8 Nigerian Women Tell Us What Their Definition Of Cheating In A Relationship Is

February 3, 2021

Different women have different definitions of cheating. For some, it is more emotional than physical. These eight Nigerian women define cheating for us.

Zainab, 19

I don’t think I have a definition of cheating. Physical activities are physical, and I cannot stop you from hanging out with someone even if they like you or you like them. If you have sex with someone else that’s fine because I will too. It’s the lying I have a problem with. Just don’t lie about it. Don’t sneak around. Do it with your chest and if I can’t handle it anymore, I’d bounce.

Linda, 23

I am very particular about bonds and intimacy in terms of communication. So for me, cheating is having romantic feelings and acting on them with someone else while having a partner. Hanging out in date like settings and giving them energy that should only be exclusive to a partner.

Amaka, 19

Existing in other women’s spaces. I consider confiding in other women cheating. If you go to them for emotional support and personal stuff etc.

Cynthia, 33

I am not one of those people that say “sex is sex”. Sex is not just sex. Sexual activities are not just sexual activities and doing them with someone that is not your partner means you cheated.

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Anu, 20

When I hear some people define cheating, they make it sound like you cannot breathe close to someone without them. Cheating to me is relationship spice, and a fun game to play. When I start getting bored with one partner, I cheat. Then when you “catch” me, I just beg and I am usually forgiven. My friends tell me it’s messed up and wicked, but aren’t we all a bit messed up and wicked?

Halima, 27

I guess I am very traditional. If you so much as look at another woman for longer than five seconds, you have cheated. What happened to lowering your gaze?

Lola, 19

For me cheating is engaging people in a way that you can’t openly do in front of your partner. It is also anything that you do with someone else that you have to hide from your partner. It could be flirting, touching them in a way or even talking about sexual things. If you have to hide it or would never let your partner see then you are cheating in some way.

Jane, 31

Cheating to me is when you do things with other people that you know your partner will not be comfortable with. If you know your partner will feel a kind of way they find out, you cheated.

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