The Nigerian experience is physical, emotional, and sometimes international. No one knows it better than our features on #TheAbroadLife, a series where we detail and explore Nigerian experiences while living abroad.
This week’s Abroad Life subject decided to quit her banking job in Nigeria and become a permanent resident of Canada in 2004. This was after she had stayed in the country as a visitor for eight months due to a series of fertility treatments. She tells us her motivations for leaving Nigeria, how she got her permanent residency papers in Canada and the ups and downs of residing there.
What was your motivation for moving to Canada?
Two things motivated me — safety and fertility treatments.
Safety was a huge priority for me. The crime rate was increasing, with no one being safe from thieves and armed robbers no matter where they found themselves. In Nigeria, I was a banker who sometimes worked late into the night. I was robbed of my gold jewellery twice, and money at gunpoint while waiting in traffic. From then on, I grew from disliking to hating the Nigerian government. I felt I could lose my life at any time. This is not exclusive of the poverty, corruption, bribery and what-have-you that cripples the country daily.
I also had a series of fertility treatments for eight months, as I had one child and was hoping for another. But during that period, I found out that the immigration system in Canada was friendly, and one could process their papers for permanent residency. I immediately latched onto the opportunity to find a better future for myself and my family in Canada.
Wow! How would you describe the healthcare you received?
The good thing with Canadian doctors is that you can be sure you’re in good hands. Their healthcare is excellent. The doctors also fear lawsuits and wouldn’t like barking up the wrong tree. Everything is so precise and professional. It was even done in a government clinic, not a private one, so I could trust that the doctors would be honest (since they weren’t gaining anything). Usually, you’d need to pay with health insurance, but since I was still considered a foreigner back then, I paid in cash. It wasn’t expensive at all.
Nice! So how did you process your migration?
I was on a temporary visa and didn’t reside permanently in Canada immediately. After undergoing the treatments in 2003, I then asked my employers at the bank for more time on my maternity leave. But they refused to give that extra grace.
Because of that, I resigned.
Since the work pressure was gone, I focused on finding ways to get permanent residency in Canada. I found a lawyer who advised me to process my papers through the “skilled worker” class. At the time, there was a self-test to see if one was eligible for the role, and due to my former role as a banker, I scored high marks in the banking category. This also helped me to get a great score overall on my assessment. I became the principal applicant for my family, and we permanently relocated later that year. I gave birth to my second and last child in the following year, 2004.
Did you experience any culture shocks?
Yes, I did.
Firstly, Canadians are not as warm and friendly as Nigerians. They love to mind their business a lot. It even affected my daughter because she started having an identity crisis — should she act Nigerian or Canadian? One must learn that not greeting or visiting people doesn’t mean they are bad. Some of them are not all bad, but most have this issue. In a way, this trait teaches you about self-sufficiency.
Are there benefits to living in Canada?
Yes, there are. Their education system is great. If you like to self-develop, this is the country for you. In Canada, you never stop learning. You’ll learn until you want to cry.
It’s also easy for you to transition career paths. I transitioned from banking to social work. I feel safer where I live in Ottawa. I can wear a gold chain to a party, I can be in traffic and not be afraid (unlike Nigeria). I can drive late at night, which profits me more because the roads are free. The public transportation system is very clean and cheap. It’s amazing here.
How did you make the switch from banking to social work?
I started working as a social worker in 2007 when I did my Bachelor’s degree in sociology here. In 2015, I decided to have a Master’s degree in Social Work, due to its lucrativeness.
I recently started working for the Ontario Government this month due to my social work service. It has been great so far.
That’s great! Are there any disadvantages to living in Canada?
The only thing I can think of is racism. There is a huge absence of racial diversity here. You can find 70 white students and five blacks in a classroom. The race count is always very disproportionate.
There was this one time during my Master’s that I noticed I was marked down in a particular course because I was black (I always got a B-), while my white counterparts would get an A+ for the same answers. I’d probably have graduated with a bad grade if I hadn’t confronted my lecturer. In the end, she started giving me an A+ after she realised I had caught her in the act.
However, I wouldn’t say it affects your chances of doing well in Canada. So long as you have the skillset and you’ve done your Master’s (they always favour people with a Master’s degree).
Would you ever go back to Nigeria?
Of course, yes. I miss Nigeria daily – the warmth, the parties, and the ability to get cheap local food. However, the only way I’d ever go back is if there is a change in government and a visionary leader. If things remain the status quo, I would rather retire here.
The Nigerian experience is physical, emotional, and sometimes international. No one knows it better than our features on #TheAbroadLife, a series where we detail and explore Nigerian experiences while living abroad.
This week’s subject on Abroad Life is a tech bro who was tired of life in Nigeria without income and power supply, so he decided to continue his education and find work in Canada. He shares his difficulties with managing expenses and making friends as an international student.
When did you decide to move abroad?
In 2019, a family member kept telling me about Canada and the opportunities I could get there, including a post-graduate work permit after school and higher chances of permanent residency than in most other countries. I wasn’t obsessed with it in the beginning, but a year later, I started to compare the pros and cons of living in Nigeria versus abroad. I realised I could build my tech skills, work, and get my master’s degree at the same time. Being in a country that works will also help, considering the power issues in Nigeria and all.
I should’ve applied in 2020, but after much procrastination, I applied in June 2021 and got admission two months after, in August.
What challenges did you face in Nigeria?
It started when I applied to study electrical engineering at a university and was given physics instead. I didn’t like it, but I had to study it for five years. It made me resent the whole system. Fast forward to a year after school in 2019, I got interested in tech and started learning software engineering full-time through paid online courses. But it wasn’t easy because of the power issues. There was hardly ever light where I lived in Lagos, so I always had to pay for a workspace. At that time, I wasn’t even working. My parents always wondered when I would get a job, but with my degree, I couldn’t get jobs that were good enough for me.
So, Canada. What was the relocation process like?
I had to get the necessary documents and secure my medicals. The visa application wasn’t so difficult because we had an agent “running” it for me, but you see the medicals? I was traveling to Abuja literally every week to get it sorted. I also had to bring proof of funds. The entire process took like four months to complete. You have to be highly meticulous when filling out your papers, otherwise, you could be made to restart the whole process. Plus, I’m a big procrastinator, so the process took so long.
When did you arrive in Canada?
Late in January 2022.
Did you experience any culture shocks?
Yes. Especially with respect to titles. No adult here cares about your “ma” and “sir”.
Also, I’d say making friends is hard here. In Nigeria, it’s easy to get people to help you with one or two things, but not here. You’re just on your own most of the time, and it’s dangerous because what if there’s an emergency? It can be a very solitary life here.
Don’t Nigerian communities offer assistance?
You’d be shocked that some Nigerians don’t want you to succeed. They’d rather not tell you about the system so you can suffer the way they did when they first arrived. It’s hard to find someone who’s loyal or trustworthy enough to call your friend, even among fellow Nigerians.
Can you share some of your experiences on this?
I was part of an Afro-Caribbean society when I first arrived, and I made friends with a Nigerian called Dapo. I remember wanting to learn tips on how to survive in Canada and always asking him questions, but he never made time to explain things to me. He was always busy and never picked his calls. Imagine how that felt for a new immigrant with no family here. I had to find my feet on my own.
