9 Important Questions For Nigerian Women That Men Desperately Want To Ask

August 5, 2020

The other day, Nigerian women spoke about the hardest part of dating Nigerian men. This was in response to a post about Nigerian men being scared to raise up issues in their relationships. It seems like there’s a huge disconnect between men and women. To address this, I gathered a few men who said they have questions for women that they need to be clarified. The aim is to bridge the communication gap and ultimately, lead to more wholesome experiences for both parties.

Here are a few questions Nigerian men desperately needs answers to:

1) Why do women feel that men will call them naggers?

“My gf told me that the reason she doesn’t complain about stuff is so she doesn’t come off as nagging. Why does she feel this way?”

2) Why don’t women communicate how they feel?

“A Nigerian woman would rather die than tell you how she really feels about you. Why?”

3) Why do women forget so easily?

“You can do one million things for a babe and when she’s angry, it all goes out of the window. Next thing “do you love me?” Why don’t they remember things we did in the past?

4) Why do women like attention?


5) Is it a bad thing to not want to share my problems?

“I don’t like light and love, is it bad to not want to share a problem, especially if I know it’s love and light you’ll give me?”

6) Why do women pretend not to like something but complain once you stop?

“You’ll be toasting babe and blowing up her phone everyday. She’ll say she doesn’t like it. Enter relationship and stop that texting frenzy[because she said she hates it], next thing you’ll hear is that you don’t do the things you used to when you were chasing me again. But, madam, you said I was disturbing you. Ahan. Why?”

7) Why do women say men don’t listen?

“It’s funny women say we don’t hear word when I feel the exact same way. On one hand, It feels like women want to be loved in a particular kind of way. On the other hand, it also feels like women want men to be loved in a way they [women] dictate and not the way we [men] want. For example, I accept I should be happy on your birthday, but why is it compulsory to be happy on mine? [especially if it’s not my thing] Don’t I have a choice? So, why do they say men don’t listen? Or is it only when we don’t do what they want?”

8) Why do women always say men are selfish?

“I actually want to know why women say men only care about themselves. It’s unfair because men and women have different outlook on life, safety nets, and incentives. This means that men approach things differently. I think there’s a miscommunication somewhere when they label some form of self-preservation as selfishness.”

9) Why do women always drag 30+ men?

“It just seems like women don’t want to compromise. They want stability with a mixture of bad boy. Pls, why do they always drag we that enjoy routine and stability? Is it every time excitement?”

Men and women, share your thoughts with us. Let us know what you think.

You'll like this

April 4, 2020

The subject of today’s Sex Life is a 31-year-old heterosexual man who has slept with over 300 women. He talks about regretting the unbelievable number and the stories behind a lot of the encounters. What was your first sexual experience? I don’t know if this counts, but the maid used to make me sleep with […]

April 12, 2020

Easter is here, and even though we all planned to turn up and all, La Corona showed up and all our plans have changed now. No going out, no visiting people, no church services. Just what can one do? We came up with these suggestions. 1. Might as well pray with your family (if you’re […]

Hassan Yahaya

Join The Conversation

Bring a friend.


Now on Zikoko

September 18, 2020

Ah, the English language. The multi-faceted, multi-use tool of communication that a few white people on a small island in the Pacific ocean forced on a country. It’s flexible and dynamic. You can joke with it, sing with it, and cry in it. You could even say the same sentences in differing situations and still […]

September 18, 2020

Many of us thought we couldn’t get out of university fast enough. There was a new life to live and hell lots of money to make. How’s that working out now? Anyway, we asked 5 Nigerian graduates about what they miss about university, and this is what they said. Ola, University of Ibadan University was […]

Recommended Quizzes

how much of an ajebutter
February 12, 2020

Are you an ajebutter or not? Well, if you’ve gone through life blissfully unaware of its harshness, then you probably are. Now, we want to know just how high you rank on that ajebutter scale, using your food preferences as a (very accurate) measure. Take to find out:

April 14, 2020

Every friend group consists of very different and specific characters — from the parent to the fun one — and it can be a little tough figuring out where you fall. So, we’ve created a quiz that lets you know exactly what kind of friend you are. Take to find out:

