• In Nigeria, some traditions come with a hidden cost. When elders call female genital mutilation (FGM) a rite of womanhood, it sounds sacred, only until you see the scars it leaves its victims. FGM is a practice that leaves millions of girls physically and emotionally wounded for life.

    According to Public Health Nigeria, “Nigeria…has the highest number of circumcised females in the world, accounting for about one-quarter of the estimated 115–130 million women who have either been circumcised…or whose genitals have been mutilated.

    Here are seven truths that expose the devastating toll of FGM.

    1. It’s a Health Nightmare with No Benefits

    There’s literally no medical upside to FGM. None. Zilch. Instead, it causes a laundry list of horrors like severe bleeding, infections and urinary problems. For some girls, it’s a death sentence because haemorrhaging or sepsis strikes fast. The girls who survive often face chronic pain that makes everyday activities a struggle. Imagine living with that, all for a “tradition” that science has debunked.

    2. Childbirth Becomes a Battleground

    For women who have undergone FGM, giving birth is like trying to run a marathon with weights tied to their legs. The scarring can lead to prolonged labour, increase the risk of fistulas (holes between the vagina and bladder) or even stillbirths. UNICEF notes that FGM raises maternal and infant mortality rates as mothers are likely to experience early neonatal death, postpartum haemorrhage and stillbirths. It’s not simply a cut; it’s a lifelong health thief.

    3. It Steals Sexual Joy

    So often, FGM severely affects a woman’s ability to enjoy intimacy. Removing such sensitive tissue can lead to painful sex or no sensation at all. For many women, this creates shame and strains relationships. That’s certainly not tradition, that’s a tragedy!

    4. The Emotional Scars Run Deep

    FGM isn’t just a physical issue. The trauma of being held down against one’s will, often without anaesthesia, sticks with survivors. Many go on to battle anxiety, depression or PTSD as they relive these moments of violation in their nightmares. Speaking out feels impossible in communities where FGM has been normalised, and this leaves women carrying this pain in silence for the rest of their lives.

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    5. It’s a Social Trap

    FGM is often seen as a ticket to marriageability or “purity” in some Nigerian communities. Girls who refuse it face ostracism or ridicule. The pressure of wanting to get married traps these girls in a cycle of conformity, where saying no feels like they’re betraying both themselves and their family.

    6. It’s on a Downward Spiral, But Not Fast Enough

    The good news is that FGM rates are declining, thanks to activists and laws that ban the act, but this progress is uneven. Rural areas lag behind because cultural beliefs die hard, and enforcement is not consistent. Although we’re moving, we’re not sprinting.

    7. Survivors are Fighting Back

    The inspiring part of all this is that Nigerian women are leading the charge. From activists to local groups, survivors are speaking out, educating communities and pushing for change. Their courage is rewriting the narrative and proving that tradition doesn’t have to mean harm.

    The impact of FGM is a wake-up call. It’s not just a harmless tradition, it’s a human rights crisis that is stealing health, joy and freedom from women all over the country. Remember, change starts when we stop whispering and start shouting. Get angry, start conversations in your circle, support organisations dedicated to this cause, do what little you can and watch the change spiral.


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  • FGM (Female Genital Mutilation) is also known as female circumcision and it is the cutting of some or all of the external female genitalia. It has been criminalized in some countries, but not all. Unfortunately, there have been millions of women who have been victims of this act. Six African women talk about their experience being victims of FGM.

    Yetunde, 22, Nigerian

    It happened when they discovered I had started my period at the age of 13. My mother is from Ekiti state, and apparently it was a tradition from her side of the family. The day I started my period, they killed a chicken for me and cooked. It was like a celebration. The FGM only happens after your period starts, because that is when they believe you will have more sexual urges, and it is done to avoid the clitoris touching the baby’s head, so the child can stay alive. They believe women with clitoris risk losing their baby during childbirth. Apparently, once the clitoris touches the baby’s head, the baby will die. I am not sure if my father knew about it, because it is not his tradition, but I saw him object for my niece’s 5 years ago.

