Perfectionism isn’t all great, and Lynda* knows that too well. She talks about recognising how her high expectations negatively affect her life and relationships, and how her fear of admitting her imperfection prevents her from seeking professional help.
“I feel guilty because I hoped it would be her fault. How many times have you heard that a man is the infertile one? I don’t know why my case is different”.
“I paid medical bills, covered tuition for my nieces and nephews. And let’s not get started on the uncles and aunties I had to “settle” once in a while. I was a walking NGO with my family as the ungrateful beneficiaries.”
“I watched people pick between being able to afford food or the drugs they needed. Drugs that cost what a privileged person would call chicken change.”
In this story, a gay man who doesn’t like group sex goes for a threesome, but it ends up becoming a fivesome where things get out of hand.
As Told To Tunta I was looking to write about Nigerian women who had been stalked, when Ginger reached out to me. *Ginger is a 25-year-old woman who was harassed by her older cousin’s friend from when she was 13-years-old. Her cousin knew about it, but played it off as a joke. Read her story: […]
I was in SS1 when I was informed that my father had become a pastor. My first thought was, “Who sent him message?”
As told to Mariam In March, Kachi* messaged me to say she had a story for me about her relationship with her mum. We had a conversation and here’s what she told me: The relationship I have with my mum is the kind of relationship people have with their sisters. Maybe it is because I […]
As Told To Itohan For a while now, I had been asking people what the most interesting parts about their love life. So, when someone reached out to me and said she fell in love with her Uncle, I wondered if I was reading right. The person in today’s As Told To is *Anna, a […]
As told to Mariam I travelled to Ilorin for an exam last week and on the bus, I rode in, I met Yoma*. Somehow the conversation of faith came up, and she told me she didn’t subscribe to the Christianity practised in churches. When I asked why, this is what she told me: I grew […]
“The military never paid my father’s pension.”
As told to Toheeb I’ve been thinking about talking to a gambling addict for Naira Life for some time now, but I haven’t found someone who’s willing to share their story yet. Two weeks ago, while looking for people to interview for this article, a lady reached out to me. She wanted to tell me […]
As told to Mariam Last week, in a conversation about HER stories, Femi told me he knew someone who had done a breast reduction surgery. My curiosity piqued so I collected her contact details and reached out. Here’s what she told me: I have always had big breasts, and I have always hated them. I […]
Following the trending conversation on breastfeeding earlier this month, I made a call for African women to share their experiences breastfeeding for an article. Cynthia* was one of the women that reached out to me, she told me her baby rejected breast milk and was sick at birth so I asked more questions. Here’s what […]
As told to Mariam In February, I made a call for Nigerian women to share stories about their best ex. Annabelle was one of the women who sent in a story. When I shared the article on Twitter, a lot of people were curious about Annabelle’s story and she was willing to share. Here’s what […]
We spoke to 21-year-old Eliakim whose family rarely talks about the people they have lost and how that family tradition affects the way he feels grief and how he is navigating it moving forward.
Bimbo* had spent a long time in quarantine even though she didn’t have the virus.
Our as told to subject has been able to cope with death of their mother through their obsession with death.
As told to Mariam During my first week at Zikoko, I wanted to write an article on how body dysmorphia affects women. I made a call for women to share their stories with me and Fisayo* messaged me. I eventually found that a similar article had been written but the conversation I had with them […]
As told to Mariam Last week, I asked women who have received marriage proposals to share what theirs was like — did they like it or not? I had a lot of entries but one stood out to me. Tomi* wasn’t sure if she had been proposed to or not because the first words her […]
As told to Toheeb. Last year, I thought it might be interesting to talk to a student cultist for Aluta and Chill, the flagship series I was writing at the time. I put the word out, but it was futile. I was about to give up my search when a friend told me there was […]
“My life in Lagos was fine. But then I turned seven, and my uncle became sick.”
“At the end of the speech I wrote for her, her husband was crying. Everyone was crying.”
*James, 29, and his girlfriend, *Dami, 27, tried to spice up their relationship with a threesome, but that decision almost turned tragic.
As told to David Odunlami When I try to picture what the practice of cultism looks like, I imagine people dressed in red wrappers, gathered around a T-junction, sacrificing goats and speaking incantations. Maybe I’ve watched too many Nollywood movies or maybe I just have an overactive imagination, but after a conversation with an old […]
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