’re getting older, but don’t worry, I’ll still be here to remind you of all your embarrassing moments. Have a fantastic birthday, bestie!

Another year, another reason to remind you that I’m the better-looking friend. Happy birthday!

Happy birthday to my day-one, my gist partner, my personal hype squad! May today be as incredible as you are.

You’ve been my rock through thick and thin, and I’m forever grateful for you. Happy birthday, bestie! I hope this year brings you nothing but happiness.

To my partner in crime, happy birthday! Here’s to another year of laughs, inside jokes, and the kind of friendship that gets better with time.

Happy birthday, my ride-or-die! This year, expect even more crazy adventures and unwavering support. You know I’ve always got your back!

Happy birthday, bestie! You know me better than anyone, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Here’s to another year of our incredible bond. Have a beautiful one!

Happy birthday, my friend! May God’s blessings be upon you today and always. May your year be filled with success and happiness, and may our friendship continue to grow stronger.

To a friend who’s like family, happy birthday! May your day be as wonderful as you are, and may your future be filled with all the blessings you deserve. You are truly cherished.

Happy birthday to the most wonderful friend I’ve ever had! May your year be as sweet as chin-chin and as fulfilling as a well-deserved holiday. Enjoy your day!

To my irreplaceable best friend, happy birthday! Get ready for a year as wonderful as you are. Let’s make it one for the books. Can’t wait to celebrate you when we hang out later today. Also, how many dozens of birthday cakes do you want?

Yes!!! Look who made it to the 25th floor in one piece? You! Wishing you a vibrant and lively birthday, bestie! You bring so much energy into my life, and I’m so grateful for you. Rooting for you all the way!

Happy birthday, my friend! May God’s blessings be upon you today and always. May your year be filled with success and happiness, and may our friendship continue to grow stronger.

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Birthday Wishes for a Male Friend

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Contrary to popular belief, men appreciate thoughtful birthday messages just as much as women. Whether it’s a quick “Happy Birthday, bro” or a heartfelt text, it shows you care.

For Tunde, 27, it’s a sign of respect. “I might act like I don’t care, but if my guys forget or just drop a dry ‘HBD,’ I’m taking notes.”

Want to make your guy friend feel seen? Here are birthday wishes that’ll do the trick.

Happy birthday, my guy! You’re more than just a friend, you’re family. Wishing you more money, more peace, and more life this year!

To my brother from another mother, happy birthday! May your new age come with bigger wins and greater blessings.

Bro, you’re the realest friend anyone could ask for. I appreciate you today and always. Have a fantastic birthday!

Another year older, and you’re still not taller? Tragic. Have a great birthday, though!

Happy birthday, my G! Hope your day is filled with good food, good company, and all the things that make you happy.

To my guyest guy, na man you be! Happy birthday, and here’s to you and all the good things coming your way this year. Have a great one, bro!

You’re more than just a friend to me, you’re like a brother from another mother. Have an amazing birthday!

You’re simply a wonderful friend, and each year that passes only makes you more so. Happy birthday, man. I wish you all the best things in life!

Happy birthday to the man who laughs at my silliest jokes and stands beside me during my darkest hours. I’m blessed to call you my best friend. Where’s the party at, bro?

Hey man, I probably don’t say this enough, but you’ve been there for me in every single way — lifting my spirits and brightening my days. I don’t take any of it for granted. Today’s all about you, and I’m glad I get the chance to celebrate you. Here’s to you on your birthday, my dear friend!

My bro, you have a gift for making everyone feel included and valued. Keep being the amazing person that you are. Don’t change it for anybody, not even me. Happy birthday, man. Love you.

Let’s toast to 30 years of an amazing friend who keeps getting better with age. Happy birthday, and welcome to the third floor! Can’t wait to see all you achieve in this phase.

Happy birthday to the most hardworking and ambitious person I know. I have no doubt the year ahead will bring you even more joy and success.

Happy birthday, bro! May this year bring opportunities that push your boundaries and take you to places beyond your wildest dreams.

Wishing you a fantastic birthday, man! May this year shower you with the same happiness and laughter you give to everyone else.

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Birthday Wishes for a Female Friend

Two young women hugging during a birthday party with other friends.

If there’s one thing Nigerian women love, it’s words of affirmation — especially on their birthdays. A sweet message, long or short, goes a long way in making them feel special.

For Taiye, 29, birthday wishes are everything. “If you don’t write me a proper birthday message, are we really friends? I want to cry and blush when I read it!”

