What actually makes for great sex? Well, you could ask a room full of sexually active adults and get a bunch of very different answers, which proves that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach.
So, I decided to ask a few Nigerians what they think makes for the best possible sex, and the responses ranged from drugs to anger. Here are nine of the most interesting answers I got.
Funmi, 27/Female/Straight
The best sex is “I hate you” sex. That’s exactly what made the last time I hooked up with my ex one of the best fucks we ever had. I was still feeling it days after it had happened.
I would stretch and remember the aggressive strokes, frenzied kisses and erotic anger. I think everyone should get fucked by someone who hates them/is angry with them. You’ll never forget it.
James, 32/Male/Bisexual
The best sex is cheating sex. Generally, fucking someone you’re not meant to fuck is always sweeter, but it’s even better when one or both of you are in a monogamous relationship.
I stopped cheating on my partners when I turned 30 — new decade, new me — but, if I’m single, I have no issue fucking someone in a relationship. If you want to cheat on your partner, I’m more than happy to provide dick.
Fola, 22/Female/Straight
The best sex is public sex. There’s something raw and natural about doing it without a roof over your head. The fact that someone could possibly be watching also heightens the entire experience.
David, 27/Male/Straight
The best sex is “we shouldn’t be doing this” sex. That’s sex with anyone who should ideally be off-limits, like a friend’s sister, a partner’s friend or a lecturer. Knowing each session might be the last just hits different.
Tolu, 25/Female/Straight
The best sex is reckless abandon sex. I’ve always been self-conscious about my body, so I used to make sure the lights were off and the curtains were drawn. I was so in my head that I wasn’t relaxing.
Then as I started to feel more comfortable in my body, I just thought, “To hell with everything.” Best decision ever. I stopped overthinking and just let go. The orgasms have been plentiful ever since.
Ebuka, 29/Male/Gay
The best sex is guilty sex. I used to be very religious in my early 20s, but that didn’t stop me from hooking up with a lot of the men in my church, both married and single.
The shame I felt about all the sins I was committing at once somehow made the sex sweeter. Honestly, I haven’t had sex as thrilling since I dropped Christianity and all the guilt that came with it.
Ada, 25/Female/Straight
The best sex is “this is a bad idea” sex. It’s going to see your ex so you can get some closure, but ending up getting dicked down in the car park. Terrible idea, great sex.
Kachi, 28/Male/Straight
The best sex is high sex, but public sex is dragging the spot with it. The only thing that beats the rush of possibly getting caught is being heavily intoxicated. Popping Molly and just letting the universe take over is bliss.
Ella, 30/Female/Bisexual
The best sex is weed sex. If it’s good weed, your body relaxes completely, and you last way longer. Like, I get orgasms that last as long as 50 minutes while I’m on cannabis.
It also makes your body more sensitive, so foreplay isn’t even all that necessary. Someone you’re attracted to can just wink at you, and you’ll be ready for penetration instantly.
That aside, it numbs all the pain that sometimes comes with the pleasure, so it’s just pure pleasure and stamina and all-natural lubrication and never-ending rounds.
