#ToHER: You’ve Saved My Life More Times Than You Know

July 17, 2022

We bring to you letters written by women to women they love, miss, cherish or just remember. To celebrate the support women continue to show each other, this is #ToHER.

From: Abolade, a woman wants her soulmate to know how much she’s loved

To: Ariyike, the ying to Abolade’s yang  

Dear Ariyike,

I love you. Listen, I love you so much. I don’t think you understand that I love you so fucking much. You’re a priority. You’re my friend, You’re my sister, you’re my family, you are my soulmate, you’re my person and you’re my bestie for life. You’re the yang to my yang. LMAO. The point is, me and you, you and me, will be together forever!

I love you for being you: my shy, weird, hilarious and beautiful baby. I love you for loving me. I love you when you’re hilarious. I love you when you act like a goat. I love how much you care for me, always on my ass to study for tests and exams. Always trying to make me feel better when I’m in my depressive state. 

Tanwa, ìwọ ni ọ̀rẹ́ tí mo ní tí mi ò mò pé mò ń wá . Thank you for making it easy to confide in you. Thank you for being a safe place. Thank you for loving me, consistently validating my existence, gassing me up, and constantly reminding me of what I’m capable of. Thank you for existing.

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Ọ̀rẹ́ mi, o dùn. You’re the honey to my tea, If I had a star for every time you brightened my day, I’d have a galaxy. You’re the electrician that lights up my day and night. You’re the best track on my album. You’re the most beautiful picture in my photos. The salesman to my copy. LOL, I know I am saying rubbish. The point is, you complete me. There is no me without you. You make me happy, you make me want to live, you make me want to create more memories with you and you make me want to relive the ones we’ve created. 

I love you so much, and listen, we will make it. So you see those ways you want to flex? Ma worry, soonest.  Ọ̀rẹ́ mi, a máa jayé foreign. Ọlọ́hun gbọ́. Mo love e dákú.

May our friendship last for as long as we exist,

Abolade.

If you’d like to write a letter #ToHER, click here to tell us why

ALSO READ: “The Yin to My Yang” — 5 Nigerians on Having Platonic Soulmates

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