7 Straight Nigerians Reveal Why They Explored Their Sexuality

May 6, 2020

If there’s anything writing Sex Life stories has taught me, it’s that sexuality is much more complex than a lot of us care to acknowledge. One of the series’ best-performing episodes is about a man who only realised he was bisexual at age 27.

So, I decided to see just how open people from my generation are to exploring their sexuality. For that, I asked 7 Nigerians who identify as straight to share stories of same-sex encounters they’ve had, and what that revealed to them about their sexuality.

Osas, 32/Female/Straight

I think I started being curious at 19, and I finally tried when I was 21. The babe and her husband were interested in me, and they hit me up on Twitter, asking me to be part of a threesome. I decided to hook up with the wife first just to see what it would be like.

I went as far as her giving me head and using a strap-on on me. The whole experience just showed me that I’m 100% straight. I enjoy watching lesbian porn, but that’s where it ends. I really tried with the babe, but I couldn’t even be turned on. We had to use lube and I never use lube.

John, 30/Male/Straight

I was curious for a couple of weeks before I tried anything. I have a friend who came out as gay recently, and right after he told me, I suddenly started wondering what it would feel like to kiss him. I thought it would pass, but the urge just kept growing.

So, I started subtly flirting, hoping he’d take the hint. He never did. After weeks of trying to get him to make the first move, I got frustrated and decided to go for it. He was chilling at mine one afternoon, we were both high, and I just kissed him.

It was really nice, but I didn’t feel the urge to go any further. I told him that, and we both just laughed it off. There was a small part of me that really hoped I was bisexual — for the culture — but it turns out I’m just another boring straight man.

Tola, 27/Female/Straight

I really can’t say how long I was curious before I tried — maybe a couple of months. My attraction was solely focused on just one woman though. So, when the opportunity came, I just went for it. I asked her if I could kiss her, and she said yes. It was heavenly.

We did everything except have sex, but that was mostly due to a lack of opportunity. I actually really wanted to. The whole thing lasted for about 3 months. She wanted something serious, but I just couldn’t commit to that. Thankfully, we’re still friends.

I’m not sure what this experience taught me about my sexuality. As I said, it was all for that one girl. Since then, I haven’t met another girl that’s reignited those feelings and it’s been almost 7 years. So, I think I’m straight with a hint of bi-curiosity.

Chike, 28/Male/Straight

I wasn’t exactly curious when it happened, I was just very horny. I hadn’t gotten laid in months, so when my roommate jokingly offered to suck my dick after a night of heavy drinking and partying, I accepted. I can’t lie, it’s probably one of the best blowjobs I’ve ever gotten.

Unfortunately, when we decided to try again, both very sober this time, I just wasn’t into it at all. It was even a struggle to maintain an erection. I guess I’m just one of those straight people that becomes increasingly bi-curious the drunker they get.

Eniola, 25/Female/Straight

I wasn’t exactly curious, it just sort of happened. She was a friend and I could tell she was into me. She’d been fully flirting for about a month. So, when she finally made her move, I just went with the flow. I really enjoyed it at the start.

She gave me head, but I never reciprocated — I never felt the urge to try. The whole thing went on for about 2 months or so, but I later realised that same-sex relationships just aren’t my thing. It felt way too deep and intense, so I dipped.

Ekanem, 31/Male/Straight

When I was in university, I had a friend who was very kind to me. He’d buy me clothes, dash me money and listen to me complain about my girlfriend for hours. So, when he eventually told me he liked me, I felt like I owed it to him to see if the feelings could be mutual.

We made out and jerked each other off, but I wasn’t feeling it at all. I wasn’t surprised because I’d never been curious about being with men before. So, I had to let him down easy. Our relationship was strained for a bit after, but we eventually got back to normal. We’re even still guys.

Damola, 24/Female/Straight

For whatever reason, I’d always been convinced that I was bisexual. I’d never actually been with a woman, but I was sure. So, when I finally got my chance to make out with a very attractive woman, I jumped at it. It turns out, I am very straight.

The kiss was objectively great, but I just wasn’t as excited as I get when I’m with men. A part of me still wanted to try going all the way to see if it would make a difference, but I decided against it. I didn’t want to be one of those thirsty babes that form bisexual just to be quirky.

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