Need help making her smile (or cry happy tears)? Here are some birthday wishes to get you started.

Happy birthday, my love! You’re a gem, and I’m so lucky to have you in my life. May this new year bring you everything you deserve and more.

To my sister from another mister, happy birthday! May your joy be full, your bank account be fat, and your skin continue to glow.

You’re such a kind, beautiful soul, and I’m grateful for your friendship. Wishing you love, happiness, and success this year!

Happy birthday, my babe! May you never experience bad hair days and always see your enemies before they see you.

Sis, happy birthday! May your husband locate you this year, but until then, we ball.

Another year older and finer? God really has favourites. Enjoy your day, queen!

Happy birthday, babe! If there’s one thing I can bet my life on, it’s that you’ll always show up for the people you love. I hope today, the world returns that love to you in full measure. Have the best day ever!

My bestie of life! Today is all about you, and you deserve nothing but the absolute best. May this year bring you unlimited joy, success, and soft life.

To my loudest hype woman, happy birthday! From the way you scream my name when you see me to the way you always find a way to make me laugh, I don’t take your energy for granted. I pray this year brings you endless joy, soft life, and more reasons to dance.

Happy birthday, my beautiful friend! May this new age bring you more wins, more love, and more moments to be your beautiful, authentic self. You are magic, and the world is lucky to have you.

Happy birthday, sunshine! Your energy is infectious, your kindness is unmatched, and your vibes are always top-tier. Here’s to another year of greatness. Can’t wait to see you today.

Happy birthday, baby girl! I still remember the first day we met. I knew instantly you were my kind of person, and years later, you still are. Thank you for always being you. I pray this year brings you more love, money, and stress-free enjoyment.

Best girl ever! Another year older, wiser, and finer. I love you to the moon and back, and I pray this year brings you endless joy and peace.

Happy birthday, my favourite human! Remember the time we stayed up all night gisting about life, love, and our unrealistic soft-life plans? I pray this new year brings you closer to everything we dreamed of (especially the private jet lifestyle). You deserve it all.

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Short & Sweet Birthday Wishes for a Friend

A young Nigerian man sending a birthday message to a friend

Not all birthday wishes have to be deep — short and sweet can be just right! Whether it’s a quick text, WhatsApp status, or IG caption, a simple message can still make someone feel special.

Need something quick but meaningful? Here are fun, short birthday wishes to send.

Happy birthday, bestie! May your joy be full and your bank account fuller.

Wishing you love, laughter, and soft life this year!

Happy birthday! May your glow never dim in this life, and may your money grow like grass! LMAO.

Another year older, wiser, and finer! Enjoy your day, superstar.

May this new year bring you more money, more blessings, and fewer problems.

Congratulations! You’ve survived another year of ignoring red flags and spending recklessly. Proud of you!

You’re older today, but are you wiser? LMAO. Come and beat me, I’m in my house. Anyway, have a good one, man. Lurh you!

Cheers to another year of making questionable decisions together! May this one come with sense… and maybe a rich man.

Hey you! Keep aging like the fine wine that you are! Meanwhile, when are we throwing a party with your money?

My main man. Cheers to another year of not being able to grow a full beard! Stay blessed, though.

Congrats, you’re officially an old man!

I wish you all the best things life’s got to offer on this day. Happy birthday, dear.

New year, new adventures, new everything! Happy birthday, you!

I wish you nothing short of a super amazing year filled with wins and successes. Have a great one.

Hey you, here’s to wishing you a year filled with beautiful memories and unlimited success stories. Go kill it!

Sending the warmest of hugs today, my G. Stay blessed.

Here’s to even more trips around the sun! Happy birthday, boo!

Cheers to you for being nothing short of incredible. Happy birthday!

Happy birthday to my beautiful bestie!

You make everyone’s lives so much better just by being yourself. Happy birthday!

Shout out to the best person in my life. Happy birthday!

I knew we would always be friends, and I’m so happy to still be in your life all these years later. Happy birthday!

Another year older, still no sugar daddy? What a shame. Wishing you love, money, and sense in this new age!

I hope you feel so loved today. Happy birthday!

Here’s to wishing a happy birthday to the coolest and funniest friend anyone could ever have!

Hey you! Happy birthday and best wishes to you. I’m happy to have you for another year!

Wishing you a year of happiness, excitement, and prosperity!

Happy birthday to the truest friend I’ve ever known.

