9 Important Questions For Nigerian Women That Men Desperately Want To Ask

August 5, 2020

The other day, Nigerian women spoke about the hardest part of dating Nigerian men. This was in response to a post about Nigerian men being scared to raise up issues in their relationships. It seems like there’s a huge disconnect between men and women. To address this, I gathered a few men who said they have questions for women that they need to be clarified. The aim is to bridge the communication gap and ultimately, lead to more wholesome experiences for both parties.

Here are a few questions Nigerian men desperately needs answers to:

1) Why do women feel that men will call them naggers?

“My gf told me that the reason she doesn’t complain about stuff is so she doesn’t come off as nagging. Why does she feel this way?”

2) Why don’t women communicate how they feel?

“A Nigerian woman would rather die than tell you how she really feels about you. Why?”

3) Why do women forget so easily?

“You can do one million things for a babe and when she’s angry, it all goes out of the window. Next thing “do you love me?” Why don’t they remember things we did in the past?

4) Why do women like attention?

“Why?”

5) Is it a bad thing to not want to share my problems?

“I don’t like light and love, is it bad to not want to share a problem, especially if I know it’s love and light you’ll give me?”

6) Why do women pretend not to like something but complain once you stop?

“You’ll be toasting babe and blowing up her phone everyday. She’ll say she doesn’t like it. Enter relationship and stop that texting frenzy[because she said she hates it], next thing you’ll hear is that you don’t do the things you used to when you were chasing me again. But, madam, you said I was disturbing you. Ahan. Why?”

7) Why do women say men don’t listen?

“It’s funny women say we don’t hear word when I feel the exact same way. On one hand, It feels like women want to be loved in a particular kind of way. On the other hand, it also feels like women want men to be loved in a way they [women] dictate and not the way we [men] want. For example, I accept I should be happy on your birthday, but why is it compulsory to be happy on mine? [especially if it’s not my thing] Don’t I have a choice? So, why do they say men don’t listen? Or is it only when we don’t do what they want?”

8) Why do women always say men are selfish?

“I actually want to know why women say men only care about themselves. It’s unfair because men and women have different outlook on life, safety nets, and incentives. This means that men approach things differently. I think there’s a miscommunication somewhere when they label some form of self-preservation as selfishness.”

9) Why do women always drag 30+ men?

“It just seems like women don’t want to compromise. They want stability with a mixture of bad boy. Pls, why do they always drag we that enjoy routine and stability? Is it every time excitement?”

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