8 Subtle Ways Nigerian Men Say “I Love You” To Their Male Friends

November 9, 2020

This post started with an essay I read. The writer reflects on his best friend’s unwillingness to say “I love you” to him, although he clearly does, and criticises the culture where guys telling their male friends they love them in words is categorised as “gay.”

The “No Homo” thing is as sad as it is hilarious. So, I thought about the different ways Nigerian guys show their male friends they love them without actually saying the words.

1. “You can take this shirt or this pair of shoes

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This is a proof of deep and unconditional love. 

2. “What’s your account number again?

He’s probably saved you as a beneficiary in his banking app, but this is to tell you to expect a massive token of love. 

3. “How far? You don chop?

Food is not something many guys like to worry about, so when someone brings it up, especially in the middle of doing something and offer to take care of it, he rates you. 

4. “Don’t worry, I’ll talk to the girl

Being a wingman is so stressful, so if your friend volunteers to do some of the heavy lifting for you, he’s telling you how much you mean to him. Of course, chances are that he won’t say the word.

5. “Okay, use my favourite team

Fifa or PES is how lots guys earn bragging rights. If your guy allows you to use his favourite football team and goes on to choose a different team, that’s a giant “I Love You.” He might still beat you, butt you get the gist.

6. “You can stay with me for as long as you need

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Quality time is a love language, no?

7. “My room is free this night

As far as Nigerian guys are concerned, every time they let their male friends and their partners use them their room while they sort themselves elsewhere is a massive show of love.

8. Will you be my best man?

*Warm hug*


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