Wishing you the happiest of all birthdays, and thank you for being my best friend. I love you!

To know you is to know the true gift of friendship. I wish you a beautiful year ahead filled with even more happiness!

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Funny Birthday Wishes for a Friend

A young Nigerian man in white smiling at a birthday message to a friend

Sometimes, the best way to celebrate a friend is with premium dragging. Birthdays are the perfect excuse to roast them about their life choices, ageing bones, and unfulfilled big dreams — all in good fun, of course.

As Hassan (27) says, “My friends love trolling me on special occasions. If they don’t drag me on my birthday, I’ll assume they don’t love me.”

If you’re after the perfect mix of insult and affection, here are some funny birthday wishes to make your friend laugh (or side-eye you).

Happy birthday! May your problems be as small as your attention span.

Another year older, wiser, and still single. God, when?

You’re aging like fine wine… or maybe like bread left in the sun. Either way, enjoy your day!

I was going to get you something expensive, but then I remembered you still owe me money. So, here’s my love instead.

Happy birthday! Don’t worry, I’ll still be your friend even when you start using anti-aging cream.

Congrats on surviving another year of bad decisions. Let’s make some more!

Since it’s your birthday, I won’t remind you of how much of a troublemaker you are. Just enjoy your day… for now.

You’re officially too old to lie about your age. But don’t worry, I won’t expose you (yet).

Another year, another reminder that we’re still broke together. Cheers to more years of struggling in peace!

Another year of being my unpaid therapist. Don’t worry, I’ll get you a proper gift… next year.

You made it to another year without blocking me. I’m genuinely impressed.

Happy birthday, bro! You’re officially one year closer to becoming a sugar daddy (if only your bank account would cooperate).

One more year of slaying, suffering, and smiling. I’m just here to remind you that you still owe me birthday jollof from last year!

Happy birthday, boss! We’ll allow you to form big man today, but after this? Back to normal.

Another year, another opportunity to finally reply to messages on time. We both know you won’t, but happy birthday sha!

Birthday girl! You’re getting older, but don’t worry, your secret is safe with me… unless someone offers me some birthday cake.

Happy birthday, bro! Since you love free things, I’m giving you the gift of my friendship for another year.

Today is your day! Order that extra meat and soft drink with confidence. Nobody can judge you today. Happy birthday to my laziest gym buddy!

Happy birthday, my dear! I pray that this year, men will stop stressing you… or at least stress you with money.

Congratulations! You survived another year without catching feelings for the wrong person. Let’s aim for two in a row.

Birthday shoutout to the only person who understands my madness! I’d get you a thoughtful gift, but my presence in your life is already a blessing.

Today is the one day I won’t drag you for your life choices. Enjoy it while it lasts.

Happy birthday, my love! I promise to be nice today. But tomorrow? Back to regular programming.

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Birthday Prayers for a Friend

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For many Nigerians, birthdays are a time to reflect, give thanks, and receive prayers for the year ahead. Whether it’s a simple “God bless you” or a message filled with divine wishes, prayerful birthday wishes mean a lot.

“I love it when people pray for me on my birthday,” says Chinyere, 30. “It makes me feel loved and reassured that the new year will be even better than the last.”

Want to send a faith-filled message to someone special? Here are some heartfelt birthday prayers to choose from.

May this new year bring you abundant joy, divine favour, and unending blessings. May God’s grace shine upon you always. Happy birthday!

As you celebrate another year, may the almighty Allah go before you, guide your steps, and grant you success in all you do. Wishing you a birthday filled with Allah’s rahma!

May your life be filled with peace, laughter, and the fulfilment of God’s promises. This new age will usher in greatness beyond your imagination. Happy birthday!

I pray that the almighty Allah strengthens you, gives you wisdom, and blesses you with good health and happiness. You shall know no sorrow in this new year.

May your days be filled with testimonies, your nights with peace, and your future with unlimited favour. The best is yet to come. Happy birthday!

On your special day, I pray that the Lord’s protection surrounds you, His love fills your heart, and His purpose for your life unfolds beautifully.

You are a blessing to the world, and I pray that blessings never cease in your life. May your cup overflow with joy, and your path be lined with divine breakthroughs.

As you celebrate today, may your heart be filled with gratitude and your life be filled with open doors, unlimited opportunities, and everlasting happiness.

May the almighty Allah bless the work of your hands, crown your efforts with success, and grant you all your heart desires in alignment with His will. Happy birthday!

