Sometimes, life puts you in messy situations where you’re not sure if you’re doing the right thing or not. That’s what Na Me F— Up? is about — real Nigerians sharing the choices they’ve made, while you decide if they fucked up or not.
Maliq*, 24, moved in with his longtime friend and soon discovered a reckless lifestyle that tested his patience. One moment of frustration led to an impulsive call that changed both their lives. Now, he’s left questioning whether his good intentions can ever justify the betrayal.
This is Maliq’s dilemma, as shared with Mofiyinfoluwa
I’ve been friends with Amin* since university. We lived in the same hostel and stayed close even after our graduation in 2022. His life looked perfect online — endless parties, designer clothes, and constant fun. His US-based dad sent him money regularly, so even though Amin never had a job, he lived comfortably and never worried about anything.
Late last year, I got an average-paying job in Abuja and couldn’t afford my own place. Thankfully, Amin offered me a room in his dad’s duplex. There was free food, Wi-Fi, and a house cleaner — everything paid for by his dad. At first, it felt like a blessing, but living with him made me see how reckless his life was.
He told everyone he was bettering himself by taking tech courses online, but all he did was sleep all day, party all night, and spend beyond his means. Despite getting over ₦300K monthly allowance from his dad and extra cash from his party gigs, he still borrowed money from me.
I couldn’t complain because I stayed in his house rent-free, but it annoyed me. Why did I have to give him my hard-earned money when he had more than enough? He kept borrowing small sums from me, and though he always paid back, I hated how he spent on things I didn’t even have the luxury to buy for myself.
A while ago, he borrowed ₦50k again. This time, I asked for the money earlier than we agreed because I knew it was going into another wasteful purchase. Amin got defensive and called me broke. I lost my temper and called him a spoiled brat who would never amount to anything. He said I was jealous and paid the debt. Then, he said he no longer felt comfortable accommodating me and asked me to leave by the weekend. He knew I had nowhere else to go, but he didn’t care.
I called his dad and told him everything. I exposed how Amin skipped his courses, wasted money on drinks and parties, and did nothing meaningful with his life. I thought I was showing concern and that his dad would handle the situation calmly, even letting me stay in the house.
Instead, things quickly got out of hand. His father cut off his allowance, cancelled his plans to bring Amin to the US, and even sent people to lock up the house. Then he insisted that Amin move to Minna to stay with his uncle.
When Amin found out I was the one who told his dad, he blocked me everywhere. He called me a betrayer, who was pretending to be a saint when I had also taken part in his lifestyle. Our mutual friends took his side. They said I’d destroyed his career as a party organizer and forced him to move to a small town out of jealousy and bitterness. I believe I did it because I cared. It’s not my fault that he had to face the consequences of his actions. But now, I can’t tell if my actions backfired and I’ve completely ruined his life instead.
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