8 Nigerian Women Talk About Their Experience With Sex Toys

August 3, 2020

Sex toys are one of those things that are becoming more popular with younger Nigerian women. That is why, I asked some of them to share their sex toy experience with me.

Zainab (19)

I was never a believer in multiple orgasms. After one, I would be unable to go again, but that was until I bought my first vibrator. The first day I used it, I thought my siblings will find me dead, vibrator in hand. My stomach hurt from all the contracting and I thought I would develop abs afterwards (I did not). It has definitely made me more open to the idea of multiple orgasms, and any partner that is not willing to do that for me, I have a vibrator that will.

Tokyo (19)

The first time I used a sex toy, it was a friend of mines. It was after a night out and we all just came back home very tipsy. I picked her vibrator from where it was charging and just used it. She saw me with it and wanted to join in. Our third friend came into the room, saw the both of us and that is what led to the first threesome of my life . Six months later I finally bought mine and I absolutely love it.

Yetunde (21)

So there is this difference between a dildo and an actual penis. The first time I had a strap-on used on me, it felt like I was being fingered. Not because it was small or anything, but because it felt very intimate. She got pleasure from using it on me and that’s basically how fingering works. The second time, I was the one using the strap and it was with a man. It was a bit painful for him at first because it was my first time, but we found a way around it. It made me feel closer to him in some way. I would definitely do it again, but mention to Nigerian men you want to stick a strap in their ass and they no longer like the idea of anal.

Chidera (22)

My first sex toy was a purple rabbit. I did not like it as much because sometimes the part for the clit stimulation would not fit right because you have to stuff the entire rabbit in. So, I took the idea of knowing what I wanted and bought a clit sucker. I still use my rabbit with other partners sometimes, but then I love being able to just stay at home and go at it. Masturbation for me is a short term release that can be super beneficial. My toys make masturbating more fun which leads to more frequent masturbation, and that enables me get respite when sex with another person is not readily available. It stops me from making really reckless decisions.

Celine (23)

I got into BDSM in like early 2014, but did not buy my first kit till 2020. It has cuffs, a leash, blindfold, leather whip, feather, butt plug, other butt relating stuff and a vibrator. Before then, I had been using things like ties and stuff with my male partners (I am the dom). The first person I used the kit on actually broke the chains on the leg cuffs, and I have never been more excited to spend my money on another set. It means I was doing something right. The whip is definitely my best part of the kit.

Amina (27)

A friend of mine had been preaching to me about getting a sex toy because I was always complaining about how men never got it right, and I was too shy to actually say anything to them. For my birthday in February, she bought me this thing called a clit sucker. I actually did not use it until March, when the lockdown was really getting to me. That night, I could swear that my spirit left my body. The next day, I bought my friend a bottle of wine to say thank you. Best. Gift. Ever.

Maserati (34)

I used to be able to squirt, but with my then partner of six years, I never did. Then I got this amazing lelo vibrator (the bullet I had before this was child’s play), and one day while casually going through the different settings and functions, I found myself vibrating and spilling all over. Safe to say, I still got it.

Tola (36)

The first time I wanted to try anal sex, my partner at the time said we should start with butt plugs. I genuinely thought you just stick the penis in the hole with lube and InshAllah, but luckily for me, he knew what he was doing. It took about a week before we actually did anything. What happened was he kept increasing the size of my butt plug everyday. I would walk around for about three to six hours a day with a plug up my bum. At first it was uncomfortable, but as time went on I started looking forward to it. Definitely a fun experience. When the time came to actually have the anal sex, it was very pleasant. The initial discomfort I thought I would feel was not there.

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