We’ve all heard how running errands is a huge part of being married to Nigerian women. But we had to look into the matter and make sure you’re getting the full story.
We asked the husbands, and for Wife Appreciation Day, they shared the sweetest things their significant others have done for them.
“She bought me a phone”
— Godwin, married for six years
My wife does lots of great things for me. I especially remember when she bought me a new phone for my birthday two years ago. My phone at the time was giving me issues, and I’d been planning to buy another, but she beat me to it.
“She gives me well-thought-out gifts every birthday”
— Chris*, married for nine months
My wife is easily the most reliable person I know. If she says yes, I can trust her words. It’s hard to choose one thing, but she’s made it a habit to always give me well-thought-out gifts every birthday. And because I’m not used to receiving gifts, this is really special to me.
“I had an exam, so she had to plan our wedding”
— Julius*, married for one year
My wife is very understanding. She came to care for me when I had COVID while we were still dating. And she took up the planning of our wedding because I had an exam that week. I practically just attended the wedding.
“Despite being swindled, she made sure she got me what I wanted”
— Adams*, married for 22 months
Last year, my wife surprised me with an acoustic guitar on my birthday. Even after the first dealer swindled her and sold her the wrong spec, she paid for another one for me. And it was even better than the one I wanted.
My love language is also words of affirmation, so the fact that she’s intentional about daily encouraging, reassuring and building me up with her words, means so much to me.
“She was ready to sacrifice her career”
— Daniel*, married for seven years
I got a career-defining job offer. But for my wife, it meant abandoning her career to come with me. Even without me trying to persuade her, she said yes.
Note that she was a few months from a promotion that would have her earn more than what my job was offering me.
I didn’t take the offer, but it said a lot that she would consider such a huge sacrifice.
“She took over the bills after my accident”
— Andrew, married for one year
Last October, I had an accident and had to do two surgeries. I wanted to go right back to work, but she refused because she was worried I could get hurt in the process. I had to stay home for over six months, from the accident to the post-surgery, and she was the only one taking care of the house.
“I have high standards because of her”
— John*, married for four years
I was used to downplaying my skills. Even when people saw me as a guru, I didn’t think I was that good. So I allowed myself to undercharge and overdeliver. But she completely changed my mentality and helped me set a higher standard for myself. In my opinion, that’s the most important gift anyone can give you.
*Some names have been changed for anonymity
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