What would you say are the benefits of living in Canada?
There’s a system that works for everyone. Even if you didn’t go to school, you can find a job that would pay the same thing as someone who went to school. School is almost a luxury or second thought here because it doesn’t affect your income level. I can also get drugs at a subsidised rate here. They allow students to ride public buses for free, using a card that’s valid until September 2023.
What are the disadvantages?
Managing finances and running costs is hard for a student. My rent is $900 a month. I earn $300 a week as an admin assistant in a call service company ($15 for 20 hours per day), and it’s not always assured. Some days, there may be no work, so I won’t get any money. I also pay taxes of $100 every month. The only thing helping me is that my parents send me money that covers some part of the rent. It’s hard to save because as I receive my income, it goes out almost immediately.
Getting a job was also very hard. It took nearly two months before I got one in Canada. This is because many international students are applying for the same jobs. I even had a friend who waited six months before getting a job.
How are you juggling work with school?
It’s not an easy task. I’ve had some sleepless nights. Most times, I have to discuss my class schedule with my manager so they can create a work schedule based on the days I’m free. Sometimes, I’d go to work in the morning and then have an afternoon lecture. I know some people who work overnight. You also need to be careful and set out time to cover up for the days you didn’t read, so as not to slack on your academics.
Would you ever return to Nigeria?
Yes, I definitely will. I miss the air and warmth of Nigerian people in Nigeria. Here, friendship seems forced. But I’ll return only after I’ve got my master’s degree, perfected my software engineering skills, and made some money. Nigeria is not the place you want to return to without a good job.
How much money do you think you need?
The way Nigeria is going, any amount of money I call right now may not be sufficient in the next two months or so. I don’t want to be too specific, but hopefully, I’ll return in the next four to five years or so, when I’ve made some millions.
The Nigerian experience is physical, emotional and sometimes international. No one knows it better than our features on #TheAbroadLife, a series where we detail and explore Nigerian experiences while living abroad.
This week’s #AbroadLife subject spent nine years in Canada, returned to Nigeria for nine years, and moved back to Canada in 2021. After all her tears, she’s settled in Canada again. And she has a lot to say about the dating scene there.
When did you first move to Canada?
The first time I came was in 2001 because my family had gotten Canadian permanent residence (PR).
But I moved for university when I was 17 in 2003. I had to first do one year of secondary school because I was too young.
Moving to another country at 17 sounds scary
Yeah. I was still a child. Thankfully, I had a soft landing. Because I came in as a PR, I didn’t have to worry about a student visa or pay international student school fees. I had healthcare, went to a private boarding school and got a $250 monthly allowance which, somehow, I finished every month.
Even though I knew my parents were rich, I still felt like the poorest in my school because of the type of people there. For example, I had a friend whose dad was an ambassador. She’d randomly invite her friends to stay with her at expensive hotels. Of course, I said yes every time. Another time, her dad was having a party outside the country, and a private jet came to pick her and five of her friends. I couldn’t go because I hadn’t become a citizen and gotten my passport yet.
When did you become a citizen?
I became eligible in 2005 or 2006, but I didn’t apply for citizenship until 2007. I got it in 2009.
What was uni like?
My course was a four-year programme. I started in 2004 and graduated in 2011.
ASUU strike?
LMAO. First of all, I never wanted to go to university. I just wanted to make furniture. That was my passion. But as someone with Nigerian parents, is skipping university even an option?
In my first year, I failed so bad, they advised me to take the next two semesters off. Because if I failed those too, they’d have to expel me. So for the summer semester of 2005, I was in Nigeria. After that, I returned to Canada. The next semester was the fall semester, and even though I wasn’t attending classes, I decided to write and help students do their research for money. I even told my dad not to give me an allowance so I could fend for myself. He still paid rent sha.
LMAO
In January 2006, I resumed and changed my major from psychology to social development and women’s studies. I was doing pretty well until I got pregnant in September the same year.
Ghen ghen
My dad disowned me. Then he changed his mind. But he made me promise I wouldn’t drop out. I tried my best, but sometime in 2007 when I was heavily pregnant, I dropped out.
What’s it like having a baby in Canada?
Oh, it was pretty great. I had my baby in a private room, with a great doctor and a jacuzzi, and I didn’t pay a dime.
Why?
My Ontario Health Insurance Plan covered it.
There’s an incident I can never forget. After I had my baby, I returned to school. I was pushing my baby in a stroller, struggling to hold my books at the same time, and a white girl walked up to help me. As we strolled, she began to complain about the prime minister taking away welfare, especially for a black single mother like me who must struggle to pay student loans. I was speechless. Why did she just assume all that? I was coming from a five-bedroom house my dad bought after I had my baby, in a brand new car my dad bought, to a school where all my fees had been paid.
Is that racism I hear?
LMAO, Canada can be very racist. I’ve experienced profiling here, but a lot of the time, I don’t know how to react. I’ve even been called the ‘n’ word while eggs were hurled at me from a moving car. This probably has nothing to do with my race sha, but white boys on skateboards robbed me of my purse with my phone and wallet when I was heavily pregnant.
Omo
In 2008, I decided to return to Nigeria, where I worked for a bit before returning to Canada to finish school in 2009. Between 2010 and 2012 when I returned to Nigeria, I did a couple of menial jobs.
Like…
First of all, I sold vacuum cleaners from door to door. While doing that, I learnt one of my biggest lessons living in Canada.
Tell me
I’ll tell you three, so people who want to move to Canada can know. First, don’t fill out forms that ask for social insurance numbers if they’re not directly from your bank. Even then, be careful. At my vacuum sales job, I gave them my social insurance number because I thought they needed it for payment purposes. Nope. Just like they can use it to pay, they can also use it to charge you. I was charged $3k for the demo vacuum even though I used it for their work.
The second is, before you move, get a letter from FRSC stating you can drive, so you don’t have to wait a year to get a license. Trust me, life is much easier here when you can drive around.
Third thing: Don’t open accounts for anyone. I once opened a phone account for someone, and they ran up a phone bill and didn’t pay. Never again.
Taking notes
After the sales job, I worked as a telemarketer. I could only do it for two months because, really, you can only get told, “Never call this house again, “n-word”” so many times. It was brutal, and I hated it.
Then I got a sales rep job at a store, where something happened that made me return to Nigeria in 2012.
What happened?
The major reason why I returned is I was tired of paying electricity and water bills for a five-bedroom house on my own. I could’ve moved to a smaller apartment, but it just felt like it would defeat the purpose of the house. Also, my child was five, and I’d been taking care of them alone for the most part. I broke things off with her father who lived in Nigeria the year she was born. I wanted us to reconnect with family.
At my store job, I met a Nigerian woman who told me she’d been working at another branch of the store for 23 years, and my future flashed before my eyes. I didn’t want to tell another Nigerian girl I’d been working at a store for 23 years, 23 years from now. I wanted to return to Nigeria and do something more.
What did you do?
I went to culinary school. I like working with my hands. From there, I built a career in Nigeria and even became a consultant for restaurants.
What did moving back feel like, though?
