7 Nigerian Women Tell Us The Best Valentine’s Day They Have Had

February 12, 2021

Every year since you were born, you have experienced a Valentine’s day. Some might be good, some bad, but one always stands out. These seven women tell us about the best Valentine’s day they have ever had.

Ada, 33

I went into labour on the 13th of February. I had given birth before, but it was not as hard as this one so I was sure this child wanted to kill me. After over twelve hours in the labour room, I finally gave birth on the morning of the 14th. When I held my son in my arms, I felt so much peace. I would not say the multiple hours of labour was worth it, but it was really close. I gave birth to a healthy son, and no gift could top that. Except maybe a new car.

Zainab, 19

I was about seven-years-old in primary school. I had come to school in these red velvet trousers and a white shirt. When it was break time, the teacher gathered all the snacks we brought and shared it. After sharing, he asked that if anyone brought any gifts for anyone, they could give it to them. One boy in my class at the time walked up to me with a rose and a bag with a bottle of perfume in it. We spent the rest of the day passing notes to each other and it was so fun. I had only seen him once since we left primary school, but I was too shy to say anything. I want him to know that that was the best Valentine’s day I had ever had.

Yinka, 20

My friends and I are usually single around Valentine’s day, so last year we decided to do something nice for ourselves for a change. After saving up and getting our parents to contribute to our cause, the four of us were able to get an AirBnB. We wore our comfiest clothes and binge watched romantic comedies while we ate and drank. Having my best girls around me and just having a great time was such an amazing experience. That was also the day I discovered I was not as straight as I thought.

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Cynthia, 23

I have always loved flowers. Two years ago I mentioned to my current girlfriend that I had never gotten flowers. It was a comment I made in the middle of the conversation and I did not think too much about it, but she apparently did. I still do not know how much she bribed my friends to go along with the plan she had, but throughout the day they kept bringing me flowers with little notes from her. I felt so special and loved. At the end of the day when I went to her place for the dinner she made, she gave me this big bouquet. I couldn’t stop crying. It was so thoughtful and sweet.

Janet, 26

Since 2019 started, I had been complaining to my then boyfriend about how work seemed to have wanted to kill me. I had just started my own business, so I was constantly stressed. I was always tired, and I never ate enough food. The night before, he put off my alarm so by the time I woke up to get ready for work, it was about 10am. He gave me a bath, and made me akara and pap for breakfast. He drove us to a spa where he had booked an appointment and we had a couple’s massage. Then later, we went to dinner in a nice restaurant I had been wanting to try. It was so peaceful and calm. I felt so full of love, and the sex we had later was so amazing. 10/10 experience and I cannot forget it.


My best Valentine’s Day was actually last year. I’d just moved countries and started dating someone new. As a queer person, it was exciting cause I could be romantic in public. I got her flowers, made a jar of our favourite memories till that date, and tasks I could do for her. She got dressed up and took me to my favourite restaurant which was a steakhouse. She’s vegan, so I know that took a lot. She also got me the cutest and warmest indoor slippers ever because she knew knew my feet got cold easily. We booked a room for the night and I think the sex we had was probably my top 2 experiences and it was definitely not number 2.

Lillian, 18

It was in SS2 when I had a thing with this guy. I went out of the class and came back to find him and his friends smiling sheepishly at me. When I sat at my desk, I my put my hand under the desk only to find a fake rose and a letter on a piece of paper. I took both and ran to the ladies’ to read it because I was shy. He wrote a really sweet letter and poem for me. I memorized that poem and I could recite it off the top of my head for months.

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