Nigerians Talk is the adult equivalent of a gossip session with your older sibling’s friends where they give you all the tea about money, sex and dating. In this episode, we dissected why the more money a woman has in the bank, the less likely she is to want a man.
Here are six reasons why:
Men Tend to Feel Threatened by Women with Money
When some men see money, they see control. It’s hard to kick a woman out of your house when she legally owns the building you live in. In Zorah’s words, African men aren’t taught how to interact with women who have money.
Men tend to find it threatening because it goes against what they grew up believing marriage should look like. Money controls financial dynamics and equal earning power balances things and takes that control out of their hands.
Women with Money have to Walk on Eggshells in Relationships
Money women are simply not interested in cosplaying submission sometimes. Men with soft egos get touchy about finances, and sometimes women don’t like to deal with hearing things like ‘You have to send the money to your husband’s account so that it doesn’t seem like you’re paying the bills’ or ‘What do you give a person that has everything’?
Men with Greater Financial Power Tend to Create Unbalanced Relationship Dynamics
In return for only wanting to be the provider, some men take things from you that you can’t quantify with money; like your decision-making power and your mental health. Without financial freedom, a woman has no security out of marriage.
Women who have Money aren’t Interested in Cosplaying Submission
According to Zorah, a lot of women have stumbled into making money without learning control. That can make dating harder for them.
A man with a soft ego will take everything a rich woman does out of context. Her bank account is an ego-bruiser, it creates a tendency to overcompensate with emotional abuse.
Men can be Gold Diggers Too
They may not bring all their friends to a dinner date but male gold diggers do things like borrow your Lexus and crash it into a tree or sleep on your couch for three months.
On the other side of the coin, men who aren’t interested in control sometimes tend to date financially independent women for access to their bank accounts.
Sometimes, Money Women Can’t Afford to be Domestic
And not everybody can be okay with that. Ambitious women never stop being ambitious but after marriage, many women are convinced to stop working in order to take care of the home.
Women with careers need extra help around the house and to many Nigerian families, caregivers are the equivalent of Jezebel. A lifetime of managing a home without much help isn’t very appealing to a lot of women.
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