At first, I hated it. I was in a place with no sanity. One of the first things that got to me was the bad driving. My God, Nigerians are such terrible drivers. Then things like electricity, buying fuel, water and the Nigerian police, just made me hate living there. In Canada, things just work. People know the rules and follow them.
It took me a couple of years, but I eventually settled in Nigeria. In fact, I like to say I was at the best point in my life when I moved back to Canada in 2021. I had a good business making decent money, a group of close-knit friends I hung out with at least once a week, I was around family and had a nice apartment. It was beautiful.
Why did you move back?
Because I promised my child we would move when they finished JSS 3, so they could get used to the Canadian system before university. It was just time.
Was this move different?
Oh, absolutely. For almost a year, I cried every day. In the shower, in bed, while driving, tears. When I came in 2003, I was a student, so my life was pretty organised by the school system and whatever programmes they had. This time, I had to be responsible for myself.
Here’s another piece of advice for Nigerians trying to move to Canada: Move to a city. Especially if you’re coming alone — without a partner. I know cities like Toronto are more expensive, but if you move to a less populated area, loneliness will finish you.Trust me, I’ve been there. Texting and calling your friends and family in Nigeria is not enough.
For three weeks, the only person I saw was my child. You might say you have friends who live an hour away, but nobody wants to drive for one hour to visit you because you’re lonely. And you can’t drive to visit them because you’re busy. Just move to a place with lots of people.
Chai
Amidst all this loneliness, I had to work extra hard because the first restaurant job I found wasn’t even paying enough to cover rent. I had to cook and deliver Nigerian food on the side. Also, my credit score had become terrible when I wasn’t around, so I couldn’t even get a nice apartment or a brand new car. It was sha tough. And let’s not even get into the dating scene.
Actually, let’s do that
Both Nigerian men and women in Canada are suffering, but for different reasons. Nigerian women can’t find men, and they don’t want Nigerian men.
From what I’ve seen, Nigerian men come here and become comfortable doing mediocre jobs, earning not so well, and they don’t want better for themselves. Like why are you comfortable being a plumber or an Uber driver without any side hustles or plans for the future?
Have you seen the Nigerian women in Canada? It’s like Nigeria’s hottest women were handpicked and brought here. And these women are hardworking, jumping from job to job to increase their earnings. A foreign woman would probably be fine dating a plumber with no future plans, but not a Nigerian woman.
If men want to come here and whore around, they can do that. There’s plenty of fish in the sea. But the dating pool? The potential Nigerian men for Nigerian women to be in serious relationships with? It’s not looking good.
I’m sha currently seeing someone. But it’s not long-term because he wants children. I don’t.
Would you date a non-Nigerian?
If the person was African, I could try. There’d be some cultural similarities we could work with. But a white person? Nope. If my soulmate is a white person, I would like them to be assigned to someone else, please.
I have to walk on eggshells with white people because I hate having to replay scenarios or things they said in my head, wondering if they were making a casual comment or being racist. The lines could be so blurred.
Do you have an example?
At an old job, I was admiring some flower pots when my white boss said, “You’d like to steal them, wouldn’t you?” I know he wasn’t being racist, but not knowing how to react to situations like that can be stressful.
Recently, a white girl asked to touch my hair at a store. First, I politely declined, but when she asked again, I had to decline with a firmer tone. Now, I’m the rude black girl and probably a reason she sees black people differently. Those little cultural differences and blurred lines can just be frustrating jare.
Do you think you might move back to Nigeria?
Right now, I don’t think so. I’m here alone because my child had to move back to Nigeria after encountering some issues here. So when the time for university comes, they’ll return.
No more loneliness?
I moved to the city this year, so no. My brother’s house is a 15-minute walk from mine, I have friends I can visit not so far away, I’m happy and smiling now.
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This week’s subject on Abroad Life left Nigeria for the US in 2014. Last year, she moved to Canada. Why? The US has too much immigration wahala. She thinks more Nigerians should come to Canada because “things work” there.
When did you leave Nigeria?
Eight years ago, in July 2014.
That’s a long time ago. Why did you leave?
My parents wanted me to. I was already in my first year at Afe Babalola University, but they thought it’d be great to send me abroad instead. I saw a chance to leave Nigeria, so of course I took it
Was the US the only option?
For my parents, yes. For me, nope. I wanted to go to Hungary or Ukraine because that’s where people from my class in secondary school were going.
Expectation vs reality: US edition
First, I expected it to be colder. But I got there in the summer and visited my aunt who lived in California first, so it was definitely not cold. Also, I expected to find it hard to fit in because I was new. Imagine a 17-year-old moving to a new country on her own. But I found that people were nice, and I made friends easily.
Generally though, I didn’t have too many expectations.
I’d imagine moving at 17 was scary
Oh, it was. But thankfully, I’d been in boarding school since I was 10, so I was used to being away from my parents. Also, being away from home gave me a new-found sense of freedom I couldn’t get when I was in Nigeria, under the wings of my parents, especially my dad.
What did you do with your new-found freedom?
I just went to parties. That’s it. My home training didn’t allow me go too far.
So settling was easy for you?
I’m thankful for one thing, and that’s the two friends I made on the second and third day of school in Arkansas. They’re Rwandan and Congolese respectively, and they were my close friends throughout university. I’m still really close with one of them.
I’m grateful because many people don’t make friends that early and end up struggling with things like loneliness and even depression. Also, it was the beginning of me having only African friends throughout my three-year stay in Arkansas.
It’s giving racist
When you stay in a very white city in Arkansas, you encounter a lot of racism. It’s not the violent kind, but you notice an air around the white people like they think they’re better than you. They’re nice, but only from afar. There are also comments they make that just make you go, “What?”
Give an example
I can never forget this one. So on my third day in school, I was in the kitchen area, warming up some food, when a white student walked up to me to say hi. As the conversation went on, he asked where I was from, and I told him “Nigeria”. He said, “Oh, so your father must be the president then.” And when I said no, he said, “Oh, so vice president?” When I said no again, he just said okay and left. It’s like he was surprised a “regular” Nigerian could afford to send their kid to the US for school.
What of the Black Americans?
They have a thing where they act like they’re better than Africans. I remember one condescendingly telling me, “Oh, your accent is so thick and African”. I just kept them at arm’s length and rolled with my fellow Africans.
When I graduated and moved to California, which is more diverse than Arkansas, I made some Asian-American and white friends who were more open-minded. But still, no African Americans.
Why did you move to California?
For work. The initial plan was to study medicine after biology because in the US, you need a bachelor’s before you can study medicine. But med school fees were looking scary so I just decided to work and chase a Green Card instead.
Have you got it?
Nope. Immigration in the US is tough. I had to leave because I ran out of time and legal options, and refused to marry anyone for papers, real or arrangée. I moved to Canada in June 2021.
Have you been back in Nigeria ever since?
Only in 2016. My mum and siblings have all come to visit since I got here, but I haven’t seen my dad since 2016. I miss him.
Why’s he never visited?
I have no idea. He even got an American visit visa but never came. I want to visit Nigeria this December but these flight prices dey choke.
What’s the plan with Canada now?
I’m currently in nursing school, and I graduate in October next year. After two years, I can apply for permanent residency (PR) myself. That’s the plan. In the US, I would’ve had to find a job with a company willing to apply for on my behalf, and it’s a lottery, which makes it difficult to know how long it takes.
