6 Younger Nigerian Women Tell Us Why They Are Scared Of Getting Older

May 10, 2021

While some people look forward to getting older, some would like to delay the process for as long as possible. These six young Nigerian women share with us why they are scared of getting older.

Mimi, 19

I’m scared of life after university. Getting a job in this country would not be an easy thing and I have no skill, so I’m really scared of how I’ll survive. I certainly do not want to depend on my parents because I do not want them to disrespect me. I do not plan on getting married or having children, but at the same time, I’m scared of loneliness. Sometimes, I imagine dying in my house and nobody discovering my body until after 3 weeks.

Winnie, 20

I’m scared of the regular things like having kids or experiencing menopause, but also of potentially being attacked in my home if I ever live alone later in life. I have a deep fear of not being a good mother to my daughter because of my own relationship with my mother.

Hafiza, 20

I am scared of outgrowing my interests. I feel like I would be too old to make TikToks and buy plushies or also dress the way I want. Growing older feels like I would need to have more “mature” fashion like skirt suits instead of the mini skirts I wear now. Also, there is so much pressure to be super successful when you are young. I am scared of passing that age limit and having nothing to my name.

Jennifer, 18

I’m scared of being alone, living alone, and being knowing I live alone. The older I get, the closer confrontations with family about religion, body modifications and my values will become. The confrontations will happen, but I’m scared of the changes that’ll follow that. I also am scared of getting older because I do not want to do adult things on my own. I still want my mother to follow me to places. If I ever become a mum, I am scared of becoming one of those women that completely bend themselves and become mothers. Everything you used to love and do, you just shelf it and be a mum.

Emem, 20

I am scared of getting older because I do not want to be ugly. Growing up, my mum always told me that women get old fast and become ugly. So, I guess it has always been on my mind. When she found out my boyfriend is my age mate, she said it’s not ideal because I’ll age faster than him.

Bimbo, 21

I do not want the responsibilities that would come with being older. I’m already the oldest of my friends, and am responsible for my younger brother and nephews. I feel like it would get more when I get older. I also feel like I should achieve or should have achieved some things at my age, so growing older stresses me out a lot.

For more women related things, please click here


Join The Conversation

Bring a friend.

You'll like this

Women Stories 2020
December 30, 2020

This year, we documented a wide range of experiences from women of all backgrounds. In today’s What She Said, we highlight some of these stories. From the divorcee dating again to the first-class law graduate, these are stories of women living life on their own terms — our 2020 must-reads! 1. What She Said: What […]

IUD
October 29, 2021

In this article, 5 Nigerian women talk about their experiences using Intrauterine devices, commonly known as IUDs, a form of birth control that’s inserted into the uterus to prevent pregnancy.

Read here:

prayer house
April 10, 2021

As told to Mariam I travelled to Ilorin for an exam last week and on the bus, I rode in, I met Yoma*. Somehow the conversation of faith came up, and she told me she didn’t subscribe to the Christianity practised in churches. When I asked why, this is what she told me: I grew […]

Watch

Now on Zikoko

Recommended Quizzes

October 10, 2019

2019 is certainly Burna Boy’s year, but, if we are being honest, so was 2018. Since his transcendent mixtape, Outside, the afro-fusion star has refused to get his foot of our necks — dropping a string of fantastic singles and then capping it all off with his career-best album, African Giant.  So, in a bid […]

November 14, 2019

The fourth season of Big Brother Naija came to an end over a month ago, but the conversation surrounding the housemates is far from over. So, in a bid to keep the fire burning, we decided to create a quiz that tells you which famous member of the ‘Pepper Dem’ gang is your soulmate. Take […]

November 27, 2019

Do you have a face that could make angels jealous, or should you really be walking around with a nylon bag over your head so you don’t scare children? Well, this quiz is here to answer that by telling you exactly how good-looking you are. Take and find out: 11 Quizzes For People Who Aren’t […]

December 3, 2019

Are you a professional Yoruba demon? Are you walking around in search of whose life you can wreck at any given time? Well, this quiz knows exactly how many hearts you’ve shattered to date, and before you lie that your result is inaccurate, just remember that Zikoko is never wrong. Now, take it and be […]

October 30, 2019

Kemi Adetiba’s King of Boys movie got a lot of things right, especially casting, so yes, it was a monster hit. Now, we know you may not have put much thought to this, but the personalities of some of the characters closely match yours, and we would like to help you find the perfect match. […]

More from Her

Watch

Trending Videos

Zikoko Originals

September 13, 2022
Vs The World is a Zikoko original video series that follows best friends Astor and Hassan as they take on the world.
August 23, 2022
Zikoko Ships is a Zikoko Original series where we invite two people who share a relationship to play the Zikoko card games
December 14, 2020
What happens when a group of chatty young Nigerians talk about things they're passionate about? You get Nigerians talk. A show that discusses very familiar struggles for the average Nigerian. From relationship deal breakers to sex education with Nigerian parents to leaving Nigeria, be prepared for a ride.
November 2, 2020
'The Couch' is a Zikoko series featuring real life stories from anonymous people.
October 26, 2020
A collection of videos documenting some of the events of the EndSARS protests.
June 22, 2020
'The Couch' is a Zikoko series featuring real life stories from anonymous people.
June 22, 2020
Hacked is an interesting new series by Zikoko made up of fictional but hilarious chat conversations.
June 4, 2020
What happens when a group of chatty young Nigerians talk about things they're passionate about? You get Nigerians talk. A show that discusses very familiar struggles for the average Nigerian. From relationship deal breakers to sex education with Nigerian parents to leaving Nigeria, be prepared for a ride.
June 2, 2020
Quickie is a video series where everyone featured gets only one minute to rant, review or do absolutely anything.
May 14, 2020
Isolation Diary is a Zikoko series that showcases what isolation is like for one young Nigerian working from home due to the Coronavirus pandemic.

Z! Stacks

Here's a rabbit hole of stories to lose yourself in:

Zikoko amplifies African youth culture by curating and creating smart and joyful content for young Africans and the world.
X