Sex Life: 10 Of The Most-Read Stories To Date

November 16, 2020

On November 16, 2019, co-creator Ope Adedeji published the first-ever Sex Life story, one that addressed the complexities of sex on antidepressants, and that thoughtful interview set the tone for the rest of the series.

Since then, we’ve spoken to over 50 Nigerians of different ages, sexual orientations and gender identities, opening minds and sparking necessary conversations along the way.

Now, as Sex Life turns a year-old, we’ve gathered 10 of its biggest hits:

1. Why I Keep Cheating On My Husband

The subject of this Sex Life is a 31-year-old heterosexual woman who’s been cheating on her husband for the past year. She talks about their total lack of sexual chemistry and why she feels no guilt.

Read the most-read Sex Life story here.

2. How I Went From Straight To Bi To Gay

The subject of this Sex Life is a 33-year-old gay man who started out dating only women until he was 20. Then he dated men and women until he was 27. Now, he exclusively dates men.

Read the second most-read Sex Life story here.

3. I Regret Saving Myself For Marriage

The subject of this Sex Life is a 28-year-old heterosexual man who waited until he was married to have sex. He talks about having very little sexual chemistry with his wife and finding gratification outside his marriage.

Read the third most-read Sex Life story here.

4. Sleeping With Older Men Changed My Life

The subject of this Sex Life is a 24-year-old heterosexual woman who prefers older men as sex partners because she doesn’t rate sex with men her age. 

Read the fourth most-read Sex Life story here.

5. Discovering Sex After 20 Years Of Marriage To The Wrong Man

The subject of this Sex Life is a 40-year-old heterosexual woman who has been married for 20 years and never enjoyed sex. Now, she looks forward to divorcing him and exploring sex outside of marriage. 

Read the fifth most-read Sex Life story here.

6. I Regret Letting My Body Count Enter The 300s

The subject of this Sex Life is a 31-year-old heterosexual man who has slept with over 300 women. He talks about regretting the unbelievable number and the stories behind a lot of the encounters.

Read the sixth most-read Sex Life story here.

7. How Opening My Marriage Changed My Life

The subject of this Sex Life is a 30-year-old queer woman who, after agreeing to an open marriage, realised she is primarily attracted to women. She talks about coming out to her husband and embracing her new reality.

Read the seventh most-read Sex Life story here.

8. I Think My Husband Might Be Gay

The subject of this Sex Life is a 26-year-old woman who was having great sex before marriage. She’s been married for a year now and has not had sex with her husband since their wedding. She thinks he might be gay.

Read the eight most-read Sex Life story here.

9. Living With A Vagina That Refuses To Be Penetrated

The subject of this Sex Life is a 27-year-old heterosexual woman living with vaginismus, a condition that makes it impossible for her to have penetrative sex, undergo a gynaecological exam or even insert a tampon.

Read the ninth most-read Sex Life story here.

10. How Being Abused By My Aunty Affected My Sex Life

The subject of this Sex Life is a 26-year-old woman who waited till marriage to have sex for several reasons which include religion, her size and the fact that she was sexually abused by her aunty for years as a child. 

Read the tenth most-read Sex Life story here.


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