    Now, I am 22 and sex is complicated for me. If there is a reason I get dry in 5 seconds, it might be because of it. The dryness, burns and swollen areas during sex only makes me not so interested in sexual relations. It is not STI, because I have checked and I don’t have unprotected sex. FGM is one of the reason I haven’t had sex in 2 years.

    Jane, 25, Nigerian

    I was about two years old when they did it to me in Rivers state. They said it was so I would not have sexual urges and they did not want us to be having sex as teens and preteens. However, the only thing I think it did was to make me unable to orgasm. I don’t know what having an orgasm feels like, and I had to ask my friends cause I thought it was normal to not be able to. Honestly, I blame grandma and whoever did this to me. Luckily, it is no longer as common as it used to be, and I was the last girl in my family it was done to.

    Anita, 26, Nigerian

    I feel I found out in the worst way possible. I went to an all girls boarding school and we usually bathe outside. So, from junior school I noticed my vagina was different and I did not have a clitoris and did not know what a clitoris was. It was strange to me why other girls had something between their vaginas and mine was different. So in SS2, I finally asked my mother why mine was different, and if something was wrong with me. She laughed and said they cut it off when I was born. It was done by this doctor or midwife that ran a maternity hospital. When I asked why, she said to make sure I don’t ‘spoil’ when I grow up. It’s believed that having a clit will make you always horny, so it’s better you don’t have it so you don’t have the urge for sex until you get married.

    I guess they got what they wanted. I had never had an orgasm, and it wasn’t until last year I started wanting to have sex. All my teenage years up until I was 24, I didn’t know what feeling horny was like. I only had sex because my partner wanted it, so was more like an obligation. I met someone else last year, and sometimes I want him, but I doubt it’s sexual urges. Maybe it is because I just love being with him, so if it means fucking then that’s fine. FGM is why I have to deal with multiple UTIs and why it hurts when I pee sometimes. Not to mention the low self esteem it brings. In Secondary school, I had someone laugh at me when I was bathing because my vagina was fat. I can’t even be angry at my mum. She was circumcised too, and I just feel bad for her.

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    K, 21, Kenyan

    I had FGM done to me in 2007. Initially, my dad was against it so they waited until he left town to do it. After our circumcision, my younger siblings who are also girls went through with no objection whatsoever from my dad. I think he originally rejected because it was the first time, and he was less religious and more reasonable then. I come from a Somali family, so that was the norm for most of us. It scared me and I wanted to be done with but it never occurred to me that it. I didn’t know I could say no or I had a say in the matter. Now that I am grown, it’s so weird that they did something like that and never thought of me as a person whose privacy they invaded even in that young age.

    Cynthia, 21, Nigerian

    I didn’t find out until I was about 12/13. I had read about it online, seen movements speaking and kicking against it, and I agreed with these activists. So one day I was chatting with my mom and trying to build up the conversation, she just blurted out that I was ‘circumcised’ as well. Apparently it happened when I was still a few days old baby. I think what hurts a lot is that she did not say she had a reason for doing it, they just did it. I felt and still feel so betrayed.

    I’m trying to extend some grace to her because she didn’t know better and was ignorant. At the time I was born there were lots of myths flying around; that ‘uncircumcised’ women grow up to be promiscuous or they get sexually active too early. So it was a somewhat ‘normal’ practice. I’m glad my family doesn’t do it anymore.

    Ada, 23, Nigerian

    It happened when I was a child so I can’t say an exact age, and I actually never knew I was circumcised until last year. My boyfriend was the one who let me know, and after a lot of research I found out it is common in many igbo homes. That in the 90s and early 2000s, they just ‘circumcise’ straight from the hospital. I am too scared to confront my parents, but I am still working up the courage. The day I found out, I cried so much. My boyfriend and sister were the ones that comforted me. I have come to terms with it, and understand that they do not know any better, and I honestly hope it has stopped. I am the first and I know myself and my other sister sister have been ‘circumcised’, but I do not know about the younger two. Honestly, I just hope it did not get to them.

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