The gender pay gap isn’t just a statistic that you read about in reports. It’s the sinking feeling you get when you accidentally see your male colleague’s payslip. It’s the rage that builds when you realise you’ve been doing the same job or more for less money.
We spoke to four women about the moment that they discovered their male colleagues were earning significantly more than they were, and what happened next.
1. “I Found His Payslip in the Printer and I Was Just Shocked” – Tolani*, 28
I had been working at this fintech startup for two years as a product manager. My colleague and I started on the same day, went through orientation together, and even shared an office for the first six months. We were basically doing the same job, attending the same meetings, working on the same projects.
One day, I went to the printer to collect some documents, and there was a payslip there. I wasn’t trying to snoop, I genuinely thought it was mine at first. Then I saw his name. He was earning ₦800,000. I was on ₦500,000. The same role, the same responsibilities, but somehow he was making ₦300,000 more than me every single month.
I felt physically sick. I started doing the math in my head. Over the course of two years, that’s ₦7.2 million that I didn’t earn for doing the exact same work. I could have moved out of my parents’ house with that money. I could have bought a car. Instead, I was struggling to save ₦50,000 a month while he was probably living comfortably.
I confronted my boss about it the next day. I was so angry that I was shaking. He gave me this long explanation about how my colleague negotiated better during his interview, and how these things are based on individual performance. I pointed out that my performance reviews were always excellent, sometimes better than my colleagues’. He just shrugged and said, “Maybe you should negotiate better next time.”
Next time? Am I supposed to wait until I get another job to be fairly paid for the job I’m already doing? I started looking for new opportunities immediately. I got an offer for ₦750,000 from another company. I took it without hesitation. My boss seemed shocked that I was leaving. The audacity these people have.
2. “He Told Me Himself, Like It Was Something to Brag About” – Jessie*, 31
I work in advertising, and there’s this guy on my team. We’re both senior account managers, and we’ve been at the company for roughly the same amount of time. We even handle similar client portfolios. One day, we were all out for drinks after a successful campaign, and he casually mentioned his salary. ₦950,000.
I almost choked on my drink. I was earning ₦600,000. At first, I thought I must have misheard him. But no, he said it again when someone asked him to repeat it. He was so proud, talking about how he was finally able to afford a nice apartment in Lekki. Meanwhile, I was still splitting rent with two roommates in Yaba.
The worst part? When I brought it up to HR, they told me salary discussions were “confidential” and that I shouldn’t have been discussing it with colleagues. Get this. They were more concerned about me knowing than about the actual disparity. They tried to frame me as unprofessional for talking about money.
I pushed back and asked for a raise. They gave me ₦50,000 more and acted like they’d done me a huge favour. ₦50,000. That still left me ₦300,000 behind my colleague. When I pointed this out, they said his role had “different requirements.” I asked them to specify what those requirements were, since we literally do the same job. They couldn’t give me a straight answer.
I’m still at the company because the economy is tough and job hunting is exhausting, but I’ve checked out mentally. I do exactly what’s required and nothing more. They don’t deserve my extra effort if they don’t value it fairly.
3. “My Male Junior Was Earning More Than Me” – Revy*, 34
This one is painful because it wasn’t even a peer. It was my subordinate. I’m a senior software engineer at a tech company, and I’ve been there for five years. Last year, they hired this guy fresh out of university to join my team. I was supposed to train him and review his code.
During one of our normal conversations, he mentioned something about his rent being ₦400,000 and how it was eating into his salary. I laughed and said he should try negotiating with his landlord. Then he said, “It’s fine, I’m on ₦850k so I can manage.”
I swear, time stopped. This boy I was training, who came to me every day with basic questions, who I was literally teaching how to do his job, was earning ₦850,000. I was on ₦720,000. A junior developer was making more than a senior engineer. Make it make sense.
I immediately scheduled a meeting with my manager. I walked in with printouts of job descriptions, salary surveys, and everything else. I laid it all out and asked for an explanation. He said that the new hire’s salary was “market rate”, and mine was based on when I joined five years ago.
So I was being punished for loyalty? For staying with the company and helping it grow? I told him I wanted to be brought up to market rate immediately. He said he would “see what he could do”, which is how people in corporate say, “I’m going to do nothing and hope you forget about this.”
I didn’t forget. I interviewed at three different companies and got offers from all of them, each one higher than what my junior was making. When I put in my resignation, my manager could suddenly match my offer. I’m really good at what I do, and this is not even me bragging. Anyway, it was too late by then. I left, and I’ve never looked back.
The hardest part about these stories is that they’re not isolated incidents. They’re happening in offices across Lagos, Abuja, Port Harcourt, everywhere. And most women suffer in silence because speaking up means being labelled as “difficult” or “aggressive.” But how long are we supposed to accept being paid less for the same work? How long are we supposed to smile through the disrespect?
