There is a clear difference in how a Nigerian man deals with a relationship he’s actually interested in and one he’s just in for inconsequential reasons. If you don’t know how to discern these signs, this might be a good place to start.

1. You know all his side pieces, so you know where he is on nights he isn’t with you

A what? A transparent king.

2. He buys the same gifts for you and his wife

Because obviously, you mean the world to him too.

3. Or he asks you to pick his wife’s gifts

Why are you even together if he doesn’t trust your taste?

4. He invites you to his kids’ birthday parties and other family events

And his kids call you “Aunty”

5. And while you may not get the Christmas and New Year holidays, you get the next best ones

You get Workers Day and Independence Day, at least.. You’re not the only side piece, remember?

6. When you’re in his house and his wife returns home earlier than usual, he doesn’t let you hide in the closet or sneak out

The fact that he is ready to face the situation and think of a way out is a big testament to how much he cares about you.