Canada vs America
For immigration, Canada is better. Healthcare, Canada wins. Safety, Canada wins. The people here are also much nicer. But for taxes, the US wins. They can finish you with taxes in this Canada. As a working-class person, it’s difficult to become rich off your salary because of how much you’re taxed. But I like to think about it like this; healthcare is free, so why not?
How do you qualify for free healthcare?
I have no idea. I think it’s a province-by-province thing. I live in Alberta, and healthcare is free here for students. But I don’t think it applies to students in Ontario.
You spoke about taxes. Do you have a job?
Unlike in the US, international students in Canada can work outside the school campus. So I work at a hospital, babysit and work in disability support. I get taxed for all three jobs, but I’ll get all the money back in December because my annual income is too low to fall within a tax bracket.
What’s your social life like?
Pretty great. I decided to move to Alberta because a close friend from secondary school moved and has lived here since 2013. We reconnected, and she’s introduced me to her Nigerian friends. Oh, and yes, there are a lot of Nigerians in Canada! I absolutely love it.
What do you miss most about Nigeria?
The food. Even when we cook Nigerian food here, it doesn’t taste the same.
What do you hate most about being in Canada?
Uhm… Just the fact that I’m a student. I can’t wait to graduate and get my PR. I went from studying biology in the US to hustling for Green Card for three years to moving here for school again. I can’t wait to finally finish and settle.
Yeah —
Oh wait! Canada is also bloody expensive compared to America. Food, petrol, everything. Expensive.
Do you think more Nigerians should move to Canada?
Absolutely. I have friends who moved here in 2018, got their PR in 2021 and bought a house this year [2022]. If you’re a hard worker, the system will work for you. They’ll tax you plenty of money, but at least you know you have healthcare, safety, you can buy a house, and just have a decent family life.
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If you worked with villages whose inhabitants had to order drinking water off Amazon but still avoided the internet like a plague, you probably wouldn’t think Canada is great. That’s the life of this week’s subject on #AbroadLife, and she can’t wait to leave.
When did you move to Canada?
January 2019. I came here for my master’s.
Why Canada?
First of all, I’d looked forward to moving out of Nigeria since I finished university in 2017. The plan was to move abroad for a master’s but not anywhere in Asia or the US.
Ah. Why?
At the time, I was dating a guy who lived in China, and he’d been learning Mandarin for five years. I’m terrible at learning languages so I couldn’t see myself going to a place where I had to learn a different language to survive. Then I’d read online, in books and articles, and found out from people who live in Asian countries, that Asians are very racist. White people still have some sort of political correctness with their racism, but Asians will clearly show they don’t like you. I stayed all my life in Jos and encountered many Chinese and Indian people; even in Nigeria, they aren’t nice to Nigerians.
At some point, I got a tuition-free scholarship in Germany, but I rejected it for the same language reason. I didn’t want to learn German.
What about America?
Omo, Trump was moving mad at that time. Immigration rules kept changing. It’s bad enough someone is an immigrant, but being an immigrant in a country that’s difficult for immigrants is a no-no.
What was the process for relocating to Canada like?
It went well until Nigeria tried to ruin it by restricting people from paying for anything more than $100 online. I had to reach out to an aunt in the US to help me pay.
Was that your first time abroad?
No. In 2010, I went to Scotland to visit my mum who was doing her PhD there. In fact, my sisters and I tried to move there to stay with her, but we were denied because the entire family wasn’t moving. My dad had decided to stay in Nigeria because he liked his job here, and the embassy thought we couldn’t be divided as a family.
A year later, a friend whose mum was also doing a PhD in the UK tried to move there with their siblings and without their dad. They got their visa. That’s when I knew visa decisions are between you, the immigration officer and God.
LMAO. Expectation vs reality: Canada edition
My expectation was everything would be smooth sailing; I’d come here, do my master’s, get a recognised degree, everyone would be dying to employ me and I’d build a great community of friends with like minds.
LMAO. This doesn’t sound like it ended well
Reality: I struggled to find a community, realised winter is a bitch no matter how many jackets you wear, fell in snow and ice multiple times, got my degree even though it cost me my entire mental health, and eventually realised job-hunting is hard.
I don’t even know where to start
LMAO. The thing with jobs is that different cities have different needs. So you can study development economics — like I did — and when you graduate, find out your city actually needs teachers and healthcare workers. Many foreigners find themselves in situations like this and struggle.
I —
Another expectation people have is they can visit all their friends who live in Canada when they get here. The truth is Canada is big, their friend probably doesn’t live in the same province as them and travelling costs an arm, a leg and a kidney. And they probably also won’t have the time to travel because they’re working all the time.
What about the community?
Black people are a minority in Canada. If you live in big cities like Toronto and Vancouver, you’ll see many black people. But if, like me, you stay in a more remote city, it’s like finding gold. It’s difficult to build community because white people here are unexposed. They hardly see black people, and they’re not well travelled or willing to learn about other cultures. So it’s just stereotypes and racism left, right and centre.
I used to go swimming a lot before, and my God, if you see the way children would gather at the pool and stare. It was obvious they hadn’t seen a black person before. And their parents’ reactions were always to drag them away and say, “Don’t stare. Don’t stare.”
There’s this thing people say about Canadians being the nicest people ever. On the surface level, it’s true. But when you live here for some time, you realise it’s all a load of bullshit. They’re just smiling and nodding; they’re not listening to the things you say. They’re just being nice for niceness’ sake.
Canada’s PR in the mud
Nigerians coming to Canada might also think there’s blazing internet everywhere here. LOL. In my region, there’s an entire 10-hour-drive highway with absolutely no network. They advice people to travel that highway with a satellite phone. Also, I work with villages, and they have just dirt roads.
You work in a village?
Yes. I work as a development economist for the local government, and my focus is on helping village businesses get customers so the communities can get better.
How’s that going?
Village life is one-kind o. There’s no drinkable water here. They have to order water off Amazon. The people here don’t have the community and vibrancy you’ll see in Nigerian villages. They just look dejected, wallow in their suffering and complain about the government. They don’t even eat well. It’s just stuff like Oreos and soda all the time. When some of them eventually move, they forget home.
You know I said my job is to help businesses make more money?
Yep
It’s hard. For context, the villages I work with are like a three-hour drive from anywhere else. So tell me why these people avoid the internet like a plague. Apart from using it to get the essentials like water, they don’t want to have anything to do with the internet. It’s like they think it’s evil. How would they see customers from outside if people don’t even know they’re there?
All of this sounds terrible. Why don’t you leave?
I get paid really well. That’s why I’ve been here for this long. But I’m currently applying for other jobs and taking on certification courses. I think I’ll be ready to leave by the end of 2022. Maybe this time, to a private-sector job.
Are you coming back to Nigeria?
I wanted to, right after my master’s in 2020, but the news of danger and the terrible economy kept me here. My end goal is to move to a predominantly black country sha.
Why?
I need to be surrounded by black goodness.
What’s that?
It’s a vibe black people give that white people can’t.
