6 Things You Shouldn’t Say To A Person Who Is Grieving

June 22, 2020

Even though everyone has experienced loss in some way, it’s still a personal experience. You might have good intentions but telling someone you know exactly how they feel invalidates their pain because everyone experiences loss in wildly different ways.

Translation: “It’s a normal part of life.” This is a super insensitive thing to say to someone grieving the death of a loved one. Just because death is inevitable doesn’t make it suck any less. It’s still fucking hurts.

Translation: “Don’t Cry Like A Little Bitch.” People express their pain in different ways. Instead of feeding them this line (that stems from the lie that showing emotion makes you weak), tell them to let it all out however they see fit.

Translation: “I, too, lost a loved one once.” It’s the much ruder version of “I know how you feel” and you will get punched in the throat for it.

This one is even worse when the deceased didn’t die of natural causes. Do you realize how fucking insensitive you sound when a 25 year old dies in a car accident and then you tell their grieving loved ones that it was God’s will??

Focus on the person feeling the pain, not the person who died. The pain of loss comes from missing the deceased. Saying they’re in a better place (emphasizing that the person is gone) makes things worse for the person left behind.

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