So, your ex has suddenly realised they made a mistake and wants you back. Maybe they’ve been calling to remind you of all the good times you shared and promising that things will be different this time.
If you’re tempted to give the relationship another shot, there are a few things you should consider.
Nothing has changed since the breakup
Before considering a reunion, make sure you’ve solved the issues that led to the first breakup. If they were terrible at communicating, have they improved? If they couldn’t stand your friends, are they suddenly besties?
And have you forgotten how much you cried the last time? Because if nothing has changed, this time you might cry blood. Don’t expect magic.
They want you to “fix” them
If your ex says things like, “You make me want to be a better person” or “I’m nothing without you”, please run away.
You’re their ex, not their mummy. If you split up because of a habit they needed to work on, it’s not your job to help them through.
You had a messy breakup
If things ended so badly that you were exposing each other’s secrets and exchanging insults, you should probably think twice. How can you trust someone who stooped to the pits of hell with your heart again? What if they want a second chance just to get back at you?
They are love-bombing you
If your ex has rebranded and is suddenly sending you flowers and writing essays about how much they love you, don’t be so quick to believe they’ve changed.
Remember who you dated. If it’s too much too soon, there’s a good chance the love will wear off once they’ve won you back.
Your ex has recent exes
Your break up is fresh, but they have already dated someone else and are now knocking on your door again.
Before you welcome them back, do you think they really want you back or has the dating pool shown them shege?
You can’t forgive them
We know you want to forget the past, but when you remember how they hurt you, do you have the urge to give them a hot slap?
If every little disagreement is going to send you down memory lane, you’re not ready to get back together. You don’t need to have a big heart.
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