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When this week’s subject on Abroad Life decided to move to Canada, her only form of research was watching Nigerian YouTubers in Canada telling people why they should come. Now, she wishes they were more open about loneliness, finances and the weather.
When did you decide to leave Nigeria?
After End SARS. I mean, I had a life plan, from when I was a little girl, to leave Nigeria for my master’s after NYSC. I didn’t actively follow this life plan, but you see, after that End SARS, something just switched in me that made me start planning to japa.
Why did you choose Canada?
Should I be honest with you? It’s because of YouTubers. I made my decision to travel to Canada entirely based on what I saw on YouTube. You know, all those “Travel as a student and get Canadian Permanent Residence (PR)” videos.
Prior to End SARS, I was eager to leave. I was already dissatisfied with the annoying and unappreciative work cultures of companies in Nigeria. Then I did some work for someone in the UK. The way she gave me feedback and praised me, and even the pay, made me realise working in Nigeria was not all that. It wasn’t enough to make me work actively towards leaving sha. I was just going from workplace to workplace, getting frustrated. But when End SARS happened, and I started really considering leaving, the prospect of working outside Nigeria gave me even more ginger.
Did you tell people you were travelling?
Nope. I did it lowkey partly because Nigerians just don’t tell people they’re travelling, and partly because I was afraid if it fell through, people would be overly sympathetic, and that would make me feel even worse. I just wanted to land before people knew.
What was the process like?
By December 2020, I put together all my important documents, like WAEC and IELTS results, and statement of purpose. Then I got scammed by the people who were supposed to help me get my university transcripts. Luckily, the school didn’t require official transcripts so I was able to process everything smoothly, and I got my admission in January.
I had to pay some part of my school fees by February to secure a seat, so my family and I contributed some money for it. By May, I applied for a visa which I received in September, about ten days after school resumed. I just deferred and left Nigeria in December. Scratch that… Benin Republic.
Ehn?
A few days before I travelled, the Omicron variant of COVID was discovered in Nigeria, and Canada said no flights from Nigeria. Many Nigerians who wanted to leave had to go to neighbouring countries to travel from their airports. Me, I chose Benin Republic.
Expectations vs reality: Canada edition
How do I even start? You see those YouTubers? They need to be stopped. All they do is sugarcoat the reality of living in Canada. I wish they were more honest about things like loneliness, finances and the weather, so people can be more prepared or even decide if they still want to come here.
Let me start with the weather. I understand people say Canada is cold, but I didn’t think it’d be this cold. You can never be prepared for the cold that’ll hit you. I now decided to come in December. During winter. See, I suffered. And I had to spend money on clothes because I saw online that I shouldn’t bring so many clothes. Big mistake. Clothes here are expensive. And making money is hard.
The first job I did here was carpentry and welding, the only job available for international students at the time. I don’t even want to talk about how difficult it is to do that kind of job when you’ve never done it before. Honestly, I would’ve been fine just staying at home, jobless and attending school online, but there were bills to pay. Phone bills, house bills, many bills.
I also wish I had an idea of what it’s like to be in a place where you hardly know people. The sadness and loneliness that hit me when I got here was unreal. If I complained to my Nigerian friends, they’d say stuff like, “But you’re abroad. You have money. There’s light. There’s peace”. But I didn’t have money, and I was losing my mind.
In retrospect, I think if I calmed down and did actual research, I would’ve picked a different country.
Where?
The UK. I understand people find it difficult to settle anywhere, but I think the UK would’ve been a bit easier for me. The railway system is great so I can visit friends. People there talk about entering a train and just going wherever they want. Me, I can’t even visit a friend who lives in the same province because Canada is huge and the trains are not so connected.
Did it get better?
It did. I’ve got a better job now that pays above minimum wage. It’s a care job that I found online. I’ve also moved to live with my family friend. School is online. But I probably won’t stay here after my master’s. I don’t want to spend the rest of my 20s chasing PR and stuck in this boring place. I’d probably move to the UK to work. There, I can be happier and more social. Maybe after some time, I’ll come back here and try this PR thing again. But right now, I can’t wait to leave Canada.
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Navigating life as a woman in the world today is interesting. From Nigeria to Timbuktu, it’ll amaze you how similar all our experiences are. Every Wednesday, women the world over will share their experiences on everything from sex to politics right here.This is Zikoko’s What She Said.
Today’s #ZikokoWhatSheSaid subject is Meye Ebie, a 40-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about how she found out she may never have kids, the dating scene for black people in Canada and what enjoyment looks like at 40.
What’s something you love about turning 40?
Not giving a fuck anymore. Not about marriage, not about kids, all I have to do is focus on myself. I’m tired of degrading my peace trying to date men. The Canadian dating scene hasn’t been the best experience for me either, especially with these 40+ men.
LOL. Let’s start from the beginning. What was the dating scene like while you were in Nigeria?
I’d say the guys back home were much more respectful. At least, they’d feed you. Here, people assume you’re after their money. No one wants to go to a restaurant. They’d rather meet up at a park, and that’s no different from going to walk my dogs. It’s a waste of time.
I spent my 20s in Nigeria, and the guys actually cared to impress me then. I was a hot cake too. They’d buy me gifts and chase me for weeks just to get one date. That’s how it should be, but men here want to skip all of that.
Lol. Did you have any serious relationships back then?
Oh yes. I had one when I was 28. He is three years younger, but I was sure I would’ve married him if I didn’t have to leave for Canada. He wanted to make a long-distance relationship work, but I wasn’t interested. I felt distance would eventually end the relationship. Doing it earlier was better.
Now, he’s married with two kids and we’re still on talking terms. I loved being with him because It never felt like he was younger than me. We had conversations I wish I could have with the men I’m meeting now. He talked about his dreams; I knew exactly what he wanted from life. There were no games.
Is that something you think is missing from your dating life right now?
Yeah. It’s like men my age are having a mid-life crisis and want to be young and free. What I want right now is a man who can hold a decent conversation. Not just a night of drinks and sex, then it’s all over. I want to laugh, go dancing and have a genuine connection. I’m tired of wearing expensive makeup and dressing up to meet boring men.
LOL. I’m sorry it’s been tough on the streets.
When I moved to Canada in 2013, I was 30. My seven older siblings and friends were already badgering me about meeting someone, and I was worried time was running out too. Being in a new space didn’t make it easier to find someone after my last relationship ended. The easiest way to meet men was online because I was adjusting to my new life.
I was living with my older brother in Alberta and shuffling between classes, watching my older brother’s kids and trying to earn money on the side. There was no time to go out and meet new people, so I tried dating apps. At first, I was focused on dating only black men.
How did that go?
That was a big mistake. Whether they were Nigerian or Ugandan, the African men were all the same.
Like the Nigerian man I dated when I was 32. I’d been in Canada for two years at the time. I thought being with him was great because of course we shared the same culture, so I assumed our values were the same. A few months into the relationship, it turned out he was married and had kids back home. I even found copies of his marriage certificate and a kid’s birth certificate in a drawer, and he still tried to deny it. He spent the next week calling and crying about how sorry he was.
LOL… And after that?
The next was a year later and a guy from Haiti. I knew he had grown kids, but while we were dating, a newborn popped up. I confronted him, and his offer was that I should be his fifth baby mama rather than leave. I didn’t have the energy to be upset at that point, so I asked him to drop me at home and never contact me. As usual, he called a week later to cry and explain.
