When Sharon*(29) said yes to Biodun’s (38) proposal, he thought the hardest part was over. Instead, it marked the beginning of a relationship filled with surprise breakups and painful reunions. 

After being pulled closer and pushed away by the woman he considers his forever person, Biodun is left asking himself one question: How many chances are too many when you’re in love? 

How did you meet?

Sharon and I met at a friend’s wedding in 2024. She was one of the bridesmaids, and I was immediately drawn to her beauty. I introduced myself during the after-party, and our chemistry was undeniable. We started talking afterwards, and I told her from the jump that I was looking for a serious relationship.

What were the early days of your relationship like?

They were amazing. I felt like she understood me better than any of my previous partners. She was a great listener, and I loved spending time with her. One of the things that made me fall so hard was that she’d made playlists for us to listen to together when she visited. It made me feel like I’d found my forever person.

Sounds sweet. When did things take a turn?

Everything started when I asked her to marry me in December 2025. I surprised her over dinner, and she said yes without hesitation. I felt on top of the world.

We posted our engagement photos online, I told my family, and I started making plans to formally meet hers and declare my intentions.

At first, they welcomed me with open arms, but it was all a lie. They assumed, because of my last name, that I was related to a wealthy politician. Once they realised I wasn’t, they rejected me and said I wasn’t good enough for their daughter.

Oh. How did Sharon react?

At first, she stood by me and told her family she wasn’t going to leave me because of their objections. But they threatened to disown her. 

She came back and asked for two weeks to calm everyone down. I gladly obliged, and we took a step back from our relationship.

Those were the longest two weeks of my life. I was anxious the entire time, hoping she’d come back with a positive response. 

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Did she?

No. Her family still refused to support our union, and she wasn’t ready to lose them. Then she called off the engagement and ended our relationship. I was devastated.

About a week later, while I was still trying to process everything, she called me crying. She said she couldn’t live without me and wanted us to get married regardless of what her family thought. I was overjoyed. I immediately told my mother the wedding was back on and invited  Sharon to Ibadan to meet my family properly. That’s when another problem started.

What happened?

She kept avoiding the visit. Every time we agreed on a date, something happened. Sometimes work came up. Other times, she suddenly had a fever. There was always an excuse.

I couldn’t understand what was going on. This was the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, but I suddenly felt like I couldn’t rely on her word. I loved her and wanted to believe her, but the constant postponements made me question how committed she really was.

Did you tell her how you felt?

I tried to, but she shut the conversation down. Then, for the second time, she ended the relationship. This time, I was angry.

Why raise my hopes again only to crush them? I had to tell my family the wedding was off… again.

They thought I was unserious. I’d already been getting pressure for marrying late, so cancelling the engagement twice made me look bad. I hated that.

What happened next?

We didn’t speak again until April.

 She sent me a long message begging for another chance. I was conflicted. I missed her badly, but I couldn’t bear the thought of embarrassing myself in front of my family if things fell apart again. 

Eventually, I agreed to give the relationship another shot, but this time I kept it to myself. Things picked up from where we left off. She was still sweet, and I felt like I was falling for her all over again. 

I eventually decided to take the risk and tell my family we were back together. Then, in June, she asked for space again.

Again? 

I didn’t even ask for her reason. I’d reached my limit. I sent her a nasty voice note calling her a manipulator, and blocked her on WhatsApp. I didn’t want anything to do with her again.

But did you truly move on?

I wanted to. I focused on my healing for the next couple of weeks, until she sent me a Happy New Month message on Instagram. She apologised again, begged me for another chance and even sent me a written undertaking she’d signed, promising she genuinely wanted to build a life with me.

I’ve read the message, but I haven’t replied. One part of me believes she’s the person who understands me better than anyone else. When we’re together, everything feels easy.

The other part remembers how many times she’s made me look foolish and wonders if I’d be setting myself up for another heartbreak.

So where do things stand right now?

I honestly don’t know what to do.

I still want marriage more than anything. I just don’t know if it’ll ever happen with Sharon. She’s already walked away twice and obviously doesn’t want this as much as I do.

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