Friendship is the best kind of ship, but let’s be honest — some icks can stop it from ever setting sail. We spoke to five young Nigerians about their friendship icks and why certain behaviours just won’t fly with them.

Toyin*

One of my big friendship icks is irresponsible drinking. I once had a friend nearly die of alcohol poisoning at my place after a party. Worst night of my life. The anxiety was so bad, and I couldn’t even think of how I’d explain it to his family. Now, if I see you like getting wasted at a function? I’m out.

Tayo

My ick is people who say hurtful and insidious things when they’re angry and expect forgiveness later. It’s so thoughtless to freely hurt others and use anger as a cop-out or an excuse. That’s a big no from me.

Bolu*

I can’t vibe with someone who treats service staff— waiters, security people, anyone—like trash. I used to work as a server, so I know how awful customers can be. Once I catch that attitude in a friend, it’s over.

Fola*

My friendship ick has to be banger boys or girls. Especially on X, once I see you’re one of those people who make comments like  “Vawulence” or “They’re coming for you now omg” under anything controversial, I cringe so hard. I can’t do it, sorry.

Doyin*

I can’t be friends with a taker. It gives me a massive ick if you’re someone who has to be prompted before you reciprocate. I don’t even mean materially, but if I’m the only one calling, texting or reaching out first, it just won’t click.

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