With almost two years of being in existence, Sex Life has grown while staying true to its goal of exploring the sex lives of Nigerians. In the last one year and five months since Sex Life was created, we’ve spoken to about eighty Nigerians who are at different places in their lives, with different orintentations, sexualities, perspectives, and gender identities about their sex lives and in doing so, started many important conversations on sex and how it affects our lives.

Today, we are highlighting ten Sex Life stories that we think every one needs to read.

1.I’m Sick And Tired Of Sex With My Girlfriend

In this installment of Sex Life, we speak to a 28-year-old heterosexual man who has had an active sex life. These days though, he’s tired of having sex with his girlfriend of six years and although he has several theories, he isn’t sure why. 

Read this Sex Life story here.

2. I Regret Saving Myself For Marriage

In this installment of Sex Life, we speak to a 28-year-old heterosexual man who waited until he was married to have sex. He talks about having very little sexual chemistry with his wife and finding gratification outside his marriage.

Read this Sex Life story here.

3. I Was Married 7 Years Before I Ever Had An Orgasm

In this installment of Sex Life, we speak to a 38-year-old bisexual woman who has been married for 12 years. In today’s Sex Life, she talks about how she thought something was wrong with her because she couldn’t orgasm, and how that eventually changed. 

Read this Sex Life story here.

4.  How I Went From Straight To Bi To Gay

In this installment of Sex Life, we speak to a 33-year-old gay man who started out dating only women until he was 20. Then he dated men and women until he was 27. Now, he exclusively dates men.

Read this Sex Life story here.

5.  I Regret Letting My Body Count Enter The 300s

In this installment of Sex Life, we speak to a 31-year-old heterosexual man who has slept with over 300 women. He talks about regretting the unbelievable number and the stories behind a lot of the encounters.

Read this Sex Life story here.

6. I Started Having Great Sex After Settling Into My Identity

In this installment of Sex Life, we speak to a 32-year old pansexual trans man who grew up in Nigeria then relocated to the US. He talks about navigating sex as a trans man and dealing with transphobia from his partners.

Read this Sex Life story here.

7. Discovering Sex After Four Children

In this installment of Sex Life, we speak to a heterosexual Nigerian woman in her early 40s. She talks about barely caring about sex when she got married in her 20s and how this is changing now that her children are grown up and away from home. 

Read this Sex Life story here.

8.  How Opening My Marriage Changed My Life

In this installment of Sex Life, we speak to a 30-year-old queer woman who, after agreeing to an open marriage, realised she is primarily attracted to women. She talks about coming out to her husband and embracing her new reality.

Read this Sex Life story here.

9. I Discovered I Like Men After I Got Married

In this installment of Sex Life, we speak to a 28-year-old bisexual man who, three years after he got married, discovered he also likes men. He talks about how his sex life improved once he started exploring his sexuality.

Read this Sex Life story here.

10.  Living With A Vagina That Refuses To Be Penetrated

In this installment of Sex Life, we speak to a 27-year-old heterosexual woman living with vaginismus, a condition that makes it impossible for her to have penetrative sex, undergo a gynaecological exam or even insert a tampon.

Read this Sex Life story here.

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