This year, may you walk in favour, live in joy, and experience the fullness of God’s love. You are destined for greatness, and nothing will hold you back. Have a beautiful birthday!

Dear friend, as you celebrate another year of life, I pray that God’s presence is palpable in every moment. May this new year bring you closer to His heart, and may His guidance direct your paths. May you be filled with a deeper sense of purpose, and may your faith be strengthened as you trust in His goodness.

Your life is a gift from almighty Allah, and I am grateful to Him for all the blessings you bring into this world. Happy birthday!

God of all blessings, thank you for my friend and the joy they bring to my life. Bless them with a year of happiness and fulfilment.

Lord, as my dear friend celebrates another year of life, I pray for your abundant blessings to be upon them. May your grace continue to guide and shape their path, filling their days with love, purpose, and joy.

Dear God, today I bring my loved one before you on their birthday and pray for your blessings and guidance over their life. Thank you for leading and guiding them. Help them to know how loved they are. Bless and protect them in the year ahead. May they know your peace and strength when they wake, and your comfort and rest when they sleep. May their future be filled with hope. Amen.

As we celebrate your birthday, I thank the almighty Allah for placing you in my life. May your day be filled with joy, reflection, and hope for the year ahead, and may he continue to bless and protect you all the days of your life.

Wishing you a birthday filled with the joy of the Lord. May His presence be with you today and always, guiding your every step.

On your special day, I ask that God grant you a sense of calm and tranquility, even in the midst of chaos. May you be reminded that you are not alone, and that God is always with you, guiding and protecting you. May this birthday be a celebration of life, hope, and renewal.

Happy birthday, my dearest. May the quiet whispers of God’s love be the loudest song in your heart today. I pray for moments of profound peace and unexpected joy in your coming year.

Hey bestie! May your birthday be a gentle reminder of your inherent worth and the unique light you bring to the world. I’m praying for a year of purpose, passion, and profound peace.

On your birthday, I’m praying for your well-being — both body and soul. May you experience deep rest and rejuvenation, and may your spirit be filled with hope and optimism. May you always know how deeply you are loved and cherished.

As you embark on another year, I pray that you are guided by divine wisdom and purpose. May you discover new passions and talents, and may your life be filled with meaningful experiences. May you always walk in integrity and kindness, and may your actions reflect the love that resides within you.

On your birthday, I’m holding you in prayer for strength, clarity, and the courage to chase the dreams the almighty Allah has planted in your soul. May you feel His unwavering support every step of the way.

May this birthday bring you closer to your true calling. I pray that you are blessed with opportunities to use your gifts and talents to make a positive impact on the world. May your life be a testament to the power of love and compassion.

On your birthday, I’m praying that you experience a profound sense of God’s purpose for your life. May you walk in His light, and may your path be filled with joy and fulfilment. May your heart always be open to His guidance, and may you find strength in His love.

On your special day, I pray that you are surrounded by the love and support of your family and friends. May your relationships be strong and enduring, and may you always find comfort in the embrace of your community. May your birthday be a day of great celebration and joy. Happy birthday!

As the candles glow, may your heart be filled with the warmth of God’s love. I pray that you find strength in His promises and joy in His presence throughout the coming year.

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Birthday Wishes for Friends in Nigerian Pidgin

a young man raising his glass at birthday party

Sometimes, proper English is just too serious for the kind of cruise you want to catch with your guys. Pidgin makes everything sweeter, funnier, and straight from the heart.

Whether you want to crack your friend up or show love the Naija way, these Pidgin birthday wishes will do the trick.

Wetin be birthday if e no come with money and enjoyment? Oya, today na your day to chop life! More years, more blessings!

Na you be the best person I know. Wetin you deserve pass normal birthday. Na the whole world I suppose give you. Happiest birthday, my G.

Clear road! Make we no do any other thing today than to celebrate you. Today na your birthday, and you deserve the shutdown and more.

You na better person. E don tey wey we meet, and I no regret say I know you. You don add plenty happiness to my life. My life for no make sense if I no sabi you. On this day wey your mama born you, I dey pray make God prosper you and make Him blessings fall like rain for where you dey. You deserve everything wey dey good for this life.

My brother, close friend, my cartel nigga. We fit yab and quarrel for Africa, but I still cherish you die. Longer days, tallest! Blissful days and more chikitos to you, lol. Happy birthday!

