Getting over people isn’t the easiest thing, so it’s no surprise that not everyone knows how to get over someone. We’ve all had a period where we’ve had to do it. Sometimes it’s someone we were never even in a relationship with. Being the absolute sweethearts that we are, we’re going to tell you how to get over someone.

1. Accept it

You have to accept the fact that things have changed between you and them. There’s not much else you can do. Don’t fight it, just accept it. You might feel like it’s the end of the world, but it’s not. People might think crying is bad, but not really. Cry if you have to. Some kinds of tears reset your brain.

2.Talk to your friends

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Talk to your friends, your mum, your therapist, anybody you’re comfortable with really. Just talk to someone. They might troll you a bit, but they’ll be there for you at the end of the day. This is also great for when you need someone to keep you in check and to prevent you from texting them.

3.Block them

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If seeing them on social media is too much for you, block them. Nobody will beat you. And for goodness sake, don’t stalk them after blocking them. You can also delete their number so you won’t be tempted to call or text them. Deleting pictures and messages is a huge step too. No looking back at old messages and getting in your feelings.

4.Go out more

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If the other steps don’t work, start wearing less and going out more. One, two or ten nights of partying or going to the movies should help. Meet new people, party, go to a bookstore, go to the beach. Anywhere that means you’re not locked in your room is fine. Just go out.

5.Distract yourself

Find ways to distract yourself. Start working out, start a new project, find new hobbies, watch TV more. That game night you’ve been planning on hosting for four months? Now is the time to host it. Honestly, the list is endless. There will always be something to distract you.

6.Be kind to yourself

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Accept the instances where you were wrong and work on them, but be kind to yourself. Don’t let the situation define you. And most importantly, remember that there’s no shortage of good people in the world. You’ll meet someone else eventually.


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