#ToHER: Manage This Hug for the Next Three Years

July 31, 2022

We bring to you letters written by women to women they love, miss, cherish or just remember. To celebrate the support women continue to show each other, this is #ToHER.

From: Busayo, a hard babe

To: Ifeoma, the gentle, kind and sweet soul

Dear Ifeoma,

I know being sweet and romantic is really off-brand for us. But you’re the only person that deserves this side of me if I’m being honest. 

I hit the best friend jackpot with you and I mean that with all my heart. Earlier today, you said you love how we always have the same views on everything, and that is ridiculously true. I can count on one finger the things we don’t have the same opinions about. But Ifeoma, it doesn’t change the fact that I still have more sense than you. 

You’re my biggest supporter, my sister, my best friend and my confidant. I know when I’m feeling sad, I can call you and I’ll come out of that call feeling 100% better. I know it’s the same for you.

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Anytime people are talking about failed female friendships, I know deep in my heart and my soul that it’ll never ever be us. Our friendship is too special. 

This past month has been different for me because I started something new, and you’re the only person I talked to about my worries. You made it better, way better. You listened to me, understood and encouraged me. You’re my gift from God. I love you, I really really do. 

Ifeoma, I can’t remember the last time we showed affection, so you know that me telling you I love you now is the one you’ll hold and manage for the next three years. I hope this makes your day as you’ve been making mine for the past four years we’ve been best friends. And please, don’t forget you can never ever be as sweet as I am, okay? Just leave that part of our relationship for me. 

Love you Ifeoma.

With Love,

Busayo

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