October 30, 2019

Kemi Adetiba’s King of Boys movie got a lot of things right, especially casting, so yes, it was a monster hit. Now, we know you may not have put much thought to this, but the personalities of some of the characters closely match yours, and we would like to help you find the perfect match. […]

November 28, 2019

There are so many talented and stunning Nollywood actors that make it hard not to fall in love with them. So, while we all know the likelihood of us ending up with any of them is super low, it’s still fun to imagine a world where we actually stood a chance, and that’s why this […]

November 7, 2019

These days, everyone is always talking about how much sex they’re getting, or how little sex they’re getting, or how disgusting sex is etc. There’s just so much talk about sex, it’s almost impossible to know who’s lying and who’s telling the truth. In anticipation of our new series about the sex lives of young […]

More from Inside Life

September 18, 2020

Ah, the English language. The multi-faceted, multi-use tool of communication that a few white people on a small island in the Pacific ocean forced on a country. It’s flexible and dynamic. You can joke with it, sing with it, and cry in it. You could even say the same sentences in differing situations and still […]

September 18, 2020

Perhaps it skipped your attention The Imo State Government has passed a new Administration of Criminal Justice Laws No 2 of 2020. But criminal justice laws are supposed to be routine. Except that buried somewhere in Section 484 of the law is a hilarious and terrifying clause that gives the Governor the right to detain […]

September 18, 2020

Today’s Abroad Life subject is a woman who left Nigeria in 2016 to study in France. She talks about how her love for travelling has made her visit thirteen countries in the past four years, and how, now that she’s settled in Germany, she’s noticed that everyone minds their business too much. First things first, […]

September 18, 2020

In case, you slept yesterday afternoon and suddenly woke up this morning, well, good morning. But a lot has happened. The Federal Government directed that all Nigerians should go to all the banks they have an account in and fill something called a “Self Certification Form”. They say the BVN, National ID, Voter’s Card, Drivers […]

September 17, 2020

This evening, the official Twitter account of the FG put out a thread of tweets asking all account holders in financial institutions (banks, insurance companies etc.) to fill and submit a self-certification form to their financial institutions. The main gist is that every person with an account with any Nigerian financial institution is required to […]

September 17, 2020

A short poem: Roses are red Lagos traffic can leave you dead Nigeria will always “fight” corruption But we need more action! Gist: The Federal Government has approved a bill for the management of assets recovered from corruption. If this bill is signed into law, the “Proceeds of Crime Recovery and Management Act” will create […]


Trending Videos

Zikoko Originals

June 22, 2020
'The Couch' is a Zikoko series featuring real life stories from anonymous people.
June 22, 2020
Hacked is an interesting new series by Zikoko made up of fictional but hilarious chat conversations.
June 4, 2020
What happens when a group of chatty young Nigerians talk about things they're passionate about? You get Nigerians talk. A show that discusses very familiar struggles for the average Nigerian. From relationship deal breakers to sex education with Nigerian parents to leaving Nigeria, be prepared for a ride.
June 2, 2020
Quickie is a video series where everyone featured gets only one minute to rant, review or do absolutely anything.
May 14, 2020
Isolation Diary is a Zikoko series that showcases what isolation is like for one young Nigerian working from home due to the Coronavirus pandemic.
March 12, 2020
Life is already hard. Deciding where to eat and get the best lifestyle experiences, isn't something you should stress about. Let VRSUS do that for you.
February 6, 2020
Who doesn't want to find love? In our bid to help, we paired up a bunch of single Nigerians, sending them on an all-expense paid date, and interviewing them before and after they met.
January 27, 2020
Nigerians Talk is what happened when a motley crew of young Nigerians were put in front of a camera and asked a bunch of apparently random questions about life, love, money and more.
September 24, 2019
A group of Zikoko staff go on a road trip to every mainland country in ECOWAS West Africa

Z! Stacks

Here's a rabbit hole of stories to lose yourself in:

Zikoko amplifies African youth culture by curating and creating smart and joyful content for young Africans and the world.