It always ends in tears.
Then the following year, there was the Hawaiian guy with three children from his ex-girlfriend. I can’t blame him because my instincts told me to run from the beginning. That was the last time I dated a black or brown-skinned man.
My friends tried to make me go on some blind dates, but desperately hooking me up just never worked out.
So were the white guys better?
LOL. I did have one decent relationship when I was 33. We met on Facebook at a time when I felt even lonelier than I had when I first moved to Canada. I’d moved out of my brother’s house to get more time to myself, and worked at a department store I hated. The endless loop of going to work and coming home made me sad. I eventually got two dogs, but I still wanted to be with someone.
So when this white guy started sending texts on Facebook asking about my day, it felt good. As things started to get serious, I made it clear to him that I wanted a relationship that would lead to marriage. He didn’t object, so I committed myself to him.
Awwn… Sweet
For the first three years, sure. After that, I realised he was a douchebag. All he wanted was a partner to live with, cook and clean after him. A housekeeper with relationship perks, essentially. All the talk of wanting to marry me suddenly seemed unreasonable to him. I didn’t have any more time to waste and that ended the relationship in 2018.
I’ve been single ever since, dealing with the ups and downs of dating apps.
LOL. Is it better now that you’re older?
Not at all. 40+ men are out here looking like grandfathers and expecting to date an Agbeni Darego at their age. It doesn’t make any sense. The worst part is how they play mind games.
Take my last potential date for example. He was a white older man, and we’d been chatting for a while. When we finally wanted to meet, he kept talking about seeing me during the week. Since I have a busy schedule with a job and school, I asked him to choose a specific date to plan my week out. Suddenly, he got defensive. His response was, “What if things don’t work out between us? Why waste time planning?”
That sounds weird.
It was. I didn’t understand why he was on a dating app in the first place. The point is to go on dates to see what happens. After that, he went on about how he was hurt in his last relationship, but I’ve been on these apps for eight years. I wasn’t falling for that.
Why stay on the app for eight years if it hasn’t been great?
It’s either that or nothing. I don’t trust my friends to hook me up, and I don’t have the energy to dress up to meet someone I’ve never had a conversation with. With online dating, it’s easier to screen people out of your life.
Like the guy I’m chatting with right now. He claims that he’s over his fiancée and wants to get into a relationship with me. I’ve asked him many times to explain why the engagement ended, but he has no tangible reason except, “It was her fault.” There’s no part that was his fault, and that already tells me he’s not serious. It’s better to meet those kinds of people online than to waste a date to find out.
LOL. I see.
Besides, I’m not bothered that I’ll never find a man. I was a hot cake in my 20s, and I’m a hot cake now.
A baddie at 40. Love it! So 40 may be your best year at this point?
LOL. Yeah, but the toughest transition into 40 has been accepting that I may never have kids. I found out almost two years ago when I was rushed into the emergency room. I was at work and started feeling extreme abdominal pains and couldn’t move. The doctors thought it was a gallstone that would eventually pass, but when I couldn’t walk without assistance for a week, they ran more intense tests.
That’s when they found the fibroids.
I’m so sorry.
Thanks. One of the fibroids is located too close to my womb, so if I chose to do surgery this year, I could lose my womb in the process. I’ve always loved kids. I have five older sisters and two older brothers, and they all have kids of their own now. I took care of each of them at some point and always wanted mine too. Accepting that it may never happen was hard. At first, I was worried, scared but… I don’t know. There was anger, grief and finally, acceptance.
I’ve blamed God and myself these last two years, but fibroids aren’t something any woman can control or avoid. I had to come to terms with that reality. I have to fight for my health.
I’m sick of waking up every morning and feeling pain around my hips and waist like my grandmother. I’ve also realised that I don’t have to worry about the idea of not having kids so much.
What do you mean?
The only person that could’ve made this choice more emotional for me would’ve been my mother. She passed away in 2018, and she’d cry knowing I’ll probably never have kids. But without her, more grandchildren aren’t exactly a priority for anyone. My dad is 89 and has at least 10 grandkids. His bloodline is secured, so I have the space to do me.
But you still want them, right?
A part of me does, but I have my nieces and nephews. When that stops being enough, I can adopt or get someone’s sperm and go for surrogacy. The options are endless.
My siblings and friends who are invested in me having kids have advised me to freeze my eggs, but the financial and mental stress involved isn’t worth it. I’m already in enough pain. I’m not interested in the hormonal injections and egg retrieval process. All because I want to create life? No, please. The unending badgering about marriage is enough stress. I want to be single and happy in peace right now.
I just turned 40, and I’d like to focus on enjoying that.
What does “enjoying 40” look like for you?
Beyond accepting that I may never have kids and not giving a fuck about that or marriage. The beauty of 40 is that it can be anything I want it to be.
Right now, I’m trying to get another degree, so I can get out of my department store job. I want to give myself a lot more options than I’ve had in the past. There’s so much life ahead of me, and that’s enough to look forward to every day.
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The only reason today’s subject on Abroad Life is still in Canada is because she’s waiting for her citizenship. She’s been there for 12 years and she’s tired of the cold, the boredom and the racism.
When did you decide to leave Nigeria?
12 years ago. When I was 15 and just out of secondary school, my mum visited Canada for the first time, came back home and said, “You’re going to Canada for university.”
Just like that?
Just like that. My plan was to study in the UK because that’s where I’d been before, and I was more familiar with it. The only thing I knew about Canada was that it was cold. Canada wasn’t even one of the countries anyone wanted to go to at that time, the way everyone wants to go there now.
Six months after she told me, I left Nigeria. By that time, I’d turned 16. I didn’t go straight into university when I got to Canada, I did a year of A-levels first.
Expectation vs reality: Canada Edition.
I expected it to be cold, lonely and boring. The cold part was true. I had to wear gloves and sweaters all the time so I didn’t get frostbite.
And the loneliness?
It didn’t become true until I left university. A-levels and university were not so bad because the schools I went to had a lot of Nigerian students. That helped me settle in well because I still had people around me I could go out to eat Nigerian food with. It was when adulthood kicked in — I got a job and started living on my own — that I realised that I could feel really alone in a place that had lots of people.
That sounds sad—
Around this time I also realised that the trope about Canadians being the nicest people on earth was a goddamn lie. Racism happens very often here too, but it’s just not as “in your face” as in other places. It’s subtle.
One time, my friends and I went to a liquor store to get some drinks. All of us were Africans. The guy at the counter refused to sell to us, even after we showed him ID, and when we demanded to see the manager, he threatened to call the police. It’s little things like that from time to time.
When I called the company a few days later, they apologised and said they knew the specific employee I was talking about and he wasn’t a manager.He was just a guy who liked to do stuff like that.
You don’t seem to be enjoying Canada that much.
LMAO. I always want to be back in Nigeria.
How often do you come back?
At least once a year since I got here. First, it started as a mandate by my parents that I needed to be home every Christmas as long as I was dependent on them. I think it was their way of keeping an eye on me. The older I got, the more I realised I liked being in Nigeria, so even after my parents couldn’t make me go back anymore, I found every opportunity I could to make the trip.