Happy birthday! May you live long to use your mouth talk all the good good things wey God don do for you. Anybody wey dey waka bad waka for your matter go waka tire, dem no go see you. You go dey go, dey come, and bad thing no go happen to you. Amen.

As today na your special day, I pray make your wahala reduce, your money increase, and your joy full ground! Happy birthday, my padi!

Shey na today dem born you? Na why everywhere dey shine like this! My gee, na only better better things go follow you this new year.

See as you fresh today! No forget say age na number, but enjoyment na choice. Make sure say you flex well today. Happy birthday!

My guy, another 365 days don land, and you still dey shine! More life, more grace, and more money wey pass Dangote own.

Birthday na once a year, so no reason am — today na for flexing! May your new age come with better levels and no wahala.

If dem ask me wetin I wish you, na plenty money, good health, and jollof rice wey no go finish! Happy birthday, my person!

Omo, e be like say you dey use age do investment, because how you still fine like this? More life, my padi!

Today na your day, my gee! May your pocket dey heavy, your problems dey light, and your happiness no get ending.

Dem go talk say na just birthday, but for me, e no be small thing. You be blessing to us, and we dey thank God say you dey.

Na God dey give life, and on this day wey your mama born you, I wan take am thank God for your life and for how Him take create you well. Make merriment because God don butter your bread.

Happy birthday to my babes and more! Only you na babes. As you take fine, na so your year go take fine. Happiness go yanfu-yanfu for this your new year. Cheers!

Na great pleasure and thing of joy say I be your friend. I dey send my good wishes and dey throway my salute to where you dey on this day. Happy birthday!

Na fantastic birthday I wish you. Na my prayer say anything wey you wish for, make life bring am come your doormot, and as e come, make you dey there to receive am. Amen.

Na more fruitful years to celebrate in good condition and sound mind I wish you. Happy birthday!

Make God favour you in all you do. For this season, make you enjoy a good year.

Na my prayer say everything you dey pray for you go achieve am sharp-sharp. Amen.

Happy birthday to my personal person. Na she dey make my head go tirin-tirin. As dem born you today, silver and gold I no get to give you. But wetin I get, I go give, and na my prayer say make God bless you.

Happy birthday, my padi! As you add another year, I pray say happiness go dey follow you everywhere you waka.

Oboy, e don tey wey you land this earth. Happy birthday! I dey pray make your days shine like your fave. Shine-shine bobo.

As you dey blow your cake, make every blow carry yawa comot from your life. Happy birthday, my paid!

The miracle of the mobile device means people can stay connected 24/7. For some people, this doesn’t make digital communication with their loved ones any easier; in fact, it has become a factor that negatively affects their interpersonal relationships.

We talk to eight young Nigerians about their bad texting habits and how it has affected the relationships they maintain, asking them, “Are you a bad texter only when you don’t like the person you’re texting?”

Kwansogbu*

Nah. I like my friends very much, but I forget to text back because I’m absent-minded and easily distracted. I’ll see a notification and say, “I’ll respond to it when I’m done with what I’m doing,” but I never do. I often feel like a bad friend when it comes to texting because I really want to stay in touch, but it doesn’t come naturally. Sometimes I open texts from my crush and only realise (by seeing their name) hours later that I didn’t reply.

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Kylie*

I’m a bad texter even with people I really love. I’m better at calls, but I literally hate texting. I can’t explain why, but it just stresses me out. I feel like we should control our phones, not the other way around. With texting, I’m expected to respond immediately, and, I just don’t have the capacity for that. It has made my friends think I don’t like them as much because other people they barely know are ready to text them all the time. I enjoy physical interaction more than texts. I’d hang out with my friends every day if I could but sadly, most of them live in different cities now, and some abroad.

Sommelier*

Honestly, I’ve really tried to get better at it. I get bursts of motivation to text, but that never lasts. Most potential partners have to push through my bad response times to get to know me. I’m grateful my friends understand because it would be easy to get mad at me. I’d rather just have a phone call, a quick in-and-out.

Dana*

Sometimes, I think I’ve replied, and I find out later that I didn’t. It’s weird because I wasn’t like this in the past.

It all started 2 years ago. I was going through a lot and was a bit depressed, so I was unwilling to reply to any texts. I went on many social media breaks during this time, and most of my friends ultimately became tired and distant, which I totally understand. I became used to replying to texts when I felt mentally up to it.

My remaining friends have gotten used to it, so they just wait until I reply. On other days, they send messages repeatedly, so I reply to them.

