7 Nigerians Share Their Favourite Thing About Being Polyamorous

November 11, 2021

What’s one thing about your kind of relationship you love? In this article, 7 Nigerians share with us their favourite thing about being polyamorous.

Jasmine, 21

One thing I love about being polyamorous is having enough time to be by yourself. When you’re down and not in the space to communicate with your partners, they have other people to keep involved. It’s not so much that they don’t recognise you’re not at your best, but enough that you don’t feel like you’re neglecting them.

Tobi, 19

The freedom. Just knowing that if I wanted to, I could have different relationships with different people is my favourite thing.

John, 32

Honesty with the people I love. My wife and my other women all know I am polyamorous and this is allows for security in relationships. I can hang around a couple or more women and everyone is secure in their place. I find it mentally and intellectually fulfilling.

Anu, 20

There’s a kind of openness that comes with being polyamorous. Your partners don’t feel like they have to hide any part of themselves because of fear that you’d leave them.

Hassan, 23

You don’t resent your partner for not being able to do certain tasks with you. If you’re with just one person, it’s easy to resent them because they don’t enjoy some of the activities you do. With multiple partners, one partner isn’t burdened with being present for every single situation.

Elizabeth, 24

I get to process jealousy in a healthy way. It means a lot to me that my partners and I have regular conversations about jealousy with ourselves. In a few of my former monogamous relationships, it felt like jealousy was not something that could be brought up because he possibility of being left for someone else was too high. With polyamory, knowing that nobody has to leave makes those conversations a lot easier.

Yinka, 21

I love how you get to experience the same thing through different people. When I’m with two people who have physical touch as their primary love language, I’m able to see how varying individuals express the same type of love language in different ways. It’s very beautiful.

Zikoko Donation Banner

Help Zikoko keep making the content you love

More than ever, people are turning to Zikoko for stories that matter and content they love. But still, we, like many media organisations, are feeling the financial heat of these times. If you find us valuable, please make a contribution to help keep Zikoko zikoko-ing.

Thank you for your support.

We are also cool with Crypto.

Donation Close
Zikoko Logo

Complete Your Commitment

Donation confirm

Your Contribution is confirmed! Amount

Join The Conversation

Bring a friend.

You'll like this

Watch

Now on Zikoko

Recommended Quizzes

November 12, 2019

Are you a single pringle, stuck in a complicated situationship or happily married to the love of your life? This quiz is here to guess your current relationship status, and as you know, Zikoko quizzes are incredibly accurate (don’t quote us). So, give a shot:

November 25, 2019

We already guessed how many people you’ve slept with, and y’all were out here denying the truth. Anyway, we won’t hold that against you. This time, however, we’ve created a quiz that predicts who you’ll sleep with next — so you can either prepare or try (unsuccessfully) to prevent it. So, take and see:

November 4, 2019

After successfully predicting when y’all are getting married (please, email any complaints to noneofourbusiness@nayousabi.com), we are back to tell you how much is currently in your account. How, you might ask? By using your taste in Nollywood, of course. Shhh. No questions. Just take it already:

November 28, 2019

There are so many talented and stunning Nollywood actors that make it hard not to fall in love with them. So, while we all know the likelihood of us ending up with any of them is super low, it’s still fun to imagine a world where we actually stood a chance, and that’s why this […]

More from Ships

August 13, 2022

The subject of this week’s Sex Life is a 25-year-old queer woman who owns half a dozen sex toys and wants more. She talks about her sex toy curiosity, the trial and errors before she found the perfect ones and how she navigates sex with people. 

Watch

Trending Videos

Zikoko Originals

December 14, 2020
What happens when a group of chatty young Nigerians talk about things they're passionate about? You get Nigerians talk. A show that discusses very familiar struggles for the average Nigerian. From relationship deal breakers to sex education with Nigerian parents to leaving Nigeria, be prepared for a ride.
November 2, 2020
'The Couch' is a Zikoko series featuring real life stories from anonymous people.
October 26, 2020
A collection of videos documenting some of the events of the EndSARS protests.
June 22, 2020
'The Couch' is a Zikoko series featuring real life stories from anonymous people.
June 22, 2020
Hacked is an interesting new series by Zikoko made up of fictional but hilarious chat conversations.
June 4, 2020
What happens when a group of chatty young Nigerians talk about things they're passionate about? You get Nigerians talk. A show that discusses very familiar struggles for the average Nigerian. From relationship deal breakers to sex education with Nigerian parents to leaving Nigeria, be prepared for a ride.
June 2, 2020
Quickie is a video series where everyone featured gets only one minute to rant, review or do absolutely anything.
May 14, 2020
Isolation Diary is a Zikoko series that showcases what isolation is like for one young Nigerian working from home due to the Coronavirus pandemic.
March 12, 2020
Life is already hard. Deciding where to eat and get the best lifestyle experiences, isn't something you should stress about. Let VRSUS do that for you.

Z! Stacks

Here's a rabbit hole of stories to lose yourself in:

Zikoko amplifies African youth culture by curating and creating smart and joyful content for young Africans and the world.
X