There are a lot of things about Nigeria that make me want to stay there — the people, the atmosphere, the fun and the sun. The sun is really important to me. There’s something about being in a country that’s cold and gloomy most of the time that just makes you feel like you’re depressed. I grew up in Nigeria where I was in the sun a lot, so being away from the sun is a no-no for me. It also gets really boring here. There really isn’t a lot of fun activities to do. When I’m in Nigeria with Nigerians, I feel more alive.
Any plans to move back?
I was in Nigeria from August 2021 to February 2022. I only came back to Nigeria a few weeks ago because I got a job. Before I left for Nigeria in 2021, I quit the job I had been at for five years, sold everything I had and told myself I was finally moving back home, but somewhere deep down, I wanted some security so I was still applying for jobs in Canada. When I was in Nigeria, I told everybody I was back and the responses I got were confused, like, “You have the life everybody wants over there. Why are you coming back?” Those responses sort of shook me, so when I got a job offer, I came back.
When I got back here, everything felt wrong. It’s like I made the wrong decision to come back. I have no strong ties — not in friendships, relationships or experiences — in Canada. I’m just here for the job.
I’m curious: why did you stay after university?
Immediately after university, I did my master’s, and after my master’s, I got a job, and it was just a convenient series of events. And then I stayed five years at that job.
That makes sense. What do you have planned for your future?
Because I came here as a student, the process for getting citizenship takes longer and is much more complicated than it would be for someone who came as a permanent resident. First I have to apply for permanent residency, get that, and wait a few years before I apply for citizenship. After that, I can go wherever I want.
The truth is, as much as I want to move back to Nigeria, I need to be logical and ask myself if moving back to Nigeria as it is now is a good idea. I currently work in a university helping black students with inclusivity. Will I get such social work opportunities in Nigeria or will I get home and sit in my parents’ house? Is Nigeria as safe and secure as Canada? Are there as many amenities there as I have here? These are the questions I have to ask myself before making the decision to drop everything and fully move back home.
I’ve already been here for 12 years, a few more years to get my citizenship won’t be bad.
Apart from Nigeria, where else would you go?
Once I get my citizenship, the plan is to leave these western countries and go to a tropical country where I could get great work opportunities. So it doesn’t have to be Nigeria. There are many possibilities within Africa. I also want to travel a lot and relax for a bit. I know I’m not old, but I’m tired of working.
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Today’s subject on Abroad Life talks about getting the chance to move to the US, opting out finding out she had to move to Canada within a 3-day period, and her struggles with navigating adulthood for the first time in Canada.
When did you decide to leave Nigeria?
I was in SS 3 when I first had the idea to leave Nigeria for good. Growing up, my family went on vacation to the UK and the US every summer — we interchanged every year, but when I got to SS 3, everyone started talking about how they wanted to go abroad to study and not come back, and that suddenly seemed like a great plan.
LMAO. What did you do about it?
Because my secondary school had a lot of people going abroad to study over the years, schools abroad usually came to convince students to attend their schools. When I showed my parents the fees I would be paying if I went to one of those schools, they laughed and told me to go and buy JAMB form for Unilag.
What happened next?
In the months before I wrote POST UTME, we went on a trip to the US and an interesting series of events followed, that meant I’d have to return to the US soon.
Tell me.
We hardly travelled with my dad because he had work, so this time too, it was just my mum, my two older siblings and me. We were visiting my parents’ friend when another person’s name came up as a mutual acquaintance. After some connections, we found out that the woman, let’s call her Mrs B, was someone my dad helped with a police case before he retired from the police force, and she was close friends with my parents’ friend, so we all decided to pay her a visit. She was excited to see us. Omo, the case must have been big because the way she was thanking us ehn, you would think we gave her a million dollars. We called my dad and it took him a while to remember her, but he eventually did.
After all the pleasantries, she invited us to stay at her house for a few days.
Just like that?
Just like that o. She was the nicest woman ever.
In the midst of all the conversations, my mum mentioned that I was trying to move to the US to school and settle and the woman offered to house me and help us make everything work. Right before my eyes, they started making plans — the high school I’d go to before I was able to go to college, how I’d transition into a permanent resident through my marriage to an American, everything. And she was happy to help. She had children my age, so it would be easy to fit in and live with her.
JUST LIKE THAT?
Just like that. My mum asked if I was interested in the arrangement and I said I was, so we returned to Nigeria to renew my visa before I returned to start my new life.
The visa process took about a month and after I got my new visa, my mum and I travelled back to the US.
How did this period make you feel?
I was excited because I was finally getting what I wanted. In my first week in the US, I was sure I was going to have the best life ever. Remember I said the woman had children my age? I fit in like a glove.
One week later, my mum had to return to Nigeria; that’s where reality hit. Four days before she left, she sat me down to talk to me about the implications of what I was about to do — I couldn’t come to Nigeria whenever I liked because I was going to be trying to secure a Green Card. Travelling out of the country could ruin the plan. I would have to miss my sister’s wedding the following year. She also hinted that I might need to marry an American if I wanted this to work fully. She tried to balance it out by saying she and my siblings would visit me every year, but the damage had been done.
I cried every day for the next three days because, omooo, it was too much to take in.
When my mum noticed I was crying, she called my dad and told him I wasn’t going to be able to do it, so they booked my flight and I returned to Nigeria.
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LMAO! How old were you?
This happened in 2017, so I was 16.
Tell me what happened next.
I returned to Nigeria just in time to write POST UTME to study law at Uninlag — an exam for which I was ill-prepared. I failed. It was a tough period for me because I’d now seen all my options go wrong right before my eyes.
My parents didn’t want me to stay at home, so they found a private university in Nigeria for me to go to. They had started a new session, but they didn’t have an issue with me joining mid-session to do A-Levels.
Nice.
One day, about six months after I resumed, my dad called me to tell me he had started the process for me to go to school in Canada, but I needed to focus on my education and get good grades in Nigeria first to show I was serious enough to travel. I didn’t think too much about it.
A few weeks later, he came to check on me, and while he was with me, he called my mum. My mum didn’t know the phone was on speaker, so she asked him if he had told me my Canadian visa came through. He panicked, put the phone off speaker, and just replied, telling her he hadn’t. But me, I already heard what I heard. My Canadian visa was ready? I was excited.
My dad wasn’t as excited as I was. He told me to relax and focus on my education in the Nigerian school, and if I did well, I would travel.
Omo. Were you able to focus?
I didn’t have to. Three days later, they called me and said, “Pack your bags. We’re coming to pick you tomorrow. You’re going to Canada on Friday.” It was Tuesday.
Once again… Just like that?
LMAO! I was dumbstruck. I didn’t know what to tell my school friends who didn’t know anything about my travel plan.
“Hi guys, tomorrow is probably the last time you’ll ever see me because I’m leaving this school and going to resume in a different school in Canada.”
It was hard, but I sha told them. They were happy for me.
The next day, they came to pick me up, and two days later, I was on a plane to Canada.
Tell me your first thoughts about Canada.
It was cold! I travelled a lot growing up, so being in Canada didn’t seem different from being in the US. But the cold? Omo, I didn’t expect it.