Sometimes, I try to dedicate my day to replying to all my friends, but other days, I feel down and don’t reply on time. I’ve worked really hard to fix my bad texting habits, and I think I’m getting better.

Sunshine*

I’m really a bad texter, and it stems from having a traumatic childhood. I’ve always liked keeping to myself; I grew up being told to be more reserved. Now, I have an avoidant personality, and I fear being too much or saying too much.

This means I’m terrible at communicating with friends or texting. I’m used to going through stuff alone. So anytime I’m at a crossroads in my life, I panic, disappear and stop texting. I know I had a traumatic childhood, and I need to see a therapist because of my avoidance issue, but I’ve been managing it well. One day, I’ll have enough dispensable cash to see a therapist; there is so much to unpack.

Jay*

Omo, at this point, I’m a bad texter to everyone. Once, my estranged best friend tried to reconnect with me, and I aired her for days. There were also other factors involved (my sim got blocked, and I was writing exams). When I finally got back to her to reconnect, she said she was no longer interested. I didn’t even try to convince her because, lowkey, I knew I didn’t have it in me to actually text her frequently. At the time, I felt bad, but now I don’t really care anymore.

Hen*

In general, I find conversations quite overwhelming, especially after a full day of work. I don’t want to return to even more conversations. As such, I’ll put off responding until I feel better, but then I’ll forget to respond.

McGash*

No, I just struggle to connect emotionally to what’s not right in front of me. I think of myself as an “in-person” person. Also, I’ve come to gradually shun social media. This, combined with a myriad of short-term memory issues, means I struggle to maintain my attention in a chat setting and hardly remember why when I do. Liking someone has little to do with it for me.

Pre-2010s: Asa Asika and Davido became casual friends

2010: Asa Asika managed Davido

2012: Asa Asika and Davido split

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Late 2016/Early 2017: Asa Asika and Davido reunited

2025: Davido cries at Asa Asika’s wedding

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Where do you live, and when did you relocate from Nigeria?

What has changed since you moved?

That’s interesting. How did hairdressing come into the picture?

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Does that affect how much profit you make?

What does a typical day in your work life look like?

Have you considered befriending the clients you get along with?

So why do you think you still find it difficult to find your community?

Do you ever feel lonely?

That’s crazy. Have you experienced any culture shock since you moved?

Have you kept in touch with your Nigerian friends?

On a scale of one to ten, rank how happy you are in the UK

5 Signs You’re Becoming a Part-Time Friend

1. Your Availability Depends on Babe

2. You Keep Cancelling Plans

3. Every Conversation Is About Your Relationship

4. You’ve Stopped Being Present

5. You Only Remember Them When You Need To Rant

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We Asked A Relationship Coach How To Fix It

1. Own Up to It

2. Make Time (Intentionally)

3. When You’re Confronted, Actually Listen

And If And If You’re the One Feeling Left Out…

Tell me how you and Dabira hit it off

What was your friendship with her like?

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What made things boil over?

Ah! She didn’t tell you?

Did you confront her about it?

What was your reaction after she told you this?

Whoa, so she’s still blocked?

How did you react this time?

Would you be open to reconciliation if she came back to you to try?

Where do you live, and when did you relocate from Nigeria?

What has the last three years in Canada looked like for you?

Like what?

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Sounds tough. How hard is it to maintain those friendships?

You’ve hacked long-distance friendship. How do you stay connected to your family members in Nigeria?

Sorry about your parents.

Why do you think you’re still struggling to find physical friends?

Nice! What’s the best part about living in Canada?

Did you experience any culture shock?

On a scale of one to ten, how happy are you in Canada?

This is Bolu’s story, as told to Daniel Orubo.

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Let’s start from the beginning.

Tell me more about your friendship with Rotimi.

It sounds like a great friendship. What happened?

So what went wrong?

Did you manage to reach anyone else who knew him?

Wow

Tell me what happened.

How did that make you feel?

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You stood on business. What happened after that?

Oh no! I’m so sorry.

“We were no longer on the same page” — Ovie* (28)

“I saw her less and less and less” — Bolawa* (27)

“I was the only one putting in the effort to keep the friendship alive” — Nani* (26)

“She moved on from our friendship first” — David* (30)

“Her energy towards me changed completely.” — Olamide* (26)

How to let go without being the villain in their life story

The fade-out method

The honest chat

The dramatic approach

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