7 Nigerian Women On Why They Regret Leaving Their Ex

June 18, 2021

Sometimes we get overwhelmed and make decisions we later regret. In this article, seven Nigerian women talk about why they regret leaving their ex. 

Black woman lying down on a red chair in tears about leaving her ex

Tomisin, 25

My ex used to send me not less than 50k every month.  He moved abroad and after two months, he told me he has fallen in love with someone else. I was angry for a while but I eventually agreed to the breakup. Now I am broke and I miss him. 

Efe, 22

I left him because I was young and I was too ashamed and worried about what people would think of me dating him. I didn’t want anyone to know I was in a relationship so I told him I couldn’t do it anymore. He was so good to me and I miss him. I often think of how things would have been today if I didn’t care what people thought. 

Aisha, 31

I left him because he was hanging out with someone I didn’t like. I was angry and he knew that but he didn’t address it. That made me even angrier so I went to be with someone else. 

I regret it because I realized I was still madly in love with him and so was he. We continued the relationship but we kept using other people to make each other jealous. When we broke up, we dated other people but we would cheat on them with each other. It was crazy. Our love was intense and sometimes I miss it.

Chichi, 24

I feel like I didn’t acknowledge the fact that they were quite rich while I was in the relationship. Now I need that money in my life. 

Bimbo, 18 

I felt the relationship was going too fast so I broke up with him. He asked me to meet his parents and in my head, I was like, abeg oh, I am just. So I left. But now I regret leaving him because I feel like I lost someone good to and for me. I think he was better than I deserved but it’s too late to get him back. 

Tumi, 23 

I miss her sometimes because she was the kind of girlfriend anyone would like. She was sweet and we talked very often. It was a long-distance relationship and she was always trying to control my decisions. She was also always asking for money and I don’t have a lot. I wasn’t used to any of it so I broke up with her. Now I miss her because sure, she is overbearing but isn’t everyone else? 

Ebi, 21

My ex was the sweetest person ever. Even though she initiated the breakup, I didn’t fight for us and I wish I did. I stopped reaching out to her and moved on. I found out a couple of months after the breakup that she was dealing with some personal issues at the time and didn’t mean to break up with me. I feel like if I had paid more attention I would have known but I was thinking about how much she hurt me with the breakup. She taught me how to love and I will always be grateful to her.

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