Can I tell you an embarrassing fact?
I’m listening.
The concept of Canada was new to me. I didn’t know a place like Canada existed until a few months earlier when my parents started the process, so I didn’t know it was a super cold place. I resumed school immediately.
What was it like settling in?
It was difficult at first. I arrived in winter and didn’t come here with winter clothes or shoes, so I had to go out every day to buy stuff that I would need to settle in — clothes, shoes, household items.
I also had a hard time settling in school. In the hostel, I stayed in the room with one Nigerian and two other people of different nationalities, and if not for the Nigerian, I would have lost my mind. The room was always so dirty and filled with weed smoke, so we couldn’t stand it. We eventually left and I got a shared apartment.
At school, it was hard as well. First of all, people couldn’t pronounce my name, so I had to give an English name that wasn’t even mine so they wouldn’t butcher my real name every single time. After the first semester though, I got a bit more confident and told everyone not to call me the English name again. It took them a while, then it clicked.
You know what’s most interesting to me about being in Canada?
I want to know.
The surrealness of adulthood. I keep marvelling at the fact that I can make my own decisions and live on my own. The fact that I had to find an apartment by myself and have to constantly stock it with food and household items with my own money, and at my own convenience amazes me. When I first got here, I spent money anyhow on the most random things, but, omo, sapa is everywhere and I had to learn not to overspend if I didn’t want to go broke. The realisation that I didn’t have my parents here to give me money every time set me straight. Now that I have a job as a librarian at school and make my own money, I’m learning to save and only spend money on essentials.
It can also be really scary because people in my situation find themselves making decisions they typically wouldn’t make. Many of the Nigerians I know here vowed not to smoke weed in Canada, but when you see a weed dispensary on every corner you turn to, offering weed in every way, shape and form, the pressure to try it outweighs your self-control.
Is that the situation you find yourself in?
All my life, I’ve always stayed away from drugs because they’re just not something I’ve ever considered. Apart from the fact that I haven’t strongly considered it too, I’m scared that my parents will one day find out if I did drugs and they would be so disappointed, they would ask me to return to Nigeria.
Being made to return to Nigeria before I can complete school and get my permanent residence here is something that scares me terribly.
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How to migrate from Nigeria to Canada- In 2019, Nigeria was the fourth leading source country of immigrants into Canada, right after India, China and the Philippines, with over 12,000 Nigerians becoming Canadian permanent residents. That number had seen a steady growth since 2015 with more Nigerians moving to Canada than the previous year. There’s little doubt that the number would have been greater in 2020, but the restrictions due to COVID spoilt people’s plans.
For Nigerians, Canada presents a new home and a new place to settle because the migration process is straightforward, and the success rates are almost guaranteed once you have every prerequisite needed. It also helps that the official language of Canada is English, therefore there is no language barrier from helping Nigerians to settle.
With COVID travel restrictions reducing, there is no better time than now to prepare your japa to Canada. If you’re a Nigerian looking to migrate to Canada, here are all the ways you should consider.
1. The Express Entry program
The Express Entry program is the most popular path for Nigerians to successfully migrate to Canada. It’s also the fastest because you can complete it in six months. In 2019, Nigeria was the 2nd leading country of citizenship of successful Express Entry candidates, ranking behind India.
There are three immigration programs under the Express Entry program namely, Federal Skilled Worker Program, Federal Skilled Trades Program, and Canadian Experience Class. As much as having a job offer increases your chances of success with the Express Entry program, you do not need to have a job offer from a Canadian organisation to immigrate through this system.
Once you begin your application with the Express Entry program, you will be given a Comprehensive Ranking System (CRS) score based on your age, education, language proficiency based on your IELTS score, and work experience. This is why it is called the point-based system. If your CRS assessment scores you high, you will be given an Invitation to Apply (ITA) for permanent residence in Canada.
Here’s how it typically works: When you finish your study in Canada, you will be able to obtain a Post-Graduation Work Permit (PGWP) that allows you work in Canada for up to three years. Having Canadian study and work experience is highly valuable when you finally decide to apply for a permanent residence through the Canadian Experience Class or through Provincial Nominee Programs. Your CRS score will factor in your Canadian degree and work experience, and grant you higher points.
According to the Canadian government, family reunification continues to be a priority, as it is key to Canada’s future, particularly as they work to recover from COVID-19. The program allows for the sponsorship of spouses, common-law partners, conjugal partners, dependent children, adopted children, parents, grandparents, or orphaned relatives under the age of 18.
To sponsor a family member to become a Canadian permanent resident, the sponsor must: be an adult citizen or permanent resident of Canada, live in Canada if they’re a permanent resident, and prove that they have the resources to support the person they’re inviting into Canada.
If you have a family member living in Canada, reach out to them to find out if they are willing to sponsor your visa application for permanent residence.
4. Provincial Nominee Program (PNP)
If you’re looking to work and settle in a specific Canadian province, you could benefit from the Provincial Nominee Program. Out of Canada’s 10 provinces, only two ( Nunavut and Quebec) don’t have at least one PNP.
Through PNPs, Canadian provinces nominate economic-class immigration candidates who fit their labour market needs. So if you’re applying through the Express Entry program, and somehow you have skills that a certain province needs, they’ll nominate you, and this means you get 600 extra points. In the point-based system, getting 600 extra points means you’re guaranteed to be invited for permanent residence.
You can directly apply to a PNP or you can send an expression of interest to the province looking for someone with your skills through your Express Entry profile.
5. Start-Up Visa Program
Entrepreneurs with innovative business ideas that can create jobs for Canadians and compete at a global scale are welcome to apply to the Start-Up Visa Program. The process for applying for a start-up visa is a bit more complicated than the others, but in the end, it’s totally worth it.
7 important things to know before moving to Canada
Just like in Nigeria, the cost of living varies, depending on where you choose to live. It can be expensive to live in major cities like Toronto and Vancouver, so take this into account before you decide where to move to. You also have to pay for services like air conditioning, home phone, internet, and other things you might not be used to paying for, and they’re expensive. Get ready.
You’ll only be able to use your Nigerian license for a maximum of 90 days after you get to Canada. After this, you have to go through a series of tests to become a certified Canadian driver.
In Canada, life goes on even with extreme winter. Make sure you do your research on where you would like to stay based on the temperatures during summer and winter. It’s coldest in the north and the west is warmer than the east. You should also research what types of clothes, home and car to get.
The price you see listed on the item is not the price you pay. Products have taxes on them. Don’t be shocked when you pick an item and have to pay just a bit more.
Tipping for services is a way of life. Get ready to tip people that offer you services.
Job hunting in Canada might be tricky. Be ready to do some non-career jobs while you search for a job that suits you. Don’t wait to get a blue-collar job before you start working. Bills will choke you.
Don’t ruin your credit score. Because Canada is a credit-based economy, it might be easy to live above your means and when you’re not able to pay the amount you owe, it’s terrible for your financial reputation.
10 fun things to do once you get to Canada
Try poutine and maple syrup. Poutine is Canada’s signature dish, so you should definitely try it.
Visit Niagara Falls.
Visit the Notre Dame Basilica Cathedral.
See grizzly bears and polar bears in their natural habitat.
