Growing up with strict parents as a girl is a special kind of hell. Here’s a list of things only women with strict parents will be able to relate to:
Whenever your friends hang out, you are always the first to go home and even when you get home early, your parents will still be angry with you for having friends and going out.
2. Not saving phone numbers
Because you don’t want your parents to see who is calling or texting you and start asking questions. “Who is Isoken? How did you meet her? Is she in your class? Do I know her?”
3. Deleting texts
To avoid had I known. The thing with strict parents is any text can implicate you so let’s just avoid wahala and delete everything.
4. Not having friends
Because your parents are so nosy and will never let you go out to see your friends so what’s the point of having a friend when you know you can’t maintain the friendship. They won’t get it.
5. Not locking doors
How dare you lock your room when you are not planning to let the devil use you. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop besides how else can they barge into your room to tell you to go and boil rice for everybody.
6. Being non-confrontational as an adult
If as a child, asking questions could get you in trouble, speaking up might be difficult for you as an adult because you believe every confrontation would end in conflict.
7. Living a double life
Being the ideal daughter at home and being an entirely different person in school or with your friends is a normal thing for women with strict parents.
Lying is a survival skill when you have strict parents. If you know, you know.
9. Virginity tests
If you had strict parents and never got a virginity test, you are one of the lucky ones. It’s such a harrowing experience to have someone inspect your body for whether or not you are having sex, especially when you haven’t.
10. Sex guilt
After going through virginity tests and listening to many sermons about the dangers of sex, you will eventually develop shame around sex and when you have sex, you will feel guilty for indulging and enjoying it. This could bring problems for your emotional health and your relationships in the long run.
If your parents were strict when you were a child, chances are you have anxiety now. I don’t make the rules.
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