6 Nigerian Women Talk About Dating While Polyamorous

October 30, 2020

Polyamory has been explained as consensual, ethical non-monogamy. 6 Nigerian women tell us what it is like dating while polyamorous.

Janet, 25

Men will swear that they understand what polyamory is until you turn down every single threesome they propose. I may like intimate relationships with multiple people, but I cannot sleep with more than one person at a time. Also, I am straight. Polyamorous does not mean bisexual.

Peace, 20

It is like a breath of fresh air, and allows me to experience different parts of myself with different people.

Jasmine, 21

My favourite part is watching your “monogamous” partner become more open to the idea of seeing other people. They come out of their shell, and seek love in all the places possible. It makes me feel like I have helped a caterpillar become a butterfly.

Zainab, 19

Heartbreak will have a whole new meaning for you. Sometimes, I cry to my boyfriend about the women that broke my heart. It may seem weird, but it makes perfect sense.

Rose, 30

I hate when people think what all polyamorous people want is to have wild, crazy sex every night. I do not even like sex that much, so I personally find that stereotype offensive.

Amaka, 21

It is pain, suffering and war. The first hurdle is finding someone who understands polyamory and does not mind being with you. That is like finding a needle in a haystack, because a lot of people do not get what being polyamorous is.

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